Everyone falls down once in a while. We shouldn’t let defeat, failure or making mistakes overcome us because some things are just meant to be. Accepting moments as they happen and as they are will lead to your own self-liberation and a path towards something better.
By chasing my dreams I will incur defeat and loss along the way but that should not stop me in continuing to strive for my passion in life. This continuous belief will help you overcome defeat. Maybe you have been built to encounter such test and defeats to know what you can overcome.
Here are five ways to rise from defeat:
1. Remember why you started
Every time you encounter defeat you are forced to dig deep and look for energy reserves, passion, and belief in chasing your dreams. Constantly asking myself what’s my why? My why is refusing to be average; to inspire and motivate others, through my work and character. There are much bigger causes in the world that require our attention as opposed to focusing on just you.
There is a reason behind everything and you will discover it at the right time. We are not aware of the clockworks of the universe. It slowly ticks away and we face new obstacles in our path requiring constant affirmation, belief and hope that anything is possible. Every obstacle is a reminder to go back and reignite that spark when you first began your journey.
2. Get up and try again
The more time spent on focussing on the past the less time you have for improvement and becoming successful. There is no need to be melodramatic when things don’t go as planned. Use the time ahead to your advantage and try as many times as you can to make your breakthrough. Ask yourself if what you’re doing is getting you closer to your goal.
Success is the by-product of small efforts coming together as one. Nature’s law shows us that good things come in time and if you wish to see change then put effort in harvesting the seeds that you have planted. The advice is simple; get up, show up, and be ready for your next bout.
“Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is to try just one more time.” – Thomas Edison
3. Silence the voices
Voices reside in our minds as doubts, which build up as fear and worry us about what is next. Added pressure also comes from what others will say about you. The only person you should aspire to be is a better version of yourself. You won’t do yourself any good if you’re constantly gaining other people’s appreciation to make yourself feel better because if you incur failure it leads to a cycle of destruction.
Part of success is learning how to control pain and using it to build strength. That control is won by counteracting negative thoughts on a daily basis with positive energy. Gain positive energy right away with “I can do it”, “I will do it” spirit. Just a little positivity goes a long way and makes your goal more clear.
4. Find support
Your confidence is shaken so you avoid talking to people because it hurts to elaborate on the way things unfolded. Creating a framework of support from extrinsic motivators like family, friends, and mentors will provide fuel for your motivation. Admitting defeat and talking about it is self-liberating and a source of building courage.
Ask your peers how they overcome obstacles and I’m sure their stories will be a source of inspiration and motivation. Therefore you must engage in important conversations; work together and ask as many questions as possible to get that spark to reinvigorate your confidence again. It is tough trying to make it on your own and that’s why success sometimes isn’t an all alone thing it is an altogether thing.
5. Learn patience the right way
In order to adapt to sudden defeat, treat it as a temporary process because it becomes easier to handle. There is no finish line to failure and see it as a continuing process where you can grow. You may think that continuing on is hopeless but patience teaches one to act differently and by not being bitter.
All you have to do is work hard on planning. You will rise again because the fruits of your labour don’t always become evident but more that your patience is required. Nurture your dreams with patience and get ready to shine.
“Patience is not the ability to wait, but the ability to keep a good attitude while waiting” – Joyce Meyer
We all carry a massive weight on our shoulders and it feels as if the world has come to an end. Defeat it is just a small thing, so let go. The world goes on regardless and you still exist. Failure offers you a new perspective and a new breath in life to say to yourself: it’s ok.
Think of a spectrum; somebody out there on one end doesn’t have the same opportunities as you so in that regard feel blessed and humbled that you have something.
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How to Stay Motivated to Achieve Your Goals
Time is the raw material of our lives. How we choose to spend it, shapes our life accordingly. So having the motivation to spend it on achieving goals is crucial to creating a life we want.
What is Motivation?
The Oxford dictionary defines motivation as the desire or willingness to do something – our drive to take action.
Scientifically, motivation has its roots in the dopamine pathways of our brains. When we do something that feels good, that’s dopamine kicking in. Our actions are driven by the desire for that reward (the good feeling).
Author Steven Pressfield describes motivation more practically. He says we hit a point where the pain of not doing something becomes greater than the pain of doing it. He sees motivation as crossing the threshold where it’s easier to take action than it is to be idle. Like choosing to feel awkward while making sales calls over feeling disappointed about a diminishing bank account.
However you choose to think about it, we all want to harness motivation to achieve our goals.
