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7 Simple Steps to Change Your Life With Positive Thinking

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Positive thinking is important for your achievements. Many people underplay this important tool because they say, ‘why think positive when you have lost so many opportunities?’ or ‘can positive thinking change what had happened in the past?’. I agree with many positive thinking critics because most of their statements have tints of truth.

Before you continue reading this article I want you to spare a minute to think hard. Think of something very pursuant or a magnificent achievement that started with negative thinking. The answer is probably not many or none at all.

Think of the Electric bell, Telephone, Helicopter, Airplanes, or beautiful artwork like Mona Lisa, or Masterpiece novels like Harry potter. The Authors were able to achieve this because they had faith in their works despite much opposition they had. The Wright brothers, or many rejection letters that poured on Harry Potter’s table were not daunted. That is positive thinking. Positive thinking won’t change your past but will improve your future.

Here are few tips to change the quality of our lives with positive thinking:

1. Accepting what we can’t change

Many of us like dwelling on our past; failed marriages, lost opportunities, disappointments etc. Just like me, many of us have lost opportunities in the past. Will pondering on them drive us back to the past? NO. My friend this is not science fiction. Since we can only dwell on our past and we can’t change it, why can’t we plan for our future?  

I want you to take this short exercise before the next step. I want you to write down everything that is bad about your past, but instead of pondering on them, look at them very well for the last time cancel them so that you can’t see them again, and write down your future plans on the next page.

“Accept the challenges so that you can feel the exhilaration of victory.” – George S. Patton

2. Stop blaming external factors

Some people like to blame external factors for their woes. Some will say ‘if not because the economy is bad, I will start a business’ or, ‘I would love to write a book, but I’m too busy’ The human skin is always ruined to make excuses. Many of the people we mentioned at the beginning had excuses.

Wright brothers would have blamed discouragement for their woes. J.K. Rowling would have blamed her woes on bad luck but they kept on pushing until they had what they were looking for. If you want to get what you want today you won’t blame external factors on your woes.

3. The power of determination

Determination is one of the most important tools to achievement in life. One of the best books, ‘Think and Grow Rich’, stressed the importance of determination. One of my favorite quotes is  “if you really want it you’ll get it.” The reason you’re not pushing towards your goal is because it’s not really important to you. If it’s important to you, you’ll get it.

4. Stop spending time with negative thinkers

You might have observed that many people who failed to overcome an obstacle are used to bad stories. A woman who is divorced can tell you how bad men are for the next twenty four hours. Stop associating with negative thinkers. Instead of floundering around with negative thinkers find mentors. Mentors are people who already made it to where you are wanting to be. My mentors are Benjamin Franklin and Leonardo Da Vinci. Thinking and reading about them keeps me away from negative thinkers.

5. Stop dwelling on the bad side of life

Some people read news, and every time they read they become afraid-as if the bad thing in this life is happening to them. Especially these days that the media doesn’t have any good news to offer. I’m not saying we should not have sympathy, but we should not spend a whole day on the bad side of life. It is interesting to know that for every bad thing many good things are also happening.

6. Shun fear

Fear, as many used to define it as FALSE Expression Appearing Real is killing dreams. Fear of the future, fear of anything can kill your dreams. Some people have set limitations because of fear. I wonder why some people will read a book and say ‘I wish I can write a book but I can’t be as good as this author’. Many people use to immortalize top achievers as if they’re not human beings. I want you to mention a top performer in any field that fell down from Mars. You may not find one. Since they are humans like us, we can soar even higher than them.

“If you want to conquer fear, don’t sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.” – Dale Carnegie

7. Positive thinking without action is nothing

Thinking about plans and a glorious future without action is daydreaming and it is NEGATIVE thinking. POSITIVE thinking should always be followed by action. If you want to write that book, start writing the first chapter or synopsis of action. If you want to get help, go to necessary authorities. If you want to improve your marriage go and do it now. If you want to start a business, you can’t have a better time to start. Take action now for it is the most important thing to do.

Did positive thinking help you in any way in the past? Or, how are you planning to change your life with positive thinking? Please comment below!

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John Olah is a freelance writer who writes in almost every niche, he has written for many clients all over the world with the approval rating of 100%. He is a business strategist and an entrepreneur whose aim to make our world a better place. You can contact him via email at Esantobi8@gmail.com.

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How to Protect Yourself From Other People’s Negativity

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When I was a kid, it seemed like I felt pain more than anyone else around me. Not just physical pain, but emotional pain. I cried easily, over many things. I had an especially hard time when people were fighting around me, and I didn’t even have to be involved. I could feel the negative energy and felt upset and overwhelmed. I didn’t have a constructive way of handling it. (more…)

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How to Write a Personal Destiny Statement in 3 Steps

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We all have a God-given destiny to fulfill that we were each born with. I personally believe it is buried deep down within us. The number one secret to success is to let it emerge out of you and release it to the world. What is my destiny you may ask? It is the thing you would regret not doing before leaving Planet Earth. (more…)

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Don’t Want To Feel Like A Failure Anymore? Stop Doing These 6 Things

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It’s pretty annoying isn’t it? All those great and accomplished people telling you that FAILURE is a necessity on your way to success. Yeah, that’s easy for them to say; they’re already ‘on the other side’! You on the other hand, are still struggling all day everyday to get your business lifted off the ground and are really not that sure if you’re indeed going to make it.

