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Follow These 5 Steps to Radically Transform Your Life

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I sat there on a frigid New Year’s Eve night and lost it. With tears streaming down my face, I realized it was time. Everything had to change, and I was living someone else’s life. That night, I made a promise to myself and detailed the vision deep within me —except there was one problem.

I had no idea “how” I was going to bring it to life. It didn’t make any sense, and yet the words flowed out of me with clarity and conviction. I didn’t know it at the time, but I was taking the leap of my life.

In working with others to make bold leaps into the unknown and listening to what they knew they had to do —I’ve found 5 crucial steps to help ensure your success. Because too often, we’ve let fear slowly take over. Until one day, we wake up and wonder where the time went and what could have been.

Check out the 5 steps below to help you take the leap of your life:

1. Radical Honesty

The first crucial step in taking your bold leap is radical honesty. Although it sounds simple, this is often forgotten in the personal development world. Why? Because radical honesty doesn’t always feel great —and involves facing the truth. But without this crucial step, there’s no chance our transformation will come to life.

On that New Year’s Eve night, I was able to get radically honest: I felt alone, disconnected, and as if I was on someone else’s path. I knew if I stayed in the same place, I’d wake up one day drenched in regret. Without this level of honesty, change would be impossible.

Ask yourself 2 questions: How do you really feel about where you are in life today? What do you really want and why? Once you’re clear on these two —it’s time to step into a powerful declaration and commitment.

2. Commit to Vision

The reason why so many visions fade and never come to life is a lack of commitment. It’s easy to be excited and inspired at the dance party seminar when you set the vision but what about when nothing is working and you want to quit?

This is what separates the committed from the dabblers, the purpose driven from the half hearted. Once you’ve gotten radically honest, you must now commit to your vision. Make no mistake, this won’t always be fun, and you’re going to want to quit over and over. But when you’re committed to your vision, you see adversity as a test to see how bad you really want it.

This is when you create and declare the vision you’ve created with vivid detail, leaving nothing out. If it doesn’t get you emotional, keep going until it does and tap into a deeper purpose inside of you.

“Your CONVICTION and your CONVENIENCE don’t live on the same block.” – Lisa Nichols

3. Faith, Trust & Resilience

You’ve gotten radically honest and declared a bold vision. Now it’s all fun and games, right? Wrong. Here’s why: the universe has a funny way of testing us after we’ve declared our commitments.

It knows so many people make big declarations and never follow through. It knows 92% of people who set New Year’s Resolutions never do anything with them. Anyone can dream big, but few are willing to act big.

This is when you must harness faith, trust and resilience in your vision. You’ll be tempted to pursue other opportunities. Fear will try and slow you down, telling you it’s not the right time. In order to succeed at this step, you must stay committed on your path before the results come to life.

For me, I’d declared my vision of moving to a brand new city and starting a new business. But I also had 11 employees and had signed a 5 year lease on a building. It was easy for me to see this as an impossible task but faith, trust and resilience kept me going.

4. Daily Action

As you continue to move forward on your bold leap, you must take one daily action designed to bring it to life. Don’t get overwhelmed. Simplicity is key here, and designed to do one thing: Strengthen your belief that it’s not only possible, but coming to life faster than you’d ever imagined.

Too often, I talk to people who declare a bold decision and leap and wake up the next day and do nothing. Time passes, and their mind finds all the reasons why it won’t happen. This is when you flip the script and take one step every single day towards your mountain.

Early on, it’ll feel like you’re not doing much of anything —and that’s okay. Celebrate your small wins and remember these will add up and create the most powerful force in the world: momentum.

With momentum, bringing your leap to life becomes easier and every day becomes another chance to take your belief to the next level.

“You don’t have to be great to start, but you have to start to be great.” – Zig Ziglar

5. Surrender

Armed with the first 4 steps, you’re on the path of taking the leap of your life. You’re part of the 5% that doesn’t only dream big, but brings these dreams to life every single day. The last step may seem confusing, but it’s time to surrender. Remember, surrender does not mean giving up, it means cultivating a deeper level of trust in how your leap is going to come to life.

The key here is to surrender to the way it’s going to be delivered to you —and ensure you don’t miss opportunities along the way. Because if you’re too focused on how you want it, you may not see a door open to get you there faster.

If you do this right, you’ll notice people, places and opportunities come into your life to support your leap. You’ll be amazed and wonder how they came to you at the right place and at the right time. This is the magic of surrender in action and the power of embracing the unknown.

What Is Your Leap?

I’m constantly having conversations with people who know there’s something much bolder out there for them but they’re stuck. In this post, we detailed exactly how to identify your leap and bring it to life through a series of steps.

