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5 Things Mentally Tough People Don’t Do

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Whether you are on the court or in the board room. Mental strength is demanded on a day to day basis for those in high profile positions. Athlete’s, CEO’s and risk hungry Entrepreneurs excel in their fields only by pursuing their goals with a thick skin and a high level of mental strength.

In this article, Sports and Performance Psychologist “Justin Sua” tells us what it takes to be mentally strong enough to take on the big wigs in the arena.

 

Are you mentally tough enough?

 

1) They don’t feel sorry for themselves

They understand that complaining doesn’t make the situation better.

They know that people won’t treat them the way they want to be treated, circumstances might not be ideal, and they will experience adversity; however, rather than complain about the negative aspects of their situation, they focus on what they want to happen and what they’re going to do about it.

 

2) They don’t give people power over them

They are not people pleasers.

They are relentless in their pursuit of their passion and aren’t worried about what other people think.

They give power to what they focus on, and if they waste their time focusing on the opinions of others, they lose sight of the things that will make them truly successful.

 

3) They don’t avoid change

They are always looking for ways to evolve. They believe that if they continue to give their best, their best will continue to get better over time.

With the competition continuing to get bigger, stronger, faster, and smarter; it’s important to have the mindset to improve by learning from successes and failures.

 

4) They don’t play small

The mentally tough swing for the fences and know that it might mean striking out a few times (or many times). Their purpose for achieving greatness casts away their fear of failure. They refuse to tip-toe through life, they intend on creating a legacy for the future by making an impact in the here-and-now.

 

5) They don’t focus on things they can’t control

They refuse to waste time focusing on things they can’t control because there is nothing they can do about it!

They understand that the less control a person feels the more susceptible they are to making poor decisions, falling into bad habits, and crumbling under pressure.

 

Muhammad Ali mental strength

 

Justin Su'a in an expert in sport and performance psychology, the author of, "Parent Pep Talks” and the Head of Mental Conditioning at the IMG Academy, the world-leading provider of athletic and personal development training programs for youth, adult, collegiate and professional athletes, located in Bradenton, Florida. Follow Justin on Twitter: @justinsua

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55 Comments

55 Comments

  1. Wordsmith

    Dec 21, 2015 at 1:47 pm

    The last sentence in the article really resonates with me and drives home the most important theme. In my opinion, the extent to which you feel empowered is the basis for your successes and failures. That’s why it’s so important to monitor your thoughts and do your best to weed out negativity and plant positive intentions throughout the day.

  2. quiropraxia 1

    Jan 20, 2015 at 10:50 pm

    Hi there colleagues, its enormous paragraph regarding educationand full explained, keep it up all the time.

  3. javed

    Apr 8, 2014 at 11:38 am

    was able to define myself…………? hahahaha

  4. pawan

    Feb 12, 2014 at 3:16 am

    Great great i would say…thanks.

  5. david sirmons

    Feb 9, 2014 at 7:50 pm

    Interesting, the people shown in this attempt to inspire. Arnold, in his Twentieth Anniversary Edition of Pumping Iron gave an interview for that DVD. In it, he spoke of how he did feel doubtful and would have been affected by adversities if they had happened during his competitive years, but lied to himself at the time. Ali rose to stardom becoming a champion…yep…and he now lives as an invalid because of severe brain damage. It happened because his confidence soon gave way to arrogance, to the point of verbally belittling his opponents publically. His ugliness toward opponents turned the competitions into personal vendettas, where opponents were literally trying to kill him. And nearly succeeded. The beatings he took from men he deliberately enraged cost him most of the use of his body. Neither person matches in totality to the points on this list. And there are non whom truly do. Yes, don’t focus on things you don’t control. Yes, don’t avoid change and don’t feel sorry for yourself. But being relentless in any given pursuit can lead one into ugly territory, where a pursuit is valued over character or decency. And swinging for the fences sounds great…just remember you only control your swing. The pitcher of Life controls the rest.

