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Why Your Dreams Are All You Got And You Can Never Give Up

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The most precious thing we have in our life is our dreams. Your dreams are unique to you, and no one has a dream that is exactly like yours in every way. Everything you think you have you don’t, nothing will last forever.

Your life can be summed up with two words: “Your Dream.” When all is said and done, whether you did or didn’t achieve your dream is the only measure of success there is. Every component of your life and everything you think about is indirectly related to your dream, so you better be damn sure you get some clarity on exactly what that dream is!

When you step on stage to sing or go to the gym to work on your fitness goal, you have to give every ounce of emotion and energy that you have. You have to picture in your mind every time that this is your last day on Earth and that it’s now or never to achieve your goal, and feel great in the moment about it.

The journey of your dream is really just the journey of your life. It’s going to be the hardest thing you ever try and achieve, and there are going to be times where it seems like your dream is not meant for you, and it’s all too hard.

If your life dream were easy, then we all would have achieved our ultimate purpose, and we would all be flocking to Hawaii to relax on the beach. To give up on your dream is to give up on life. To give up on life is to defy the reason you were given the opportunity to live in the first place.

Until you place your dream as the single most important thing in your life, you will always be wondering why you are unhappy and disappointed with your life.

Below are the six things you can expect when you chase your dreams:

 

1. When your life changes forever, you feel it

If your dream doesn’t make you consistently emotional every step of the way, and you don’t feel it, then there is something wrong. As your dream starts to go from a foggy haze to a crystal clear reality, your life changes forever, and you finally feel it.

This initial feeling is strange, and it will bring tears to your eyes. Grown men with huge muscles will cry like baby puppy dogs and the people around them will wonder what is going on. The forty-year-old boy has now become a man.

The tears are caused by the fact that your mind has now connected to the path of your dream. The emotion is caused because you now know what you must do, and the remainder of your life will be dedicated to this cause.

This shift in your life will cause everything else to be forgotten about, and all the other parts of your life will become secondary. When that phone call comes through asking you to go to the pub for a drink, you say no without even thinking about it. Nothing can replace the feeling you get from your dream once it is realised.

 

2. Your turn will come so be ready to take it

There is a point in everyone’s life when our turn comes. This turn is an opportunity for us to rise to our higher self. We have to compound all the years of preparation and emotion to this single moment and let it unleash in a short period.

You’ll know when your time comes, and everyone get’s at least one chance. You’ll need to show up with your game face on and have nothing else in your mind other than your dream. If you cease this moment and take your turn, then your life will never be the same because you will have turned the corner and taken the path of your dream forever.

 

3. The bigger the dream, the greater the reward

The dream you chase will never become a reality and give you what you are looking for if you don’t dream big! Dreams have an element of self-motivation, but that motivation will only be enough if the dream is of a sufficient size.

For example, if your goal is to be a singer, then your dream should be to become a worldwide superstar and for everyone to know you’re the best at singing. There is no point having a dream if you don’t have the belief to back it up and know that you can be world-class in your endeavor.

Seemingly large dreams usually attract enormous rewards for those who dare to think in this way. If you think about the opposite, small dreams by themselves deliver mediocre rewards and so you get left with a feeling of, is this all there is?

There is nothing wrong with small dreams but they need to form the basis for one massive overarching dream. I have a smaller dream of being good at public speaking, but it’s part of an overall dream to inspire millions of people worldwide through entrepreneurship and personal development.

Have a think about your own dreams and see if you have a big enough dream. If the result is you don’t, then it’s time to think about it long and hard, and come up with one.

“Everyone has a dream hiding inside of them, and only you can let it out and show the world”

 

4. Your dream becomes more than what people see

Let’s just say your dream is to be a singer. When people look at you, they think you are just singing, but the thing about dreams is it’s more than that. To everyone else, your dream looks like a hobby or some boring everyday activity, to you, it should be the only thing you wake up for.

What starts out as recreational singing becomes something you do more and more of. Then, one day, you are asked to sing somewhere. Before you know it, you’re being paid to do what you love, and you work even harder. Finally, at the point in which you have been able to link emotion to what you do, the tide turns, and an opportunity comes your way that you have always visualised.

The thing about this opportunity is that it doesn’t just come from nowhere; it comes from you following your dream and perfecting your craft. The opportunity that leads you to the greatest thing you will ever do in your life was earned by you. It’s not a fluke, and no one can ever take it away from you.

Forget what other people see your dream as, and concentrate only on visualising on what you see your dream looking like. In the end, you will be the captain of the ship sailing towards your dream – no one else.

Of course, what you do might be singing to some, and what they do may be a joke to you, just worry about your dream, and your struggle, cause your one pursuit will take every ounce of positive energy you have. You won’t have any extra energy to waste on anything else.

 

5. Stand tall and hold your head up

As you stand between the short gap of darkness of where you are right now and your dream, it will be scary. You will be very emotional, and people will think you have gone slightly nuts. When this moment comes your way – and it will – stand tall and hold your head up high.

Have the belief that everyone is supposed to find their dream including you. Know that this is your moment and no one can spoil it for you.

 

6. This dream is all you got

The last words I am going to say on this matter are that your dream is all you got. To illustrate this, I am going to tell you a story.

For years, I put my time into different endeavors and always gave up just before reaching success. I kept chasing the next so called dream and never planned a single day. I let life happen to me and didn’t believe in dreams.

I thought dreams were something that only special people got to achieve who were lucky or had the right surroundings. Later on, I figured out that the wrong surroundings are where all dreams worth talking about are made from.

The Djing DreamI busted my chops every day and put emotion into things that gave me nothing back. Whether it was drums, djing, music producing, or business; I always focused on what everyone else was doing. I had no idea that what I was seeing in other people’s dreams was only what they wanted me to see.

