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7 Simple Steps to Believe in Yourself



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Having belief in yourself is essential to success and happiness.

Your self-belief impacts how you think and feel. And the quality of your thoughts and feelings determines the quality of your life. Also, the more you believe in yourself and your abilities, the more you will try out in life.

But self-belief is also crucial for success. Especially during the most challenging times, you will need to persevere. But you will also need confidence in yourself and your abilities to get the job done.

In this article, you will learn how to believe in yourself. We will cover:

  1. What does it mean to believe in yourself?
  2. Why is it important to have self-belief?
  3. And how to believe in yourself?

So let’s dive in!

What does it mean to believe in yourself?

Believing in yourself means that you have confidence in your abilities while maintaining a sense of self-worth. Confidence in this context means that you believe you can achieve anything that you set your mind to. Self-worth comes from having a positive outlook on your future and your ability to make positive changes in your life.

Why is it important to have self-belief?

Self-belief is essential for success in any area of your life. It is the foundation on which you build your confidence and determination. It gives you the courage to take on challenges, face difficult situations, and achieve your goals. 

Believing in yourself is especially important during times of adversity. How you think about and deal with setbacks determines your long-term outcome. 

Some of the key benefits:

  1. Believing in yourself allows you to be proactive in your life.
  2. It gives you the courage to take on new challenges.
  3. Self-belief increases your determination, resilience, and persistence.
  4. It gives you a positive outlook on life and a sense of self-worth.

How to believe in yourself?

The goal of developing self-belief is to establish a positive relationship with yourself. In short, you can split it up into three separate areas:

  1. Self-worth: Start by recognizing and accepting that you are a valuable and unique individual. Own your successes and failures, and don’t be afraid to be proud of yourself.
  2. Self-Confidence: Confidence comes from having a positive attitude and having faith in your capabilities. This enables you to take massive action and calculated risks.
  3. Self-trust: Trusting yourself enables you to make decisions without the need for anyone else’s approval. That way, you can live your life according to your values and beliefs.

And here are the exact 7 steps to achieve self-belief:

Step 1: Accept the current situation

You cannot change the past. You can only change the future by making the best possible decisions right now. This requires you to accept the current situation and focus on the positives. What goes well for you?

During times of adversity, we tend to focus too much on the negative parts. But you can always find something positive – even if that’s merely a lesson that you’ve learned.

“If we all did the things we are capable of doing, we would literally astound ourselves.” –Thomas Alva Edison

Step 2: Clarify your goals

Set realistic goals that are both achievable and challenging. Make sure you are willing to work for them so that once you achieve your goals, it gives you a lot of satisfaction. It builds confidence and trust in yourself. Please note that it is crucial to set challenging yet realistic goals.

Step 3: Set a deadline

Deadlines provide motivation and help you to stay focused. Set a deadline, and don’t let yourself off the hook. Achieving your goal within the deadline proves that you are capable of reaching your goals.

If you miss your deadline, don’t beat yourself up. You may feel tempted to give up, but remember that failures are only stepping stones towards success. Instead, try to understand what happened and then set a new goal. 

Pick yourself up and try again.

Step 4: Take action

The only way to believe in yourself is to follow through on your commitments. And doing so requires action. So, create a plan of action for yourself and stick to it. 

I love to set daily and weekly micro-goals to reduce procrastination. Such goals focus on actions – not results. Because while outcome goals aren’t always within your control, process goals certainly are.

For example, instead of saying you will create a blog post today, I set the goal to spend 2 hours writing. And while the blog post sometimes takes a bit longer, how much time I spend on it is in my immediate control.

Breaking your goal up into small steps also encourages actions. And achieving these smaller goals is also a great way to build self-trust and confidence.

Step 5: Visualize your success

Imagine achieving your goals and how proud you will feel of yourself. It’s a simple method but has proven to be very effective. Simply imagining your success increases your self-belief, which boosts your motivation. That increases the chances of you taking action. And taking action is the secret sauce to success. 

Step 6: Stay positive

Self-belief stems from a positive attitude. You will experience challenging times but do not let the negatives drag you down. Keep in mind that you’re making progress as long as you take action and learn from your mistakes. So, even if your life doesn’t map out as planned – which it rarely does – do know that things will work out. So, keep focusing on the good things in your life.

