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9 Things Positive People Do Every Single Day

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Do you constantly feel like a bunch of pirates are going to loot you? Even when you’re simply driving down the freeway in your car? Do you fear that you’re going to lose your job and live in the homeless park near your home? Do you see how the worst possible thing that goes wrong, goes wrong?

Many of us have a constant barrage of negative thoughts that we learned to cultivate during our childhoods. Instead of seeing the world in a positive and optimistic way, we continually wait for the other shoe to drop. We wait to see the worst that can happen because we fix our minds on the worst-case scenario.

Not everyone is like this, however. Nor do you have to see the world through a prism of negativity and disaster.

Here are 9 things the most positive people do every single day to help themselves stay optimistic about the world around them:

1. They don’t ruminate about what happened.

Positive people understand that what happened, happened, and that nothing you do today can change the past. You can change your life only in the present moment. The past keeps you stuck. The present allows you to create the life you want and to take life into your own hands.

2. They live with less guilt and regret.

No matter what they did in the past, positive people don’t have as much guilt or regret about things they did wrong or that went wrong. They see their errors and misguided decisions as things to learn from. They see their paths and the decisions they made in the past as them doing the best they could under the circumstances.

3. They see how disappointments are blessings.

While some may think of disappointments as failures, positive people tend to view disappointments as blessings. They see disappointments as learning opportunities, the seeds of wisdom and experience. They see disappointments as things they can get around. Even if it looks bad now, it’s a gift that has something to offer.

“Virtually nothing is impossible in this world if you just put your mind to it and maintain a positive attitude.” – Lou Holtz

4. They don’t blame others.

Even if they come across something challenging, they don’t blame others for it. They’re not looking to pin the blame, get angry at or hold grudges against the people who might have contributed to the challenges at hand. Positive people generally view others as good people who are doing the best they can under the circumstances.

5. They are actively looking for the good.

You could be in the ocean and notice how dirty the beach is. You could be on an airplane and notice how poor the Wi-Fi is or stuck in traffic and complain about how you seem to spend your life in traffic.

Positive people tend to find the positive in any situation. They have a set of lenses that is scanning the world for anything helpful and inspiring, for the tiny speck of good that comes out of any situation.

6. They keep an eye on their words, thoughts and friends.

Positive people know that words – and, more importantly, thoughts – matter. They are more conscious about what goes into their mind because it can influence their thoughts. They move towards the inspiring and the positive while keeping the critical at bay.

Not only is their intake of information positive, they watch their thoughts through meditation or journaling. They squash thoughts of doom and gloom while celebrating thoughts of hope. They also keep an inner circle of encouraging and inspiring friends instead of people who see the glass as half empty.

7. They see setbacks and disappointments as temporary.

Positive people always look at difficult situations as passing things, like clouds or bad weather. They don’t see heavy rainfall or violent storms as things that stay. They know that with a good attitude, daily progress and an affirmative perspective, the winds of change will be around the corner. Not only do they see setbacks as passing, they see the negative as setting them up for something better.

“Adopting a really positive attitude can work wonders to adding years to your life, a spring to your step, a sparkle to your eye, and all of that.” – Christie Brinkley

8. They stay hopeful.

Along the same lines, positive people never give up hope. The business may be failing, there may not be a single customer and they may be in debt but positive people remain hopeful. They are hopeful that better days are around the corner.

They are hopeful because bad times never last. Finally, they are hopeful because they know that life has constantly come through for them. If they’ve gotten through tough times before, they will get through tough times now.

9. They believe life is working in their favor.

You have a choice as to how you see life’s unfolding circumstances. You can see life and your surrounding circumstances as bad karma, believing that life is looking to stick it to you.Or you can see the world around you as supportive and working to help you achieve your dreams.

If you believe the world is supporting you, you will expect good things to unfold. Surprises, miracles and circumstances will be in your favor each time. Positive people know that a positive worldview is a matter of perspective.Your perspective. Your choice.

How do you stay positive when you encounter a problem? Leave a comment below letting us know!

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5 Indicators of Unresolved Attachment Trauma

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Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.

Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.

Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.

Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.

However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.

 

Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:

 

1.  Unconscious Sabotage

Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.

This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.

Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.

This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.

 

2. Persistent Pain

 
Chronic pain is a common symptom that can stem from early trauma. Studies have shown a connection between physical conditions such as fibromyalgia, headaches, gastrointestinal issues, insomnia, muscle aches, back pain, chest pain, and chronic fatigue with the aftermath of chronic developmental trauma, particularly physical abuse.
 
Research has found that individuals with insecure attachment styles, such as anxious, avoidant, or disorganized, have a higher incidence of somatic symptoms and a history of physical and emotional abuse in childhood compared to those with a secure attachment style.
 
 

3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma

 
Trauma blocking practises are used to avoid the pain and memories connected with traumatic events.
 
Emotional numbing, avoidance, and escape via briefly pleasurable activities that distract from terrible memories or suffering are common examples. Unfortunately, this escape habit stops people from successfully processing and recovering from their trauma.
 
Furthermore, when the pain resurfaces, more and more diversions are necessary to continue ignoring it. This can be seen in compulsive behaviours such as drug or alcohol addiction, emotional eating, numbing oneself through relationships, workaholism, excessive or dangerous exercise routines, compulsive internet or technology use, or any other compulsive behaviour used to distract yoursef from intrusive thoughts and emotions.
 
These actions have the potential to prolong a cycle of avoidance and repression, preventing persons from healing and progressing.
 

4. A strong need for control

 
It’s understandable that some people may struggle with control issues in their adult lives, especially if they felt helpless or vulnerable during their childhood.
 
This can happen if someone had an overbearing caregiver who didn’t let them make their own choices, expected too much from them, or didn’t take care of them properly. As adults, they might try to control everything in their life to feel more in control and less anxious or scared. This might be because they didn’t feel like they had control over their life when they were a child.
 
It’s important to remember that everyone’s experiences are different and it’s okay to seek help if you’re struggling with control issues.
 
 

5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained

 
Individuals with a history of developmental trauma may experience a range of psychological symptoms, including obsessive-compulsive behavior, intense mood swings, irritability, anger, depression, emotional numbing, or severe anxiety.
 
These symptoms can vary in intensity and may occur intermittently throughout the day. People with this type of trauma may attempt to “distract” themselves from these symptoms by denying or rationalizing them, or may resort to substance abuse or behavioral addictions as coping mechanisms. This can be a maladaptive way of trying to numb their symptoms.
 
 

What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?

 
Everyone’s experience of healing from trauma is unique. It’s important to be aware of whether you have experienced childhood developmental trauma and how it may be affecting your relationships as an adult. Sometimes, the effects of trauma can be overwhelming and we may try to push them away or avoid them.
 
If you notice that you’re engaging in these behaviors, it’s important to seek help from a trauma therapist who can support you on your healing journey. Remember, you’re not alone and it’s never too late to start healing.
 

There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:

  1. Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
  2. Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
  3. Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
  4. Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
  5. Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.

It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.

 
 
If you desire to work with me on healing your wounds and unlocking the aspects of you that were never realized so you can achieve more success in your life then head over to awebliss.com and join my weekly LIVE online mentorship calls.
 
 
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