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7 Warning Signs That You Will Never Achieve Your Dream

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According to the title of a popular motivational magazine manual, there are no UN-achievers, but please don’t mention that to the people who are already failing at their dream. He or she might be apt to bust your beak for you. And no matter how much I encourage people to take their dream seriously, I can’t lie and say there are no UN-achievers.

Sorry, but there are a lot of people who will end up not achieving their dream. Sometimes men and women never take their dream seriously. Some have doodled their time away at home waiting for the right time to achieve their dream, and others are stuck in a job or career trying to fit in.

The truth is, few people know what they want; most people never realize if their dream is born within them or borrowed from another. I’ve spoken to many individuals who admit that their current pursuit is something their parents or a close relationship desires for them. Most people never find dedicated time to pursue their inner passion.

I am approaching the heart of this post with two of these passions; both are simple. The first is to help you realize that passion is the best answer to the distress. The best place to build your well of blessings is the place you’re hurting the most. The second is if you don’t like your present situation you can change your approach and follow through with your passion for becoming an achiever.

The following seven factors will help you recognize the things that are holding you back from achieving your dream and how you can remove them:

1. Looking For Someone To Approve Your Dreams

One of the stumbling blocks people face in achieving their dream is thinking that their dream is too good to be true and feel they need approval before they can pursue such a dream. But the truth is, you don’t need anyone’s approval. No, not even the Gatekeepers!

Chances are, people will envy you, some will sneer at you, and others won’t even care when you’re in the pursuit of your passion. And they are right because your dream does not require the approval of everyone you love.

“So many of our dreams at first seem impossible, then they seem improbable, and then, when we summon the will, they soon become inevitable.” – Christopher Reeve

2. Not Giving Your Dreams Immediate Attention

Most of the time, we think our dream is temporary or only a fad, and we often take some time before we take action toward achieving it.

Can I be sincere with you for a moment? The best thing you can do toward achieving your dream is to start now, move quickly, start with anything, no matter how small it is. Every day you will be making progress, and it never stops until you achieve that goal.

3. Not Dedicating A Little Focus To Your Dreams

Dedicating your total focus to your dream will keep you creative, passionate, and persistent. It will reduce the focus on the unnecessary activities of your day. In fact, passive people might start finding your presence uncomfortable and will often look for somewhere else to feed their lazy and sluggish walk through life.

In a real sense, devoting total focus to your dream will help you fast track the process toward becoming an achiever.

4. Not Building Your Daily Agenda Around Your Dream

Someone once wrote: “Today’s work lies behind tomorrow’s success.” If you want to achieve your dream in your lifetime quickly, you must develop the momentum to schedule everyday activities around your dream accordingly.

Ask yourself, ‘What could you do today to move one step closer toward achieving your dream?’ Write it down and take the appropriate action.

5. Not Building The Right Relationship Connected To Your Dream

Dexter writes, “The successful person associates with those who support his dream.” Believe it! You must begin to associate yourself with people who share the same vision with you, don’t try to do it alone.

Mention your dream in a phone conversation, affirm it to friends who you think are important and would do anything to see you achieving such a goal. Be bold in declaring your dream in your day to day living.

6. Thinking You Don’t Have What It Takes To Launch Your Dream

Most of the time, the stumbling block that holds people back from achieving their dream is for people to think that they don’t have what it takes right now to launch an exceptional desire.

The truth is, you already have all you need, you just have to start feeding and fueling it until it becomes an obsession. Your obsession will be the magnet that will pull others toward you to help participate in your dream.

“Your success depends mainly upon what you think of yourself and whether you believe in yourself.” – William J. H. Boetcker

7. Thinking You Don’t Need A Geographical Change

The question is, do you dream about being somewhere else? Where? And why aren’t you moving toward it? You might think you currently don’t have the resources required to achieve such a goal, but the truth is, a leap of faith is required for you to do anything that must be done to keep moving forward.

You must develop a genuine passion for your dream and take a step toward achieving it in your day to day living. Though you might not see any immediate reward, keep moving until you sail into the land of harmony and finally achieve your dream.

What are you doing today to get closer to your dreams? Leave your thoughts below!

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5 Indicators of Unresolved Attachment Trauma

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Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.

Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.

Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.

Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.

However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.

 

Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:

 

1.  Unconscious Sabotage

Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.

This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.

Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.

This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.

 

2. Persistent Pain

 
Chronic pain is a common symptom that can stem from early trauma. Studies have shown a connection between physical conditions such as fibromyalgia, headaches, gastrointestinal issues, insomnia, muscle aches, back pain, chest pain, and chronic fatigue with the aftermath of chronic developmental trauma, particularly physical abuse.
 
Research has found that individuals with insecure attachment styles, such as anxious, avoidant, or disorganized, have a higher incidence of somatic symptoms and a history of physical and emotional abuse in childhood compared to those with a secure attachment style.
 
 

3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma

 
Trauma blocking practises are used to avoid the pain and memories connected with traumatic events.
 
Emotional numbing, avoidance, and escape via briefly pleasurable activities that distract from terrible memories or suffering are common examples. Unfortunately, this escape habit stops people from successfully processing and recovering from their trauma.
 
Furthermore, when the pain resurfaces, more and more diversions are necessary to continue ignoring it. This can be seen in compulsive behaviours such as drug or alcohol addiction, emotional eating, numbing oneself through relationships, workaholism, excessive or dangerous exercise routines, compulsive internet or technology use, or any other compulsive behaviour used to distract yoursef from intrusive thoughts and emotions.
 
These actions have the potential to prolong a cycle of avoidance and repression, preventing persons from healing and progressing.
 

4. A strong need for control

 
It’s understandable that some people may struggle with control issues in their adult lives, especially if they felt helpless or vulnerable during their childhood.
 
This can happen if someone had an overbearing caregiver who didn’t let them make their own choices, expected too much from them, or didn’t take care of them properly. As adults, they might try to control everything in their life to feel more in control and less anxious or scared. This might be because they didn’t feel like they had control over their life when they were a child.
 
It’s important to remember that everyone’s experiences are different and it’s okay to seek help if you’re struggling with control issues.
 
 

5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained

 
Individuals with a history of developmental trauma may experience a range of psychological symptoms, including obsessive-compulsive behavior, intense mood swings, irritability, anger, depression, emotional numbing, or severe anxiety.
 
These symptoms can vary in intensity and may occur intermittently throughout the day. People with this type of trauma may attempt to “distract” themselves from these symptoms by denying or rationalizing them, or may resort to substance abuse or behavioral addictions as coping mechanisms. This can be a maladaptive way of trying to numb their symptoms.
 
 

What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?

 
Everyone’s experience of healing from trauma is unique. It’s important to be aware of whether you have experienced childhood developmental trauma and how it may be affecting your relationships as an adult. Sometimes, the effects of trauma can be overwhelming and we may try to push them away or avoid them.
 
If you notice that you’re engaging in these behaviors, it’s important to seek help from a trauma therapist who can support you on your healing journey. Remember, you’re not alone and it’s never too late to start healing.
 

There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:

  1. Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
  2. Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
  3. Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
  4. Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
  5. Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.

It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.

 
 
If you desire to work with me on healing your wounds and unlocking the aspects of you that were never realized so you can achieve more success in your life then head over to awebliss.com and join my weekly LIVE online mentorship calls.
 
 
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3 Simple Steps to Cultivate Courage and Create a Life of Meaning

we cultivate meaning in our lives when we pursue our calling

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