How to Get Motivated
James Clear, the author of Atomic Habits, says that most people misunderstand motivation. They think that motivation is what gets us to take action. In reality, motivation is often the result of action, not the cause of it. Once we start a task, it’s easier to continue making progress. Like Isaac Newton’s first law: objects in motion stay in motion.
This means most of the resistance when working on your goals comes right before we start. Since motivation naturally occurs after we start, we need to focus on making starting easier.
4 Ways to Make Starting Easier
1. Schedule it
One reason people can’t get started on things is that they haven’t planned when to do it.
When things aren’t scheduled it’s easier for them to fall by the wayside. You’ll end up hoping motivation falls in your lap or hoping that you’ll muster enough willpower to get it done.
An article in the Guardian said, “If you waste resources trying to decide when or where to work, you’ll impede your capacity to do the work.”
2. Measure something
It’s easy to feel uninspired when you don’t know if you’re making progress or what you’re even working towards. That’s why you need to make your success measurable in some way. Starting is easy when you know exactly how much closer your current actions will bring you to achieving your goal.
3. Extrinsic motivation
This type of motivation is from external factors. It can be either positive or negative. Positive motivation consists of incentives like money, prizes, and grades. Negative motivation consists of deterrents like being fired, having a fight, or being fined. Extrinsic motivation doesn’t work effectively long-term, but it can work well in the short term to get you started on something.
4. Make it public
Keep yourself accountable by telling friends and family your goals, or even sharing them on social media. This makes it easier to start something because you’re pressured to not let others down.
How to Stay Motivated Long Term
When we say we want to feel motivated to do something, we don’t want to be pushed or guilted into doing a task. We want to be so attracted and drawn to the idea that we can’t resist not taking action. That’s why it’s important to build a foundation that will set you up for consistency.
These are 5 techniques that will help you do just that:
1. Stay in your goldilocks zone
The goldilocks zone is when a task is the perfect level of difficulty—not too hard and not too easy. In this zone, we reach peak motivation and focus.
For example, let’s say you’re playing a serious tennis match against a 4-year-old. On this level of difficulty, you’ll quickly become bored and not want to play. Now let’s say you’re playing a serious tennis match against Serena Williams. On this level of difficulty, you’ll quickly become demotivated because the match is too challenging.
The Goldilocks zone is in the middle of that spectrum. You want to face someone with equal skill as you. That way you have a chance to win, but you have to focus and try for it. Adjusting your workload and goals over time to stay within your Goldilocks zone keeps you engaged and motivated long-term.
2. Pursue intrinsically motivated goals
Being intrinsically motivated to achieve a goal is when you want to achieve it for what it is. There are no external factors like a reward or the risk of being fired. The drive behind your actions is coming from within.
For most intrinsic goals we pursue them because they will enrich our lives or bring us closer to fulfillment. That makes these goals extremely sustainable long-term because they directly affect our quality of life and the things we care about.
3. Use “chunking”
Chunking is the technique of breaking down a goal into smaller short-term targets. By doing this you achieve multiple successes in your pursuit of the main goal. This triggers the brain’s reward system and drives you to keep going.
Traditionally, you may set a goal that you expect to achieve in one year. That’s a long time to commit without seeing any results along the way. By chunking your goals into monthly or quarterly targets, you get the consistent positive reinforcement you need to stay motivated long-term.
For example, instead of trying to lose 50 pounds in one year, try to lose 4 pounds every month for 12 months.
4. Be flexible
We’re all victims of circumstance. Things happen along our journey that we can either adjust to or quit because of. That’s why it’s important to have leeway and flexibility when you’re pursuing a goal. If you expect everything to go perfectly, the inevitable failure can make you disengaged and desireless. When you plan for things to go wrong, you make sure you can keep up for the long haul.
5. Pursue your goals in a sustainable fashion
Don’t lose hope when you’re not an overnight success. Overnight successes are the 1%—for the most part, they don’t exist. What we see as an “overnight success” is actually countless hours of work behind the scenes finally hitting a tipping point. Pursuing goals is a story of patience, persistence, and unseen effort.
Don’t compare yourself to others. Comparison is a recipe for a drop in self-confidence and satisfaction. It also cultivates a mindset where you think you haven’t done enough. As a result, you may raise your expectations and put more pressure on yourself.
This is pointless because things worth achieving take time. So we obviously won’t compare to the things around us when starting.
Mastering motivation is a superpower. With that ability at your fingertips, you can accomplish your goals and shape a life you want to live in.
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