Life
The New Realities of Living Your Best Life

When people think about creating success in life, their focus tends to be on the work it will take to accomplish their goals. They think about the daily grind that creates healthy habits and leads to a better life.
As you do the work, what you might not be preparing for is what life will be like once you accomplish your goals. The grind puts blinders on so you can focus. Living an elevated life is a very different reality.
People think an infusion of more money, better relationships, more friends, a burst of happiness, and other success goals accomplished would be a dream come true, yet rapid or unplanned growth would cripple most people.
You have to be willing to put in the work to create success because the work prepares you for the realities that success can bring. You envision your dream life, you live it out in your mind, and then you work hard to accomplish it. Don’t put yourself in the position to let growth and accomplishing your goals work against you.
“Don’t go through life, grow through life.” – Eric Butterworth
Here’s what you need to understand about the new realities of living your best life and the strategies to continue your growth:
1. You’ll have to be firm about your boundaries.
As you accomplish your goals, you will become more visible. Whether that’s through social media or those in your circle take notice — there will be more eyeballs on you. Success gives off magnetic energy that others will want to gravitate around.
It’s important to have boundaries and always be firm about them. If you always gave your time and energy to those who want it — you’ll lose that time and energy for yourself. A lack of boundaries and the discipline to keep them has stunted many-a-leaders growth.
Freedom means you can give parts of yourself but on your terms and in a manner that makes you comfortable. To continue your growth, be firm about your boundaries and don’t feel bad about saying no if you want to.
2. You’ll understand the difference between self-centered vs. selfish.
If you’ve been on a flight, you’ve no doubt heard in the safety presentation that you should put on your mask first before helping others. It’s the same principle in your everyday life. You have to put yourself first and look after your needs before you start thinking about others.
There’s a big difference between being self-centered and selfish.
The selfish person is all about themselves to the inclusion of others no matter what the circumstance is. People in their life could be struggling, and they wouldn’t care as long as they’re okay.
Being self-centered means, you put yourself first and then think about others. You care and are compassionate but understand that you can help others much more when you’re coming from a position of strength and wholeness.
If you’re going to create success and accomplish your goals, you have to incorporate habits that support your self-care. You have to love yourself by taking care of yourself first. Take care of your mind, body, and emotions. Do the work, rest, relax, and give yourself everything you need to become stronger — and then be stronger for others.
3. Your focus on optimization will turn off a lot of people.
Being focused on growth means less time for things that don’t align with your goals and values. It means being hyper-focused on the optimization habits that help you become one percent better each day.
That hyper-focus can come off as if you don’t care about the same things other people do or that you’re a robot. The thing to understand about focus and goals is that they have to be yours. Other people’s opinions and thoughts about how you should be living your life aren’t for you and not the path to success.
Stay hungry for optimization and growth. Pursue your specific path to success and avoid internalizing other people’s opinions of you. The new reality of success is that it can be a lonely road in which people drop off — that’s okay. You can find a circle of high-performers that want growth just as much as you do.
The path to success isn’t easy, but it’s possible and leads to a fantastic life. The new realities shouldn’t scare you because a life of success has so many benefits. The critical thing to understand is the importance of loving yourself and taking the best care of you.
You are the most significant goal to work on and achieve. You deserve incredible life experiences and can accomplish more than your limiting beliefs try to convince you is possible.
“Don’t be pushed by your problems, be led by your dreams.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
How are you living your best life this year? Share your stories & thoughts with us below!
Life
The Imbalanced Problem with Work/Life Balance
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Failing is More Important Than Succeeding
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Life
5 Indicators of Unresolved Attachment Trauma

Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.
Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.
Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.
Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.
However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.
Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:
1. Unconscious Sabotage
Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.
This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.
Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.
This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.
3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma
4. A strong need for control
5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained
What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?
There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:
- Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
- Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
- Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
- Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
- Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.
It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.
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