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How Giving Back to the Community Contributes to Your Own Success



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For many professionals, a key aspect of a successful career lies in giving back to a community that once helped them to grow as people. Whether it’s to improve our health, to make a difference in the lives of our friends and neighbours, or to form new relationships, giving back can become the cornerstone on which a successful life is built. So, why is giving back to the community important, and what drives so many successful people to give back in such big ways?

Here are just a few reasons why helping others enables us to help ourselves, and why that might just be the biggest reward of all:

1. It Contributes to Our Sense of Well-Being

Although it may not seem obvious at the time, it’s a major truth in life that when we’re helping others, we’re also contributing to our own health and sense of well-being, mentally and physically.

Numerous studies have shown that acts of giving are linked to increased mental health in an individual. As many have said, being generous is not just about making others feel good, it’s mostly about feeling good about what we have done to others. After the act of giving, our brain will release happiness chemicals like dopamine throughout the body, aiding your sense of inner peace.

Studies have also shown that activities such as volunteering can boost self-esteem. In addition, charitable activities may even be good for maintaining a healthy heart, which is a benefit that can have a major impact on our overall health and quality of life.

Maintaining our own sense of well-being is just one component of the importance of giving back to the community, and for many people, a healthy lifestyle often begins with helping others.

2. It Adds Balance to Our Lives

When we give back to our communities and to the world at large, we’re often coming full circle on a cycle that has helped us on our own paths to success. For example, if your life was ever improved because of the kind words and support of a teacher or coach, or if you’ve ever relied on public education to learn new concepts, you may feel that giving back can simply mean providing others in our community with the same opportunities that you’ve been afforded.

The small things matter too. Even the purchase of a locally-made loaf of bread can mean participating in a system where people work hard to help one another; to wit, farmers, truck-drivers, store owners, and many other people all work hard so that we can eat a good meal. So when we give back, we’re really building on the larger whole that helps everyone in society reach their potential.

“The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

3. It Expands Our Skills and Experience

When giving back to our community, we’re also often able to expand our skill set and develop new experiences that will aid us in the long run. Often, helping out in the community means developing strong organizational skills and communicating with a wide variety of people to accomplish a task.

That can mean that we’ll come away from the experience knowing more about problem-solving and effective leadership, two qualities that can contribute enormously to a successful life. Moreover, the knowledge that we’ve made a difference in the lives of others can provide a confidence-boost like no other!

It Strengthens Our Networks and Helps Build New Relationships

When we’re helping out in our communities, chances are good that we’ll also be meeting local leaders and expanding our network of friends and colleagues. When we’re meeting like-minded individuals, we’ll be improving our lives in the bargain.

Meeting new people and expanding our network not only benefits our professional life, but it can also improve our health and help us build a solid sense of self-confidence and self-worth.

When we’re surrounded by people with a commitment to helping others, we may also find that we hold ourselves to higher expectations and that the goodwill and positive attitude of people committed to charitable causes improve our mood and self-image.

Networking with other community leaders can also be a form of marketing that shows the true worth of our services or products. When people realize that we’re committed to improving the lives of others, it will speak volumes about the products or services that we’ve worked hard to develop. After all, charitable work gives us the opportunity to be the best representatives of our business and show others what our values and passions are all about.

“Instead of better glasses, your network gives you better eyes.” – Ronald Burt

4. It Increases a Sense of Purpose

The act of giving or the act of kindness can help an individual to gain (or regain) a sense of purpose in life. Just as success becomes easier to achieve when we build on the motivation to overcome obstacles and persevere in face of setbacks.

It’s also true that from time to time we must also strengthen and recommit to our sense of purpose by learning and connecting to the lives of others, so it’s easier to keep ourselves motivated.

Fulfilment from giving will also bring us joy, and no challenge will seem too great because the pathway to further success will become clearer. That is the development of a resilient and successful mindset done right!

These are just a few reasons why giving back is important to leading a healthy life and in finding the passion that will take our work from good to great. With the right attitude and a bit of effort, we can be sure that our contributions to our community can make a difference in the lives of others and help us live healthier, more fulfilling lives.

At the end of the day, the chance to give back to our communities may be one of the most rewarding aspects of a life well-lived. Remember, enjoy the journey, and you just may happen upon a truly life-changing experience in the bargain!

What do you do to give back to your community? Share with us below!

Delan Cooper is a solopreneur and writer who often writes about lifestyle, health and self-improvement. His articles come courtesy of yourtown, an organisation which proudly provides compassion, education, and understanding for young people in Australia.

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Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.

Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.

Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.

Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.

However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.


Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:


1.  Unconscious Sabotage

Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.

This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.

Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.

This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.


2. Persistent Pain

Chronic pain is a common symptom that can stem from early trauma. Studies have shown a connection between physical conditions such as fibromyalgia, headaches, gastrointestinal issues, insomnia, muscle aches, back pain, chest pain, and chronic fatigue with the aftermath of chronic developmental trauma, particularly physical abuse.
Research has found that individuals with insecure attachment styles, such as anxious, avoidant, or disorganized, have a higher incidence of somatic symptoms and a history of physical and emotional abuse in childhood compared to those with a secure attachment style.

3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma

Trauma blocking practises are used to avoid the pain and memories connected with traumatic events.
Emotional numbing, avoidance, and escape via briefly pleasurable activities that distract from terrible memories or suffering are common examples. Unfortunately, this escape habit stops people from successfully processing and recovering from their trauma.
Furthermore, when the pain resurfaces, more and more diversions are necessary to continue ignoring it. This can be seen in compulsive behaviours such as drug or alcohol addiction, emotional eating, numbing oneself through relationships, workaholism, excessive or dangerous exercise routines, compulsive internet or technology use, or any other compulsive behaviour used to distract yoursef from intrusive thoughts and emotions.
These actions have the potential to prolong a cycle of avoidance and repression, preventing persons from healing and progressing.

4. A strong need for control

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These symptoms can vary in intensity and may occur intermittently throughout the day. People with this type of trauma may attempt to “distract” themselves from these symptoms by denying or rationalizing them, or may resort to substance abuse or behavioral addictions as coping mechanisms. This can be a maladaptive way of trying to numb their symptoms.

What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?

Everyone’s experience of healing from trauma is unique. It’s important to be aware of whether you have experienced childhood developmental trauma and how it may be affecting your relationships as an adult. Sometimes, the effects of trauma can be overwhelming and we may try to push them away or avoid them.
If you notice that you’re engaging in these behaviors, it’s important to seek help from a trauma therapist who can support you on your healing journey. Remember, you’re not alone and it’s never too late to start healing.

There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:

  1. Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
  2. Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
  3. Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
  4. Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
  5. Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.

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