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7 Warning Signs That You Will Never Achieve Your Dream

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According to the title of a popular motivational magazine manual, there are no UN-achievers, but please don’t mention that to the people who are already failing at their dream. He or she might be apt to bust your beak for you. And no matter how much I encourage people to take their dream seriously, I can’t lie and say there are no UN-achievers.

Sorry, but there are a lot of people who will end up not achieving their dream. Sometimes men and women never take their dream seriously. Some have doodled their time away at home waiting for the right time to achieve their dream, and others are stuck in a job or career trying to fit in.

The truth is, few people know what they want; most people never realize if their dream is born within them or borrowed from another. I’ve spoken to many individuals who admit that their current pursuit is something their parents or a close relationship desires for them. Most people never find dedicated time to pursue their inner passion.

I am approaching the heart of this post with two of these passions; both are simple. The first is to help you realize that passion is the best answer to the distress. The best place to build your well of blessings is the place you’re hurting the most. The second is if you don’t like your present situation you can change your approach and follow through with your passion for becoming an achiever.

The following seven factors will help you recognize the things that are holding you back from achieving your dream and how you can remove them:

1. Looking For Someone To Approve Your Dreams

One of the stumbling blocks people face in achieving their dream is thinking that their dream is too good to be true and feel they need approval before they can pursue such a dream. But the truth is, you don’t need anyone’s approval. No, not even the Gatekeepers!

Chances are, people will envy you, some will sneer at you, and others won’t even care when you’re in the pursuit of your passion. And they are right because your dream does not require the approval of everyone you love.

“So many of our dreams at first seem impossible, then they seem improbable, and then, when we summon the will, they soon become inevitable.” – Christopher Reeve

2. Not Giving Your Dreams Immediate Attention

Most of the time, we think our dream is temporary or only a fad, and we often take some time before we take action toward achieving it.

Can I be sincere with you for a moment? The best thing you can do toward achieving your dream is to start now, move quickly, start with anything, no matter how small it is. Every day you will be making progress, and it never stops until you achieve that goal.

3. Not Dedicating A Little Focus To Your Dreams

Dedicating your total focus to your dream will keep you creative, passionate, and persistent. It will reduce the focus on the unnecessary activities of your day. In fact, passive people might start finding your presence uncomfortable and will often look for somewhere else to feed their lazy and sluggish walk through life.

In a real sense, devoting total focus to your dream will help you fast track the process toward becoming an achiever.

4. Not Building Your Daily Agenda Around Your Dream

Someone once wrote: “Today’s work lies behind tomorrow’s success.” If you want to achieve your dream in your lifetime quickly, you must develop the momentum to schedule everyday activities around your dream accordingly.

Ask yourself, ‘What could you do today to move one step closer toward achieving your dream?’ Write it down and take the appropriate action.

5. Not Building The Right Relationship Connected To Your Dream

Dexter writes, “The successful person associates with those who support his dream.” Believe it! You must begin to associate yourself with people who share the same vision with you, don’t try to do it alone.

Mention your dream in a phone conversation, affirm it to friends who you think are important and would do anything to see you achieving such a goal. Be bold in declaring your dream in your day to day living.

6. Thinking You Don’t Have What It Takes To Launch Your Dream

Most of the time, the stumbling block that holds people back from achieving their dream is for people to think that they don’t have what it takes right now to launch an exceptional desire.

The truth is, you already have all you need, you just have to start feeding and fueling it until it becomes an obsession. Your obsession will be the magnet that will pull others toward you to help participate in your dream.

“Your success depends mainly upon what you think of yourself and whether you believe in yourself.” – William J. H. Boetcker

7. Thinking You Don’t Need A Geographical Change

The question is, do you dream about being somewhere else? Where? And why aren’t you moving toward it? You might think you currently don’t have the resources required to achieve such a goal, but the truth is, a leap of faith is required for you to do anything that must be done to keep moving forward.

You must develop a genuine passion for your dream and take a step toward achieving it in your day to day living. Though you might not see any immediate reward, keep moving until you sail into the land of harmony and finally achieve your dream.

What are you doing today to get closer to your dreams? Leave your thoughts below!

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9 Comments

  1. Bryan

    Dec 9, 2018 at 8:46 am

    So much painful truth packed into this blog post. I have always been someone who looks for approval in my decisions. This often leads me to make the choice too late and missing my chance.

    When it comes to relationships that is one place I struggle also. I often choose to go at it alone instead of getting the needed help from a friend or a co-worker. So lots for me to think about.

  2. Tom Alon Vedasto

    Apr 16, 2018 at 11:12 pm

    The worst part is realizing that you actually don’t know what to dream about.

  3. Barbara Miller

    Sep 18, 2017 at 9:31 am

    I am so happy I have had none of the above issues interfere in the pursuit of my dream. I call it a mission. This could be as I had a knowing as a child that there was something very special in my future. You are 100% correct that we need faith. We need to want our dream more than life itself. People will sneer at you and many friends will not support you. You may even feel like you walk alone. I am looking for the right connections to go to the next step. I am seeking a publicist that can get me booked on TV talk shows as I need to increase awareness that my quit smoking plan is the one that will change the way people/the world quits. I have always asked myself, ” What is ONE thing I can do to get closer to my dream?” The answer got was get in kick-ass shape! Many years later as a public speaker, ready for TV, I am sure glad I look like a million bucks!

  4. Cephas Tope

    Mar 5, 2017 at 4:27 pm

    Glad it rang true Patty, Yes, keep fighting for your dream and soon you’ll start seeing great result. Thanks so much!

  5. pushkar choudhary

    Mar 3, 2017 at 7:47 am

    hi cephas you wrote a very good article. keep it up.????

