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5 Ways You Can Develop Unlimited Willpower for Success

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Willpower is a precursor to discipline. Discipline leads way to habits. And habits determine our direction and magnitude of success. For any kind of success to be achieved in life, willpower and habits act like catalysts. They can fasten/slower our progress, depending on what we harbour inside our minds.

I have been a motivational speaker in India for almost 17 years. My work got me to interact with corporates and professionals at all levels of management. In this post, I have shared the hard hitting lessons I have learned from their stories and experiences, and my own mistakes and failures from all those years.

Here are 5 ways one can develop that unlimited willpower that will catapult one to super success:

1. Find your charging point

Most of our willpower loss is due to our habit of getting distracted. We need to find a way to not let the world take away our attention. I am a believer of early mornings. That’s the best time to sort our priorities. A 3 hour head start can often do wonders to our goals.

It is a time when most of the world is sleeping and there is no one to distract us. The world will claim our attention if we do not defend our first 3 hours in the morning. Let early mornings be that ‘Peace Zone’/Charging Point. And if at 5 in the morning, we are wasting our time on internet memes and YouTube videos, then we have goal setting issues, not willpower problems.

A person who is guided by his deep sense of purpose wouldn’t ever waste the precious wee hours of morning on useless things.

2. Simple to complex

Let us not get overwhelmed. No task is complex if we break it down. If there is too much to do, a molehill often starts looking like a mountain. The best way to beat this is to start with the simpler tasks and then move on to bigger accomplishments. The thumb rule is – if it takes two minutes to do something, do it.

As we keep piling, our to-do list becomes scarier and our willpower starts weakening. Accomplishing a simple task gives confidence to move to the tougher ones. A weak willpower could appear like Mount Everest that one needs to conquer. And that’s how one does scale that mountain – by climbing each rock, one step up at a time. Let your victory against your weakness be your biggest conquest of all!

“Nothing is particularly hard if you divide it into small jobs.” – Henry Ford

3. Discipline be the centre of your universe

Let’s not fit discipline into our lives. If we have to develop a willpower to succeed, we need to make discipline the centre of our lives.

Let’s fix discipline at the centre of our routines and plan our life around it. For example, if waking up early is your discipline, then no matter how late you sleep – you have to wake up on time. If taking a shower at 6 in the morning is important, even if the world turns upside down, the shower has to be had at that time.

This is an amazing tool for building willpower. 100% success. We need to remember that people won’t come to our rescue when we screw up our lives. We have to be our own saviours. Let us ensure our actions are not governed by blind obedience to social customs and get the job done.

4. Starving the bad habits

Majority of people let their whole life go by, making repeated good resolutions to improve, without ever succeeding in establishing and following new patterns of actions. We let our habits rule our lives. We need to wage a highly energetic psychological war between the good and bad habits that determine the directions to our success.

Let us starve our bad habits with self-control and reward good habits with good actions. People do not intentionally turn to bad habits. Deep down they are aware of the harm but succumb because they do not know the greater charm of good habits and sticking to them.

We should try cauterizing our negative habits with the opposite good habits. For example, if you have a bad habit of telling lies and by doing so have lost many friends, start the opposite good habit of telling the truth. It takes time to form either a good habit or a bad one.

Remember that once we become good, it will be natural and easy for us to be good. Starve those habits by avoiding all actions, circumstances and people that could stimulate it.

“Your net worth to the world is usually determined by what remains after your bad habits are subtracted from your good ones.” – Benjamin Franklin

5. Meditation

Meditation is my fix. One can do whatever calms them the most. Though, meditation is one of the most effective ways of silencing the mind and help it focus.

The battle against a weak willpower often becomes a losing one because of our restlessness and inability to stay focused on the goal. Be it a personal or a professional situation, a restless mind often leads to distractions, inefficiencies and mismanagement of time and life.

A person who never meditates thinks that he is all right because he has become accustomed to restlessness. If he tries to meditate and be calm, he finds resistance from his mental fickleness. A habit of meditation gradually helps build resistance against this resistance. And helps the individual be sharper and focused. More focus – more willpower.

We should let our good habits snowball by repeating those actions more frequently. A mind that inculcates the tendency to remain relaxed more than anxious, learns to not get distracted.

Rome wasn’t built in a day and willpower won’t be either. It needs some tough love, relentless striving. Most of us are fighting our age old tendencies and habits. They will take time to thaw. That’s what is great about mountains. The climb is nerve wrecking. But the view from the top is breathtaking!

What is your experience with willpower and how have you been able to build on it? Leave your thoughts below!

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Akash Gautam is one of the most sought after and popular Motivational Speakers & Corporate Trainers in India, Dubai and Singapore. His pioneering work as a Keynote Speaker over the past 16 years has seen him speak at India’s Top Corporations in cities like Mumbai, Delhi, Bengaluru, Hyderabad, Pune and Kolkata. He is also a well-known blogger and writes regularly on motivation, leadership, success, and relationships. You may find out more about him here or connect with him over LinkedIn

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How Your Friends Determine Whether You Succeed or Not

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Can anyone do without having friends? We all have our friends, we share ideas with them, talk together, have fun, and fight. Yes, that’s the baseline of friendship. But, do you know that aside from you, your friends can determine whether you achieve success or not?

There are two things in friendship which are the ability to ”love” and the ability to “influence”. This means you are loved and you are influenced. How do your friends affect your success in life? How are they one of the biggest deciding factors of your success? Let’s find out.

What type of friends do you keep? 