Everything looked so easy because I never saw the struggle. I never saw how much time these so called successful people who were achieving their dreams put in. I never saw the tears, the broken relationships, the alcohol-fuelled nights. It all just looked so easy for these high achievers.

I wondered to myself “why can’t I ever have my dream?” I was asking the wrong questions, and that’s why I was getting the wrong answers to my dreams. Through these different dreams, my mind became like a maze that had no exit.

My thoughts were busy, and I couldn’t see anything clearly. Through all of these experiences, I ultimately gave up on everything. I never achieved any of the dreams I thought I was destined for. As it turns out, without dreams, life looks pretty bleak.

That’s why your dreams are all you got my friends. Every second of every day should be spent chasing them no matter what. Just don’t do what I did and give up, or think there is something else in life other than your dreams – there isn’t.

“There is one rabbit hole you should fall down, and that is the one that contains your dream” – Tim Denning

Now is your time. Get some paper. Brainstorm your dreams. Reconfirm your dreams. Then, follow your dreams until you have no oxygen left in your lungs, and you’re on the way out through the gates of life as we know it. Look back, be proud, and know when this time comes, that your dreams were all you had, and you’re glad you followed them, and never gave up.

I would love to know, what is your dream? Let me know in the comments section below or on my website timdenning.net and my Facebook.

Tim is best known as a long-time contributor on Addicted2Success. Tim's content has been shared millions of times and he has written multiple viral posts all around personal development and entrepreneurship. You can connect with Tim through his website www.timdenning.net

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  1. Toño

    Jun 20, 2016 at 7:55 am

    I have a little story to tell you, Tim. The one that happened just an hour ago and I got the urge to share it with you.

    I was doing some stuff at my home, cleaning and preparing myself for a good day. For a brief moment I reached to my computer so to delete few files, just usual ‘ctrl-a-delete’ combination, and I did not notice I was doing it wrong. Just a few clicks, and all the files were deleted. The wrong one, as I misplaced the cursor and just deleted everything that been stored on my desktop. I like to keep files there in order to quick access them. So all my work for the past years, many important documents, notes, pictures, videos, all the links to websites, apps, quotes, pretty much everything important to me just gone in a few seconds. It was like a flash moment where you think I can undone something but no, you cannot. Deepest regret came immediatelly and I just started to cry uncontrollably (yep, you’re right, grown men cry, and cry hard). I felt miserable and just let emotion go and flow. I did that for about 5 minutes and then something happened. A switch. Time has come to make a choice to stop playing a victim and realize: whatever happens, happens for a reason. It is time to let it go. Accept it and let go. I asked myself, can I live without all those documents and notes I lost? Can I breathe freely and feel? Can I still enjoy my life, do things I love and appreciate what I really have? Can I sleep at nights, peacefully, without those pictures and videos? Can I make something bigger, more awesome and beautiful than that ? And the answer to all of those Qs was ‘Yes’. I stopped crying and the very first video I hit on youtube was titled ‘How conscious People React To Problems’ and there was a beautfiul girl dropping knowledge about the topic I was learning right at the very moment. It was fascinating.

    And now you may wonder why I’m rumbling here and how this story can relate to your article. Well, after I realized I have lost nothing and actually got the opportunity to free space in my life for a new awesome things I thought about this article. All we have is a dream and nothing will stay forever. The only permanent thing is change and you have to prepare yourself to it. I thought it may be a good comment to your article I have yet to respond. I like to think about what to share, rather than just comment ‘It was great article, thank you Tim’. No disrespect to people who does that though, but I like to take my time on things that matter. I know you invested time and energy to write that for us and I would like to give you back.

    Now, what happened to my files, actually, gave me a sign I am on my journey to discover myself. I won’t talk about it now so just not to give away just empty words, but once things will done I will update you on what I’m doing and preparing myself for. It’s gonna be funny summer I see (even though I think for you it’s winter now in Australia) and I will enjoy every minute of it, whether it sorrow or joy. Just accept and let it go.

    Thank you so very much for article, Tim, I enjoy these types the most and this one was just speaking to my soul and I can feel the great synchronicity. Much love and helth to you, my friend, have a wonderful Monday!

    • Tim Denning

      Jun 22, 2016 at 12:15 am

      Toño I really enjoyed your story. This same thing has happened to me and I took a similar approach to you. The files are gone but they were never permanent anyway unless you are going to live forever. Enjoy the free space and your summer. It’s freezing where I am but I love it because it allows me to stay at home and relax. Speak soon my friend.

  2. Dustin Miller

    Jun 10, 2016 at 6:54 pm

    The U.L.C. is my dream for the world. It was made for many goals and intentions. Some which are creating a place for philosophical and emotional growth. Bringing people together to improve our way of life.

    unitedlivingconstruct.wordpress.com

    • Tim Denning

      Jun 11, 2016 at 2:25 am

      Dustin I checked out your site and I love that you are a visionary. Keep doing what you do mate and your dream will come true. Thanks for reading my post. Much Respect 🙂

  3. Austine Nonso

    Jun 10, 2016 at 5:16 am

    Personality I believe is something that set persona apart from others, it makes a person unique and respected. Your post is really inspiring and I believe if all should work towards achieving great personality then they wont be any corruption in the world.

    • Tim Denning

      Jun 10, 2016 at 12:28 pm

      Austine thank you for your kind words. Personality is important and lucjily you can shape that to be whatever you want. If we concentrate on what we can do to make the world better and how we can give to others, we will foster al the right ingredients for a magnet-like personality. I still have a long way to go myself but with every day I do my best to become more. To be more.

