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I sat there on a frigid New Year’s Eve night and lost it. With tears streaming down my face, I realized it was time. Everything had to change, and I was living someone else’s life. That night, I made a promise to myself and detailed the vision deep within me —except there was one problem.

I had no idea “how” I was going to bring it to life. It didn’t make any sense, and yet the words flowed out of me with clarity and conviction. I didn’t know it at the time, but I was taking the leap of my life.

In working with others to make bold leaps into the unknown and listening to what they knew they had to do —I’ve found 5 crucial steps to help ensure your success. Because too often, we’ve let fear slowly take over. Until one day, we wake up and wonder where the time went and what could have been.

Check out the 5 steps below to help you take the leap of your life:

1. Radical Honesty

The first crucial step in taking your bold leap is radical honesty. Although it sounds simple, this is often forgotten in the personal development world. Why? Because radical honesty doesn’t always feel great —and involves facing the truth. But without this crucial step, there’s no chance our transformation will come to life.

On that New Year’s Eve night, I was able to get radically honest: I felt alone, disconnected, and as if I was on someone else’s path. I knew if I stayed in the same place, I’d wake up one day drenched in regret. Without this level of honesty, change would be impossible.

Ask yourself 2 questions: How do you really feel about where you are in life today? What do you really want and why? Once you’re clear on these two —it’s time to step into a powerful declaration and commitment.

2. Commit to Vision

The reason why so many visions fade and never come to life is a lack of commitment. It’s easy to be excited and inspired at the dance party seminar when you set the vision but what about when nothing is working and you want to quit?

This is what separates the committed from the dabblers, the purpose driven from the half hearted. Once you’ve gotten radically honest, you must now commit to your vision. Make no mistake, this won’t always be fun, and you’re going to want to quit over and over. But when you’re committed to your vision, you see adversity as a test to see how bad you really want it.

This is when you create and declare the vision you’ve created with vivid detail, leaving nothing out. If it doesn’t get you emotional, keep going until it does and tap into a deeper purpose inside of you.

“Your CONVICTION and your CONVENIENCE don’t live on the same block.” – Lisa Nichols

3. Faith, Trust & Resilience

You’ve gotten radically honest and declared a bold vision. Now it’s all fun and games, right? Wrong. Here’s why: the universe has a funny way of testing us after we’ve declared our commitments.

It knows so many people make big declarations and never follow through. It knows 92% of people who set New Year’s Resolutions never do anything with them. Anyone can dream big, but few are willing to act big.

This is when you must harness faith, trust and resilience in your vision. You’ll be tempted to pursue other opportunities. Fear will try and slow you down, telling you it’s not the right time. In order to succeed at this step, you must stay committed on your path before the results come to life.

For me, I’d declared my vision of moving to a brand new city and starting a new business. But I also had 11 employees and had signed a 5 year lease on a building. It was easy for me to see this as an impossible task but faith, trust and resilience kept me going.

4. Daily Action

As you continue to move forward on your bold leap, you must take one daily action designed to bring it to life. Don’t get overwhelmed. Simplicity is key here, and designed to do one thing: Strengthen your belief that it’s not only possible, but coming to life faster than you’d ever imagined.

Too often, I talk to people who declare a bold decision and leap and wake up the next day and do nothing. Time passes, and their mind finds all the reasons why it won’t happen. This is when you flip the script and take one step every single day towards your mountain.

Early on, it’ll feel like you’re not doing much of anything —and that’s okay. Celebrate your small wins and remember these will add up and create the most powerful force in the world: momentum.

With momentum, bringing your leap to life becomes easier and every day becomes another chance to take your belief to the next level.

“You don’t have to be great to start, but you have to start to be great.” – Zig Ziglar

5. Surrender

Armed with the first 4 steps, you’re on the path of taking the leap of your life. You’re part of the 5% that doesn’t only dream big, but brings these dreams to life every single day. The last step may seem confusing, but it’s time to surrender. Remember, surrender does not mean giving up, it means cultivating a deeper level of trust in how your leap is going to come to life.

The key here is to surrender to the way it’s going to be delivered to you —and ensure you don’t miss opportunities along the way. Because if you’re too focused on how you want it, you may not see a door open to get you there faster.

