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5 Sure Ways to Achieve the Best Version of Yourself (For Determined People Only)

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There is no doubt that we’re our own worst enemies when it comes to achieving our best and living the life of our dreams. Although some of us are conscious of our visions/dreams, we still lack the necessary tools and knowledge to turn them to reality.

Interestingly, no matter how bad your life might have been in the past you can still achieve your best version if you’re determined. To become your best version you’ll have to take some ‘risks’ and if you are not willing to take them you cannot grow and if you cannot grow you cannot become your best.

While you’re working on achieving your best version, here are five unconventional ways of becoming your best:

1. Push yourself harder daily

Pushing yourself is a not just a strategic way to leave your “limit zone”, it is also a technique that ultimately transforms you to become the best of yourself.

On the contrary, your best version is something that cannot be achieved in a day. And if you keep on waiting for someone to push you forward you’ll have to wait for eternity. So, in order for you to not spend the rest of your life struggling on this, you need to start pushing yourself harder daily to achieve your goal.

“Push yourself again and again. Don’t give an inch until the final buzzer sounds.” – Larry Bird

2. Learn new things daily

Learning new things is another interesting way of achieving your best version.  In fact when you open your mind to new knowledge, you’re broadening your scope of understanding and reasoning which practically aids you in your pursuit of achieving your best version.

Additionally, learning keeps your mental well-being more active and consequently inspires you to become more productive. Contrarily, one of the surest ways of crippling your goal of achieving the best of yourself is to stop learning. And when you stop learning, adapting to newer situations becomes a struggle for you.

3. Shutdown “continuous self-doubt”

Continuous self-doubt” is one of the deadliest pests that kill great dreams. Frankly, there are moments when we doubt our potential. Even greats do. What is wrong is when you decide to remain in self-doubt and refuse to do something about it.

Contrarily, if you refuse to work against your self-doubt you’ll end up limiting your ability to a little space and limiting your ability is tantamount to not reaching the best version of yourself. Some self-doubt will disturb you psychologically and even emotionally, so be prepared to be in conscious control of any doubt whenever it arises.

4. Maximize your 24 hours

Maximizing your time is another strategic way to reach and achieve the best version of yourself. Let’s face it, how do you manage your 24 hours daily?

Time waits for no one. And mismanagement of it could lead to severe ruin. So, as someone who is determined to achieve his/her best version, it’s pretty much advisable that you manage your time wisely.

According to several analytical researchers, it has been proven that the more time you invest to develop yourself, the more valuable your life becomes.

“The common man is not concerned about the passage of time, the man of talent is driven by it.” – Arthur Schopenhauer

5. Surround yourself with multipliers

Surrounding yourself with friends of multiplying impact is not just a way of achieving the best version of yourself but also a technique that reflects who you are. Analytically, there is a general saying that says you are an average of the six people you spend most of your time with. So, what kind of friends surround you?

Hence, if you are confused about those you surround yourself with, here’s a smart way to know. All you have to do is to answer the following questions;

  • Do your friends share the same dream as you do?
  • Does he/she question why you haven’t done what you should have done?
  • Is he/she a motivator or a depressor?
  • Do you have or share common goals?
  • Has he/she  influenced your life positively since you’ve been friends?
  • Does his/her presence count when you need him/her most?

From your answers you can confidently resolve and clear the air about those you surround yourself with. To achieve your best version, establish and set a goal for yourself. Take the actions listed above serious and you’ll easily achieve your best.

How are you getting the best of yourself today? Leave your thoughts below!

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5 Indicators of Unresolved Attachment Trauma

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Emotional Attachment Trauma

Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.

Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.

Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.

Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.

However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.

 

Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:

 

1.  Unconscious Sabotage

Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.

This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.

Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.

This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.

 

2. Persistent Pain

 
Chronic pain is a common symptom that can stem from early trauma. Studies have shown a connection between physical conditions such as fibromyalgia, headaches, gastrointestinal issues, insomnia, muscle aches, back pain, chest pain, and chronic fatigue with the aftermath of chronic developmental trauma, particularly physical abuse.
 
Research has found that individuals with insecure attachment styles, such as anxious, avoidant, or disorganized, have a higher incidence of somatic symptoms and a history of physical and emotional abuse in childhood compared to those with a secure attachment style.
 
 

3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma

 
Trauma blocking practises are used to avoid the pain and memories connected with traumatic events.
 
Emotional numbing, avoidance, and escape via briefly pleasurable activities that distract from terrible memories or suffering are common examples. Unfortunately, this escape habit stops people from successfully processing and recovering from their trauma.
 
Furthermore, when the pain resurfaces, more and more diversions are necessary to continue ignoring it. This can be seen in compulsive behaviours such as drug or alcohol addiction, emotional eating, numbing oneself through relationships, workaholism, excessive or dangerous exercise routines, compulsive internet or technology use, or any other compulsive behaviour used to distract yoursef from intrusive thoughts and emotions.
 
These actions have the potential to prolong a cycle of avoidance and repression, preventing persons from healing and progressing.
 

4. A strong need for control

 
It’s understandable that some people may struggle with control issues in their adult lives, especially if they felt helpless or vulnerable during their childhood.
 
This can happen if someone had an overbearing caregiver who didn’t let them make their own choices, expected too much from them, or didn’t take care of them properly. As adults, they might try to control everything in their life to feel more in control and less anxious or scared. This might be because they didn’t feel like they had control over their life when they were a child.
 
It’s important to remember that everyone’s experiences are different and it’s okay to seek help if you’re struggling with control issues.
 
 

5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained

 
Individuals with a history of developmental trauma may experience a range of psychological symptoms, including obsessive-compulsive behavior, intense mood swings, irritability, anger, depression, emotional numbing, or severe anxiety.
 
These symptoms can vary in intensity and may occur intermittently throughout the day. People with this type of trauma may attempt to “distract” themselves from these symptoms by denying or rationalizing them, or may resort to substance abuse or behavioral addictions as coping mechanisms. This can be a maladaptive way of trying to numb their symptoms.
 
 

What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?

 
Everyone’s experience of healing from trauma is unique. It’s important to be aware of whether you have experienced childhood developmental trauma and how it may be affecting your relationships as an adult. Sometimes, the effects of trauma can be overwhelming and we may try to push them away or avoid them.
 
If you notice that you’re engaging in these behaviors, it’s important to seek help from a trauma therapist who can support you on your healing journey. Remember, you’re not alone and it’s never too late to start healing.
 

There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:

  1. Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
  2. Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
  3. Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
  4. Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
  5. Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.

It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.

 
 
If you desire to work with me on healing your wounds and unlocking the aspects of you that were never realized so you can achieve more success in your life then head over to awebliss.com and join my weekly LIVE online mentorship calls.
 
 
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