    • Cephas Tope

      Mar 5, 2017 at 4:24 pm

      Thanks so much pushkar, glad you enjoy the post!

  6. Mark Tong

    Feb 24, 2017 at 6:13 pm

    Hi Cephas – you really nailed some of the things that you need to et that perky goal moving froward – I’m considering no7 at the moment

    • Cephas Tope

      Mar 5, 2017 at 4:25 pm

      Great Comment Mark, Glad you find it of value.

  7. Patty

    Feb 20, 2017 at 3:42 pm

    Cephas, you have touched on everything I’ve been experiencing while working toward my dream. Very few people understand it or encourage my dream but I am determined to keep moving on till I see it and carry it out. Thanks for your encouragement today.

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It’s pretty annoying isn’t it? All those great and accomplished people telling you that FAILURE is a necessity on your way to success. Yeah, that’s easy for them to say; they’re already ‘on the other side’! You on the other hand, are still struggling all day everyday to get your business lifted off the ground and are really not that sure if you’re indeed going to make it.

There’s that little voice in your head that keeps telling you that you don’t have the stuff to make it all happen. Not now and not ever. You feel like a failure…it’s holding you back and you don’t know how to deal with it. Well you could do yourself a favor and start dealing with it by doing the following things:

1. Stop Denying You Feel Like A Failure

Telling yourself things are going great when they’re not is one of the biggest, though most useless, coping mechanisms human beings deploy in rough times. Common denial signals among entrepreneurs: trying to regain more control by working even more hours and on the other side compensating this by letting go of all this control by partying and drinking way too hard.

What you’re doing is denying yourself the opportunity to actually feel what’s going on and acknowledge the problem; that both you and your business are in a bad place. Without acknowledging it, it’ll be pretty difficult to actually STOP feeling it. And remember, just because you feel like a failure, this does not mean that you indeed ARE a failure!

2. Stop Making It Bigger Than it Really Is

This is one of those other ‘fun’ things human beings do; we blow things way out of proportion in our heads! In business, when you lose that big client you’ve been working on for weeks, it feels like it’s the end of the world. You start doubting yourself, your strategy, your entire business model right up to the point where you barely sleep because you’re working on pivoting the whole thing.

But what if that customer simply didn’t have the money to go for your service anyway? Or what if they just decided to go for someone who is cheaper but who offers less quality? Does that mean there’s something wrong with YOU? Or that this was the ONLY customer out there and that you’re now doomed forever?

Of course not, it simply means that THIS CUSTOMER wasn’t a match. It’s a bit like dating actually…So if you take this into consideration, could it be that you just feel like a failure instead of really not succeeding in that what you want to at this point in time?

3. Stop Thinking You’re The Only One Who Feels Like This

You’re not! With the possible exception of the true sociopaths, that feeling you’re feeling is very normal to EVERYONE. It might not seem like it on the outside – because people don’t like to acknowledge this remember – but I can guarantee you that it’s true. But unlike 99% of the world’s population, YOU’RE not going to let this feeling stop you in your tracks. Are you?

4. Stop Thinking You’re Supposed To Be Superhuman

In fact, it’s very likely that you’re already doing, learning and succeeding at WAY more than most other people are. But for entrepreneurs, somehow, that never seems to be enough. You don’t just want to be successful after a few years of hard work (which is normal). You want to be successful after only a few months. Because you’re special…or at least you think you are…

Well, here’s the truth: you ARE special! But…it’s just not very likely that you’re one of those – very very rare – entrepreneurial superstars that – seemingly – just added some hot water and got instant business success as a result.

5. Stop Being So Incredibly Stubborn

Entrepreneurs are stubborn…almost by default. It’s what makes them push forward in the hardest of times. But…if you’re not doing the right things right you might just be hammering a square peg through a round hole. Which will only add to that frustrated feeling you’re already having. So why not stop being so stubborn for a moment, stop hammering away on that what obviously is not working and ask for help?

No matter who you ask – a business mentor or coach, a befriended entrepreneur – someone with a neutral perspective on you and our business will be very likely to see what’s going on with a lot more clarity than you can and can guide you to a place that will feel a whole lot more comfortable.

6. Stop Being Afraid Of Failure

I know, I know, you’ve heard this a million times before and you wouldn’t be in this pickle if you could do this. Right? I’m right there with ya!

But, if you get really rational about it, what’s the worst that could happen?

  • You might have to get a ‘real’ job for a while and start over on the side;
  • You might not be able to afford your rent anymore…but with Airbnb on the 1 hand and couchsurfing on the other, you should be able to work it out somehow;
  • You’ll have all the more experience to start over a whole lot faster;
  • You’ll be no less respected by anyone because it’s clear you gave it your all;
  • In a few years, when you’re an established and supersuccessful entrepreneur you’ll also have a cool failure story to tell;
  • None of your limbs will fall off;

Now that’s not too bad for a plan B is it? Failure is such a negative word. And the associated feeling is terrible and numbing. But really…how is giving it your all and not succeeding really the same as failing? Shouldn’t the definition of failure not be along the lines of ‘not even trying’ or ‘giving up when it gets hard’?

In other words: stop beating yourself up over this!

There’s really no need to feel like a failure at all because you’re sticking your neck out, you’re trying to make a difference and you’re still moving upward on that treacherous entrepreneurial mountain.

And that…is what success REALLY is.

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Quotes To Live By:

“Only those who dare to fail greatly can ever achieve greatly.” – Robert F. Kennedy

“If you don’t try at anything, you can’t fail… it takes back bone to lead the life you want” – Richard Yates

“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” – Thomas A. Edison

“We are all failures – at least the best of us are.” – J.M. Barrie

“Success is stumbling form failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm” – Winston Churchill

“Don’t let success go to your head and failure to your heart” – Will Smith

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