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4 Reasons Journaling Can Help You Design a Successful Life




Most people start the day feeling behind on their tasks for the day. They jump out of bed when the whole household wakes up or because the household has come to wake them up and immediately, they begin fulfilling the agenda of others in their life; Their children, their partner, their boss, their employees, their friends, parents, whoever.

Everyone seems to have a bit more of a say in their life than they do. And they tend to live with an underlying resentment that they do not get to do what they want to do and they feel trapped in this state as it seems to be the ‘nice’ thing to do to live this way.

There is another way and in fact as a successful person, you must choose to deliberately design your day and this technique of writing in a journal (Journaling) is one great way to do it.

Here are 5 reasons to start journaling today:

1. You journal to reconnect with yourself and your purpose

If you are used to living in a reactive state all the time where you always feel a little bit behind, then journaling will enable you to get back in touch with yourself and your purpose.  Imagine a day where you wake up even ten minutes before others in your home and you whip out your journal and you simply write down what you would like the day to look like.  

Now, the truth is, you may need to get the children to school, cook breakfast, get to the business at a certain time, help the parents out and do all of the normal things but there is a difference between doing it because someone compels you to with their nagging or doing it because you have taken a moment to see how it fits in with the life you want to create.  

One way makes you feel resentful whereas the other way makes you feel like the captain of your own life, which you are; though you may have forgotten in the hustle and bustle of life.  This is the deliberate design of a day when you take a few minutes to write it all out and how you choose to show up in your own day.  One deliberately designed day after another will lead to a successful life.

“A personal journal is an ideal environment in which to “become”. It is a perfect place for you to think, feel, discover, expand, remember, and dream.” – Brad Wilcox

2. You journal to connect with spirit

How is your spirituality?  Does it suffer when you rush straight into the day with no time to think or meditate?  Or maybe, you do meditate but again, all peace and tranquility feels lost as you go on into the day.  What if you had your journal next to you and you record all the insights that occur to you while you are connecting with spirit.  

This is something I do daily. I simply ask Spirit within me what I need to hear and I record all the things that bubble up within. It may be a picture or impression, in which case I put my very minimal drawing skills to the test or it is simply a bubbling up of words, which I record.  

Imagine a journal full of impressions and words that came from the deep wisdom inside of you. Imagine how inspirational that would be to read in the moments of chaos throughout the day. I still have such insights from 10 years or more ago and they still have the power to move me.

3. You journal to tap back into your emotions

Some days, it feels quite cloudy within you and you want clarity on what you are feeling and why. With a journal, you can take a moment to ask yourself the question “What am I feeling?” You then write down the answer, which will naturally lead to another question.  You write down that answer as well and continue to dig into you until you do hit clarity and given enough time.  

Yes, you could simply just think about it but you have tried that already and how well did it work for you? Your feelings and emotions can be very confusing. Taking the time to honour them by clarifying what you feel and why and then choosing whether to continue to feel that way (and yes, you can do all this by writing it out) will make a huge difference to your emotional wellbeing and ability to be mindful in each moment.

“Journaling is like whispering to one’s self and listening at the same time.” – Mina Murray

4. You journal because it can be used to change your state/mood

Have you ever tried to do something creative when feeling down in the dumps?  It is a struggle, isn’t it? Well, with a journal, you can quickly change your state by listing a range of ‘I am’ statements.

I am joyful, I am rich, I am powerful, I choose to feel happy and act form a more empowered state, I am a leader and I easily come up with solutions to every problem my people face. Now it is your turn.

Write a few statements telling yourself exactly what you choose to think and feel and see how it starts to change the way you actually think and feel.  When you change the way you think, you change the quality of actions you take!  As a result, it is worth spending the 30 -90 seconds to change your emotional state and ensure you are acting from a place of power.

Are you currently journaling? If you are, what benefits have you experienced? Please leave your thoughts below!

Rosemary Nonny Knight used to be a pharmacist but replaced her income in her own business and now works as a Spiritual Business & Life Strategist coaching people to live the deliberate life - A life of abundance, fulfilment and freedom. Download a free copy of her book - Pray. Affirm. Receive - How to get clear, stay clear and take action to get what you want out of life -



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Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.

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Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.

However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.


Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:


1.  Unconscious Sabotage

Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.

This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.

Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.

This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.


2. Persistent Pain

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Research has found that individuals with insecure attachment styles, such as anxious, avoidant, or disorganized, have a higher incidence of somatic symptoms and a history of physical and emotional abuse in childhood compared to those with a secure attachment style.

3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma

Trauma blocking practises are used to avoid the pain and memories connected with traumatic events.
Emotional numbing, avoidance, and escape via briefly pleasurable activities that distract from terrible memories or suffering are common examples. Unfortunately, this escape habit stops people from successfully processing and recovering from their trauma.
Furthermore, when the pain resurfaces, more and more diversions are necessary to continue ignoring it. This can be seen in compulsive behaviours such as drug or alcohol addiction, emotional eating, numbing oneself through relationships, workaholism, excessive or dangerous exercise routines, compulsive internet or technology use, or any other compulsive behaviour used to distract yoursef from intrusive thoughts and emotions.
These actions have the potential to prolong a cycle of avoidance and repression, preventing persons from healing and progressing.

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What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?

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If you notice that you’re engaging in these behaviors, it’s important to seek help from a trauma therapist who can support you on your healing journey. Remember, you’re not alone and it’s never too late to start healing.

There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:

  1. Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
  2. Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
  3. Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
  4. Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
  5. Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.

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