There’s that little voice in your head that keeps telling you that you don’t have the stuff to make it all happen. Not now and not ever. You feel like a failure…it’s holding you back and you don’t know how to deal with it. Well you could do yourself a favor and start dealing with it by doing the following things:

1. Stop Denying You Feel Like A Failure

Telling yourself things are going great when they’re not is one of the biggest, though most useless, coping mechanisms human beings deploy in rough times. Common denial signals among entrepreneurs: trying to regain more control by working even more hours and on the other side compensating this by letting go of all this control by partying and drinking way too hard.

What you’re doing is denying yourself the opportunity to actually feel what’s going on and acknowledge the problem; that both you and your business are in a bad place. Without acknowledging it, it’ll be pretty difficult to actually STOP feeling it. And remember, just because you feel like a failure, this does not mean that you indeed ARE a failure!

2. Stop Making It Bigger Than it Really Is

This is one of those other ‘fun’ things human beings do; we blow things way out of proportion in our heads! In business, when you lose that big client you’ve been working on for weeks, it feels like it’s the end of the world. You start doubting yourself, your strategy, your entire business model right up to the point where you barely sleep because you’re working on pivoting the whole thing.

But what if that customer simply didn’t have the money to go for your service anyway? Or what if they just decided to go for someone who is cheaper but who offers less quality? Does that mean there’s something wrong with YOU? Or that this was the ONLY customer out there and that you’re now doomed forever?

Of course not, it simply means that THIS CUSTOMER wasn’t a match. It’s a bit like dating actually…So if you take this into consideration, could it be that you just feel like a failure instead of really not succeeding in that what you want to at this point in time?

3. Stop Thinking You’re The Only One Who Feels Like This

You’re not! With the possible exception of the true sociopaths, that feeling you’re feeling is very normal to EVERYONE. It might not seem like it on the outside – because people don’t like to acknowledge this remember – but I can guarantee you that it’s true. But unlike 99% of the world’s population, YOU’RE not going to let this feeling stop you in your tracks. Are you?

4. Stop Thinking You’re Supposed To Be Superhuman

In fact, it’s very likely that you’re already doing, learning and succeeding at WAY more than most other people are. But for entrepreneurs, somehow, that never seems to be enough. You don’t just want to be successful after a few years of hard work (which is normal). You want to be successful after only a few months. Because you’re special…or at least you think you are…

Well, here’s the truth: you ARE special! But…it’s just not very likely that you’re one of those – very very rare – entrepreneurial superstars that – seemingly – just added some hot water and got instant business success as a result.

5. Stop Being So Incredibly Stubborn

Entrepreneurs are stubborn…almost by default. It’s what makes them push forward in the hardest of times. But…if you’re not doing the right things right you might just be hammering a square peg through a round hole. Which will only add to that frustrated feeling you’re already having. So why not stop being so stubborn for a moment, stop hammering away on that what obviously is not working and ask for help?

No matter who you ask – a business mentor or coach, a befriended entrepreneur – someone with a neutral perspective on you and our business will be very likely to see what’s going on with a lot more clarity than you can and can guide you to a place that will feel a whole lot more comfortable.

6. Stop Being Afraid Of Failure

I know, I know, you’ve heard this a million times before and you wouldn’t be in this pickle if you could do this. Right? I’m right there with ya!

But, if you get really rational about it, what’s the worst that could happen?

  • You might have to get a ‘real’ job for a while and start over on the side;
  • You might not be able to afford your rent anymore…but with Airbnb on the 1 hand and couchsurfing on the other, you should be able to work it out somehow;
  • You’ll have all the more experience to start over a whole lot faster;
  • You’ll be no less respected by anyone because it’s clear you gave it your all;
  • In a few years, when you’re an established and supersuccessful entrepreneur you’ll also have a cool failure story to tell;
  • None of your limbs will fall off;

Now that’s not too bad for a plan B is it? Failure is such a negative word. And the associated feeling is terrible and numbing. But really…how is giving it your all and not succeeding really the same as failing? Shouldn’t the definition of failure not be along the lines of ‘not even trying’ or ‘giving up when it gets hard’?

In other words: stop beating yourself up over this!

There’s really no need to feel like a failure at all because you’re sticking your neck out, you’re trying to make a difference and you’re still moving upward on that treacherous entrepreneurial mountain.

And that…is what success REALLY is.

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Quotes To Live By:

“Only those who dare to fail greatly can ever achieve greatly.” – Robert F. Kennedy

“If you don’t try at anything, you can’t fail… it takes back bone to lead the life you want” – Richard Yates

“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” – Thomas A. Edison

“We are all failures – at least the best of us are.” – J.M. Barrie

“Success is stumbling form failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm” – Winston Churchill

“Don’t let success go to your head and failure to your heart” – Will Smith

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Why You Never Have Enough Time and What You Need to Do About It

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Has this ever happened to you? You had an assignment, and the deadline was far away. You didn’t work on it much, but in the back of your mind, that insistent little voice was always whispering, “I gotta get this assignment done.” (more…)

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