    • Tempie Brooks (@tabbrok)

      Feb 10, 2014 at 5:57 pm

      @ David…I agree with some of your opinions….yet we must be honest…out of all of Ali competitors who is still alive? I found that negative n pessimistic the statement u made that His arrogance allowed him to receive ceral palsy. It’s life for any athletic! N honestly Frazier was a good guybut He’s dead….George Foreman is probably Ali’s only opponent that’s still alive n He was several I believe atleast 10 years younger than Ali. I believe God chastise us for our sin but He also is loving, forgiven, merciful, n gracious. How can you judge Ali like that after all he has done for the country n sports world! But u are welcome to your opinion. Confidence yes Arrogance no…but who are you to say the difference? 1

    • sey

      Jan 20, 2015 at 8:20 am

      Ali took those beatings because he refused to lose. Boxers can be just as brutal when they are calm, some can be more efficient fighters in a less emotional state, executing techniques with better timing. It was his mental toughness that caused him to withstand those wars. Making his opponents angry didn’t expose him to a greater risk the rules were just the same.

  6. Chang

    Feb 7, 2014 at 4:57 pm

    Prayer beats them all.

  7. DTrevino

    Jan 31, 2014 at 1:21 am

    Focus is critical. It is easy to allow everyday challenges consume our mind. If we would release them, we could focus on the day’s tasks.

  8. Hugh O. Smith ★ (@HughOSmith)

    Nov 4, 2013 at 6:23 pm

    This changed my whole day! Thank you, thank you, thank you for posting this!!

  9. Sikeout

    Oct 27, 2013 at 8:11 pm

    Unfortunately, there are many people who have these same traits because they are self-centered (i.e.: psychopaths, narcissists).

    • Melissa

      Jan 20, 2015 at 6:27 am

      Interesting. Yes, that’s why mentally tough people can realize greatness and great harm.

  10. HappinessSavouredHot

    Oct 22, 2013 at 1:10 am

    It’s all about empowering ourselves, isn’t it? 🙂

  11. Sumit

    Oct 10, 2013 at 2:15 pm

    Great article for tough men..it is really touching

  12. cindy

    Oct 10, 2013 at 12:54 am

    This was great! I’m guilty of being a people pleaser. I stress out so much if I feel like I don’t click perfectly with someone. I need to not let others hold the power! Great tips! Love the not feeling sorry for yourself as well!

  13. Pratap Singh

    Oct 2, 2013 at 7:20 pm

    very good

  14. Penny

    Sep 26, 2013 at 7:48 am

    PRAYER! A powerfull and great conversation.

    • PhilosopherKing

      Dec 16, 2013 at 1:56 pm

      PRAYER? You have already given control over to entity. Reflection and occasional meditation to review and learn and clarity may come from this ‘quiet’ time but an imaginary friend is not needed unless you choose to write them into your ‘coping script’.

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It’s What You Do On A ‘Bad Day’ That Matters.

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Last Friday was a bad day for me. I woke up late, missed the gym and didn’t meditate.

None of this was intentional.

I then turned my computer on to do what I do every day: blog. I was not prepared for the whirlwind that followed.

As I opened up my social media channels, there were a lot more than usual, direct messages. I started reading each one and they were from colleagues and friends who wanted to warn me that I had a large amount of hate-fuelled comments on social media. I’m usually pretty good at dealing with hate comments. Not on that day, though — I was having a ‘bad day.’

I turned off the computer and didn’t respond to anybody. In the same week, I’d been told I was now a LinkedIn Top Voice for 2018.

I should have been celebrating and I didn’t because I didn’t feel worthy. If anything, I wanted to give up there and then. Luckily I didn’t follow through with any of these ideas. I knew it was just noise in my awful day.

I went away to sit on the couch and think about what I’d just read. Without really thinking about what I was going to do for the rest of the day, I began thinking about my team at work. There were several leadership challenges that I had to solve.

One was from a customer that was being abusive to female staff. Another was a rejection I had to deliver to someone that wanted to work with us. The hardest part about delivering the rejection was that I’d already said yes.
Despite the day being bad, I made a fundamental decision — to keep doing what I do and not stop. I said to myself “How can I inspire people while simultaneously solving both these challenges?”

I’m a big believer that it’s not what you say that matters; it’s what you do. Talk is cheap. I came up with a bold plan to address both challenges.

I was going to do something that made me see the good in the people involved.

Even if the people in both situations had let me down, I was going to assume they were still good.

I concocted a plan to help both people and try and show them a more positive way to move forward. If I break down the plan, it was about being an inspiration in both situations.

I didn’t feel like being inspiring.
It was not the day to be inspiring.

