Welcome once more to the “How to Be a Grownup Podcast Breakdown”! My name is Erik Andress and I am the host of this show. Today, I am humbled and grateful to bring you the words and wisdom of entrepreneur Daniel Gefen! He is a walking testament to the power of the “hustle”, and I am excited for you to get to know his story over the course of the podcast!
Check out this podcast interview with Daniel to learn all his tips, tricks, and techniques that he wants you to know to live a empowered life:
In this podcast, Daniel shares powerful insight on how his past experiences and the adversity he has overcome has given him a rare drive and sense of ambition that is matched by few in the entrepreneurial space today.
While there were a lot of gems this inspiring entrepreneur dropped, here are the three most important ways Daniel believes you can revolutionize your life:
1. Just because you are down, does not mean that you are out.
I remember how cold the damp tile felt underneath my cheek. It was just after Halloween and I could see the spider webs of frost beginning to cover the aging window in the dorm bathroom. Somewhere out there, on that casket black and blustery night, my girlfriend was sleeping with another man and I didn’t have the courage to do anything about it. At that point, I had been lying on the floor of the bathroom stall for nearly a half hour trying to summon the strength to stand. Just beyond the reach of my fingertips lay my makeshift noose that had failed to support my weight. I was 19 when I tried to kill myself. I felt like I had lost everything and I had tried to end my life.
It was in the coming days, weeks, and months that I had to learn that I still had a future in front of me if I wanted it. You don’t have to accept that your losses or pain will dictate the quality of your coming days. Dive deep into developing your potential. Read books that will give you the information you need to move forward. Seek out mentors or teachers that will model positive and constructive ways of conducting your personal and business lives. Surround yourself with a circle of influence that enables you to make better choices with your life. DECIDE that you are a person of worth with the skills, talents, and passions necessary to find your version of success!
“Life doesn’t get easier or more forgiving, we get stronger and more resilient.” – Steve Maraboli
2. Stop feeling sorry for yourself, and start taking action.
Experiencing heartbreak is a fundamental aspect of the human experience. We have ups and downs in our careers. We lose romantic partners that we were deeply invested in. We have loved ones pass away. However, I want to challenge you to believe that wallowing in your self-pity, does nothing to help you move forward towards success. Sometimes we have a confluence of bad things happen in our lives. Like a perfect S@#t storm, we can easily get lost in the rough waters that our challenges stir up within us. Right now, I want you to understand that your heartbreak does not define you. The scars that our past hurt have left with us, are simply lessons to help us to live better in the future.
No matter how bad it has gotten, you ALWAYS have tools to keep moving forward. Even if you have lost your financial stability, the important relationships in your life, or even your self-esteem, you still have an essential tool at your disposal. Place your hand on your chest and feel your heart quietly beating. Right there, in that quiet pumping of your heart, is your permission to believe that you still have a shot at success. As long as your heart keeps beating, you will wake up tomorrow. Remember and realize that every single day that we wake up, we are given a blank slate on which you can write a new narrative of success!
“You will never ever be successful, until you turn your pain into greatness, until you allow your pain to push you from where you are to push you to where you need to be.” – Eric Thomas
3. Be humble and grateful for the gifts that others give you.
We live in a society that is built around the idea of getting what you believe to be yours and leaving others in the dust. While this might help you to amass some wealth and influence relatively quickly, it also burns bridges. Nobody finds success in a vacuum. We have teachers that inspire us. A parent that pushed us to be better. A friend that encouraged us to take a positive chance. We all have had the positive influence of others that has helped us to get to where we are today.
Remain humble and grateful for the gifts that others have provided you. Adopting gratitude into your daily practice, allows you to live in a peak state of high performance. The motivational speaker and business strategist Tony Robbins speaks about the power of cultivating a grateful mindset when he states, “When you’re grateful you can’t be angry. When you’re grateful you can’t be fearful. Anger and fear is what stops most people.” So, push yourself to express thankfulness to your co-workers, friends, family and anybody else that has helped you along your journey.
“Be humble. Be hungry. And always be the hardest worker in the room.” – The Rock