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Your Emotions Are Holding You Back From Business Success

Entrepreneurship means “DANGER” to your brain. Your brain wants to keep you safe and alive.



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Entrepreneurship means “DANGER” to your brain. Your brain wants to keep you safe and alive. And then you go and threaten that with an inconsistent income, constantly trying new things, and regularly stepping outside of your comfort zone.

So your brain panics.

You feel scattered and frantic because you think that you need to be doing all the things, all the time. You can’t rest or (heaven forbid) take a proper vacation because you’ll surely lose everything. You may have plenty of amazing project ideas, but procrastination and perfectionism keep you from putting them out into the world because of fear of criticism or failure. These are all examples of your lovely brain attempting to keep you safe. 

The skill of managing your emotions is hugely important for entrepreneurs. Without knowing how to feel and “allow” unpleasant emotions, you end up with these two options:

Option #1: Pushing Through. 

You make a plan and push yourself to stick to it even when you’re feeling anxious, defeated, or insecure. 

The problem with pushing through is that you don’t show up for your business with that relaxed confidence that makes people want to buy from you. You have a bit of a desperate, grasping vibe. 

The other problem is that constantly pushing through is exhausting and always leads to burnout. No one knows burnout better than an entrepreneur, amiright?

Option #2: Avoidance.

You avoid all unpleasant emotions by playing it safe. You procrastinate on big projects that will likely move the needle in your business. You water yourself down to try to be uncontroversial and likable (which just makes you seem boring and forgettable). 

The problem with avoidance is that your business growth will be slow, which leads to other uncomfortable emotions.

Option #3: Feel the emotions.

The one where you learn how to truly feel unpleasant emotions. This way, you make clear-headed decisions about how to best grow your business instead of making decisions based on your desire not to feel uncomfortable. 

“Emotions have no place in business, unless you do business with them.” – Friedrich Durrenmatt

How to Feel Your Emotions

Emotions are vibrations that you can feel in your body. If you try to explain what fear feels like, you talk about your body, right? You might say that you feel your heart beating harder or faster. Maybe your face feels hot or your chest feels heavy. We feel our emotions physically. It can be unpleasant, but it isn’t actually dangerous. 

To allow yourself to feel your emotions, you can simply name the emotion that you’re feeling: embarrassed, disappointed, sad, hurt, etc. 

Then, tune into your body and describe what the emotion feels like:

  • Where in your body do you feel this emotion?
  • Does it feel hot or cold? 
  • Do you imagine this emotion to have a particular color?
  • Does it feel fast or slow?
  • Does it feel hard or soft?

You might not have an answer to all of those questions. The key is to pay attention to how the emotion feels in your body and describe it in detail.

Next, you can take a few breaths and give yourself a chance to pay attention to those feelings in your body. If your fingers feel tingly, close your eyes and focus on that feeling. If your chest feels tight, breathe into that area and feel the tightness. 

You can tell yourself supportive thoughts like:

  • I am feeling this emotion in my body and I am safe. 
  • This emotion is not dangerous. 
  • This is what [insert emotion] feels like.
  • I am practicing feeling my emotions. 

After a few minutes of allowing yourself to feel your emotion, you can move on with your day. Sometimes, when you stop resisting an unpleasant emotion and feel it, it will shrink or go away entirely. Other times, the emotion will stay with you and that’s ok. This can be a daily practice.

Once you learn how to feel your emotions instead of pushing them away, you will fear them less. If you fear feeling anxiety, you’re not going to do important tasks in your business that you think could cause anxiety. If you’re ok with feeling anxious, you will take action – not from a place of pushing through, but from a feeling of peace and confidence that you can handle whatever emotions come up when you try something new. 

Entrepreneurship is emotional. When you’re the boss, and especially when you’re a solopreneur, avoiding unpleasant emotions means also avoiding tasks that will grow your business. 

Learning how to feel your emotions may seem too “soft” or “woo-woo” but it is actually a skill that will help you grow your business faster without constantly risking burnout.

Christine White is a work-life balance coach for entrepreneurs and the creator of the Check-Boxes Planning System. She helps online entrepreneurs grow freedom-giving businesses while enjoying their beautiful lives. You can join her monthly coaching membership via her website.

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How Your Beliefs Can Supercharge or Sabotage Your Success

Your life is dictated by beliefs and biases that drive your thinking, behaviors, and decisions



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How to Break the Cycles of Mediocrity and Manifest Your Greatness

There is no greatness without becoming and there is no becoming with authenticity



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In just a few weeks, we will be wrapping up 2023. Can you believe it? This year has been absolutely incredible for me.