But it was the only way I could motivate myself to finish off this bad day and wake up the next morning fresh. It’s funny how a good nights sleep takes away all the pain and negativity from the day before.

So, by the end of the day, I enabled both plans. I set out to release inspiration in both scenarios and that was my only focus. I didn’t look at anymore hate fuelled comments or go near social media.

On that bad day last Friday, my actions helped me keep moving forward and not give up.


It’s not about necessarily seeing the good in your bad day.

I’ve read this sort of advice heaps, but it requires a lot of willpower.

Using your actions to make the day better rather than trying to think your way out of your bad day seems to be a lot easier to implement”


It’s not about the bad day.

Bad days will happen.

It’s what you do on a bad day that determines if you’ll feel the full effect of all the negativity that can potentially knock you out like a Tsunami that comes your way when all you wanted to do was lay on the beach and soak up some sun.

I’ve learned to find situations during a day that’s not working out well for me, to do something good, and often that’s not something that benefits me. If I was to look at it another way it would be “How do I not focus on my own bad day?”

Trying to make someone else’s day good distracts you from your own bad day.

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This Is How An Ordinary Person Can Make Their Country Better.

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Someone asked on the internet how they can make their country better.
They considered themselves ordinary and felt that they had to be someone special to make a difference in their country, India.

Their question made me feel a bit emotional because I can relate. I too have also dreamt of making my country better.

The most common answer to this question is to get involved in politics.

Many of you reading this find politics really boring including me. I’ve learned through my own experience that politics is not the only way you can make your country better.

Here’s how you can make your country better:


Use your voice

When I was faced with the question “How do I make my country better?” I decided to use my voice.

It was this decision that changed everything. I spent every day using my voice to stand for something. I wanted to inspire the world through entrepreneurship and personal development.

So, I started using my voice by posting on LinkedIn. I used my voice and transcribed it into words to tell the citizens of my country what I think they needed to hear.

Using your voice is incredibly scary at first. As soon as you start sharing your thoughts, many people will say nothing. You’ll get almost no feedback. As your voice starts to get louder over time (probably years) the opposite will happen and you’ll attract trolls and critics.

The hardest part about using your voice is having the courage every day to use it and not being obsessed with the outcome.

By using my voice online through blogging and LinkedIn, I managed to get a 35,000 person bank to start talking about my ideas with staff and customers, and I was voted LinkedIn Australia’s Top Voice that year.

Using the power of your voice is the number one way you can change your country.

It’s in your experiences, ideas and thoughts that you can find what it is that can help your country.

In my country, Australia, we are quite well off, but we still lack a positive mindset. Some of us work jobs we hate and we like things that only money can buy. There’s a competition to get the biggest house or the most expensive car.

It’s not a problem everyone in Australia suffers from, but it’s widespread. I believe by using my own voice to inspire people to seek alternatives, I can change my country.

The results thus far suggest I’m well on the way to changing my country.


Be kind

Changing your country seems like a huge task. It sounds like something only a Nelson Mandela sort of fella can achieve. That’s not true.

A simple understanding of the power of kindness can change your country.

There was this guy I read about online that changed his country by giving out free hugs because he couldn’t run in the local marathon. He embraced his kind nature and ended up impacting millions of people in his country.

Being kind is infectious because we’re wired to do it. When we see one person be kind, we want to do the same.

The problem in my country (and many others) is that we’ve sacrificed kindness for greed.

We’ve let our country’s economy become the most important factor instead of measuring the way we treat people and the ability of a country’s nation to overcome adversity together.

Kindness is so important because every one of our countries will face adversity, and kindness is the solution to that inevitable problem.


Pick up the trash

This one seems even smaller in impact. It’s not.

I found that by picking up the rubbish I saw in places like my apartment lobby, I was able to show myself that I care about my country.

When we care about our country, we choose to make it look beautiful so others can enjoy it. Something simple like picking up the trash can take you a long way towards helping your country.

Every country has an environmental problem and picking up rubbish can help solve it. If we all picked up one piece of trash, then each of our country’s would be a hell of a lot cleaner.


Don’t think you can’t make your country better

A lot of what I’ve learned, by trying to make my own country better, has come from the belief that I can have an impact.

There are so many people who want to do nothing more than complain which wastes time and energy and doesn’t make anyone’s country better.

The way you make your country better is by believing you can and taking one or two small actions to start the process.

The people that change their country believe they can.

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