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7 Profound Reminders That Will Create A Positive State of Mind



Positive Mindset

There will be days when the heart and desire just isn’t there like it used to be and the cycle of just giving up on a dream or goal starts to set in. There’s this empty feeling that prevents you from moving forward. Trying to create positive energy becomes even more difficult and without it you feel the impossible.

The questions pile up, How can I pick myself up? Who do I turn to? Loss happens to all of us and it’s natural. The way to rise to the occasion is by embracing the adversities presented in life. You will encounter profound reminders in an unexpected fashion that will give success a new meaning. It’s important to consider them.

Here are 7 reminders when it all seems impossible:

1. The greatest yet forgotten gift is life

We don’t go through life to amass money, worldly things; they are completely meaningless compared to the importance of being healthy and strong. When you feel like everything is about to break remember that you are still here and that there is more ahead. There is no gift greater than life. We won’t understand the importance of blessings until you experience the harsh realities on the other end of the spectrum. Looking into the eyes of others without the basic needs of life you see an ocean of crushed hopes and dreams.

2. You were born with potential

Definition of Potential: adjective;  “having or showing the capacity to develop into something in the future.”Some people go through life thinking that success is only for those who are more fortunate. Look upon all those who you know have done well and are experiencing success. I know the feeling of… why them and not me?

There is no difference. If they can do it so can you, we are human. You have the potential to succeed and failure occurs when you stop trying. Potential is unlocked by beginning with a purpose of “I will and I can”. You might not have it at first because you fear you don’t have the skills.

True ability is discovered by challenging yourself that begins a transformation process. This is a beautiful feeling because you’ll realise that the things you worried about didn’t mean a damn thing. From nothing to something.

“Leadership is unlocking people’s potential to become better.” – Bill Bradley

3. Seek help from the wise ones

The real truth is that sometimes we are scared of being judged and to breaking away from this fear is hard. Therefore, try to interact with others who can open doors of opportunity. If I look at every friend, mentor, supervisor, and teacher I can say that I picked up certain skills, which brought the best out of me.

Therefore constantly seek advice and help from them to become better at what you want to do. You are not the only one; struggles have been overcome by those before you and they can provide you with much needed confidence. They play a major part in shifting our attention away from our fears to being able to strengthen ourselves. We all need someone to lean on.

4. Dreams don’t work unless you do

Ever have that nagging feeling in your head that you can’t do something or plans that didn’t play out? In basic psychology the Zeigarnik effect states that, uncompleted tasks stay stuck in the unconscious mind, however when you decide to implement a plan to resolve these tasks in your conscious mind it will eradicate this noise. Yes this background noise is annoying yet it can be helpful to gain success because it forces you to fight. Get up, learn to fight, make use of the hours and put in the hustle.

5. Carry out a random act of kindness

Helping others will immediately bring an aura of positivity and performing such regular acts will help you find a way through your own struggles. I found that by helping others I gained experience in new and transferable skills. In return when you find out how much it can mean to someone by doing something little, it drives your happiness and optimism that the same will happen for you. Try it and see how it feels.

6. Continue to visualise

Make your dream worth chasing. Whilst others are not taking action I am making every effort for positive actions. The sad reality is that most of us have already set limits on ourselves. Visualising yourself to be better will help you get past the present reality. To sustain that vision, believe in yourself and programe yourself to be determined on focusing every key element of your goal. Envision keeping your dream alive.

“Make sure you visualize what you really want, not what someone else wants for you.” – Jerry Gillies

7. Failure is not final

HOPE stands for Having Only Positive Expectations. Creating this mind-set will strengthen your confidence and to accept life experiences as they happen. Remember that every problem is an opportunity in disguise and feeding off this will give you the hunger and drive to move forward. It is life’s greatest mystery; being scared of not knowing what’s next, and trust me it is entirely possible to get yourself out of those hopeless moments. Pain is temporary.

Take heed from these reminders, because when you are down to nothing, the universe is conspiring something great for you. The impossible can become possible.

How do you create a positive state of mind? Please leave your thoughts below!

Besides working in the field of science; helping patients through genetic testing, my purpose is to empower and inspire people in life with motivational videos, messages, articles and stories from around the world. I love to engage creative and ambitious minds on my Facebook page

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5 Indicators of Unresolved Attachment Trauma



Emotional Attachment Trauma

Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.

Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.

Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.

Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.

However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.


Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:


1.  Unconscious Sabotage

Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.

This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.

Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.

This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.


2. Persistent Pain

Chronic pain is a common symptom that can stem from early trauma. Studies have shown a connection between physical conditions such as fibromyalgia, headaches, gastrointestinal issues, insomnia, muscle aches, back pain, chest pain, and chronic fatigue with the aftermath of chronic developmental trauma, particularly physical abuse.
Research has found that individuals with insecure attachment styles, such as anxious, avoidant, or disorganized, have a higher incidence of somatic symptoms and a history of physical and emotional abuse in childhood compared to those with a secure attachment style.

3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma

Trauma blocking practises are used to avoid the pain and memories connected with traumatic events.
Emotional numbing, avoidance, and escape via briefly pleasurable activities that distract from terrible memories or suffering are common examples. Unfortunately, this escape habit stops people from successfully processing and recovering from their trauma.
Furthermore, when the pain resurfaces, more and more diversions are necessary to continue ignoring it. This can be seen in compulsive behaviours such as drug or alcohol addiction, emotional eating, numbing oneself through relationships, workaholism, excessive or dangerous exercise routines, compulsive internet or technology use, or any other compulsive behaviour used to distract yoursef from intrusive thoughts and emotions.
These actions have the potential to prolong a cycle of avoidance and repression, preventing persons from healing and progressing.

4. A strong need for control

It’s understandable that some people may struggle with control issues in their adult lives, especially if they felt helpless or vulnerable during their childhood.
This can happen if someone had an overbearing caregiver who didn’t let them make their own choices, expected too much from them, or didn’t take care of them properly. As adults, they might try to control everything in their life to feel more in control and less anxious or scared. This might be because they didn’t feel like they had control over their life when they were a child.
It’s important to remember that everyone’s experiences are different and it’s okay to seek help if you’re struggling with control issues.

5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained

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These symptoms can vary in intensity and may occur intermittently throughout the day. People with this type of trauma may attempt to “distract” themselves from these symptoms by denying or rationalizing them, or may resort to substance abuse or behavioral addictions as coping mechanisms. This can be a maladaptive way of trying to numb their symptoms.

What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?

Everyone’s experience of healing from trauma is unique. It’s important to be aware of whether you have experienced childhood developmental trauma and how it may be affecting your relationships as an adult. Sometimes, the effects of trauma can be overwhelming and we may try to push them away or avoid them.
If you notice that you’re engaging in these behaviors, it’s important to seek help from a trauma therapist who can support you on your healing journey. Remember, you’re not alone and it’s never too late to start healing.

There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:

  1. Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
  2. Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
  3. Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
  4. Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
  5. Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.

It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.

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