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Positivity & Self-Ownership: Your #1 Factor for Success

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Leaving a reliable 9-5 job and risking a steady, biweekly paycheck to live out a dream and pursue a totally different lifestyle can be terrifying. However, there is no reason to fear, aspiring entrepreneur!

All successful entrepreneurs understand a few simple principles that enable them to achieve their goals, including how positivity along with taking ownership and accountability for your attitude, actions, and outcomes play a major role in your success.

The Power of Positivity

Never underestimate the power of positivity. Thinking positive thoughts, embodying a positive and healthy lifestyle, and reciting positive affirmations everyday enable you to tap into a higher level of your subconscious.

This is in line with the law of attraction, which says we attract into our lives what we manifest and put our energy into. You attract the energy that you put out into the universe, so the more positivity you put out, the more positivity comes back.

Here are some examples of positive affirmations that are meant to promote success:

  • I have the power to create change.
  • I refuse to give up because I will succeed.
  • I deserve the best and I accept everything that has happened up until now.
  • I am unstoppable and I will achieve all of my goals.

Replace your “I can’t”s with “I can.” Replace your “I won’t”s with “I will.” Speak positive things into existence, and watch your life turn around and have those positive thoughts come about. When you make the effort to make a positive change, the universe will conspire to help you succeed.

What Does It Mean to Be Accountable?

Accountability means to take responsibility and accept ownership for your actions and decisions. This means that you are responsible for the fate of your business. Do you feel that things aren’t taking off as quickly as you originally hoped? Work harder. Not selling thousands of products? Sell harder. Don’t have enough clients? Conduct more cold outreach. Keep your word.

Set goals and intentions and follow through with them. Be responsible and hold accountability for your actions. When you accept responsibility for your actions, you’ll feel rewarded when things work out, and you’ll close more deals, sell more products, and your dreams will come true.

“The price of greatness is responsibility.” –  Winston Churchill

What It Means to Take Control of Your Life & Business

In order to take control of your life and the fate of your business, you must understand your purpose in life and be willing to fulfill that purpose. It’s not enough to only desire a certain lifestyle.

You must stay true to what you really want to do in life. This means that you are mentally prepared to take on everything you need to in order to succeed. You follow strict self-set rules and guidelines that will help to keep you on track toward those dreams and goals. You don’t give up.

You keep going when things get tough, and you never see failure as an obstacle. You aren’t discouraged. You accept minor bumps in the road on the way to your destination, because you know you will ultimately reach your goal, and you won’t stop until you get there.

Here are three factors that personally helped me succeed:

1. Becoming more organized

Prior to organizing my tasks and goals, I was just flying by the seat of my pants and wondering why I wasn’t progressing at all. That’s because I didn’t have a set direction.

Becoming more organized helped me to prioritize what needed to get done in order to grow my business to the place where it’s at today.

2. Starting my off my day with positive affirmations

Positive affirmations are more powerful than you may believe. I started each day reading and reciting a quote that was positive and inspiring in nature, which exponentially increased my motivation and mentally prepared me to take on each day.

“Make each day your masterpiece.” – John Wooden

3. I developed long-term goals and stuck to them

Instead of working every day toward the unknown, I decided to set long-term goals. The kicker in helping me stick to these goals was creating smaller milestones that kept me on track and focused which gradually led me up to the ultimate goal.

Although I recognized that the ultimate achievement (of growing my business) was still at hand, my behavior was reinforced by a consistent sense of accomplishment upon completing these smaller goals.

If you are willing to stay focused, motivated, commit the time, effort, and energy toward reaching your goals, and you truly believe that you can and WILL achieve them, then there is nothing that will stop you in your path toward success.

As William Earnest Henley’s famous poem “Invictus” states, “I am the master of my fate, I am the captain of my soul.” You are the master of your fate and the captain of your soul. Once you wholeheartedly believe this, then you will harness your true power, unlock your full potential, and begin to live out your truth and reach the level of success you’ve always dreamed of.

What is success to you? Let us know in the comments below!

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The 3 P’s of Irresistible Leadership: Passion, Persistence, and Panache

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If any of you reading this have ever studied the theoretical underpinnings of leadership, you will have come across several theories such as the great man theory and charismatic leadership theory. Over the decades, leadership has evolved more from an art of telling people what to do to that of subtle influence, suggestion, and rendering by example.

In my new e-book “High-Octane Leadership: Pole Position Performance,” I mentioned that the goal of the manager is to create followers, but the goal of a leader is to create new leaders! This is a relatively new concept in leadership! There are many new and emerging micro theories of leadership that can be expounded upon and useful to individuals looking to assimilate a leadership style.

Here are the 3 P’s of irresistible leadership:

1. Passion

No great achievements, no illustrious undertakings, and no works of genius have ever occurred without the infusion of passion. Passion creates connections where none existed before.

Passion heightens the desire in the individuals who have opted to follow, and it has moved individuals forward toward a common vision. Leaders such as Steve Jobs, have to demonstrate a sense of passion in everything. Although his passion could be somewhat subdued, there is no doubt that when it came to any Apple products, he was the number one salesperson, champion, and evangelist.

“When you’re surrounded by people who share a passionate commitment around a common purpose, anything is possible.” – Howard Schultz

2. Persistence

For years when I was in direct sales, I had an 8.5 x 11 sheet with a cartoon on it hanging over my desk. It was a crane (that’s the bird, not the machine) who had a frog in his rather ample bill. However, the frog’s arms came out of the side of the crane’s mouth and were clutching the crane by the throat so that he (the crane) couldn’t swallow the frog. Underneath this caption where the words, “never, ever give up!

Leaders persist! They understand that there is always a way to solve the problem. Following this understanding, there must be subsequent action that follows, and this can lead to enthusiasm and optimism!