First, what type of friends do you keep? Who do you call your best friend? There are two different kinds of friends, good friends, and bad ones. A lot of people have lost their pathway to success and some have also found their road to success all because of the friends they keep, the people they mingle with. 

Who is your best friend? Answer carefully. Having a best friend means you find each other compatible and understanding. Analyze who your best friend is. If your best friend has not motivated you to do something positive, if who you call your bestie has never given you positive advice, lastly if your best friend has never informed and advised you on your shortcomings, then you don’t have a best friend.

This quote tells us “birds of the same feather flock together”. Countless people have changed from their good nature into a bad one all because of friends. One thing to note is, “negative people move with negative aura”. If your best friend is filled with negativity inside-out then you will surely be affected by his/her negative aura.

They influence your success with positivity or negativity 

The friends you keep can either influence you with positivity or negativity because your friends have the power to change your kind of person completely. 

This is how your friends influence you:

  1. They influence you indirectly with what they do
  2. They influence you directly by teaching and giving you advice 

Yes, that is how they influence you. For instance, you watch a movie and you like the way the actor walks. The question is if you truly like the way the actor walks, won’t you try to imitate the actor? Of course, you will.

Just the way you imitate the actor is the same way your friends can influence you with their character. However, the funny part is, they don’t have to teach you to do things like them. You just find yourself imitating and copying them gradually.

An important question to ask is, are you imitating a good friend or a bad one? If you imitate a good friend then you will be good, but if you imitate a bad person, you will surely become a bad person.

Everyone wants to succeed, a good friend will always teach, enlighten, and motivate you for success. A bad friend will only motivate you to do evil things (smoking, drinking, fight, envy,).

And you should know that things like that are a great enemy of success and even of God. So, if you have these bad elements in your life, how will you achieve success? There is no way!

And also, they can teach and advise you directly. But, what do your friends teach you? When you ask them for advice do they inspire you positively or teach you the bad stuff.? A lot of people have regretted lifelong decisions just by listening to the advice of friends. 

The company you keep has the power to influence and change you. Never forget that a positive influence will teach, motivate, and brush you up for success. While a negative influence will inspire you to become a bad person, change your good nature, and leave you with regrets in the end.

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The 3 Step Process to Building a Profitable Pitch

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As a communication coach, one of the top questions entrepreneurs ask me is how to deliver a winning pitch to potential investors. They want to know if there’s a magic formula to get an investor to say yes and buy into their dream and their business. (more…)

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The 4 Pillars of Wealth and Abundance

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Have you ever wondered what the formula for a wealthy and abundant life is? Many people have. Lots has been written about the subject of wealth creation and living an abundant life. It was a breaking point in my journey and pursuit of success when I found out that there is a clear path to achieve success in life. Thanks to those who have shared their journey, we can clearly see and follow the principles of prosperity. (more…)

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Here Are 4 Reasons Why You Should Have a Podcast, Youtube Channel or Online Show

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Confidence comes from a place of strong understanding of self. After close to three years on radio, I’ve grown from a shy introvert to a shy introvert with an extrovert persona. When the mic is turned on, I can channel a version of myself that some say is attractive, strong, and of course, confident but it wasn’t always this way.

What I want to share with you is what I discovered on this journey into broadcast that you can apply to your life, your ventures, and your personal development. This doesn’t require any fancy gear. It does require a leap of faith on your part because once you go down the road of media; it can change your life.

1. Perceived Expertise

When you go to a doctor, you expect their knowledge will guide them to a solution to your problems. When you have a show, you become your listeners’ doctor. For all the multiple thousands, maybe millions, of YouTube channels, podcasts, and user-created content in the world, each person that gets behind a mic takes a position on their passion, their opinions, and their themes.

They challenge the status quo for the benefit of their listeners in hopes to entertain and educate. With consistency on your side, those fans place you on a platform and give you permission to influence them.

2. Global Acknowledgement

One of the benefits to increasing confidence is when you receive thank you notes from people you may never meet. The feeling of enriching someone’s life from halfway around the globe, provides validation you’re enhancing someone else’s life with your wisdom and your wit.

The very first time I was told I was making a difference in someone’s life in a country other than my own, I felt like I caused massive impact that transcends my circle of influence. When you experience just how much you can cause impact and it comes back to you, it’ll change your worldview.

“Be grateful for what you have and stop complaining – it bores everybody else, does you no good, and doesn’t solve any problems.” – Zig Ziglar

3. Backed By Numbers

One of the most exciting ways to measure success is to quantify your growth. It’s not enough to just broadcast. Having subscribers and downloads helps to know, numerically, how well you’re doing. Word of caution. This can be a way to set yourself up for distress because of number envy but if you understand what the numbers mean; you can control the narrative of the numbers.

The major number that makes most people smile is 10,000. I’d advise it to be 1. Here’s why. As you grow in your industry, so does your reach. If you learned that the one person that subscribed totally changed for the better because of you, wouldn’t that be worth the effort?

4. Effective Communication

While it’s not talked about much, having a show is documentation. You create a dynamic account of your life, your industry, and the pulse on what’s important simply by having a show. When you find a channel to improve your communication skills, you demand attention and people will listen to you. You become more trusted as a leader and people will follow you once they believe you can lead them to their wants and needs.

“To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way we perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others.” – Tony Robbins

These insights have helped many people become leaders and, ultimately, move others to their best selves. It’s worked for me and I hope it works for you. At the end of the day, it’s all about showing up and showing out.

Have you ever thought about having a radio show? If so, what would you talk about? Let us below!

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