Your leap may be starting the side hustle you’ve always wanted, quitting the job that’s been eating away at you, asking him or her out, or taking the adventure of a lifetime. What matters is how it feels to you, and that you honor the feeling by bringing it to life.

Because the alternative is to put it off for another month, quarter or year —and wake up a decade from now wondering where it all went. That’s not what you’re here for. Instead, take the leap of your life and never look back!

Is there an area in your life, such as a relationship, work, or with family where you’re not taking a leap of faith? If so, hopefully these five steps will help you take the necessary leap to a greater life!

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Hey, I’m Tommy. I don’t have anything figured out, but I love the process. If any part of this story resonated with you, I’d deeply appreciate a recommend and a share. For more insights, lessons and action steps to create the life you’ve been dreaming of, listen to the Resist Average Academy podcast on iTunes, Stitcher or Web.

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3 Simple Tips to Strengthen Your Emotional Intelligence for Better Relationships

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Relationships are challenging. They make you examine yourself from all angles, and that can be triggering. For example, have you ever had a friend or significant other say something that sparked an argument instantly—only to find out you misheard what they said in the first place? (more…)

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If You Want to Avoid Failure Once and for All, Ask Yourself These 4 Questions

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You just invested in yourself and in your business. You are taking massive action but the results are just not clicking yet. While everyone is making 10X, 20X, and even 100X ROI on their initial investment, you have made $0 return. Failure is starting to overcast your bright shining positive attitude and you are feeling the pain and shame of it. (more…)

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3 Simple Hacks That Can Recharge Your Willpower and Help You Perform Better at Work

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How many times did you wake up feeling like you could conquer the world? You set ambitious goals for the day, you put on your best attire and walked out the door with a big smile on your face but eventually, life took over. Traffic, emails, work, family, and everything else you have around slowly but steadily started to drain your energy and made you feel exhausted.

You run out of battery, and the only solution that seemed viable was to rely on more caffeine. When that stopped working, all the temptations around you started to look much more appealing, and that sense of drive and commitment you had before slowly faded away. This is you running out of willpower.

Willpower: what is it? Why is it limited?

The American Psychology Association describes willpower as “the ability to resist short-term temptations in order to meet long-term goals.” In the book “The Willpower Instinct”, Dr. Kelly McGonigal, explains how every person’s willpower is limited, and slowly depletes throughout the day. The more “willpower challenges” you face, the quicker your reserve drains. Dr. McGonigal divided the different types of willpower challenges you might encounter in three categories:

  • I will: We face this type of challenge whenever we should do something, but we simply don’t feel like getting it done right now.
  • I won’t: We face this challenge when we try to resist temptation, or we try to keep cool in stressful situations.
  • I want: This is a particular type of challenge where we keep track of our long term goals, dreams, and desires. In this instance, we feel like we should take action right now to come one step closer to the goal. 

It’s easy to recognize it when you face a willpower challenge because you literally “feel it in your body.” Imagine being really hungry and walking in front of a bakery. The sight and the smell of pastries quickly triggers an “I won’t” type of challenge, and it takes a severe amount of effort and energy to walk away.

Every time you manage to win one of those challenges, a little bit of your willpower reserve gets used. The more challenges you face daily, the harder it will be to stay true to your goals.

Can you train or recharge your willpower?

A growing body of research suggests that willpower should be considered a muscle. To strengthen it, you should exercise it regularly, but you should not overwork it. Therefore, we shouldn’t try to “be good” at all times. Instead, we should learn how to relax and recharge our willpower.

The general advice on how to improve willpower involves sleep, proper nutrition, and regular exercise. This broad and general recommendation is often not downright applicable by most, because it consists of changing various daily habits. Luckily, three very effective hacks have been discovered, that have an immediate effect on our willpower and take just a few minutes to apply.

Here are the 3 ways to refill your willpower reserves:

1. Focused breathing

Breathing, when done correctly, can stimulate the release of calming hormones while reducing the release of stress hormones like cortisol and catecholamines. To make this effective, you should deeply and slowly inhale through the nose for at least five seconds. Fill your belly with air first, then your chest, and when there’s no more space for air, still try to do tiny inhalations through the nose.

You should feel a pulling sensation around your neck and trapezius muscles. Once your lungs are full, try to hold the breath for five seconds, then slowly exhale through the mouth for at least five seconds. If you repeat this process ten to twenty times, you should feel dramatically more relaxed. Use this method several times a day, especially when you’re experiencing high levels of stress or anxiety.

2. Reward yourself when you accomplish a micro goal

According to a recent study, frequent instant rewards can boost motivation, and therefore, willpower. Creating your own reward system can help you to accomplish your to-do list, and also resist temptations. Since every individual has different tastes, you should come up with creative ideas about the small and frequent rewards you will give yourself upon winning any willpower challenge.