3. Panache

Leaders are self-confident people. They have systematically developed confidence over the years. In situations where they don’t feel confident, they make themselves feel confident. Confidence is learned. It’s a mental model and a cognitive mindset of how we approach problems.

Leaders understand and know that they will solve the problem before them; it’s not a matter of guessing, it’s a matter of knowing.

“Positivity, confidence, and persistence are key in life, so never give up on yourself.” – Khalid

If you buy the notion of passion, persistence, and panache as attributes of irresistible leadership, the question before us now turns on how do we develop those skills?

Here are a few behaviors that leaders use on a consistent basis to develop new skills:

  • Awareness – Great leaders and irresistible leaders always have their antennae up. They are always looking for ways to improve. They understand that self-improvement is a never-ending process to be embraced, even if the execution of the new behavior is difficult!
  • Repetition – Irresistible leaders practice their new skills. They will practice them in front of their subordinates, their family, and in front of themselves while staring at their face in a bathroom mirror! They understand the way to install a new habit of behavior is like with any habit, repeating it over and over again.
  • Feedback – Irresistible leaders are not afraid to ask how they are doing. And, they are not afraid to hear the answer. They understand that the best answer is that they are doing well but the next best answer is that they are not doing well, instead of not being told about their potential flaw. They understand that input in terms of behavioral awareness is one of the singular most important things one can attribute to leadership performance and style.

Try this: take an 8.5 x 11 sheet of paper and draw three columns. Atop each column write passion, persistence, and panache. On the left-hand side in the margin of the page, write awareness and 1/3 of the page down, write repetition, and then at the bottom one third the word feedback.

Writing solidifies thought, and it is that solid thought that motivates us into action. You will find yourself becoming more aware of opportunities to develop in each of the 3 P’s of irresistible leadership. Document them! Then jot down ideas down about how you can repeat those new behaviors. Finally solicit feedback and document what you’ve heard.

In the span of several weeks you will have developed new and exciting leadership attributes. Continue this new and exciting habit for other leadership development opportunities.

Which one of the 3 P’s do you need to work on most and why? Let us know in the comments below!

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It’s The 50 Things You Do Beforehand That Lead To Your Ultimate Success.

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Oh great, another tricky, dicky headline from that knob jock blogger Tim.”

That’s what you’re thinking, I know.

Well, I love sharing the truth and a lot of the time it doesn’t look pretty. There’s a vision we all have to do something incredible even if we don’t admit that publicly. Incredible, by the way, could just mean raising a family of beautiful children.

The thing is that not having the answers to what that end goal looks like is the best part. Let me explain.

Right now what you see is my blogging career. Before today there were 50 other things that look totally unrelated on the surface.

Here’s how I got to now:

  • Started out swimming as a child then quit
  • Played the flute and then quit
  • Joined a choir, then my voice broke, then I quit
  • Began playing drums then quit
  • Became a DJ then quit
  • Started producing other peoples music then quit
  • Became a successful entrepreneur then quit
  • Trained to be a fitness freak and then quit
  • Became a finance professional then quit
  • Mastered the world of tech and then partially quit
  • Wrote 400+ articles for a blog called Addicted2Success and didn’t quit
  • Published more than 500+ articles on Medium and didn’t quit
  • Published content on LinkedIn every day for a year and didn’t quit

Here’s my point: those last three dot points are what you see now but what you can’t see is everything that came before I started blogging.


Everything you do plays a part in the end result.

While singing in a choir might seem totally unrelated to blogging it’s not. Just like djing and swimming are not unrelated either.

Swimming taught me to overcome my fear of deep water.

Being in a choir taught me what it was like to be on stage in front of people.

Djing taught me artistry and creativity.

The 50 things I did prior that you didn’t see allowed me to do what you see me doing now in the form of blogging.

No matter what you start and stop in life, it will play a part in the 1–2 things that you end up being successful at and hopefully become known for.

Don’t discredit anything that transpires in your life. Every day is contributing something valuable to your future success even if it doesn’t look like it”


Not having the answers is what makes it fun.

If I could tell you right now how you’d get to your ultimate success, it would take away all the fun.

Never in a million years did I expect to become a blogger but here we are.

Getting here has been a load of fun and I still have no idea where this will all lead. Maybe, like Tim Ferriss, blogging could lead me to podcasting. I’ll never know if blogging is my ultimate version of success and that’s the best part.

All of us (including me) are just taking steps forward and learning as we go.

Quit trying to have all the answers because it’s not going to make any difference in the long run.

You can’t predict success all you can do is work your way towards it and earn it for yourself.


Don’t underestimate the ‘art of doing’

I’m obsessed with the doing because it’s the only thing I can control.

I’m reminded daily about the ‘art of doing’ by people who reach out and want to also be known for blogging.

Many of these wannabe bloggers write something but never publish it because it’s not perfect.

Then they finally get the courage to hit publish and the world doesn’t stop and notice their Harry Potter, chart-topping piece of writing. It’s an anti-climax for them which makes them spiral further down the black hole of disappointment.

What these wannabe bloggers underestimate (without sounding too cocky) is that if they repeated the habit of publishing something every day for a year that’d be able to see where blogging could lead.

Hitting publish once is not enough and the first time you do it, it will probably suck.

The only trick for the record that I’ve ever used to accelerate my success in blogging is hitting publish as often as I can and being disconnected from the result. JonWestenberg taught me this.

Even if you fail at something like blogging it will lead you to the next thing and the next thing and so on. Eventually, you’ll find what it is that lights you up and helps you to achieve your own version of success.

Nobody (including me) can predict what that one thing will be. My advice is the opposite of many people out there. Change around your hobbies/passions as much as you like.

