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The New Realities of Living Your Best Life

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When people think about creating success in life, their focus tends to be on the work it will take to accomplish their goals. They think about the daily grind that creates healthy habits and leads to a better life.

As you do the work, what you might not be preparing for is what life will be like once you accomplish your goals. The grind puts blinders on so you can focus. Living an elevated life is a very different reality. 

People think an infusion of more money, better relationships, more friends, a burst of happiness, and other success goals accomplished would be a dream come true, yet rapid or unplanned growth would cripple most people.

You have to be willing to put in the work to create success because the work prepares you for the realities that success can bring. You envision your dream life, you live it out in your mind, and then you work hard to accomplish it. Don’t put yourself in the position to let growth and accomplishing your goals work against you.

“Don’t go through life, grow through life.” – Eric Butterworth 

Here’s what you need to understand about the new realities of living your best life and the strategies to continue your growth:

1. You’ll have to be firm about your boundaries.

As you accomplish your goals, you will become more visible. Whether that’s through social media or those in your circle take notice — there will be more eyeballs on you. Success gives off magnetic energy that others will want to gravitate around. 

It’s important to have boundaries and always be firm about them. If you always gave your time and energy to those who want it — you’ll lose that time and energy for yourself. A lack of boundaries and the discipline to keep them has stunted many-a-leaders growth. 

Freedom means you can give parts of yourself but on your terms and in a manner that makes you comfortable. To continue your growth, be firm about your boundaries and don’t feel bad about saying no if you want to

2. You’ll understand the difference between self-centered vs. selfish. 

If you’ve been on a flight, you’ve no doubt heard in the safety presentation that you should put on your mask first before helping others. It’s the same principle in your everyday life. You have to put yourself first and look after your needs before you start thinking about others. 

There’s a big difference between being self-centered and selfish. 

The selfish person is all about themselves to the inclusion of others no matter what the circumstance is. People in their life could be struggling, and they wouldn’t care as long as they’re okay.

Being self-centered means, you put yourself first and then think about others. You care and are compassionate but understand that you can help others much more when you’re coming from a position of strength and wholeness. 

If you’re going to create success and accomplish your goals, you have to incorporate habits that support your self-care. You have to love yourself by taking care of yourself first. Take care of your mind, body, and emotions. Do the work, rest, relax, and give yourself everything you need to become stronger — and then be stronger for others. 

3. Your focus on optimization will turn off a lot of people. 

Being focused on growth means less time for things that don’t align with your goals and values. It means being hyper-focused on the optimization habits that help you become one percent better each day.

That hyper-focus can come off as if you don’t care about the same things other people do or that you’re a robot. The thing to understand about focus and goals is that they have to be yours. Other people’s opinions and thoughts about how you should be living your life aren’t for you and not the path to success.

Stay hungry for optimization and growth. Pursue your specific path to success and avoid internalizing other people’s opinions of you. The new reality of success is that it can be a lonely road in which people drop off — that’s okay. You can find a circle of high-performers that want growth just as much as you do. 

The path to success isn’t easy, but it’s possible and leads to a fantastic life. The new realities shouldn’t scare you because a life of success has so many benefits. The critical thing to understand is the importance of loving yourself and taking the best care of you. 

You are the most significant goal to work on and achieve. You deserve incredible life experiences and can accomplish more than your limiting beliefs try to convince you is possible. 

“Don’t be pushed by your problems, be led by your dreams.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

How are you living your best life this year? Share your stories & thoughts with us below!

Jason Portnoy is a serial entrepreneur, podcast host, and founder of one of the premier digital marketing agencies. Before creating magic for other brands, Jason launched True Rivalry in 2012. He leveraged social media and digital marketing to grow True Rivalry into a presence in over 250 retail stores across North America, with celebrity fans and appearances on TV shows and movies. Jason knows digital marketing and he's passionate about helping businesses get results. He's an award-winning digital marketing agency owner. Join him at jportnoy.com.

