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Meditation Makes You More Resilient. Here’s Why:



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Imagine if you could always be happy. Imagine knowing no matter what happens—no matter how bad life gets, no matter how much pain and stress you go through—you could always come home at the end of the day and tap into a never-ending source of fulfillment, gratitude, creativity, and resilience.

That’s exactly what meditation is, what it does, and what it can feel like if you practice it on a daily basis.  There are plenty of types of meditation out there. Mantra meditation involves repeating a certain word or phrase. Breathing meditation involves focusing on your breath. In guided meditation, an instructor guides you into a state of stillness.

No matter which type or style you choose to participate in, the purpose of all meditation is to free your mind—to free yourself from non stop thinking, anxiety, stress, and frustration percolating in through your brain. Meditation is a vehicle allowing you to pull yourself back from negative thoughts and negative feelings to reconnect with a beautiful and unbreakable state of joy that is your true nature.

As someone who has been a practitioner since 2013, I’ve been able to use meditation to bounce back from all sorts of setbacks, problems or tragedies over the past 4 years. No matter how negative or bleak the situation was, my response was always to pull myself aside for 20 minutes of stillness. Choosing to meditate not only evaporated the stress on my mind, but also gave me the clarity and creativity to figure out the best solution.

The beauty of it is it works consistently. There has not been a situation over the past 4 years that I have not been able to bounce back from or look back at as a blessing in disguise.  It has brought me to a place in my life where nothing can faze me.

“Meditation is a way for nourishing and blossoming the divine within you.” – Amit Ray

Becoming unbreakable and unfazed by the struggles of life sounds weird, yet it makes perfect sense when you realize tenacity is our default state of mind. As humans, we are naturally joyful, peaceful and creative. Meditation is a vehicle for reconnecting you with that default state of mind you got disconnected with as a kid.

If you look out at any playground or schoolyard in the world, you’ll see that children are full of limitless joy, smiles, happiness, creativity, energy, love, and confidence. But as we grow older, most people slowly get more and more disconnected from their true nature.

The reason meditation works is it reconnects us with who we really are. It provides a vehicle that allows us to tap back into our highest and best qualities.

When you look out at the vast numbers of people across the country and across the world that are struggling with anxiety, stress, depression, and unfulfilled lives, this can be a very hard concept to wrap your head around. Nonetheless, it becomes very real when you look out at all of the results that millions of people across the globe have achieved through this beautiful practice. The proof lies in the results.

I myself have been able to remain sober from both drugs and alcohol for over 3 years and counting, wrote more than one book, started a blog, and found true fulfillment through doing this practice twice a day since 2013. And there are TONS of incredibly successful and high-achieving people out there who practice meditation—including Ray Dalio, Russell Simmons, Oprah Winfrey, Ellen Degeneres, Hugh Jackman, Jerry Seinfeld, Arianna Huffington, and many more!

These people are all proof that there is a wellspring of pure bliss, tenacity, strength, and resilience that resides within all of us.  It’s not just within some people. It’s within everybody.

“Enjoy the time off from doing. Just be with yourself.” – Oprah Winfrey

Once you pick up the practice, you too will get to a place in your life where you feel like nothing can faze you. This is something that you can start doing right now. I want to end this blog post with some simple instructions from Russell Simmons’ Super Rich, the book that helped me get started:

“After sitting down and getting comfortable, the next step is to simply begin repeating your mantra. Since most of you reading this probably don’t have one yet, let me share a mantra that I’ve been taught and have found works well for novices: Rum.

Try not to think of it as a word, but rather as a vibration. ‘Ruuuuuuuuuuum.’ Say it loudly in your mind. Say it softly. Say it fast. Say it slow. Whisper it. Scream it. Fixate your mind on ‘Rum’ until that vibration fills up your being.

If you keep repeating ‘Rum’ for even just five minutes, you’ll feel yourself beginning to transcend the hundreds of frivolous thoughts that are cluttering your mind. Again, think of all those thoughts as waves on a stormy ocean. As the vibration of ‘Rum’ becomes stronger and stronger, soon the fluctuations of those waves will become smaller and smaller until your mind will be a calm, glassy sea. When those waves are gone, you’ll be entering a state of real stillness.”

Just a couple words of advice, if the above meditation exercise does not provide any results for you the first time around or if you don’t feel like it’s working for you, be patient. I didn’t get results the first time I tried it. And there are plenty of people around the world who don’t either. It takes patience and consistency.

Have you tried meditating? If so, let us know how it has gone for you by commenting below!

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5 Indicators of Unresolved Attachment Trauma



Emotional Attachment Trauma

Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.

Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.

Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.

Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.

However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.


Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:


1.  Unconscious Sabotage

Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.

This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.

Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.

This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.


2. Persistent Pain

Chronic pain is a common symptom that can stem from early trauma. Studies have shown a connection between physical conditions such as fibromyalgia, headaches, gastrointestinal issues, insomnia, muscle aches, back pain, chest pain, and chronic fatigue with the aftermath of chronic developmental trauma, particularly physical abuse.
Research has found that individuals with insecure attachment styles, such as anxious, avoidant, or disorganized, have a higher incidence of somatic symptoms and a history of physical and emotional abuse in childhood compared to those with a secure attachment style.

3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma

Trauma blocking practises are used to avoid the pain and memories connected with traumatic events.
Emotional numbing, avoidance, and escape via briefly pleasurable activities that distract from terrible memories or suffering are common examples. Unfortunately, this escape habit stops people from successfully processing and recovering from their trauma.
Furthermore, when the pain resurfaces, more and more diversions are necessary to continue ignoring it. This can be seen in compulsive behaviours such as drug or alcohol addiction, emotional eating, numbing oneself through relationships, workaholism, excessive or dangerous exercise routines, compulsive internet or technology use, or any other compulsive behaviour used to distract yoursef from intrusive thoughts and emotions.
These actions have the potential to prolong a cycle of avoidance and repression, preventing persons from healing and progressing.

4. A strong need for control

It’s understandable that some people may struggle with control issues in their adult lives, especially if they felt helpless or vulnerable during their childhood.
This can happen if someone had an overbearing caregiver who didn’t let them make their own choices, expected too much from them, or didn’t take care of them properly. As adults, they might try to control everything in their life to feel more in control and less anxious or scared. This might be because they didn’t feel like they had control over their life when they were a child.
It’s important to remember that everyone’s experiences are different and it’s okay to seek help if you’re struggling with control issues.

5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained

Individuals with a history of developmental trauma may experience a range of psychological symptoms, including obsessive-compulsive behavior, intense mood swings, irritability, anger, depression, emotional numbing, or severe anxiety.
These symptoms can vary in intensity and may occur intermittently throughout the day. People with this type of trauma may attempt to “distract” themselves from these symptoms by denying or rationalizing them, or may resort to substance abuse or behavioral addictions as coping mechanisms. This can be a maladaptive way of trying to numb their symptoms.

What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?

Everyone’s experience of healing from trauma is unique. It’s important to be aware of whether you have experienced childhood developmental trauma and how it may be affecting your relationships as an adult. Sometimes, the effects of trauma can be overwhelming and we may try to push them away or avoid them.
If you notice that you’re engaging in these behaviors, it’s important to seek help from a trauma therapist who can support you on your healing journey. Remember, you’re not alone and it’s never too late to start healing.

There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:

  1. Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
  2. Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
  3. Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
  4. Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
  5. Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.

It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.

If you desire to work with me on healing your wounds and unlocking the aspects of you that were never realized so you can achieve more success in your life then head over to and join my weekly LIVE online mentorship calls.
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