Learn something from one field and then move on. While you experiment and switch paths, you’ll eventually find what you’re looking for. I hope you can see that to be true through the story I’ve just shared.

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Are You Really a Leader? 3 Questions That Will Help You Find the Answer

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Being a leader is a lot of responsibility. People look to you to make decisions, direct them, provide support, and get results. A true leader is an amazing presence: a humble yet confident person who inspires those around them.

Unfortunately, a lot of people think they’re leaders, but really aren’t. In fact, according to talent scientist Tomas Chamorro-Premuzic, 80% of people believe they are better-than-average leaders, which is objectively impossible. I see people claiming to be leaders all the time, but they’re all talk and no substance.

What is Leadership?

A lot of the people I talk to seem to think that you become a leader just by having a job managing people. That’s simply not true. Leadership is a balancing act that would make a master juggler impressed.

True leadership involves making sure that there is a happy balance between employees’ needs and the company’s needs. If only the employees’ needs are prioritized, the company won’t be profitable. Likewise, if only the company’s needs are considered, employees will leave.

True leaders have the self-awareness and strategic skills to understand this delicate balance and understand their role in creating those key compromises.

“The key to successful leadership today is influence, not authority.” – Ken Blanchard

Can You Be a True Leader?

Although there are a number of different leadership styles and theories out there, leadership boils down to a few essentials. Leaders need the emotional intelligence to navigate difficult and uncomfortable situations while being able to inspire others to take action. There’s a big difference between saying you’re a leader and acting like one.

If you want to increase your self-awareness and find out if you’re a leader others can rely on, start by asking yourself these three questions:

1. Do you want to be a leader?

It may seem unfair, but in my experience, the people who make the best leaders don’t necessarily want to be. You only want what you don’t have, and same rings true here. If you want to be a leader then you probably aren’t focusing on the right aspects of leadership.

True leaders are natural trail-blazers, but they don’t set out to lead anyone. People just happen to take note of their talents and confidence and look to the person for advice and guidance.

2. Do you have an original vision, or are you just power-hungry?

Why do you want to be a leader? Is it so you have the final say, or do you have actual goals you want to accomplish with a team? True leaders don’t feel threatened by others—they’re too busy getting stuff done. Leaders typically don’t need to test or confirm their power.

If you think good leaders give directions and just want others to listen, you’ve got it wrong. The best leaders often don’t need to speak a whole lot—they listen and observe, they think deeply, and when they do speak, it’s meaningful.

A true leader acts and others follow those actions because they trust and respect the leader. It isn’t about a power battle or an ego trip. Leaders have a true vision.  

3. Are you willing to do the dirty work?

You don’t get to be a leader if all you do is sit around, give orders, and let other people do the dirty work. Real leaders are humble, and no work is “beneath” them.

They want to know what’s going on at the ground level, and they want to help their people when they’re struggling. If you’re not willing to talk to a customer or back your employee up in a bad situation, you don’t get to call yourself a leader.

“Leadership is a choice, not a position.” – Stephen Covey

Becoming a Self-Aware Leader

How did you do? Maybe you’re not cut out to be a leader. Maybe you are. Maybe you need to work on a few things first.

Real talk: being a good leader isn’t easy. However, becoming a true leader benefits everyone around you and can be extremely fulfilling. If you’re more determined than ever to become the best, most self-aware leader you can be, that’s great news: we need more leaders out there.

What are the characteristics of a great leader in your opinion? Share with us below!

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Positivity & Self-Ownership: Your #1 Factor for Success

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Leaving a reliable 9-5 job and risking a steady, biweekly paycheck to live out a dream and pursue a totally different lifestyle can be terrifying. However, there is no reason to fear, aspiring entrepreneur! (more…)

Cory Young is the founder of BCC Interactive, a Philadelphia digital marketing agency with expertise in expanding businesses through search engine marketing. Cory has 10+ years experience crafting successful customized digital marketing strategies for Fortune 500 companies and small businesses alike.

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  1. Toño

    Jun 20, 2016 at 7:55 am

    I have a little story to tell you, Tim. The one that happened just an hour ago and I got the urge to share it with you.

    I was doing some stuff at my home, cleaning and preparing myself for a good day. For a brief moment I reached to my computer so to delete few files, just usual ‘ctrl-a-delete’ combination, and I did not notice I was doing it wrong. Just a few clicks, and all the files were deleted. The wrong one, as I misplaced the cursor and just deleted everything that been stored on my desktop. I like to keep files there in order to quick access them. So all my work for the past years, many important documents, notes, pictures, videos, all the links to websites, apps, quotes, pretty much everything important to me just gone in a few seconds. It was like a flash moment where you think I can undone something but no, you cannot. Deepest regret came immediatelly and I just started to cry uncontrollably (yep, you’re right, grown men cry, and cry hard). I felt miserable and just let emotion go and flow. I did that for about 5 minutes and then something happened. A switch. Time has come to make a choice to stop playing a victim and realize: whatever happens, happens for a reason. It is time to let it go. Accept it and let go. I asked myself, can I live without all those documents and notes I lost? Can I breathe freely and feel? Can I still enjoy my life, do things I love and appreciate what I really have? Can I sleep at nights, peacefully, without those pictures and videos? Can I make something bigger, more awesome and beautiful than that ? And the answer to all of those Qs was ‘Yes’. I stopped crying and the very first video I hit on youtube was titled ‘How conscious People React To Problems’ and there was a beautfiul girl dropping knowledge about the topic I was learning right at the very moment. It was fascinating.

