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8 Ways To Increase Your Mental Strength

Joel Brown (Founder of Addicted2Success.com)

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Editor’s Note: Wanha from Reddit, shares his advice on what it takes to increase mental toughness.

I’ve always been fascinated with mental toughness and athletes who possess it, and I’ve spent many years trying to understand this topic.

Much of our physical ability is determined by our body structure. I can train as much as I want, but I’ll never beat Usain Bolt in a footrace. Mental toughness, on the other hand, is something that can be learned and cultivated, it can be forged through practice and struggle. Naturally some people are born with a higher level of mental toughness than others, but on the whole it’s a skill that anyone can cultivate to a relatively high level.

Mental toughness is the ability to perform at an optimal level when the stakes are at their highest. Whether that means closing a huge sale or fighting back from the brink of defeat, mental toughness means we don’t allow the situation to overwhelm us emotionally.

One of the most respected NFL coaches, Bill Belichick, defines mental toughness as

“doing what’s right for the team regardless of how you might be feeling at the time.”

In other words, mental toughness is about sacrifice, doing something that’s difficult, pushing past your threshold, playing injured or playing a role you might not be comfortable playing. It’s about putting the team first.

But talking about mental toughness is easy. For every athlete that is mentally tough, there are probably ten athletes that aren’t.

So how do we improve our mental toughness?

Control Your Mind Or It Will Control You

Boiled down to its most basic elements, mental toughness comes down to two choices: to control your mind, or to let your mind control you.

When we don’t control our minds, we accept whatever programming that has been inputted earlier. You see, most of us never chose our current mental programming, we simply stumbled onto it, and now it’s the way we deal with life’s various challenges and situations.

For example, if your default reaction to high-stake moments is fear, anxiety or over-excitment, it’s because somewhere down the line you learned that that strategy works for you. That’s obviously not a particularly smart strategy, but at the time when you accepted it as part of your programming it was clearly good enough. And once we accept a programming, we usually stop thinking about it and it becomes our default reaction for similar situations.

So if we want to increase our mental toughness, we are going to have to do a little reprogramming of our minds first. From my experience, the key to being mentally tougher is to control your focus and eliminate the little voice of doubt and critique.

 

It’s All in Your Mind

Most articles you will find on this topic break mental toughness down into various subcategories, such as focus, poise, confidence, courage, and so forth. Although that may make sense from a scientific perspective, I’ve found that such an approach makes it difficult for the average person to put any of the advice to use.

So what follows is my attempt to provide an easier and more natural process to help you perform better when it really counts. I’ve successfully used these techniques myself over the past few years and I believe they can do the same for you.

Let’s get to them.

I. Be Positive. I Mean REALLY, REALLY POSITIVE

It’s easy to get down on yourself and let the inner critic run free when things aren’t going well, but that isn’t going to help you.

Instead, fight the urge to criticize and ask yourself if you can make a commitment that you will only bring forth positive energy for the remainder of the match. I’ve found that when you prioritize eliminating all negative thoughts, your focus automatically shifts to the positive ones, and that in turn makes you more likely to enjoy and excel in the big moment.

 

II. Focus Only On What You Control

Yes, we play to win, that’s why we keep score. But spending time thinking about the potential outcome just diverts your focus and fills your head with unimportant, distracting thoughts.

The remedy is to be present in the moment and let nature take its course. Focus only on the things you actually control: your approach and your attitude. What happens after the next point or after the match doesn’t matter. I’ve found this approach helps me relax, focus and play my best at the key moments.

 

III. Keep Your Emotional Level Steady

Some of us get more easily up and down that others. The more up and down you get, the more likely you are going to get over-excited or overwhelmed by the situation, and that puts you in a bad spot to win the big points consistently.

The key is to distance yourself from the game just enough so that you’re not swept away with the emotional tides. Don’t only focus on not getting down – also make sure you don’t get too high either, because that disrupts your focus also. Visualize remaining calm and composed in even the biggest situations. Act like you’ve been in those situations a hundred times, and eventually you’ll feel like it too.

