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5 Things Mentally Tough People Don’t Do

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Whether you are on the court or in the board room. Mental strength is demanded on a day to day basis for those in high profile positions. Athlete’s, CEO’s and risk hungry Entrepreneurs excel in their fields only by pursuing their goals with a thick skin and a high level of mental strength.

In this article, Sports and Performance Psychologist “Justin Sua” tells us what it takes to be mentally strong enough to take on the big wigs in the arena.

Are you mentally tough enough?

1) They don’t feel sorry for themselves

They understand that complaining doesn’t make the situation better.

They know that people won’t treat them the way they want to be treated, circumstances might not be ideal, and they will experience adversity; however, rather than complain about the negative aspects of their situation, they focus on what they want to happen and what they’re going to do about it.

2) They don’t give people power over them

They are not people pleasers.

They are relentless in their pursuit of their passion and aren’t worried about what other people think.

They give power to what they focus on, and if they waste their time focusing on the opinions of others, they lose sight of the things that will make them truly successful.

3) They don’t avoid change

They are always looking for ways to evolve. They believe that if they continue to give their best, their best will continue to get better over time.

With the competition continuing to get bigger, stronger, faster, and smarter; it’s important to have the mindset to improve by learning from successes and failures.

4) They don’t play small

The mentally tough swing for the fences and know that it might mean striking out a few times (or many times). Their purpose for achieving greatness casts away their fear of failure. They refuse to tip-toe through life, they intend on creating a legacy for the future by making an impact in the here-and-now.

5) They don’t focus on things they can’t control

They refuse to waste time focusing on things they can’t control because there is nothing they can do about it!

They understand that the less control a person feels the more susceptible they are to making poor decisions, falling into bad habits, and crumbling under pressure.

 

Muhammad Ali mental strength

Justin Su'a in an expert in sport and performance psychology, the author of, "Parent Pep Talks” and the Head of Mental Conditioning at the IMG Academy, the world-leading provider of athletic and personal development training programs for youth, adult, collegiate and professional athletes, located in Bradenton, Florida. Follow Justin on Twitter: @justinsua

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55 Comments

  1. Wordsmith

    Dec 21, 2015 at 1:47 pm

    The last sentence in the article really resonates with me and drives home the most important theme. In my opinion, the extent to which you feel empowered is the basis for your successes and failures. That’s why it’s so important to monitor your thoughts and do your best to weed out negativity and plant positive intentions throughout the day.

  2. quiropraxia 1

    Jan 20, 2015 at 10:50 pm

    Hi there colleagues, its enormous paragraph regarding educationand full explained, keep it up all the time.

  3. javed

    Apr 8, 2014 at 11:38 am

    was able to define myself…………? hahahaha

  4. pawan

    Feb 12, 2014 at 3:16 am

    Great great i would say…thanks.

  5. david sirmons

    Feb 9, 2014 at 7:50 pm

    Interesting, the people shown in this attempt to inspire. Arnold, in his Twentieth Anniversary Edition of Pumping Iron gave an interview for that DVD. In it, he spoke of how he did feel doubtful and would have been affected by adversities if they had happened during his competitive years, but lied to himself at the time. Ali rose to stardom becoming a champion…yep…and he now lives as an invalid because of severe brain damage. It happened because his confidence soon gave way to arrogance, to the point of verbally belittling his opponents publically. His ugliness toward opponents turned the competitions into personal vendettas, where opponents were literally trying to kill him. And nearly succeeded. The beatings he took from men he deliberately enraged cost him most of the use of his body. Neither person matches in totality to the points on this list. And there are non whom truly do. Yes, don’t focus on things you don’t control. Yes, don’t avoid change and don’t feel sorry for yourself. But being relentless in any given pursuit can lead one into ugly territory, where a pursuit is valued over character or decency. And swinging for the fences sounds great…just remember you only control your swing. The pitcher of Life controls the rest.

    • Tempie Brooks (@tabbrok)

      Feb 10, 2014 at 5:57 pm

      @ David…I agree with some of your opinions….yet we must be honest…out of all of Ali competitors who is still alive? I found that negative n pessimistic the statement u made that His arrogance allowed him to receive ceral palsy. It’s life for any athletic! N honestly Frazier was a good guybut He’s dead….George Foreman is probably Ali’s only opponent that’s still alive n He was several I believe atleast 10 years younger than Ali. I believe God chastise us for our sin but He also is loving, forgiven, merciful, n gracious. How can you judge Ali like that after all he has done for the country n sports world! But u are welcome to your opinion. Confidence yes Arrogance no…but who are you to say the difference? 1

    • sey

      Jan 20, 2015 at 8:20 am

      Ali took those beatings because he refused to lose. Boxers can be just as brutal when they are calm, some can be more efficient fighters in a less emotional state, executing techniques with better timing. It was his mental toughness that caused him to withstand those wars. Making his opponents angry didn’t expose him to a greater risk the rules were just the same.

  6. Chang

    Feb 7, 2014 at 4:57 pm

    Prayer beats them all.

  7. DTrevino

    Jan 31, 2014 at 1:21 am

    Focus is critical. It is easy to allow everyday challenges consume our mind. If we would release them, we could focus on the day’s tasks.

  8. Hugh O. Smith ★ (@HughOSmith)

    Nov 4, 2013 at 6:23 pm

    This changed my whole day! Thank you, thank you, thank you for posting this!!

