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How To Be A Badass Goal Digger: 2 Golden Rules Successful Achievers Never Break

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Have you ever been stuck on stagnant when it comes to achieving a goal? You start strong and dream of finishing strong. You get revved up and begin the race to achieve your next big accomplishment. Everything’s going great then somewhere in the middle or perhaps even shortly after beginning, things go south faster than you can say “gentlemen start your engines.”

There are as many different goals as there are countless numbers of people trying to achieve them. Sadly, only a few will make it to the finish line. What makes the difference between those that do and those that don’t might surprise you. Just stay with me and I will show you how to hit pay dirt when it comes to achieving goal success. 

It doesn’t matter if you want to lose weight, get a better job, rebuild your life, rebuild your credit, publish a book, or start a new business. Our goals may all be different and look different. We all have the same objective no matter the goal. That objective is to always get results. Goals without results are simply a source of frustration and a set up to lead you to a setback.

There are two main things successful achievers understand and do consistently well. Below are two golden rules that will have you digging up goal success like a pro:  

1. Finding The Landmines Before You Step On Them

The first golden rule may seem so basic that you may wonder why I even bothered bringing it up; However, you would be surprised at just how many people miss this crucial first step and miss the mark of achieving their goal. Sometimes we just need to be reminded how important this step is.

Over my many years as a nurse, I have lost count of the many patients and people I have worked with on achieving various goals. The goals ranged from seeking better health, better dietary or disease management, helping them to adjust to a change in their declining health status or helping survivors of domestic violence rebuild their lives.

The number one reason that held most of them back was not that they lacked a desire for change or even a lack of ability. Many of them had both the desire and the ability to change their situation but there was one big thing that stood in the way of what they wanted.

The one thing that held them back the most was happening on a subconscious level. Brewing just beneath the surface was a belief that they didn’t deserve good health or whatever it was that we were working towards. They held a belief within, that something or someone else was more important than taking care of themselves. This in turn signaled messaging to the brain that they were not important enough. Without question, this belief torpedoed any chance they ever had of achieving what many of them truly wanted and desperately needed.

Yet, because they believed they weren’t important enough or deserved it enough, the battle had already been lost before the fight even began. One of the most damaging things we can ever do to ourselves when we are setting our goals is to allow ourselves to believe that we don’t deserve success. Most of the time this happens on a subconscious level without us even realizing it.

Taking a little time out to self-reflect and examine if you have any self- limiting and self-destructive beliefs before you attempt your goal digging will go a long way in helping you to dig up the prize. It doesn’t matter how many degrees you have, how much money you spend on career advancement seminars, or how much you invest in your outer image. If you secretly don’t believe you deserve success, you will sabotage every effort to achieve it because you don’t believe you deserve it. If you have any lingering self-destructive beliefs. Identify them, deal with them, beat them and carry on!

“No matter how qualified or deserving we are, we will never reach a better life until we can imagine it for ourselves and allow ourselves to have it.” – Richard Bach

2. Can Someone Pass Me My Success….Please?

The second, and certainly not the least important golden rule is that successful achievers do not wait for permission to achieve. Successful goal achievers do not seek anyone’s approval or permission to succeed. If I’m brutally and somewhat painfully honest, in my younger days in the beginning of my career, I was guilty of feeling like I needed permission from others to succeed.

When I look back on my younger self, I realized how counterproductive, self destructive, and self defeating that really was. I wasted so much of my time treading lightly in the fear of intimidating someone or being seen as different than, I missed out on enormous opportunities.

By seeking or worse needing permission or approval from others to be successful is like handing the keys to your happiness and well-being over to someone else and hoping things turn out okay. The people who are in your life and there to support you will be happy you are succeeding. The only problem they will have is wondering what the heck took you so long!

Share with us what is a recent success you’re excited about! We want to hear from you.

Tracy Brack RN, BSN is an author, registered nurse, domestic violence advocate and motivational speaker. She has worked in some of America's top Level I trauma and training health systems including Yale Hospital in New Haven Connecticut . Her blog @ www.queenadventures.com  is designed to inspire and empower single women to expect and achieve more in their lives. Download her Free Ebook “The Single Woman’s Rise From Pain To Power” @ https://queenadventures.com/from-pain-to-power

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20 Ways You Can Become a Powerful Communicator

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Emile Steenveld Speaker and Coach

Some people seem to naturally know how to effectively communicate in a group setting. They can express themselves clearly and listen attentively without dominating the conversation.

Being a powerful communicator is important for several reasons, including building and maintaining relationships, achieving goals, resolving conflicts, improving productivity, leading and influencing others, advancing in your career, expressing yourself more confidently and authentically, and improving your mental and emotional well-being. Effective communication is an essential life skill that can benefit you in all aspects of your life.

But, don’t worry if you don’t naturally possess this skill, as effective communication is something that can be developed with practice, planning and preparation.
 

1.  Listen actively: Practice active listening by giving your full attention to the speaker and responding to what they are saying.

 

2. Use “I” statements: Speak from your own perspective and avoid placing blame or making accusations.

 

3. Avoid assumptions: Don’t make assumptions about what the other person is thinking or feeling.

 

4. Be clear: Express your thoughts and feelings clearly and concisely by getting to the point and avoid using jargon or overly complex language.

 

5. Show empathy: Show that you understand and care about the other person’s feelings.

 

6. Offer valuable insights: When speaking in a group, provide a valuable takeaway or actionable item that people can walk away with.

 

7. Be an active listener: Listen attentively and respond accordingly, incorporating your points into the conversation.

 

8. Choose the right time: Pick the most opportune time to speak to ensure that you have the group’s attention and can deliver your message without interruption.

 

9. Be the unifying voice: Step in and unify the group’s thoughts to calm down the discussion and insert your point effectively.

 

10. Keep responses concise: Keep responses short and to the point to show respect for others’ time.

 

11. Avoid unnecessary comments: Avoid commenting on everything and only speak when you have something important to say.

 

12. Cut the fluff: Avoid being long-winded and get straight to the point.

 

13. Prepare ahead of time: Sort out your points and practice them before speaking in a group.

 

14. Smile and be positive: Smile and nod along as others speak, to build a positive relationship and be respected when it’s your turn to speak.

 

15. Take responsibility: Take responsibility for your own actions and feelings.

 

16. Ask questions: Ask questions to clarify any confusion or misunderstandings.

 

17. Avoid interrupting: Allow the other person to finish speaking without interruption.

 

18. Practice active listening: Repeat what the other person said to ensure you have understood correctly.

 

19. Use your body language too: Use nonverbal cues such as eye contact, facial expressions, and body language to convey your message and build rapport.

 

20. Be aware of the tone of your voice: it should be calm and assertive, not aggressive or passive.

 

By keeping these tips in mind, you can improve your communication skills and become a more powerful communicator, which can help you build better relationships, achieve your goals, and lead a more fulfilling life.

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