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The Ultimate Burnout Cure You Never Knew About

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Burnout has become so commonplace that we don’t realize it until we’ve hit a crashing point. This crashing point can feel like a brick wall closing in on us, slowing us down and blocking us from getting up. If you’re tired of carrying this heavy weight on your shoulders, keep reading to learn the ultimate cure for preventing and recovering from burnout.

Let’s start with what burnout is exactly. Burnout is when we have chronic stress and don’t manage it well. It happens from overextending ourselves past our limits. From overworking, overthinking, and overdoing. It affects our energy levels, our moods, our actions, and how we show up. Not to mention it just feels plain crappy!

When we feel crappy it can feel debilitating or impossible to come out of it. The good news is, burnout isn’t permanent, and there’s something we can do to shift it. If burnout comes from not managing our stress well, then the opposite will cure it, managing our stress better.

The Cure To Burnout

The cure to burnout is extreme self-care. Not the kind of self-care you might be used to – the image of mani-pedis and margaritas. Although a fun activity, it won’t give you long lasting effects. For a longer term solution we’re going to have to dig deeper.

We need a solution that nurtures your WHOLE SELF, not just a portion of it. That solution is an integrated self-care practice. A self-care practice that is rooted in your daily routine and nurtures your mind, body, spirit, and environment. 

Most of us have heard about body wellness – in terms of eating right and exercising, but what about the other components? The lack of care for our mind, spirit, and environment are negatively contributing to our stress levels. Building a self-care practice that covers all of these components will reduce and prevent burnout.

“The land of burnout is not a place I ever want to go back to.” – Arianna Huffington

Building Your Self-Care Practice

Ready to build your personalized self-care practice? Before you sigh and say you don’t have time for yet another thing on your to-do list, here’s what you want to remember: self-care brings time back to you. So if you feel short on time, this is the solution to give you more time. When you care for yourself, you have more energy, more clarity, and more focus. This reduces the time you spend in confusion, indecision, and worry. If you’re not sold yet, try it for yourself and see what results you get. 

To build your self-care practice you have to know yourself deeply because your practice will be unique to you. What relaxes one person, might be stressful for another. Think about cooking for example. For some, this might be the most relaxing, nirvana activity. For others, the idea of preparing dinner makes them want to pull their hair out. 

Building the perfect plan for you, requires self-discovery work. Below you will find some questions to help you understand yourself better to create a plan that matches your style. 

Questions to help you build your self-care practice

  • Do I have a self-care practice right now? 
  • If yes, how can I enhance my self-care practice to help me reduce stress and thrive? 
  • If not, what would an ideal self-care practice look like for me?
  • What is important to me?
  • What gives me joy?
  • What fills up my cup?
  • What recharges me?
  • What kind of environment do I thrive in?
  • Where and when do I feel the most relaxed?
  • What calms my spirit?
  • Where in my day can I add 10 minute breaks?

The answers to these questions will help you develop your unique self-care practice. See where in your day you can take breaks, or simply decide to take breaks. Once you create those pockets of time, add in intentional 10 minute joy breaks throughout your day with the activities that relax and recharge you. For some that may be taking a walk in nature, basking in the sun. For others that may be dancing to music, cuddling with their dog. Make your self-care practice yours. Make it fun. Make it joyful.

“If you get tired, learn to rest, not to quit.” – Banksy

Living Your Self-Care Practice

Integrating your self-care practice into your daily routine is what will ensure you live it. If a daily routine sounds overwhelming, start with 1 day a week. Commit to a self-care practice at least one day in the week, then challenge yourself to add more days in each week. Take a moment every week to evaluate how it’s going for you. Notice how you feel before and after your intentional breaks. Notice what it’s adding to your life. And pay attention to your energy levels throughout the day.

Over time you will notice the mental, spiritual, and physical benefits you are gaining and you’ll find yourself drawn to incorporate self-care daily. Think of this self-care practice as natural medicine, joy, and life you are bringing back to yourself. Having your cup full will allow you to live the life you truly want. It will allow you to be present for the moments and people that are important to you. Because of self-care, you will be happier, fuller, and more in alignment to your truth. Cheers to building and living a self-care practice that will not only reduce burnout but also add joy to your daily life.

How do you avoid burning out in your life? Share your thoughts with us below!