I have seen amazing doors opened, new relationships formed and I am seeing dreams realized in my life. While this seems like the hallmarks of a great year, this has also been the most challenging year of my life. With all of the change happening in my life, I have been forced out of my comfort zone and challenged to grow in every area of my life.

I can truly say that I have made the most of my moments this year and I have used everything as a catalyst for maximizing my greatest potential.

As a revolutionary leader, I have the pleasure of consulting and advising leaders around the world to fulfill purpose, realize their greatest potential and make an impact.

I want to share some insights with you that will help you to break cycles of mediocrity and manifest your greatness

Everything legal must come through the matrix

I am sure that some of you are wondering why I am using the term matrix. However, what you have to understand is that I am trying to make a highly complex spiritual principle practical to understand.

Regardless of your spiritual beliefs, every life has an origin and I believe that origin is divine and begins with eternity. You are birthed from eternity and into time to fulfill a unique purpose and assignment in your lifetime and generation.

The matrix is simply the portal or vehicle that brings something out of the invisible realm and into tangible form. The problem with much of the teaching today is that it excludes the matrix. We are told to believe that success is instantaneous and overnight.

Nobody talks about how a dream progresses through stages beginning with visualization and ultimately culminating in manifestation. Without a matrix or portal then everything that you attempt to birth and build will be illegal.

The matrix not only makes you legal but it gives you the authority and power to function as the greatest expression of who you were created to be. 

Every matrix has an incubation process

While many people admire and respect me today, I remember a time when nobody knew who I was or the significance of my message. How did I get to where I am today? I got here through an incubation process.

In other words, everything that has been destined for your life is incubating and awaiting a set time of manifestation. The problem is that most people live their entire lives idle and never initiate the incubation process.

What do I meany by that? Most people are living reckless and very few people are living intentionally. I am amazed at the number of people I have conversations with that have no vision, goals or strategies for their lives. They show great promise and they have undeniable potential.

However, without development they will die with their dreams still in them.

Everything that has been destined for your life must be incubated and converted to become realities born to time. 

“Visualize this thing that you want, see it, feel it, believe in it. Make your mental blueprint and begin to build.” – Robert Collier

You must give expression to that which is not yet born to time

When you think about a matrix or a prophetic incubation process, you have to understand that potential is often unrealized and untapped. In other words, your potential is in raw form and your potential cannot serve you as long as it is untapped.

The thing that makes me valuable is that I have the ability to convert potential into power. I have done it in my own life and I have empowered leaders around the world to do the same. How do you convert potential into power?

First, it is important to note that you have to perceive potential. If you cannot perceive your potential then you can never cultivate your potential. In addition, you must take the time to cultivate your potential. We often get excited about our capabilities; however, we never expand our capacity in order to realize our greatest potential.

In other words, the strength of your potential is only discovered through your willingness to stretch. The more we are challenged the more we are empowered to expand our capacity for greatness. Most of all, you must begin to express your potential. The expression of potential is different for every person.

For example, the expression of my potential is best demonstrated through the thoughts, ideas, products, services, books, etc.

For another person the expression of potential may look like a screenplay, artwork, sports, scientific discoveries, medical breakthroughs, etc.

Regardless of the form of expression, I know that you will live empty and unfulfilled until you make the decision to express your potential. The expression of your potential gives voice to your dreams, life to your vision, significance to your moments and activates your true power.

You must manifest your greatness

As a revolutionary thinker and leader, my work has impacted people around the world. I am grateful that my life is a source of empowerment to so many people. However, before anyone could ever benefit from my life, I had to make a non-negotiable decision to become who I was born to be.

I wish I could tell you that this journey is easy and that you will get there overnight. However, in a world that celebrates us for doing we are often criticized for being. As a result, I wasted a lot of time trying to be who other people wanted me to be instead of being who I was born to be.

There is no greatness without becoming and there is no becoming with authenticity. It is through our bravery to be vulnerable that we ultimately manifest our greatness. We do not bless the world by being a duplicate. We bless the world when we honor our difference. When you honor your difference you honor your potential.

Ultimately, your difference is how you manifest your greatness.

When you present anything but your authentic self to the world, you are playing small and you are robbing the world of your significance. Manifesting your greatness requires you to master your gifts.

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if you have a leader who displays any of the toxic traits, it’s time to move on to greener pastures.



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