Step 7: Celebrate your smallest achievements

You need evidence to create self-confidence and a strong belief in yourself. So when you do achieve your goals, make sure to take a moment to reflect on and celebrate your success. It’s simple to do and doesn’t take a lot of time, yet that’s also why it’s so easily forgotten.

Closing thoughts

Take action on the steps in this article and you will develop a strong belief in yourself. But action is the keyword here. 

So first, no matter what you want to achieve, set a small goal in that area. Then, prove to yourself that you can achieve that goal. And then set subsequent ones and repeat the process.

It’s a simple formula. Yet, most people tend to give up when setbacks occur. Not you, though. When you experience setbacks and want to give up, start from step one and repeat the process. That will build rock-solid self-belief.

Mick is a personal development enthusiast and blogs about it on Insideout Mastery. He is on a mission to inspire others to achieve lasting success through personal growth. Get access to his best tips and strategies to unleash your full potential. Besides personal development, Mick also loves to travel, indulges in bodyweight exercises, and explores the realm of digital entrepreneurship.

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5 Indicators of Unresolved Attachment Trauma



Emotional Attachment Trauma

Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.

Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.

Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.

Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.

However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.


Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:


1.  Unconscious Sabotage

Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.

This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.

Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.

This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.


2. Persistent Pain

Chronic pain is a common symptom that can stem from early trauma. Studies have shown a connection between physical conditions such as fibromyalgia, headaches, gastrointestinal issues, insomnia, muscle aches, back pain, chest pain, and chronic fatigue with the aftermath of chronic developmental trauma, particularly physical abuse.
Research has found that individuals with insecure attachment styles, such as anxious, avoidant, or disorganized, have a higher incidence of somatic symptoms and a history of physical and emotional abuse in childhood compared to those with a secure attachment style.

3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma

Trauma blocking practises are used to avoid the pain and memories connected with traumatic events.
Emotional numbing, avoidance, and escape via briefly pleasurable activities that distract from terrible memories or suffering are common examples. Unfortunately, this escape habit stops people from successfully processing and recovering from their trauma.
Furthermore, when the pain resurfaces, more and more diversions are necessary to continue ignoring it. This can be seen in compulsive behaviours such as drug or alcohol addiction, emotional eating, numbing oneself through relationships, workaholism, excessive or dangerous exercise routines, compulsive internet or technology use, or any other compulsive behaviour used to distract yoursef from intrusive thoughts and emotions.
These actions have the potential to prolong a cycle of avoidance and repression, preventing persons from healing and progressing.

4. A strong need for control

It’s understandable that some people may struggle with control issues in their adult lives, especially if they felt helpless or vulnerable during their childhood.
This can happen if someone had an overbearing caregiver who didn’t let them make their own choices, expected too much from them, or didn’t take care of them properly. As adults, they might try to control everything in their life to feel more in control and less anxious or scared. This might be because they didn’t feel like they had control over their life when they were a child.
It’s important to remember that everyone’s experiences are different and it’s okay to seek help if you’re struggling with control issues.

5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained

Individuals with a history of developmental trauma may experience a range of psychological symptoms, including obsessive-compulsive behavior, intense mood swings, irritability, anger, depression, emotional numbing, or severe anxiety.
These symptoms can vary in intensity and may occur intermittently throughout the day. People with this type of trauma may attempt to “distract” themselves from these symptoms by denying or rationalizing them, or may resort to substance abuse or behavioral addictions as coping mechanisms. This can be a maladaptive way of trying to numb their symptoms.

What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?

Everyone’s experience of healing from trauma is unique. It’s important to be aware of whether you have experienced childhood developmental trauma and how it may be affecting your relationships as an adult. Sometimes, the effects of trauma can be overwhelming and we may try to push them away or avoid them.
If you notice that you’re engaging in these behaviors, it’s important to seek help from a trauma therapist who can support you on your healing journey. Remember, you’re not alone and it’s never too late to start healing.

There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:

  1. Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
  2. Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
  3. Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
  4. Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
  5. Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.

It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.

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