Life
3 Things That Will Help Propel Yourself Forward Every Single Time

When you grew up, did someone laugh at your dreams? Did they mock you for wanting something greater than yourself? Perhaps they said “That is impossible! You do not have enough money!” Or “you are too young and are dreaming to much!” Or perhaps you did not tell people your greatest dreams because you were scared they were going to laugh at you since you knew that what you wanted was going to take work and an optimistic mindset, not necessarily a realistic one.
Speaking to kids at high schools, I began realizing how many of them were either scared to tell me their dreams for fear of ridicule or were not dreaming big enough. Recently however, one kid explained his dream to me with hesitancy and nervousness radiating from his body language. He told me he was probably going to give up because his dream would require a lot of time, multiple failures, and money before he succeeded.
Nonetheless, he had already put in five years towards building it. Him and I spoke and I said nothing special, but continuously encouraged him. Afterwards, he looked at me and said, “I want to thank you because I do not get much respect or encouragement from people.” The amount of sadness that overcame me at this moment was unbelievable because I began seeing how from an early age, the majority of people have become jaded to what society thinks they can and cannot do.
“Success is the result of perfection, hard work, learning from failure, loyalty, and persistence.” – Colin Powell
Just like this teen, I have big dreams and many people including the people closest to me tell me that I cannot do it, it is not possible, that I am dreaming too much, and that I should get a real job.
When I get down on myself and start second guessing the path I have chosen for my life I think of these three things to continuously propel myself forward:
1. Use the negativity in your life as fuel
If you do not have haters, you are not living to your fullest potential. We need to use all the negativity we get in our lives and put it to good use. It should not be used to prove people wrong, but to prove to ourselves that we can do anything we desire! I have met countless people who are in their twenties or even past fifty that have settled for a second class life because they chose to give up on their original dreams.
Once I investigate more into why most gave up, it became apparent they let the negativity from people and society get to them. Encourage yourself and others to always go for what they truly want.
2. Push forward
As a future physician, it is challenging when I sit down and think of all the years I have left in school. When my mind wanders off into this though I think of what my mentor told me “When you look at all you have done to get to a certain point in your life and not focus on how much you still have left, you begin realizing how far you have truly come!”
Many of us can have feelings of doubt or discouragement but we must always remember to push forward because we have not accomplished all we have done for nothing.
“Energy and persistence conquer all things.” – Benjamin Franklin
3. Put in the time and the rewards will be plentiful
When I tell people I will be a physician, they tend to reply “Wow, you’re going to be old by the time you’re done.” This use to bother me but now I think how many people in life chose a different path because the one they wanted would require more sacrifice and more time.
Perhaps they wanted to make money right away and not wait ten years to follow their dream and make money. Personally, I can either be forty and a physician or be forty and do something else that will bring me monetary rewards faster results in short-term satisfaction.
I want be able to look at myself when I am older and say proudly that I worked diligently through many years to be the best husband, friend, brother, and doctor.
When I see adults try and get their kids to walk, they encourage them regardless of how many times it takes. The adults do not give up on them, but instead continuously find ways to get their children to learn the fundamentals of walking. Why do we not apply this type of mindset when people tell us their aspirations regardless of how many times they may fail before they succeed.
If we encourage everyone we meet from an early age that they can become a business person, astronaut, firefighter, artist, or writer, then imagine what that would do to people’s mindset. It is a powerful thing what believing in someone can do to that person’s desire to win. We can all play a part in not only our own success but also others by simply using the power of belief in knowing we are worth it and can dream big!
How do you propel yourself forward when you’re feeling down and out? Leave your thoughts below!
Life
The Imbalanced Problem with Work/Life Balance
Balancing is for your checkbook, gymnastics, and nutrition; not for your people’s work/life ratio.

Balance…it requires an equal distribution of value between two or more subjects to maintain steady composure and equitable proportionality. (more…)

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Life
Failing is More Important Than Succeeding
Failure is an integral part of life as life is incomplete without failures.

People often consider failure a stigma. Society often doesn’t respect the people who failed and avoids and criticizes their actions. Failure is an integral part of life as life is incomplete without failures. Not to have endeavored is worse than failing in life as at some stage of your life you regret not having tried in your life. (more…)
Life
5 Indicators of Unresolved Attachment Trauma

Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.
Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.
Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.
Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.
However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.
Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:
1. Unconscious Sabotage
Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.
This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.
Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.
This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.
3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma
4. A strong need for control
5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained
What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?
There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:
- Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
- Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
- Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
- Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
- Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.
It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.
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