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Reprogramming Yourself: 7 Ways to Deal With Uncertainty and Helplessness

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At times, everybody experiences some kind of despair. There are times when it feels as if the whole weight of the world is on your shoulders and there is no way out. Everything feel like it is falling apart and nothing can be done. The uncertainty may keep you anxious all night long and turn into some kind of nightmare because people get obsessed with their helplessness. As the result, everything becomes a mess, and we get deprived of many pleasant things that we could have enjoyed.

Nevertheless, this is a psychological factor. You should train yourself and tell yourself each day that you can cope with whatever comes. In order to regain self-confidence and self-control, you should use some methods that will help to deal with different problems.

Here are 7 ways to deal with uncertainty and helplessness:

1. Be careful with your expectations

When building some plans, you create definite expectations and this is risky. First of all, you should realize that you may foresee definite things that will happen, but you cannot predict the precise outcomes. Secondly, you need a positive attitude. Many people prepare for the worst without a hope for better. The thoughts are materialistic and many of them come true. Focus on positive emotions and be realistic.

2. Be ready for various possibilities

It is of great importance to feel under control of any situation, yet this is not possible in all situations. This is life, and we cannot predict the outcome. One of the major things you ought to learn in order to become confident is to get ready for whatever may come your way. Try to predict all variants. Some of them are successful, while others may include many problems. Think of strategies to overcome them so you will never be helpless if something goes wrong.

3. Control your feelings

Our feelings determine who we are. They give us a sense of happiness. However, they may likewise bring something unpleasant that may have a great hold on us. Oftentimes, people get lost in the flow of their feelings and emotions. This is normal, yet you should not turn it into a habit. You should become a feeling observer in order to interact with your feelings and try to have them under control. They may interrupt your clear thinking and we will not be able to act logically.

“Every day we have plenty of opportunities to get angry, stressed or offended. But what you’re doing when you indulge these negative emotions is giving something outside yourself power over your happiness. You can choose to not let little things upset you.” – Joel Osteen

4. Build self-confidence

You should be sure you have outstanding coping and adapting skills. This key point is not about the expectations for the worst things to come, it’s about the way you are going to deal with them. You should develop your own system and acquire adaptive skills, which would be effective in different stress situations.

Try to find the most suitable ones. Concentrate on your strongest sides and seek the adequate skills. You should advance them and rise to the level of perfection so you can handle the worst complications.

5. Learn stress reduction techniques

There are many effective and dependable techniques helping one deal with uncertainty and helplessness. A lot of stress has an utterly negative effect for every human being because it makes us think in the wrong directions awaiting only the bad things. Only when you control your stress will you manage to succeed.

Therefore, look for some techniques that will relieve you from unnecessary stress. Train them each day and quite soon, you will be dealing with any form of stress within a blink of an eye automatically.

6. Concentrate on the things you can handle

At times, a global way of thinking may be overwhelming so concentrate on the smaller things that can be controlled. Think of the things you are good at and stick to them. Each time you see multiple complications, remember the things you can control and start thinking positively. You will surely find a resolution to a problem by maintaining a positive way of thinking.

7. Practice mindfulness

Many people are obsessed with the thought of a catastrophe. The next day has not yet come, but they already perceive the hazard. In many cases, this is just a simple prejudice. You should stop thinking about the things that haven’t happened yet and concentrate on the current situation. Notice the beauty of the moment, relax, think of the pleasant things, and remember the happy events that have occurred in your life.

“Whatever good things we build end up building us.” – Jim Rohn

Your tomorrow is uncertain and one may not predict all the things that could happen. Nevertheless, the usefulness of the mentioned above methods is huge. They will help you to get ready for whatever comes and cope with all problems. Use their potential to serve your purposes. Life will appear much brighter if you are self-confident and understand how to control feelings of helplessness. Remember that you are the smith of your own happiness. Everything is in your hands, and you should use it reasonably and effectively to enjoy life and achieve all of your life goals.

How do you handle moments of uncertainty? Please comment below and let us know!

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The 3 Most Important Things I Learned About Personal Growth

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When you look back on your life, what do you want to think about? Do you plan to reminisce on all of the good things that have happened and how they shaped who you are today? Or would you rather remember all of the bad decisions, challenging experiences, and mistakes made that hurt or wasted a portion of your life?

In my opinion, I think it is important to reflect on both. While it’s important to remember the hardships we’ve been through in our lives – without them we wouldn’t be where we are now. There are 3 very specific areas that I feel have helped me grow in a personal sense more than anything else in my life so far. 

These aren’t simple lessons in a book or a lecture that you can just absorb and apply to your life. These are things that I’ve learned through experience and reflection, and I’m still learning and growing today.

1. We determine how much we’re worth by what we think about ourselves, others, and life in general.

This might seem like a pretty obvious lesson in life but it’s actually one of the most important because we can determine our own worth by how we think about ourselves and the world around us. If you’re looking for success in any kind of business or social setting (dating), then I’ll tell you right now that it doesn’t matter if you have 10 billion dollars or not – people are still going to judge you based on your thoughts and beliefs alone.

What determines our value isn’t necessarily what we do with our lives (which is often based on luck) but whether or not we believe that ‘our work’ is worthy or not in some sort of grand scheme or universe. We may not always be able to control what happens in our lives, but we can always control how we value ourselves and others.

“Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better.” – Maya Angelou

2. You don’t have to change your habits or personality just because someone else doesn’t like it – their opinions are THEIRS alone.

This is another one of those lessons that people tend to pick up on a little bit late in life, but if anything that makes its importance even worse! Basically, there’s going to come a time when you’re going to meet someone who has certain expectations of you as a person…but these expectations might not be realistic due to their motivations and personal beliefs. For example, sometimes parents might expect you to be a lawyer or doctor because that’s what they believe is best for their child.

However, this isn’t the case for everyone and so maybe your passion lies in music or writing novels. In this example, if you were also pressured into becoming a doctor – then there would obviously be some kind of conflict going on within yourself as a person. You should never have to give up something that you want to do just because someone else doesn’t like it! The reason why we’re put onto this Earth is to make our own choices and go after our OWN dreams instead of letting others determine what we can and cannot do with our lives .

3. You can’t change your life until you accept that you need to make a change.

When I was younger, I thought that this lesson would be pretty obvious – but as I got older, it really made me appreciate the fact that there are always different ways of perceiving our lives. For example, if someone wants to become rich and famous one day – their mind might simply overshadow any other possibility in their head because they feel like this is what they NEED to do right now.

However, this isn’t always true within our own lives because we think about things too literally instead of having an open mind. If you want to achieve success in any kind of business or social setting (dating) then you should be willing to try out different things instead of staying in your comfort zone. If you want something, then it’s up to YOU to actually go after it – nobody else is going to give it to you!

The three lessons above are some of the main things I want to pass on to everyone because they’ve come at an important time in my life where I need to start thinking about others instead of only myself. It’s great if we can learn to love ourselves first before anything else, but that doesn’t mean you should neglect everyone around you even though they might be your friends and family members!

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