 

IV. Enjoy The Big Moments

This is probably my favorite technique because it takes a moment that is stressful and intimidating and turns it into a moment that’s fun and exciting – something you actually look forward to.

The next time you find yourself in a big moment in a game (e.g. a tiebreak in tennis), remind yourself how exciting and fun these big moments are compared to a casual game with nothing at stake. These are the moments you’ll remember and what you’ll all discuss after the games – enjoy them, embrace them, and feel them with every cell in your body.

 

Mental Strength and physical pain quote

 

V. A Prepared Mind is a More Confident Mind

It’s been said that self confidence is ‘your ability to influence the world around you’. What better way to do that than through practice?

When you know you’ve practiced a single shot a thousands of times, you have a lot more faith in being able to rely on your training in a big moment. You don’t need to ‘will’ yourself to do something that has very little chance of succeeding. Remind yourself that all that sweat and sacrifice was a price you paid so you could be victorious today.

 

VI. Forget About How You Might Look

Sometimes we start thinking how bad we might appear to others if we lose this point – or how embarrassing it would be to blow a big lead. But the moment you start thinking from the outside in, you lose your focus and your ability to stay calm and composed.

Thinking from the outside in is toxic. You are not doing this to “look good” or win the admiration of onlookers, so put all thoughts about looking bad out of your mind and just focus on playing the game one point at a time. Win or loss – do it your way.

 

VII. Have a Short Memory

This is also one of my favorites. It’s so easy to get angry and criticize ourselves when we make a mistake, but all that usually does is turn one bad play into another.

If the previous point or play didn’t go your way, you need to forget it immediately and concentrate on the next one. Don’t let one bad play ruin the next one.

Just make a note and move on.

 

VIII. Don’t Expect Perfect Circumstances

It’s easy to say the conditions were poor, you had a little ailment or that nothing is going your way today. But these are all just excuses that tempt you down the road of surrender.

You only get the perfect circumstances so many times in life. Don’t dwell on what has gone against you. Don’t worry that the conditions favor your opponent. Ignore the pain you feel in your knee.

What you have is what you have. There will never be another chance to win this game.

Be like MacGyver and use everything that you have at your disposal to succeed right now.

Mental toughness is really just about approaching the game from the right perspective. The next time you step out onto the field, ignore the score, focus being in the moment and tell that little, criticizing and excuse-seeking voice in your head to shut the hell up. You’ll be glad you did.

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I am the the Founder of Addicted2Success.com and I am so grateful you're here to be part of this awesome community. I love connecting with people who have a passion for Entrepreneurship, Self Development & Achieving Success. I started this website with the intention of educating and inspiring likeminded people to always strive for success no matter what their circumstances.I'm proud to say through my podcast and through this website we have impacted over 200 million lives in the last 10 years.

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25 Comments

25 Comments

  1. namita

    Jun 20, 2016 at 2:30 am

    Excellent . Article . Thank you Joel

  2. Ache

    Jun 13, 2015 at 6:52 pm

    What an excellent post!

  3. kalpana

    Dec 19, 2014 at 1:59 pm

    Simply awesome post and the pic that you used in your post , Very nice suggestions and I will try to apply these ways to increase my mental strength. Thanks for sharing

  4. Stan Chiezey

    Oct 27, 2014 at 5:39 am

    Great article. Thank you Joel. All you have said can be applied to develop a very strong mental attitude in any life endevor.

  5. krunal

    Oct 27, 2014 at 5:11 am

    Thank you Mr. Joel.
    Every time I am getting better and better from YOU. God bless you.

  6. Ali

    Aug 25, 2014 at 1:14 pm

    Once again, thank you Joel. Great stuff that awaken our inner strength…especially when one thinks there is none left.

