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How to Consciously Create Yourself in 3 Easy Steps



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For many of us, to consciously create yourself at any moment is foreign language. All we know is how to routinely survive through life by first making a living then followed by making a life. How many times have you heard someone say that they can’t wait to get off of work, can’t wait for vacation or even can’t wait until an event happens so they can feel “alive” again.

Why is it we are always waiting for a special moment to finally seize it? What about right now? How can we enjoy this very moment that is occurring? How can we make this moment and day just as exciting as our next vacation? It all starts with our conscious.

Ever since I was young, I have always been fascinated with the mind. I even wanted to become a neurologist because of all of the fascination that the mind brought to my attention. Instead, I took a different route and decided that I wanted to be in business for myself and also study the power of the mind and how it works.

When I was nine years old, my mother introduced me to the law of attraction and even told me that we can obtain our desires with our minds. As a young girl, this was so exciting to experiment with. Although I did this, it only lasted about a week before I forgot all about it, and went back to the life of survival.

It wasn’t until I was in my early twenties that I started to really take this seriously, and I first started by consciously creating myself as a person. During this time, I was very negative, angry, and excessively indulged in alcohol. I knew that I couldn’t live like this and that I had to make drastic changes fast.

During this period, I was very depressed, isolated myself from friends and family, and even wanted to give up on myself. I began to read books again on the Law of Attraction and any book that would basically help me use my mind to achieve anything I truly desired. In my heart, I knew that it was possible to do this, I just had to believe that it would in my own life.

I started to become fascinated all over again with how we can consciously create our lives with our minds. However, even though I was extremely fascinated, I also had doubt in the back of my mind which would occasionally creep in and convince me that this was impossible. We are constantly fighting the voices in our heads that are telling us that we cannot achieve something.

When this happens, I have learned the three steps that I outline below help eliminate those negative voices:

1. Everyday visualize the end result

In my case, I was constantly visualizing a happy woman with amazing energy and aura all around her. A woman who was approachable and helps as many people as she came into contact with.

“Envisioning the end is enough to put the means in motion.”- Dorothea Brande

2. Spending 10-15 minutes psychologically traveling into the space of my desire

For example, if I wanted to travel more, I would consciously travel to the place of desire and imagine myself being there at that moment and literally living the current world that I was living in. I started to do this so often that I would sometimes forget that I was here on earth. Once you begin to do this on a consistent basis with all of your desires, you start living in the moment of your dreams and goals.

At times, I get carried away, thus when I come back to the present moment I begin to name some of the things I am grateful for to stay grounded. It is easy to flow away in the future and abandon the present time and moment. We don’t want to do this either because we want to enjoy the present moment as much as we can.

3. Feeding your mind the right thoughts

I like to think of our minds as gardens. When we are constantly taking care of our minds with the right thoughts, we eliminate any weeds (negative thoughts) that try to grow in our gardens. When we feed our minds with the right things, we give our focus to positivity and our goals and dreams.

Think about this for a moment. When you encounter something negative, does your mind become sucked into that energy that it might throw off your whole mood and even affect your day? I know it has for me which is why I am so careful with where I am investing my mental energy.

If negative energy comes my way, I immediately ignore it so that I don’t give it the attention it wants to possibly grow into a bigger issue. The next time a negative thought tries to enter your conscious, ask yourself “Is this really worth my mental energy?” If not, dismiss it, and immediately replace it with a positive thought that resonates with your dreams and goals.

“A positive attitude can really make dreams come true – it did for me.” – David Bailey

How are you making sure you are the best version of yourself you can be every day? Make sure to let us know in the comments below!

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Christina Araujo is from San Francisco, CA and still is residing in the Bay Area. She is a life coach, investor, and influencer. Her passion is helping people love themselves and finding their passion in life. Christina is committed to personal growth and has a strong desire to help as many individuals as she can and start traveling to third world countries to also teach. She believes that life is meant to be lived being truly happy and falling in love with your gift every single day. You can contact Christina through her Facebook page.



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Emotional Attachment Trauma

Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.

Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.

Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.

Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.

However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.


Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:


1.  Unconscious Sabotage

Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.

This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.

Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.

This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.


2. Persistent Pain

Chronic pain is a common symptom that can stem from early trauma. Studies have shown a connection between physical conditions such as fibromyalgia, headaches, gastrointestinal issues, insomnia, muscle aches, back pain, chest pain, and chronic fatigue with the aftermath of chronic developmental trauma, particularly physical abuse.
Research has found that individuals with insecure attachment styles, such as anxious, avoidant, or disorganized, have a higher incidence of somatic symptoms and a history of physical and emotional abuse in childhood compared to those with a secure attachment style.

3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma

Trauma blocking practises are used to avoid the pain and memories connected with traumatic events.
Emotional numbing, avoidance, and escape via briefly pleasurable activities that distract from terrible memories or suffering are common examples. Unfortunately, this escape habit stops people from successfully processing and recovering from their trauma.
Furthermore, when the pain resurfaces, more and more diversions are necessary to continue ignoring it. This can be seen in compulsive behaviours such as drug or alcohol addiction, emotional eating, numbing oneself through relationships, workaholism, excessive or dangerous exercise routines, compulsive internet or technology use, or any other compulsive behaviour used to distract yoursef from intrusive thoughts and emotions.
These actions have the potential to prolong a cycle of avoidance and repression, preventing persons from healing and progressing.

4. A strong need for control

It’s understandable that some people may struggle with control issues in their adult lives, especially if they felt helpless or vulnerable during their childhood.
This can happen if someone had an overbearing caregiver who didn’t let them make their own choices, expected too much from them, or didn’t take care of them properly. As adults, they might try to control everything in their life to feel more in control and less anxious or scared. This might be because they didn’t feel like they had control over their life when they were a child.
It’s important to remember that everyone’s experiences are different and it’s okay to seek help if you’re struggling with control issues.

5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained

Individuals with a history of developmental trauma may experience a range of psychological symptoms, including obsessive-compulsive behavior, intense mood swings, irritability, anger, depression, emotional numbing, or severe anxiety.
These symptoms can vary in intensity and may occur intermittently throughout the day. People with this type of trauma may attempt to “distract” themselves from these symptoms by denying or rationalizing them, or may resort to substance abuse or behavioral addictions as coping mechanisms. This can be a maladaptive way of trying to numb their symptoms.

What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?

Everyone’s experience of healing from trauma is unique. It’s important to be aware of whether you have experienced childhood developmental trauma and how it may be affecting your relationships as an adult. Sometimes, the effects of trauma can be overwhelming and we may try to push them away or avoid them.
If you notice that you’re engaging in these behaviors, it’s important to seek help from a trauma therapist who can support you on your healing journey. Remember, you’re not alone and it’s never too late to start healing.

There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:

  1. Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
  2. Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
  3. Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
  4. Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
  5. Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.

It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.

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