    And now you may wonder why I’m rumbling here and how this story can relate to your article. Well, after I realized I have lost nothing and actually got the opportunity to free space in my life for a new awesome things I thought about this article. All we have is a dream and nothing will stay forever. The only permanent thing is change and you have to prepare yourself to it. I thought it may be a good comment to your article I have yet to respond. I like to think about what to share, rather than just comment ‘It was great article, thank you Tim’. No disrespect to people who does that though, but I like to take my time on things that matter. I know you invested time and energy to write that for us and I would like to give you back.

    Now, what happened to my files, actually, gave me a sign I am on my journey to discover myself. I won’t talk about it now so just not to give away just empty words, but once things will done I will update you on what I’m doing and preparing myself for. It’s gonna be funny summer I see (even though I think for you it’s winter now in Australia) and I will enjoy every minute of it, whether it sorrow or joy. Just accept and let it go.

    Thank you so very much for article, Tim, I enjoy these types the most and this one was just speaking to my soul and I can feel the great synchronicity. Much love and helth to you, my friend, have a wonderful Monday!

    • Tim Denning

      Jun 22, 2016 at 12:15 am

      Toño I really enjoyed your story. This same thing has happened to me and I took a similar approach to you. The files are gone but they were never permanent anyway unless you are going to live forever. Enjoy the free space and your summer. It’s freezing where I am but I love it because it allows me to stay at home and relax. Speak soon my friend.

  2. Dustin Miller

    Jun 10, 2016 at 6:54 pm

    The U.L.C. is my dream for the world. It was made for many goals and intentions. Some which are creating a place for philosophical and emotional growth. Bringing people together to improve our way of life.

    unitedlivingconstruct.wordpress.com

    • Tim Denning

      Jun 11, 2016 at 2:25 am

      Dustin I checked out your site and I love that you are a visionary. Keep doing what you do mate and your dream will come true. Thanks for reading my post. Much Respect 🙂

  3. Austine Nonso

    Jun 10, 2016 at 5:16 am

    Personality I believe is something that set persona apart from others, it makes a person unique and respected. Your post is really inspiring and I believe if all should work towards achieving great personality then they wont be any corruption in the world.

    • Tim Denning

      Jun 10, 2016 at 12:28 pm

      Austine thank you for your kind words. Personality is important and lucjily you can shape that to be whatever you want. If we concentrate on what we can do to make the world better and how we can give to others, we will foster al the right ingredients for a magnet-like personality. I still have a long way to go myself but with every day I do my best to become more. To be more.

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Positivity & Self-Ownership: Your #1 Factor for Success

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Leaving a reliable 9-5 job and risking a steady, biweekly paycheck to live out a dream and pursue a totally different lifestyle can be terrifying. However, there is no reason to fear, aspiring entrepreneur!

All successful entrepreneurs understand a few simple principles that enable them to achieve their goals, including how positivity along with taking ownership and accountability for your attitude, actions, and outcomes play a major role in your success.

The Power of Positivity

Never underestimate the power of positivity. Thinking positive thoughts, embodying a positive and healthy lifestyle, and reciting positive affirmations everyday enable you to tap into a higher level of your subconscious.

This is in line with the law of attraction, which says we attract into our lives what we manifest and put our energy into. You attract the energy that you put out into the universe, so the more positivity you put out, the more positivity comes back.

Here are some examples of positive affirmations that are meant to promote success:

  • I have the power to create change.
  • I refuse to give up because I will succeed.
  • I deserve the best and I accept everything that has happened up until now.
  • I am unstoppable and I will achieve all of my goals.

Replace your “I can’t”s with “I can.” Replace your “I won’t”s with “I will.” Speak positive things into existence, and watch your life turn around and have those positive thoughts come about. When you make the effort to make a positive change, the universe will conspire to help you succeed.

What Does It Mean to Be Accountable?

Accountability means to take responsibility and accept ownership for your actions and decisions. This means that you are responsible for the fate of your business. Do you feel that things aren’t taking off as quickly as you originally hoped? Work harder. Not selling thousands of products? Sell harder. Don’t have enough clients? Conduct more cold outreach. Keep your word.

Set goals and intentions and follow through with them. Be responsible and hold accountability for your actions. When you accept responsibility for your actions, you’ll feel rewarded when things work out, and you’ll close more deals, sell more products, and your dreams will come true.

“The price of greatness is responsibility.” –  Winston Churchill

What It Means to Take Control of Your Life & Business

In order to take control of your life and the fate of your business, you must understand your purpose in life and be willing to fulfill that purpose. It’s not enough to only desire a certain lifestyle.

You must stay true to what you really want to do in life. This means that you are mentally prepared to take on everything you need to in order to succeed. You follow strict self-set rules and guidelines that will help to keep you on track toward those dreams and goals. You don’t give up.

You keep going when things get tough, and you never see failure as an obstacle. You aren’t discouraged. You accept minor bumps in the road on the way to your destination, because you know you will ultimately reach your goal, and you won’t stop until you get there.

Here are three factors that personally helped me succeed:

1. Becoming more organized

Prior to organizing my tasks and goals, I was just flying by the seat of my pants and wondering why I wasn’t progressing at all. That’s because I didn’t have a set direction.

Becoming more organized helped me to prioritize what needed to get done in order to grow my business to the place where it’s at today.

2. Starting my off my day with positive affirmations

Positive affirmations are more powerful than you may believe. I started each day reading and reciting a quote that was positive and inspiring in nature, which exponentially increased my motivation and mentally prepared me to take on each day.

“Make each day your masterpiece.” – John Wooden

3. I developed long-term goals and stuck to them

Instead of working every day toward the unknown, I decided to set long-term goals. The kicker in helping me stick to these goals was creating smaller milestones that kept me on track and focused which gradually led me up to the ultimate goal.

Although I recognized that the ultimate achievement (of growing my business) was still at hand, my behavior was reinforced by a consistent sense of accomplishment upon completing these smaller goals.