Aditi Ramchandani equips working professionals with tools to prevent burnout and create the personal success and happiness they desire. Aditi became an Emotional Wellness Speaker & Coach after years of battling with her own depression, burnout, and a half paralyzed face at age 20 due to stress! It is her personal mission to equip others with the wellness tools that were never taught in school. She loves to travel, speak, and teach around the world at in-person and online events. Grab her complimentary Stress Less digital guide at www.aditicreative.com/stressless and follow her for more tips on Instagram at: instagram.com/aditicreative

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5 Indicators of Unresolved Attachment Trauma

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Emotional Attachment Trauma

Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.

Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.

Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.

Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.

However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.

 

Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:

 

1.  Unconscious Sabotage

Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.

This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.

Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.

This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.

 

2. Persistent Pain

 
Chronic pain is a common symptom that can stem from early trauma. Studies have shown a connection between physical conditions such as fibromyalgia, headaches, gastrointestinal issues, insomnia, muscle aches, back pain, chest pain, and chronic fatigue with the aftermath of chronic developmental trauma, particularly physical abuse.
 
Research has found that individuals with insecure attachment styles, such as anxious, avoidant, or disorganized, have a higher incidence of somatic symptoms and a history of physical and emotional abuse in childhood compared to those with a secure attachment style.
 
 

3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma

 
Trauma blocking practises are used to avoid the pain and memories connected with traumatic events.
 
Emotional numbing, avoidance, and escape via briefly pleasurable activities that distract from terrible memories or suffering are common examples. Unfortunately, this escape habit stops people from successfully processing and recovering from their trauma.
 
Furthermore, when the pain resurfaces, more and more diversions are necessary to continue ignoring it. This can be seen in compulsive behaviours such as drug or alcohol addiction, emotional eating, numbing oneself through relationships, workaholism, excessive or dangerous exercise routines, compulsive internet or technology use, or any other compulsive behaviour used to distract yoursef from intrusive thoughts and emotions.
 
These actions have the potential to prolong a cycle of avoidance and repression, preventing persons from healing and progressing.
 

4. A strong need for control

 
It’s understandable that some people may struggle with control issues in their adult lives, especially if they felt helpless or vulnerable during their childhood.
 
This can happen if someone had an overbearing caregiver who didn’t let them make their own choices, expected too much from them, or didn’t take care of them properly. As adults, they might try to control everything in their life to feel more in control and less anxious or scared. This might be because they didn’t feel like they had control over their life when they were a child.
 
It’s important to remember that everyone’s experiences are different and it’s okay to seek help if you’re struggling with control issues.
 
 

5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained

 
Individuals with a history of developmental trauma may experience a range of psychological symptoms, including obsessive-compulsive behavior, intense mood swings, irritability, anger, depression, emotional numbing, or severe anxiety.
 
These symptoms can vary in intensity and may occur intermittently throughout the day. People with this type of trauma may attempt to “distract” themselves from these symptoms by denying or rationalizing them, or may resort to substance abuse or behavioral addictions as coping mechanisms. This can be a maladaptive way of trying to numb their symptoms.
 
 

What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?

 
Everyone’s experience of healing from trauma is unique. It’s important to be aware of whether you have experienced childhood developmental trauma and how it may be affecting your relationships as an adult. Sometimes, the effects of trauma can be overwhelming and we may try to push them away or avoid them.
 
If you notice that you’re engaging in these behaviors, it’s important to seek help from a trauma therapist who can support you on your healing journey. Remember, you’re not alone and it’s never too late to start healing.
 

There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:

  1. Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
  2. Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
  3. Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
  4. Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
  5. Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.

It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.

 
 
If you desire to work with me on healing your wounds and unlocking the aspects of you that were never realized so you can achieve more success in your life then head over to awebliss.com and join my weekly LIVE online mentorship calls.
 
 
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we cultivate meaning in our lives when we pursue our calling

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Grit is an overlooked aspect of success, but it plays a critical role.

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A grit mindset is an essential key to your greatness. It’s what separates those who achieve their goals from those who give up and never reach their potential. It’s also the difference between success and failure, happiness and misery. If you want to be great and achieve your dreams, then you need grit. Luckily, it’s something that can be learned. Please keep reading to learn more about grit and discover four ways to develop it. (more…)

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