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9 Things Positive People Do Every Single Day

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Do you constantly feel like a bunch of pirates are going to loot you? Even when you’re simply driving down the freeway in your car? Do you fear that you’re going to lose your job and live in the homeless park near your home? Do you see how the worst possible thing that goes wrong, goes wrong?

Many of us have a constant barrage of negative thoughts that we learned to cultivate during our childhoods. Instead of seeing the world in a positive and optimistic way, we continually wait for the other shoe to drop. We wait to see the worst that can happen because we fix our minds on the worst-case scenario.

Not everyone is like this, however. Nor do you have to see the world through a prism of negativity and disaster.

Here are 9 things the most positive people do every single day to help themselves stay optimistic about the world around them:

1. They don’t ruminate about what happened.

Positive people understand that what happened, happened, and that nothing you do today can change the past. You can change your life only in the present moment. The past keeps you stuck. The present allows you to create the life you want and to take life into your own hands.

2. They live with less guilt and regret.

No matter what they did in the past, positive people don’t have as much guilt or regret about things they did wrong or that went wrong. They see their errors and misguided decisions as things to learn from. They see their paths and the decisions they made in the past as them doing the best they could under the circumstances.

3. They see how disappointments are blessings.

While some may think of disappointments as failures, positive people tend to view disappointments as blessings. They see disappointments as learning opportunities, the seeds of wisdom and experience. They see disappointments as things they can get around. Even if it looks bad now, it’s a gift that has something to offer.

“Virtually nothing is impossible in this world if you just put your mind to it and maintain a positive attitude.” – Lou Holtz

4. They don’t blame others.

Even if they come across something challenging, they don’t blame others for it. They’re not looking to pin the blame, get angry at or hold grudges against the people who might have contributed to the challenges at hand. Positive people generally view others as good people who are doing the best they can under the circumstances.

5. They are actively looking for the good.

You could be in the ocean and notice how dirty the beach is. You could be on an airplane and notice how poor the Wi-Fi is or stuck in traffic and complain about how you seem to spend your life in traffic.

Positive people tend to find the positive in any situation. They have a set of lenses that is scanning the world for anything helpful and inspiring, for the tiny speck of good that comes out of any situation.

6. They keep an eye on their words, thoughts and friends.

Positive people know that words – and, more importantly, thoughts – matter. They are more conscious about what goes into their mind because it can influence their thoughts. They move towards the inspiring and the positive while keeping the critical at bay.

Not only is their intake of information positive, they watch their thoughts through meditation or journaling. They squash thoughts of doom and gloom while celebrating thoughts of hope. They also keep an inner circle of encouraging and inspiring friends instead of people who see the glass as half empty.

7. They see setbacks and disappointments as temporary.

Positive people always look at difficult situations as passing things, like clouds or bad weather. They don’t see heavy rainfall or violent storms as things that stay. They know that with a good attitude, daily progress and an affirmative perspective, the winds of change will be around the corner. Not only do they see setbacks as passing, they see the negative as setting them up for something better.

“Adopting a really positive attitude can work wonders to adding years to your life, a spring to your step, a sparkle to your eye, and all of that.” – Christie Brinkley

8. They stay hopeful.

Along the same lines, positive people never give up hope. The business may be failing, there may not be a single customer and they may be in debt but positive people remain hopeful. They are hopeful that better days are around the corner.

They are hopeful because bad times never last. Finally, they are hopeful because they know that life has constantly come through for them. If they’ve gotten through tough times before, they will get through tough times now.

9. They believe life is working in their favor.

You have a choice as to how you see life’s unfolding circumstances. You can see life and your surrounding circumstances as bad karma, believing that life is looking to stick it to you.Or you can see the world around you as supportive and working to help you achieve your dreams.

If you believe the world is supporting you, you will expect good things to unfold. Surprises, miracles and circumstances will be in your favor each time. Positive people know that a positive worldview is a matter of perspective.Your perspective. Your choice.

How do you stay positive when you encounter a problem? Leave a comment below letting us know!

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5 Comments

  1. Sabari Nair

    Jul 18, 2017 at 6:48 am

    Don’t try to solve each issue!!!

  2. David

    Jul 11, 2017 at 3:43 am

    “Be like the clock, keep moving forward”

  3. Jan Bellah

    Jul 11, 2017 at 3:17 am

    Everyone can benefit from these 9 simple reminders that positivity sets us up for success.