If you do this right, you’ll notice people, places and opportunities come into your life to support your leap. You’ll be amazed and wonder how they came to you at the right place and at the right time. This is the magic of surrender in action and the power of embracing the unknown.

What Is Your Leap?

I’m constantly having conversations with people who know there’s something much bolder out there for them but they’re stuck. In this post, we detailed exactly how to identify your leap and bring it to life through a series of steps.

Your leap may be starting the side hustle you’ve always wanted, quitting the job that’s been eating away at you, asking him or her out, or taking the adventure of a lifetime. What matters is how it feels to you, and that you honor the feeling by bringing it to life.

Because the alternative is to put it off for another month, quarter or year —and wake up a decade from now wondering where it all went. That’s not what you’re here for. Instead, take the leap of your life and never look back!

Is there an area in your life, such as a relationship, work, or with family where you’re not taking a leap of faith? If so, hopefully these five steps will help you take the necessary leap to a greater life!

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Hey, I’m Tommy. I don’t have anything figured out, but I love the process. If any part of this story resonated with you, I’d deeply appreciate a recommend and a share. For more insights, lessons and action steps to create the life you’ve been dreaming of, listen to the Resist Average Academy podcast on iTunes, Stitcher or Web.

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Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.

Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.

Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.

Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.

However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.

 

Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:

 

1.  Unconscious Sabotage

Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.

This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.

Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.

This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.

 

2. Persistent Pain

 
Chronic pain is a common symptom that can stem from early trauma. Studies have shown a connection between physical conditions such as fibromyalgia, headaches, gastrointestinal issues, insomnia, muscle aches, back pain, chest pain, and chronic fatigue with the aftermath of chronic developmental trauma, particularly physical abuse.
 
Research has found that individuals with insecure attachment styles, such as anxious, avoidant, or disorganized, have a higher incidence of somatic symptoms and a history of physical and emotional abuse in childhood compared to those with a secure attachment style.
 
 

3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma

 
Trauma blocking practises are used to avoid the pain and memories connected with traumatic events.
 
Emotional numbing, avoidance, and escape via briefly pleasurable activities that distract from terrible memories or suffering are common examples. Unfortunately, this escape habit stops people from successfully processing and recovering from their trauma.
 
Furthermore, when the pain resurfaces, more and more diversions are necessary to continue ignoring it. This can be seen in compulsive behaviours such as drug or alcohol addiction, emotional eating, numbing oneself through relationships, workaholism, excessive or dangerous exercise routines, compulsive internet or technology use, or any other compulsive behaviour used to distract yoursef from intrusive thoughts and emotions.
 
These actions have the potential to prolong a cycle of avoidance and repression, preventing persons from healing and progressing.
 

4. A strong need for control

 
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This can happen if someone had an overbearing caregiver who didn’t let them make their own choices, expected too much from them, or didn’t take care of them properly. As adults, they might try to control everything in their life to feel more in control and less anxious or scared. This might be because they didn’t feel like they had control over their life when they were a child.
 
It’s important to remember that everyone’s experiences are different and it’s okay to seek help if you’re struggling with control issues.
 
 

5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained

 
Individuals with a history of developmental trauma may experience a range of psychological symptoms, including obsessive-compulsive behavior, intense mood swings, irritability, anger, depression, emotional numbing, or severe anxiety.
 
These symptoms can vary in intensity and may occur intermittently throughout the day. People with this type of trauma may attempt to “distract” themselves from these symptoms by denying or rationalizing them, or may resort to substance abuse or behavioral addictions as coping mechanisms. This can be a maladaptive way of trying to numb their symptoms.
 
 

What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?

 
Everyone’s experience of healing from trauma is unique. It’s important to be aware of whether you have experienced childhood developmental trauma and how it may be affecting your relationships as an adult. Sometimes, the effects of trauma can be overwhelming and we may try to push them away or avoid them.
 
If you notice that you’re engaging in these behaviors, it’s important to seek help from a trauma therapist who can support you on your healing journey. Remember, you’re not alone and it’s never too late to start healing.
 

There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:

  1. Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
  2. Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
  3. Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
  4. Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
  5. Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.

It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.

 
 
If you desire to work with me on healing your wounds and unlocking the aspects of you that were never realized so you can achieve more success in your life then head over to awebliss.com and join my weekly LIVE online mentorship calls.
 
 
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