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5 Reasons You Can Never Give Up on Yourself Even When Others Do



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Life is full of setbacks. Sometimes, you’ll give your best effort and still fall flat on your face. This is especially true in the entrepreneurial world, where many new businesses fail to make a profit. You might find yourself in a situation where you can’t get any investors for your brand. Or maybe you didn’t understand current workplace trends and as a consequence, high turnover brought your business crashing down.

Of course, challenges and difficulties can come from your personal life as well. Whether you’re facing struggles with personal finances or your dating life, the problems that come your way can feel overwhelming at times. So what do you do during these discouraging moments? You pick yourself up. You don’t give up on yourself — even if others have proven happy to do so. There are plenty of good reasons to keep trying.

1. All Problems Have a Solution

Tony Robbins is quoted as saying “Leaders spend 5 percent of their time on the problem and 95 percent of their time on the solution.” Thomas Edison famously had over 1,000 unsuccessful attempts at creating the lightbulb before he finally achieved the workable solution.

Regardless of the problem you’re currently stuck on, the situation is not hopeless. Every problem you face — be it in your personal life or the business world — has a solution. 

Rather than dwelling on the problem itself, focus your energy on finding a solution. This not only fosters a more proactive mindset, but it will help you find the energy to keep going until you achieve the desired result.

2. Life Rewards Those Who Keep Trying

The road to success involves a lot of trial and error. The simple reality is that many of the most successful people in the world weren’t handed a great life on a silver platter. They were persistent and kept trying even when life got them down. 

J.K. Rowling was a jobless single parent when she wrote Harry Potter. Albert Einstein failed his university entrance exam prior to becoming a Nobel Prize winning physicist. Abraham Lincoln had several failed election campaigns before becoming one of the United States’ most influential presidents.

Each of these people could have given up. But they kept trying — and that determination ultimately allowed them to achieve success.

“Don’t quit. Never give up trying to build the world you can see, even if others can’t see it. Listen to your drum and your drum only. It’s the one that makes the sweetest sound.” – Simon Sinek

3. You Can Find Other Sources of Help

It can be extremely discouraging when others have written you off as a lost cause. But this doesn’t mean you’re completely on your own. 

As Robert Strzelecki, CEO of TenderHut, the fastest-growing international IT group in the world, explains, “Even after you’ve exhausted all the connections in your current network, that doesn’t mean there isn’t anyone out there who can help you. Whether it’s a support group to get through a personal struggle or a new business connection that will help you revive your startup, you just need to be willing to look outside your current circle and you’ll find others who can give you a boost.”

Professional networks or support groups can offer valuable insight from others facing similar problems to yours. Even online groups can provide much-needed support and advice. Sometimes, a fresh perspective from someone who isn’t as closely connected to you will provide the flash of insight you need to reach your goals. Better still, you might be able to provide similar help to someone else.

4. Not Giving Up Could Have a Huge Impact on Others

Not giving up on yourself won’t just make a difference in your own life — it could completely change things for others. Your big ideas could revolutionize an industry or help other people turn their lives around. You could even serve as an inspiration for others who learn from your success story and use it to get through their own dark times.

If you give up now, there’s no telling what the world could miss out on. Many people who have changed the world would never have made their impact if they’d chosen to give up after earlier failures. Staying true to your dreams could transform the world for the better — but only if you refuse to give up on yourself.

“Never, never, never give up.” – Winston Churchill

5. Your Past Does Not Dictate Your Future

If there’s one lesson to be learned from all this, it’s that your past never dictates your future. No matter how many times you have failed before, this is no guarantee that you can’t turn things around. The most meaningful successes in life are rarely easy. Every successful person was once a “wannabe.”

What made the difference was that these people learned to “fail forward.” They used past failures as learning experiences so they wouldn’t make the same mistakes again. As you stay focused on your goals and learn from your failures, you can use these valuable lessons to fine-tune your focus and propel you to future success.

Keep Going …

Sometimes, it may seem like the only thing keeping you going is positive self-talk … But no matter how hard things get or how much others refuse to believe in you, you control your own destiny.

Always remember that you are the one who chooses how you will move on and keep trying. By refusing to give up on yourself and continuing to put forth your best effort, success will eventually come.

Share with us a time where you were about to give up, but you didn’t. Did you end up getting what you wanted?

Imran Tariq is a #1 Best Selling Author, Member of the Forbes Agency Council as well as the CEO Of Webmetrix Group. Imran has been featured on many major publications such as USA Today and Entrepreneur, as well as being interviewed on National TV such as CNN & CNBC. He currently lives in Florida and spends his free time with his wife Aimee and their 3 cats. You can connect with Imran on his LinkedIn account here.

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5 Indicators of Unresolved Attachment Trauma



Emotional Attachment Trauma

Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.

Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.

Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.

Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.

However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.


Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:


1.  Unconscious Sabotage

Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.

This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.

Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.

This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.


2. Persistent Pain

Chronic pain is a common symptom that can stem from early trauma. Studies have shown a connection between physical conditions such as fibromyalgia, headaches, gastrointestinal issues, insomnia, muscle aches, back pain, chest pain, and chronic fatigue with the aftermath of chronic developmental trauma, particularly physical abuse.
Research has found that individuals with insecure attachment styles, such as anxious, avoidant, or disorganized, have a higher incidence of somatic symptoms and a history of physical and emotional abuse in childhood compared to those with a secure attachment style.

3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma

Trauma blocking practises are used to avoid the pain and memories connected with traumatic events.
Emotional numbing, avoidance, and escape via briefly pleasurable activities that distract from terrible memories or suffering are common examples. Unfortunately, this escape habit stops people from successfully processing and recovering from their trauma.
Furthermore, when the pain resurfaces, more and more diversions are necessary to continue ignoring it. This can be seen in compulsive behaviours such as drug or alcohol addiction, emotional eating, numbing oneself through relationships, workaholism, excessive or dangerous exercise routines, compulsive internet or technology use, or any other compulsive behaviour used to distract yoursef from intrusive thoughts and emotions.
These actions have the potential to prolong a cycle of avoidance and repression, preventing persons from healing and progressing.

4. A strong need for control

It’s understandable that some people may struggle with control issues in their adult lives, especially if they felt helpless or vulnerable during their childhood.
This can happen if someone had an overbearing caregiver who didn’t let them make their own choices, expected too much from them, or didn’t take care of them properly. As adults, they might try to control everything in their life to feel more in control and less anxious or scared. This might be because they didn’t feel like they had control over their life when they were a child.
It’s important to remember that everyone’s experiences are different and it’s okay to seek help if you’re struggling with control issues.

5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained

Individuals with a history of developmental trauma may experience a range of psychological symptoms, including obsessive-compulsive behavior, intense mood swings, irritability, anger, depression, emotional numbing, or severe anxiety.
These symptoms can vary in intensity and may occur intermittently throughout the day. People with this type of trauma may attempt to “distract” themselves from these symptoms by denying or rationalizing them, or may resort to substance abuse or behavioral addictions as coping mechanisms. This can be a maladaptive way of trying to numb their symptoms.

What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?

Everyone’s experience of healing from trauma is unique. It’s important to be aware of whether you have experienced childhood developmental trauma and how it may be affecting your relationships as an adult. Sometimes, the effects of trauma can be overwhelming and we may try to push them away or avoid them.
If you notice that you’re engaging in these behaviors, it’s important to seek help from a trauma therapist who can support you on your healing journey. Remember, you’re not alone and it’s never too late to start healing.

There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:

  1. Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
  2. Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
  3. Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
  4. Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
  5. Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.

It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.

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