Fear is a reality of human life whether we like it or not. There are many factors that can invoke fear within us, such as: our immediate environment, business dealings, relationships and many other aggravating life occurrences.
If you allow it to, fear can paralyze your everyday forward movement by influencing your thinking and responses to everyday life occurrences. On the flip side, do you know that you can turn your fears into a source of inspiration to do more and be more in life?
Here are 5 steps to embrace your struggles and conquer your fears to lead a happier more fulfilling life:
1. Acknowledge your fears
The first step to handling and conquering your fears is acknowledging what truly makes you anxious and fearful. Doing so will help you separate the unfounded fears from those that actually warrant your concerns. Remember, fear itself, has also been known as, false evidence against reality.
When you analyze your fears, it will help you understand whatever agitates you doesn’t actually have to happen. More so, you’ll be able to develop some fail safes to cushion yourself for the worst case scenarios. For instance, if your biggest fear is losing your job, you can go ahead and position yourself both psychologically and financially for the instance it does happen. Remember, always adopt the mentality of looking at the glass half full, one door always closes for another bigger and better door to open.
“One of the greatest discoveries a man makes, one of his great surprises, is to find he can do what he was afraid he couldn’t do.” – Henry Ford
2. Embrace your mistakes
We are all prone to err at some point in life. But it’s only when we embrace our wrongdoings that we can actually rectify the misdeeds and move on in life. According to Carol Dweck, a Stanford psychologist, individuals who readily embrace their mistakes are more likely to be successful in comparison to those who live in denial. In fact, accepting one’s misdeeds is an integral step to developing a growth mindset.
In a nutshell, having an open mind when it comes to owning up to your mistakes helps explore new options in life without the fear of failing. That way, failure comes along not as a catastrophe, but a vital data point that can help you far into the future.
3. Erase negative imprints in your life
Some traumatic occurrences in life can no doubt leave you shaken and fearful. If you have ever been in an accident, for instance, driving a car may stroke fear within you. Or perhaps you have a failed business venture and just the thought of getting started again evoked a fight or flight response.
After all, it’s natural for human beings to avoid circumstances that have previously put them in harm’s way. It’s important to understand that some things in life are unavoidable and that you need to overcome the fear if you want to lead a quality life that’s not dogged by your past issues. You can best achieve this by erasing all negative occurrences registered in your mind and consequently focusing on what propels you forward. If you take the loss of the business that happened a year ago as a learning experience , for instance, you’ll be able to fail forward fast, pick yourself up by the bootstraps and carry on to your next venture.
“Once you replace negative thoughts with positive ones, you’ll start having positive results.” – Willie Nelson
4. Learn to say no
Many of our worries originate from having to deal with non-complex situations that we could say no to right from the start. Often time’s people feel compelled to respond immediately to Facebook messages, emails and meetings that are not of high priority and essentially add to missed deadlines, poorly done work and of course the fear of losing business.
It’s most people’s goal to not be seen as rude and uncooperative, but it’s only fair to respond with a no when the circumstances demand. As Seth Godin once said, you make your partners temporarily happy by a cheap yes or you can simply change your world by saying no quite often.
5. Ask For Help
It doesn’t matter who you are or what you do, at one point or another in life we all need help with something. The most successful people in the world today know that if they are the smartest person in their sphere of influence, then they need to level up their associations. Asking for help shows you are a reasonable, coachable HUMAN being. Asking for help allows for you to avoid the same mistakes others have had and essentially can reduce your fear of failure.
Bottom Line, embracing you fears is a magic wand to prosperity and goal achievement. As you start to recognize what makes you anxious and fearful, you’ll develop the skills to conquer it. As you continue to grow, you’ll learn how to embrace your struggles, develop a failsafe strategy and conquer all your fears.
How will you conquer your fears? Please leave your thoughts in the comment section below!
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How to Stay Motivated to Achieve Your Goals
Time is the raw material of our lives. How we choose to spend it, shapes our life accordingly. So having the motivation to spend it on achieving goals is crucial to creating a life we want.
What is Motivation?
The Oxford dictionary defines motivation as the desire or willingness to do something – our drive to take action.
Scientifically, motivation has its roots in the dopamine pathways of our brains. When we do something that feels good, that’s dopamine kicking in. Our actions are driven by the desire for that reward (the good feeling).
Author Steven Pressfield describes motivation more practically. He says we hit a point where the pain of not doing something becomes greater than the pain of doing it. He sees motivation as crossing the threshold where it’s easier to take action than it is to be idle. Like choosing to feel awkward while making sales calls over feeling disappointed about a diminishing bank account.