You can see this hack in practice in Apps like the popular Duolinguo, where after completing each lesson you get presented with a chance to open a treasure chest. This rewarding system seems to keep the users much more likely to keep learning new lessons.

3. Taking cold showers

Your body has an autonomic response to cold water. Getting into a cold shower is a difficult (but minor) willpower challenge on its own. As I previously mentioned, winning a willpower challenge strengthens your willpower muscle. Having a morning cold shower, on top of having multiple health benefits, will set you up for a positive winning streak of further challenges.

High performance is the sum of many small habits. Successful people don’t have an unlimited reserve of willpower, but they do have a set of daily rituals that made them succeed. These three hacks are some of the most effective techniques to develop willpower, but some of them may not fit every individual. You should try to find the perfect mix of daily practices that best fits your lifestyle and likes, so that you can strengthen your willpower muscle and perform better at work.

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3 Inspiring Lessons We Can Learn From Jim Carrey About the Law of Attraction

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You’ve more than likely heard of Jim Carrey before. Over the years, he has starred in many popular films including The Truman Show, The Mask, and Bruce Almighty (just to name a few.)

But his personality goes a lot deeper than just his comedic persona and movie star charisma. In fact, Jim Carrey is probably one of the most philosophical individuals on the planet

Although he isn’t in the spotlight as much anymore, throughout the years, he has credited his success and fortunes by applying the Law of attraction into his life. What’s even more inspiring is that Jim Carrey, like you and I, came from humble beginnings. No silver spoon or easy ticket. In fact, his family was very poor throughout his childhood. So what made him so successful in attracting such an extravagant and self-fulfilling life?

Here are 3 lessons you can learn from Jim Carrey when it comes to manifesting your dreams into a reality:

1. You Have To Take Action

You can’t just visualize then go eat a sandwich”, Jim Carrey says. It goes without saying that the law of attraction does require action. You cannot simply rely on visualizing and expect to see results, especially when it comes to manifesting desires that other people would like to achieve also. E.g. Careers, scholarships, competitions, anything that involves another individual.

Visualization and positive thinking are crucial when it comes to using the law of attraction, but you have to meet the universe halfway with the steps you take as well. We are physical beings that require physical steps to get physical results. The real key is to make daily plans/goals in order to get you closer towards achieving your desires. So after that sandwich, make sure start taking action toward your dreams!

This could be working on your hobbies or passion, applying for that dream job or studying to get better grades. As long as you are moving toward your goals then there’s no reason why it can’t happen. So get out there and kick some butt.

2. Double Down On What You Love

My father could have been a great comedian but he didn’t believe that that was possible for him, and so he made a conservative choice. Instead, he got a safe job as an accountant and when I was 12 years old he was let go from that safe job, and our family had to do whatever we could to survive. I learned many great lessons from my father. Not the least of which was that: You can fail at what you don’t want. So you might as well take a chance on doing what you love.”

If this story of Jim Carrey’s father doesn’t pull on your heartstrings and inspire you at the same time, nothing else will! This is such an undeniable life lesson that everyone needs to learn. A lesson to take risks, push comfort zones and go all-in on what you love doing. So if your dreams, hobbies or goals seem far fetched to the majority, then you are already beating the other 99%.

Be that 1% that’s willing to dream big and rise above the norm. Unfortunately, in today’s society, our ancestral instincts still rule our everyday life. Fear is one of them and controls the majority of our population. It’s scary to push comfort zones and try something new, the thought of failure is often paralyzing to many. But my question to you is, will you look back one day and regret the chances you didn’t take?

3. Keep Your Eye On The Prize

As far as I can tell, it’s just about letting the universe know what you want and working toward it, while letting go of how it comes to pass.” Holding onto every little detail when it comes to manifesting, can conjure up more harm than good. The reason is that the universe will deliver in ways you might not expect.

If you are too busy wondering when your desires will manifest, comparing yourself to others, or ignoring every sign that doesn’t look like your detailed plan you’ve written down, then you may be missing out on opportunities that are right in front of you! Your visualizations don’t have to be perfect, in fact, it’s better to just let go altogether and focus on the result itself rather than dwelling on every little detail. This doesn’t mean to simply forget about what you want but instead having the confidence it will happen in time. 

An example of this is when Jim Carrey wrote himself a check for 30 million dollars. The only detail he knew was that he would earn it through his acting career, and he did indeed achieve this goal! So make sure to tell the universe what you want, but try not to hold onto every little detail!

Jim Carrey is just another person like you and me, with his own personal ups and downs in his road to success. He is someone to look up to when applying the law of attraction in your life too. It doesn’t matter if your goals or desires are different because the core foundation will always stay the same. You can and will do this if you think, feel and act as if it will happen!

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