  9. Sikeout

    Oct 27, 2013 at 8:11 pm

    Unfortunately, there are many people who have these same traits because they are self-centered (i.e.: psychopaths, narcissists).

    • Melissa

      Jan 20, 2015 at 6:27 am

      Interesting. Yes, that’s why mentally tough people can realize greatness and great harm.

  10. HappinessSavouredHot

    Oct 22, 2013 at 1:10 am

    It’s all about empowering ourselves, isn’t it? 🙂

  11. Sumit

    Oct 10, 2013 at 2:15 pm

    Great article for tough men..it is really touching

  12. cindy

    Oct 10, 2013 at 12:54 am

    This was great! I’m guilty of being a people pleaser. I stress out so much if I feel like I don’t click perfectly with someone. I need to not let others hold the power! Great tips! Love the not feeling sorry for yourself as well!

  13. Pratap Singh

    Oct 2, 2013 at 7:20 pm

    very good

  14. Penny

    Sep 26, 2013 at 7:48 am

    PRAYER! A powerfull and great conversation.

    • PhilosopherKing

      Dec 16, 2013 at 1:56 pm

      PRAYER? You have already given control over to entity. Reflection and occasional meditation to review and learn and clarity may come from this ‘quiet’ time but an imaginary friend is not needed unless you choose to write them into your ‘coping script’.

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Welcome to our new normal. A time in our lives that a year ago we certainly didn’t see coming that most of us probably wouldn’t have chosen for ourselves; but here we are. As the days away from each other carry on and more and more bad news comes our way, it’s easy to lose your motivation and waste energy doing things that aren’t helpful like worrying and fighting with people on the internet instead.

Nearly half of Americans report the coronavirus crisis is harming their mental health, according to the Washington Post. While many of us had routines set up to deal with stress in the past, the stress we are facing during this time is unlike anything we’ve experienced before. It’s easy to find yourself in a downward spiral, and that’s the most challenging time to stop the momentum and turn things around. If that’s the case, keep it simple and start to reach for little things to help you feel better and climb your way out.

Here’s a reminder of a few simple things you can do right now to start getting positive momentum going your way:

1. Find someone who was in a similar place and made it to the other side

Whether you’ve been unmotivated to workout, eat healthy, make sales calls or simply do anything, you can find someone who has been there and made it to the other side. Look up some great TED talks, go on YouTube and look up people that motivate you, google them to find their websites. There are short speeches and much longer talks all over the internet, you just need to find someone who you relate to that speaks to you.

2. Do something that you love

When we’re unmotivated, it’s easy to get out of the habit of doing what we love. Sometimes just getting out of bed or away from the tv feels like a chore. Think back to a time in your life when you felt great – what were you doing? What do you absolutely love to do that if you had the time, you would do all day and not realize any time had passed at all? 

Figure out a way to do whatever that is, or a modified version of it if it is something that you aren’t able to do at the present time. Spending time doing what you love will get your mind off of anything that is wrong and allow you to find inspiration.

“If something is important enough, even if the odds are stacked against you, you should still do it.” – Elon Musk

3. Don’t overcomplicate it

Keep it simple. When we’re stuck in a rut, we’ll give ourselves every excuse to not do something. Say you’ve gained some weight; you might tell yourself you need to find the perfect trainer and wait until you have time to cook your meals from scratch each night before you do anything else. Stop trying to overcomplicate it and keep it simple by finding one thing you can do right now, however small that may be. You don’t have to wait until the timing is perfect and the stars align for you to start moving in the direction you want to go.  

4. Get up and get moving

This is probably the last thing you want to do right now, but once you are up and moving, your blood will start flowing. The hardest part is getting started. Day one, get up and do anything to get moving. This is the hardest day if you haven’t in a while because getting up is really the hardest part. Day two, do a little more. Once you start, you’ll build momentum and get back in the habit.

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It’s so easy for worry to set in and for our minds to wander to places of what we can’t control. This is not motivating or helpful and we always have a choice to redirect our attention. There is always something we can do right where we are, so bring your focus to the solution instead of the problem and figure out the next step of what you can do. 

One step at a time. Step one, take your attention away from what you can’t control and what you can’t do. Step two, ask yourself questions like “What can I do?” and see what comes to mind. Follow through with the answers you find.

6. Listen to your favorite music

Not much can lift our spirits and put us into a positive vibration more than our favorite music. Feel free to sing along. Find a song that pumps you up and make that your theme song. Put it on anytime you feel down or unmotivated.

7. Expand your knowledge

“In times of change, the learners will inherit the Earth, while the learned find themselves beautifully equipped to deal with a world that no longer exists.” Quote by Eric Hoffer. In times of change, there is great loss but also great opportunity. Continually learning opens you to new opportunities and leads you to paths you may not have otherwise found.  

“Work like there is someone working twenty four hours a day to take it away from you.” – Mark Cuban

8. Meditate

If you’re already a meditator and got away from it, take some time to come back to it. If you’ve never tried, it can be as easy as setting a timer for five minutes (or less, feel free to start with one or two minutes) and focusing on your breath. Listen to the inhalations and exhalations. Silently say to yourself “in” as you inhale and “out” as you exhale. Even taking a few minutes to do this can help you to calm down and allow your mind to refocus.

When we’re unmotivated, our momentum starts moving in the other direction. Slow down that momentum by trying one of the ideas above. Once you’ve slowed down the momentum, get it moving in the right direction and you’ll be well on your way.

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