If you are willing to stay focused, motivated, commit the time, effort, and energy toward reaching your goals, and you truly believe that you can and WILL achieve them, then there is nothing that will stop you in your path toward success.

As William Earnest Henley’s famous poem “Invictus” states, “I am the master of my fate, I am the captain of my soul.” You are the master of your fate and the captain of your soul. Once you wholeheartedly believe this, then you will harness your true power, unlock your full potential, and begin to live out your truth and reach the level of success you’ve always dreamed of.

What is success to you? Let us know in the comments below!

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The 3 P’s of Irresistible Leadership: Passion, Persistence, and Panache

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If any of you reading this have ever studied the theoretical underpinnings of leadership, you will have come across several theories such as the great man theory and charismatic leadership theory. Over the decades, leadership has evolved more from an art of telling people what to do to that of subtle influence, suggestion, and rendering by example.

In my new e-book “High-Octane Leadership: Pole Position Performance,” I mentioned that the goal of the manager is to create followers, but the goal of a leader is to create new leaders! This is a relatively new concept in leadership! There are many new and emerging micro theories of leadership that can be expounded upon and useful to individuals looking to assimilate a leadership style.

Here are the 3 P’s of irresistible leadership:

1. Passion

No great achievements, no illustrious undertakings, and no works of genius have ever occurred without the infusion of passion. Passion creates connections where none existed before.

Passion heightens the desire in the individuals who have opted to follow, and it has moved individuals forward toward a common vision. Leaders such as Steve Jobs, have to demonstrate a sense of passion in everything. Although his passion could be somewhat subdued, there is no doubt that when it came to any Apple products, he was the number one salesperson, champion, and evangelist.

“When you’re surrounded by people who share a passionate commitment around a common purpose, anything is possible.” – Howard Schultz

2. Persistence

For years when I was in direct sales, I had an 8.5 x 11 sheet with a cartoon on it hanging over my desk. It was a crane (that’s the bird, not the machine) who had a frog in his rather ample bill. However, the frog’s arms came out of the side of the crane’s mouth and were clutching the crane by the throat so that he (the crane) couldn’t swallow the frog. Underneath this caption where the words, “never, ever give up!

Leaders persist! They understand that there is always a way to solve the problem. Following this understanding, there must be subsequent action that follows, and this can lead to enthusiasm and optimism!

3. Panache

Leaders are self-confident people. They have systematically developed confidence over the years. In situations where they don’t feel confident, they make themselves feel confident. Confidence is learned. It’s a mental model and a cognitive mindset of how we approach problems.

Leaders understand and know that they will solve the problem before them; it’s not a matter of guessing, it’s a matter of knowing.

“Positivity, confidence, and persistence are key in life, so never give up on yourself.” – Khalid

If you buy the notion of passion, persistence, and panache as attributes of irresistible leadership, the question before us now turns on how do we develop those skills?

Here are a few behaviors that leaders use on a consistent basis to develop new skills:

  • Awareness – Great leaders and irresistible leaders always have their antennae up. They are always looking for ways to improve. They understand that self-improvement is a never-ending process to be embraced, even if the execution of the new behavior is difficult!
  • Repetition – Irresistible leaders practice their new skills. They will practice them in front of their subordinates, their family, and in front of themselves while staring at their face in a bathroom mirror! They understand the way to install a new habit of behavior is like with any habit, repeating it over and over again.
  • Feedback – Irresistible leaders are not afraid to ask how they are doing. And, they are not afraid to hear the answer. They understand that the best answer is that they are doing well but the next best answer is that they are not doing well, instead of not being told about their potential flaw. They understand that input in terms of behavioral awareness is one of the singular most important things one can attribute to leadership performance and style.

Try this: take an 8.5 x 11 sheet of paper and draw three columns. Atop each column write passion, persistence, and panache. On the left-hand side in the margin of the page, write awareness and 1/3 of the page down, write repetition, and then at the bottom one third the word feedback.

Writing solidifies thought, and it is that solid thought that motivates us into action. You will find yourself becoming more aware of opportunities to develop in each of the 3 P’s of irresistible leadership. Document them! Then jot down ideas down about how you can repeat those new behaviors. Finally solicit feedback and document what you’ve heard.

In the span of several weeks you will have developed new and exciting leadership attributes. Continue this new and exciting habit for other leadership development opportunities.

Which one of the 3 P’s do you need to work on most and why? Let us know in the comments below!

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It’s The 50 Things You Do Beforehand That Lead To Your Ultimate Success.

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Oh great, another tricky, dicky headline from that knob jock blogger Tim.”

That’s what you’re thinking, I know.

Well, I love sharing the truth and a lot of the time it doesn’t look pretty. There’s a vision we all have to do something incredible even if we don’t admit that publicly. Incredible, by the way, could just mean raising a family of beautiful children.

The thing is that not having the answers to what that end goal looks like is the best part. Let me explain.

Right now what you see is my blogging career. Before today there were 50 other things that look totally unrelated on the surface.

Here’s how I got to now:

  • Started out swimming as a child then quit
  • Played the flute and then quit
  • Joined a choir, then my voice broke, then I quit
  • Began playing drums then quit
  • Became a DJ then quit
  • Started producing other peoples music then quit
  • Became a successful entrepreneur then quit
  • Trained to be a fitness freak and then quit
  • Became a finance professional then quit
  • Mastered the world of tech and then partially quit
  • Wrote 400+ articles for a blog called Addicted2Success and didn’t quit
  • Published more than 500+ articles on Medium and didn’t quit
  • Published content on LinkedIn every day for a year and didn’t quit

Here’s my point: those last three dot points are what you see now but what you can’t see is everything that came before I started blogging.


