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3 Things You Should Be Doing Right Now to Control Your State and Supercharge Your Life



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Have you ever noticed this a time when everything feels good, and you have the feeling that nothing can go wrong? Maybe it was a life plan where everything is going right or starting a new project where it feels like all the answers are right at your fingertips. Sure, it could even be an incredible time or a moment where you ascend to a new stage in life, and it feels like you’re almost fulfilled.

I bet you’ve also experienced the opposite, a time when you’re messed up, feel like quitting or a time when it seems that every door blocks your path. The question is, what’s the difference? You’re the same person, producing different results, one is dismal, the other is fabulous. Ever wonder why this often happens in the sphere of life?

Well, it’s the same reason why the best athletes have a day where they perform at their best, take control of the event and win at all costs, then comes the day when they can’t get a base hit or win anything. And the answer to all that is simple, it’s simply the neurophysiological state you’re in, you probably have yours, in fact, everyone does.

The state of mind we’re in has everything to do with how we spend our day, attend to life, form a habit, and do our work. There are prominent, uplifting states like inner strength, love, confidence, and motivation and so there are paralyzing states like fear, pressure, depression, anxiety, which are overwhelming, to say the least.

Understanding our state each day of life is the key to building healthy habits and transpiring toward a great career. If you want to know how you can attain the best resourceful state and achieve an excellent result in life, then the tasks below are the key things you must do to live a supercharged life.

Here are a few things you need to do right now to take back control of your state:

1. Retrain your brain

How you picture things in life will determine the kind of state you’re in. Most of the time, what you say to yourself about the situation at hand will create the force that will drive your life.

Think about this for a moment, how do you handle a situation when your spouse comes home later than he/she promised? If you’re like most people, you might think the worse from your point view or scan through the many things that might keep him/her late, and whatever your thoughts come to. It will be the force that drives you into a particular state either positive or negative at that moment in time.

Most people will bully their spouse without first trying to understand why he/she was late. If we keep to this conduct, it’ll create a permanent behavior that controls our life, and chances are affecting the spouse’s life. We will often behave in the same manner when such a situation occurs again.

Starting from this moment, make a resolution that you’ll retrain your brain to understand and respond to things positively, before taking any action which could leave your life in a negative state. If you do that, you’ll do just fine.

“Just as trees shed their leaves in winter and renew themselves, the mind can shed its prejudices, barriers and renew itself.” – Radha Burnier

2. Change your patterns and beliefs

Most of the time we’ve modeled our lives subconsciously after our parents or some other role model. And, from time to time, that creates the state we’re in. For example, if your father gets angry a lot, you’re most likely to model such a habit. Or if someone you admire a lot and wish you could become, has a smoking habit, you’re likely to start smoking.

Research has proven that we most love to live our life pattern according to our beliefs and these beliefs have a huge impact in the state we are in and how we live our life. Are you currently practicing a bad habit that you’d love to change? First, you must determine the thing that got you started with such a habit – advice from a friend? An attitude pattern from your parent? Whatever it is, write it down. Done with that?

Secondly, write down what you think you could do to change such a habit, think about the negative impact it has on your life, develop a new positive pattern and start working toward replacing the bad habit with a new positive one. Doing that, you’ll gain momentum to live a supercharged life.

3. Nurture your internal representations

The third thing you need to do to move to a positive state of mind is to learn how to nurture your internal representation. Think about it, when you think of something vibrant and amazing, don’t you perceive the world differently?

When you perceive something difficult doesn’t your body go into a non-active and negative state? Most people’s environment determines their state and how they see things. Before we can direct our state of mind and experiences in life, we must be able to control our internal representation of how we perceive and do things. Two people can see the same event and have different accounts of it.

From now on, resolve to yourself that you’ll choose to make a positive choice no matter the environment or situation you’re in. Because you see, there’s good in everything; including the circumstances that affect us in our daily lives. Your job is to find that good and make the best use of it.

“Pessimism leads to weakness, optimism to power.” – William Jones

To change your state from negative to positive, start by retraining your brain about certain issues of life, change your pattern and beliefs and nurture your internal representation. If you do that, you’ll have a fantastic day, every day, and start living the supercharged life. Remember, the state of mind you’re in will determine the result you’ll produce in life.

How has your life changed after changing the way you look and think about things? Leave your thoughts below!

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5 Indicators of Unresolved Attachment Trauma



Emotional Attachment Trauma

Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.

Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.

Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.

Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.

However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.


Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:


1.  Unconscious Sabotage

Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.

This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.

Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.

This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.


2. Persistent Pain

Chronic pain is a common symptom that can stem from early trauma. Studies have shown a connection between physical conditions such as fibromyalgia, headaches, gastrointestinal issues, insomnia, muscle aches, back pain, chest pain, and chronic fatigue with the aftermath of chronic developmental trauma, particularly physical abuse.
Research has found that individuals with insecure attachment styles, such as anxious, avoidant, or disorganized, have a higher incidence of somatic symptoms and a history of physical and emotional abuse in childhood compared to those with a secure attachment style.

3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma

Trauma blocking practises are used to avoid the pain and memories connected with traumatic events.
Emotional numbing, avoidance, and escape via briefly pleasurable activities that distract from terrible memories or suffering are common examples. Unfortunately, this escape habit stops people from successfully processing and recovering from their trauma.
Furthermore, when the pain resurfaces, more and more diversions are necessary to continue ignoring it. This can be seen in compulsive behaviours such as drug or alcohol addiction, emotional eating, numbing oneself through relationships, workaholism, excessive or dangerous exercise routines, compulsive internet or technology use, or any other compulsive behaviour used to distract yoursef from intrusive thoughts and emotions.
These actions have the potential to prolong a cycle of avoidance and repression, preventing persons from healing and progressing.

4. A strong need for control

It’s understandable that some people may struggle with control issues in their adult lives, especially if they felt helpless or vulnerable during their childhood.
This can happen if someone had an overbearing caregiver who didn’t let them make their own choices, expected too much from them, or didn’t take care of them properly. As adults, they might try to control everything in their life to feel more in control and less anxious or scared. This might be because they didn’t feel like they had control over their life when they were a child.
It’s important to remember that everyone’s experiences are different and it’s okay to seek help if you’re struggling with control issues.

5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained

Individuals with a history of developmental trauma may experience a range of psychological symptoms, including obsessive-compulsive behavior, intense mood swings, irritability, anger, depression, emotional numbing, or severe anxiety.
These symptoms can vary in intensity and may occur intermittently throughout the day. People with this type of trauma may attempt to “distract” themselves from these symptoms by denying or rationalizing them, or may resort to substance abuse or behavioral addictions as coping mechanisms. This can be a maladaptive way of trying to numb their symptoms.

What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?

Everyone’s experience of healing from trauma is unique. It’s important to be aware of whether you have experienced childhood developmental trauma and how it may be affecting your relationships as an adult. Sometimes, the effects of trauma can be overwhelming and we may try to push them away or avoid them.
If you notice that you’re engaging in these behaviors, it’s important to seek help from a trauma therapist who can support you on your healing journey. Remember, you’re not alone and it’s never too late to start healing.

There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:

  1. Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
  2. Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
  3. Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
  4. Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
  5. Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.

It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.

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