However you choose to think about it, we all want to harness motivation to achieve our goals.
How to Get Motivated
James Clear, the author of Atomic Habits, says that most people misunderstand motivation. They think that motivation is what gets us to take action. In reality, motivation is often the result of action, not the cause of it. Once we start a task, it’s easier to continue making progress. Like Isaac Newton’s first law: objects in motion stay in motion.
This means most of the resistance when working on your goals comes right before we start. Since motivation naturally occurs after we start, we need to focus on making starting easier.
4 Ways to Make Starting Easier
1. Schedule it
One reason people can’t get started on things is that they haven’t planned when to do it.
When things aren’t scheduled it’s easier for them to fall by the wayside. You’ll end up hoping motivation falls in your lap or hoping that you’ll muster enough willpower to get it done.
An article in the Guardian said, “If you waste resources trying to decide when or where to work, you’ll impede your capacity to do the work.”
2. Measure something
It’s easy to feel uninspired when you don’t know if you’re making progress or what you’re even working towards. That’s why you need to make your success measurable in some way. Starting is easy when you know exactly how much closer your current actions will bring you to achieving your goal.
3. Extrinsic motivation
This type of motivation is from external factors. It can be either positive or negative. Positive motivation consists of incentives like money, prizes, and grades. Negative motivation consists of deterrents like being fired, having a fight, or being fined. Extrinsic motivation doesn’t work effectively long-term, but it can work well in the short term to get you started on something.
4. Make it public
Keep yourself accountable by telling friends and family your goals, or even sharing them on social media. This makes it easier to start something because you’re pressured to not let others down.
How to Stay Motivated Long Term
When we say we want to feel motivated to do something, we don’t want to be pushed or guilted into doing a task. We want to be so attracted and drawn to the idea that we can’t resist not taking action. That’s why it’s important to build a foundation that will set you up for consistency.
These are 5 techniques that will help you do just that:
1. Stay in your goldilocks zone
The goldilocks zone is when a task is the perfect level of difficulty—not too hard and not too easy. In this zone, we reach peak motivation and focus.
For example, let’s say you’re playing a serious tennis match against a 4-year-old. On this level of difficulty, you’ll quickly become bored and not want to play. Now let’s say you’re playing a serious tennis match against Serena Williams. On this level of difficulty, you’ll quickly become demotivated because the match is too challenging.
The Goldilocks zone is in the middle of that spectrum. You want to face someone with equal skill as you. That way you have a chance to win, but you have to focus and try for it. Adjusting your workload and goals over time to stay within your Goldilocks zone keeps you engaged and motivated long-term.
2. Pursue intrinsically motivated goals
Being intrinsically motivated to achieve a goal is when you want to achieve it for what it is. There are no external factors like a reward or the risk of being fired. The drive behind your actions is coming from within.
For most intrinsic goals we pursue them because they will enrich our lives or bring us closer to fulfillment. That makes these goals extremely sustainable long-term because they directly affect our quality of life and the things we care about.
3. Use “chunking”
Chunking is the technique of breaking down a goal into smaller short-term targets. By doing this you achieve multiple successes in your pursuit of the main goal. This triggers the brain’s reward system and drives you to keep going.
Traditionally, you may set a goal that you expect to achieve in one year. That’s a long time to commit without seeing any results along the way. By chunking your goals into monthly or quarterly targets, you get the consistent positive reinforcement you need to stay motivated long-term.
For example, instead of trying to lose 50 pounds in one year, try to lose 4 pounds every month for 12 months.
4. Be flexible
We’re all victims of circumstance. Things happen along our journey that we can either adjust to or quit because of. That’s why it’s important to have leeway and flexibility when you’re pursuing a goal. If you expect everything to go perfectly, the inevitable failure can make you disengaged and desireless. When you plan for things to go wrong, you make sure you can keep up for the long haul.
5. Pursue your goals in a sustainable fashion
Don’t lose hope when you’re not an overnight success. Overnight successes are the 1%—for the most part, they don’t exist. What we see as an “overnight success” is actually countless hours of work behind the scenes finally hitting a tipping point. Pursuing goals is a story of patience, persistence, and unseen effort.
Don’t compare yourself to others. Comparison is a recipe for a drop in self-confidence and satisfaction. It also cultivates a mindset where you think you haven’t done enough. As a result, you may raise your expectations and put more pressure on yourself.
This is pointless because things worth achieving take time. So we obviously won’t compare to the things around us when starting.
Mastering motivation is a superpower. With that ability at your fingertips, you can accomplish your goals and shape a life you want to live in.
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