    • John Thomson

      Oct 15, 2014 at 8:46 pm

      This was good, but primarily everything related to sports. I am a sports buff as much as the next guy but where I measure mental toughness is in the vicissitudes of life, periods of unemployment and your family is depending on you, sickness in the family that is life threatening and you are the captain of the ship and need to make life changing decisions. This requires a mental toughness far surpassing batting in the 9th with 2 outs.

  7. Evans Adu

    Aug 24, 2014 at 11:46 pm

    thanks joel for inspiring me.weather you can or you can’t just focus

  8. Bruce Taylor

    Aug 19, 2014 at 2:42 am

    Accentuate the positive and eliminate the negative plus seven other really great mental strategies.

  9. Farooq Marwat

    Aug 18, 2014 at 10:58 am

    Great, Being as a lecturer, I want to be a person with strong mentality and motivation to inspire my students too

  10. Paul

    Aug 5, 2014 at 11:26 am

    Actually these are simple and logic advices but still they are really valuable if you think about them thoroughly ! Thanks for this compilation.

  11. RepAfterRep

    Aug 5, 2014 at 2:42 am

    I am a high school baseball coach and I would really like to instill many of these ideas and principles in my players. The trick is to do it in such a way that they believe in and accept as something of value to them. I am going to revert back to this post from time to time to implement these ideas and help pass them on to my players. Thank you for a great blog post!

  12. lucy

    Aug 4, 2014 at 11:11 am

    its so amazing how we can be able to take control of our mental abilities…its possible..thnx joel

  13. ROSEWINNIE NEKESA

    Aug 1, 2014 at 8:41 am

    This is absolutely amazing and fascinating far beyond what i thought!!It is so inspiring!

  14. Phil Janecic

    Jul 29, 2014 at 1:11 pm

    Once you change your mindset, everything else will follow. If you think of yourself as awesome and don’t let anything or anyone put you down, it will show in the way you act. To change the way you are, you got to change the way you think, and this list is a great overview of how to start. Keep it up!

  15. Edmund

    Jul 29, 2014 at 10:10 am

    Celebrating my wins to anchor the feeling and replay it in my mind when the need arises is another tip that has helped me to increase my mental toughness as well.

  16. Matt

    Jul 28, 2014 at 2:22 pm

    Great article Joel – Thanks so much.

  17. James Simwanza

    Jul 28, 2014 at 1:12 pm

    this is good.

  18. Dharmesh Dev

    Jul 28, 2014 at 5:43 am

    thank you so much for this inspiration mental toughness article, going practice this steps for a week and in every situation where it calls, keep posting such great articles.

  19. Moses Etete

    Jul 27, 2014 at 2:15 pm

    So much to learn. Thank you very much.

  20. Mike Kawula ♕ (@SelfEmployDKing)

    Jul 26, 2014 at 12:17 pm

    Love this! They’re all great but really feel “Forget About How You Might Look” stands in a ton of people’s way. Great post!

    • C.M.Nivadha Rajan

      Jul 27, 2014 at 8:08 am

      THANK YOU!!!!

    • Granville Louw

      Jul 27, 2014 at 9:57 am

      I used to believe that I had mental strength that exceeded the norm – everyone else said so, and the results seemed to speak for themselves. It turned out that I had just been lucky. When things around me truly went downhill all at once, I went with them.

      One thing I’d note is that it’s not quite enough to be emotional steady ; in many ways emotions can just lead you back to the same rumination. Self-insight requires persistence, mindfulness and humility; real strength knows its limits and appreciates them as information.

      Thank You very much for this post. I was a bit confused recently but now it is somewhat clear. Enjoyed reading every bit of it. I know they’re not really new, but thinking about them from time to time is another kind of good habit.

      • Ali

        Aug 25, 2014 at 1:18 pm

        I fully agree Granville. Reading them from time to time keeps it like a part of your daily routine and will definitely change the way you think.

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