  4. Brian Garcia

    Jul 6, 2017 at 3:20 am

    Great list! We like to invest time in Personal Development to constantly rewire our brain for success!

  5. Avinash Chauhan

    Jul 4, 2017 at 3:38 am

    wow amazing facts about positive people that really help to develop positive attitude.

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How many times did you wake up feeling like you could conquer the world? You set ambitious goals for the day, you put on your best attire and walked out the door with a big smile on your face but eventually, life took over. Traffic, emails, work, family, and everything else you have around slowly but steadily started to drain your energy and made you feel exhausted.

You run out of battery, and the only solution that seemed viable was to rely on more caffeine. When that stopped working, all the temptations around you started to look much more appealing, and that sense of drive and commitment you had before slowly faded away. This is you running out of willpower.

Willpower: what is it? Why is it limited?

The American Psychology Association describes willpower as “the ability to resist short-term temptations in order to meet long-term goals.” In the book “The Willpower Instinct”, Dr. Kelly McGonigal, explains how every person’s willpower is limited, and slowly depletes throughout the day. The more “willpower challenges” you face, the quicker your reserve drains. Dr. McGonigal divided the different types of willpower challenges you might encounter in three categories:

  • I will: We face this type of challenge whenever we should do something, but we simply don’t feel like getting it done right now.
  • I won’t: We face this challenge when we try to resist temptation, or we try to keep cool in stressful situations.
  • I want: This is a particular type of challenge where we keep track of our long term goals, dreams, and desires. In this instance, we feel like we should take action right now to come one step closer to the goal. 

It’s easy to recognize it when you face a willpower challenge because you literally “feel it in your body.” Imagine being really hungry and walking in front of a bakery. The sight and the smell of pastries quickly triggers an “I won’t” type of challenge, and it takes a severe amount of effort and energy to walk away.

Every time you manage to win one of those challenges, a little bit of your willpower reserve gets used. The more challenges you face daily, the harder it will be to stay true to your goals.

Can you train or recharge your willpower?

A growing body of research suggests that willpower should be considered a muscle. To strengthen it, you should exercise it regularly, but you should not overwork it. Therefore, we shouldn’t try to “be good” at all times. Instead, we should learn how to relax and recharge our willpower.

The general advice on how to improve willpower involves sleep, proper nutrition, and regular exercise. This broad and general recommendation is often not downright applicable by most, because it consists of changing various daily habits. Luckily, three very effective hacks have been discovered, that have an immediate effect on our willpower and take just a few minutes to apply.

Here are the 3 ways to refill your willpower reserves:

1. Focused breathing

Breathing, when done correctly, can stimulate the release of calming hormones while reducing the release of stress hormones like cortisol and catecholamines. To make this effective, you should deeply and slowly inhale through the nose for at least five seconds. Fill your belly with air first, then your chest, and when there’s no more space for air, still try to do tiny inhalations through the nose.

You should feel a pulling sensation around your neck and trapezius muscles. Once your lungs are full, try to hold the breath for five seconds, then slowly exhale through the mouth for at least five seconds. If you repeat this process ten to twenty times, you should feel dramatically more relaxed. Use this method several times a day, especially when you’re experiencing high levels of stress or anxiety.

2. Reward yourself when you accomplish a micro goal

According to a recent study, frequent instant rewards can boost motivation, and therefore, willpower. Creating your own reward system can help you to accomplish your to-do list, and also resist temptations. Since every individual has different tastes, you should come up with creative ideas about the small and frequent rewards you will give yourself upon winning any willpower challenge.

You can see this hack in practice in Apps like the popular Duolinguo, where after completing each lesson you get presented with a chance to open a treasure chest. This rewarding system seems to keep the users much more likely to keep learning new lessons.

3. Taking cold showers

Your body has an autonomic response to cold water. Getting into a cold shower is a difficult (but minor) willpower challenge on its own. As I previously mentioned, winning a willpower challenge strengthens your willpower muscle. Having a morning cold shower, on top of having multiple health benefits, will set you up for a positive winning streak of further challenges.

High performance is the sum of many small habits. Successful people don’t have an unlimited reserve of willpower, but they do have a set of daily rituals that made them succeed. These three hacks are some of the most effective techniques to develop willpower, but some of them may not fit every individual. You should try to find the perfect mix of daily practices that best fits your lifestyle and likes, so that you can strengthen your willpower muscle and perform better at work.

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