Everything you do plays a part in the end result.

While singing in a choir might seem totally unrelated to blogging it’s not. Just like djing and swimming are not unrelated either.

Swimming taught me to overcome my fear of deep water.

Being in a choir taught me what it was like to be on stage in front of people.

Djing taught me artistry and creativity.

The 50 things I did prior that you didn’t see allowed me to do what you see me doing now in the form of blogging.

No matter what you start and stop in life, it will play a part in the 1–2 things that you end up being successful at and hopefully become known for.

Don’t discredit anything that transpires in your life. Every day is contributing something valuable to your future success even if it doesn’t look like it”


Not having the answers is what makes it fun.

If I could tell you right now how you’d get to your ultimate success, it would take away all the fun.

Never in a million years did I expect to become a blogger but here we are.

Getting here has been a load of fun and I still have no idea where this will all lead. Maybe, like Tim Ferriss, blogging could lead me to podcasting. I’ll never know if blogging is my ultimate version of success and that’s the best part.

All of us (including me) are just taking steps forward and learning as we go.

Quit trying to have all the answers because it’s not going to make any difference in the long run.

You can’t predict success all you can do is work your way towards it and earn it for yourself.


Don’t underestimate the ‘art of doing’

I’m obsessed with the doing because it’s the only thing I can control.

I’m reminded daily about the ‘art of doing’ by people who reach out and want to also be known for blogging.

Many of these wannabe bloggers write something but never publish it because it’s not perfect.

Then they finally get the courage to hit publish and the world doesn’t stop and notice their Harry Potter, chart-topping piece of writing. It’s an anti-climax for them which makes them spiral further down the black hole of disappointment.

What these wannabe bloggers underestimate (without sounding too cocky) is that if they repeated the habit of publishing something every day for a year that’d be able to see where blogging could lead.

Hitting publish once is not enough and the first time you do it, it will probably suck.

The only trick for the record that I’ve ever used to accelerate my success in blogging is hitting publish as often as I can and being disconnected from the result. JonWestenberg taught me this.

Even if you fail at something like blogging it will lead you to the next thing and the next thing and so on. Eventually, you’ll find what it is that lights you up and helps you to achieve your own version of success.

Nobody (including me) can predict what that one thing will be. My advice is the opposite of many people out there. Change around your hobbies/passions as much as you like.

Learn something from one field and then move on. While you experiment and switch paths, you’ll eventually find what you’re looking for. I hope you can see that to be true through the story I’ve just shared.

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Are You Really a Leader? 3 Questions That Will Help You Find the Answer

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Being a leader is a lot of responsibility. People look to you to make decisions, direct them, provide support, and get results. A true leader is an amazing presence: a humble yet confident person who inspires those around them.

Unfortunately, a lot of people think they’re leaders, but really aren’t. In fact, according to talent scientist Tomas Chamorro-Premuzic, 80% of people believe they are better-than-average leaders, which is objectively impossible. I see people claiming to be leaders all the time, but they’re all talk and no substance.

What is Leadership?

A lot of the people I talk to seem to think that you become a leader just by having a job managing people. That’s simply not true. Leadership is a balancing act that would make a master juggler impressed.

True leadership involves making sure that there is a happy balance between employees’ needs and the company’s needs. If only the employees’ needs are prioritized, the company won’t be profitable. Likewise, if only the company’s needs are considered, employees will leave.

True leaders have the self-awareness and strategic skills to understand this delicate balance and understand their role in creating those key compromises.

“The key to successful leadership today is influence, not authority.” – Ken Blanchard

Can You Be a True Leader?

Although there are a number of different leadership styles and theories out there, leadership boils down to a few essentials. Leaders need the emotional intelligence to navigate difficult and uncomfortable situations while being able to inspire others to take action. There’s a big difference between saying you’re a leader and acting like one.

If you want to increase your self-awareness and find out if you’re a leader others can rely on, start by asking yourself these three questions:

1. Do you want to be a leader?

It may seem unfair, but in my experience, the people who make the best leaders don’t necessarily want to be. You only want what you don’t have, and same rings true here. If you want to be a leader then you probably aren’t focusing on the right aspects of leadership.

True leaders are natural trail-blazers, but they don’t set out to lead anyone. People just happen to take note of their talents and confidence and look to the person for advice and guidance.

2. Do you have an original vision, or are you just power-hungry?

Why do you want to be a leader? Is it so you have the final say, or do you have actual goals you want to accomplish with a team? True leaders don’t feel threatened by others—they’re too busy getting stuff done. Leaders typically don’t need to test or confirm their power.

If you think good leaders give directions and just want others to listen, you’ve got it wrong. The best leaders often don’t need to speak a whole lot—they listen and observe, they think deeply, and when they do speak, it’s meaningful.

A true leader acts and others follow those actions because they trust and respect the leader. It isn’t about a power battle or an ego trip. Leaders have a true vision.  

3. Are you willing to do the dirty work?

You don’t get to be a leader if all you do is sit around, give orders, and let other people do the dirty work. Real leaders are humble, and no work is “beneath” them.

They want to know what’s going on at the ground level, and they want to help their people when they’re struggling. If you’re not willing to talk to a customer or back your employee up in a bad situation, you don’t get to call yourself a leader.

“Leadership is a choice, not a position.” – Stephen Covey

Becoming a Self-Aware Leader

How did you do? Maybe you’re not cut out to be a leader. Maybe you are. Maybe you need to work on a few things first.

Real talk: being a good leader isn’t easy. However, becoming a true leader benefits everyone around you and can be extremely fulfilling. If you’re more determined than ever to become the best, most self-aware leader you can be, that’s great news: we need more leaders out there.

What are the characteristics of a great leader in your opinion? Share with us below!

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