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Knowing Your Message vs Delivering Your Message

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Have you ever sent a text message only to have it misinterpreted by the person reading it? Happens all the time. Have you ever given a presentation that you were totally prepared for only to have it fall flat? Happens all the time. Have you ever had someone ask you something like, “Why are you mad?” when you were not at all mad? Happens all the time. (more…)

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The 3 Most Important Things I Learned About Personal Growth

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When you look back on your life, what do you want to think about? Do you plan to reminisce on all of the good things that have happened and how they shaped who you are today? Or would you rather remember all of the bad decisions, challenging experiences, and mistakes made that hurt or wasted a portion of your life?

In my opinion, I think it is important to reflect on both. While it’s important to remember the hardships we’ve been through in our lives – without them we wouldn’t be where we are now. There are 3 very specific areas that I feel have helped me grow in a personal sense more than anything else in my life so far. 

These aren’t simple lessons in a book or a lecture that you can just absorb and apply to your life. These are things that I’ve learned through experience and reflection, and I’m still learning and growing today.

1. We determine how much we’re worth by what we think about ourselves, others, and life in general.

This might seem like a pretty obvious lesson in life but it’s actually one of the most important because we can determine our own worth by how we think about ourselves and the world around us. If you’re looking for success in any kind of business or social setting (dating), then I’ll tell you right now that it doesn’t matter if you have 10 billion dollars or not – people are still going to judge you based on your thoughts and beliefs alone.

What determines our value isn’t necessarily what we do with our lives (which is often based on luck) but whether or not we believe that ‘our work’ is worthy or not in some sort of grand scheme or universe. We may not always be able to control what happens in our lives, but we can always control how we value ourselves and others.

“Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better.” – Maya Angelou

2. You don’t have to change your habits or personality just because someone else doesn’t like it – their opinions are THEIRS alone.

This is another one of those lessons that people tend to pick up on a little bit late in life, but if anything that makes its importance even worse! Basically, there’s going to come a time when you’re going to meet someone who has certain expectations of you as a person…but these expectations might not be realistic due to their motivations and personal beliefs. For example, sometimes parents might expect you to be a lawyer or doctor because that’s what they believe is best for their child.

However, this isn’t the case for everyone and so maybe your passion lies in music or writing novels. In this example, if you were also pressured into becoming a doctor – then there would obviously be some kind of conflict going on within yourself as a person. You should never have to give up something that you want to do just because someone else doesn’t like it! The reason why we’re put onto this Earth is to make our own choices and go after our OWN dreams instead of letting others determine what we can and cannot do with our lives .

3. You can’t change your life until you accept that you need to make a change.

When I was younger, I thought that this lesson would be pretty obvious – but as I got older, it really made me appreciate the fact that there are always different ways of perceiving our lives. For example, if someone wants to become rich and famous one day – their mind might simply overshadow any other possibility in their head because they feel like this is what they NEED to do right now.

However, this isn’t always true within our own lives because we think about things too literally instead of having an open mind. If you want to achieve success in any kind of business or social setting (dating) then you should be willing to try out different things instead of staying in your comfort zone. If you want something, then it’s up to YOU to actually go after it – nobody else is going to give it to you!

The three lessons above are some of the main things I want to pass on to everyone because they’ve come at an important time in my life where I need to start thinking about others instead of only myself. It’s great if we can learn to love ourselves first before anything else, but that doesn’t mean you should neglect everyone around you even though they might be your friends and family members!

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Building a business is about more than sales, marketing, and flexing on social media. While those things tend to draw attention, they attract the wrong type of clients and are not how you build a sustainable and freedom-focused business. (more…)

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Practicing Self-Devotion: 3 Ways Towards a More Mindful and Compassionate You

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I can still hear the voices of my older relatives and my elementary school teachers telling me “be disciplined”, “keep at it”, to give time and energy towards what we want. As a young, impressionable child, I believed all those things because well, they made sense. They worked. And honestly, I felt like it’s the only way to flourish. (more…)

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