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7 Simple Ways to Grow A Positive Attitude

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If you could buy a single product that guarantees you happiness at the push of a button, would you jump to take it? What if I tell you that you already have the seed of that something, and it is yours for free and all you have to do is to plant it and allow it to grow?

That something that can make you feel better, happier, and excited about life is your own mind through positive thinking and attitude.

Keeping a positive attitude is not dependent on the events in your life because life happens even when you stay still. Therefore, a positive attitude comes from inside you regardless of what is happening outside.

Here are 7 ways to grow your positive attitude:

1. Clean up your internal dialogue

A positive attitude starts with the things and the words that you are telling yourself. Glorifying what you are doing right is not arrogance, it’s positive reinforcement. Offering yourself understanding of what you are doing wrong is not self-indulgence, it’s self-compassion.

Clean up your internal dialogue, use encouraging, confident and compassionate words, a calm voice tone and daily affirmations. All of these are medicine to your soul and self-esteem. Plus, a pleasant self-talk improves your interpersonal skills and the way you relate to others.  

2. Write a gratitude journal

A gratitude journal gives you the opportunity to notice, acknowledge and be appreciative for the positive people and things in your life. It is an exercise that makes you hit the break, pause, and pay attention to the multitude of great things you have in your life. Things that, otherwise can pass unremarked and undiscovered.

“In order to carry a positive action we must develop here a positive vision.” — Dalai Lama

3. Reframe your problems

First, change the words you are using about a problem. For example, a “problem” is an issue or a challenge. Second, formulate the issue as a question and not a statement. A question gives you multiple possibilities of answering, various ways to go forward, a new beginning. On the other hand, a statement feels definitive, it feels like a dead end.

4. Attract positive people in your life

The easiest way to attract positive people into your life is to be one! Do you know the saying “misery likes company”? Happiness loves company too. Surrounding yourself with positive people is a two-way street. The better people feel in your presence, the better you feel as well. The more positive messages you send, the many positive messages you receive from others.

5. Search for the upside of things

Apparently, the tendency to notice more the negative or the positive side of things is due, in part, to genetics. However, no matter your genes, you can turn things around. Searching deliberately and purposefully for the upside of people and things is a process that is rewiring your brain towards your desired outcome: a positive attitude.

There is almost nothing and no one in this world that doesn’t have the same values and worth to offer you. It is just a matter of practice and patience to discover that part.  

6. Communicate and be assertive about your needs and desires

Being assertive and voicing your needs and desires is part of a positive attitude. When you are assertive about what you want or don’t want, it can calm your feelings of anxiety and fear of rejection. Even if you don’t get each time what you want, know that you had the courage to ask, done the best you could.

Learn how to communicate effectively to others so that everybody wins something at the end. Silence, anger, frustration, screaming, for example, are ways of communication. Is it not? However, they are not effective, nor productive in any shape or form. Assertiveness and communication go hand in hand, influencing each other and giving power one to another. Plus, both are an essential part of building a happy, content life not only for you but for those around at the same time.

There is not harmonious family life without assertiveness; there is no collaboration without skilled communication.  “Lack of communication” is nonsense. We are communicating something at every interaction we have. The only questions are what are you communicating? Is it your communication random, left to chance or is it polished and intentional?

“The thing that lies at the foundation of positive change, the way I see it, is service to a fellow human being.” — Lee lacocca

7. Avoid taking part in unnecessary disputes

Temperate your sense of entitlement and vanity. At every interaction you have, remind yourself, every step of the way, what are your intentions, goals and where do you want to get at the end. People like others that makes them feel good about themselves and that is an excellent aim of your positive attitude in life. Give good and good you will receive.

What are some techniques you use to maintain a positive mindset?

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The 3 Most Important Things I Learned About Personal Growth

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When you look back on your life, what do you want to think about? Do you plan to reminisce on all of the good things that have happened and how they shaped who you are today? Or would you rather remember all of the bad decisions, challenging experiences, and mistakes made that hurt or wasted a portion of your life?

In my opinion, I think it is important to reflect on both. While it’s important to remember the hardships we’ve been through in our lives – without them we wouldn’t be where we are now. There are 3 very specific areas that I feel have helped me grow in a personal sense more than anything else in my life so far. 

These aren’t simple lessons in a book or a lecture that you can just absorb and apply to your life. These are things that I’ve learned through experience and reflection, and I’m still learning and growing today.

1. We determine how much we’re worth by what we think about ourselves, others, and life in general.

This might seem like a pretty obvious lesson in life but it’s actually one of the most important because we can determine our own worth by how we think about ourselves and the world around us. If you’re looking for success in any kind of business or social setting (dating), then I’ll tell you right now that it doesn’t matter if you have 10 billion dollars or not – people are still going to judge you based on your thoughts and beliefs alone.

What determines our value isn’t necessarily what we do with our lives (which is often based on luck) but whether or not we believe that ‘our work’ is worthy or not in some sort of grand scheme or universe. We may not always be able to control what happens in our lives, but we can always control how we value ourselves and others.

“Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better.” – Maya Angelou

2. You don’t have to change your habits or personality just because someone else doesn’t like it – their opinions are THEIRS alone.

This is another one of those lessons that people tend to pick up on a little bit late in life, but if anything that makes its importance even worse! Basically, there’s going to come a time when you’re going to meet someone who has certain expectations of you as a person…but these expectations might not be realistic due to their motivations and personal beliefs. For example, sometimes parents might expect you to be a lawyer or doctor because that’s what they believe is best for their child.

However, this isn’t the case for everyone and so maybe your passion lies in music or writing novels. In this example, if you were also pressured into becoming a doctor – then there would obviously be some kind of conflict going on within yourself as a person. You should never have to give up something that you want to do just because someone else doesn’t like it! The reason why we’re put onto this Earth is to make our own choices and go after our OWN dreams instead of letting others determine what we can and cannot do with our lives .

3. You can’t change your life until you accept that you need to make a change.

When I was younger, I thought that this lesson would be pretty obvious – but as I got older, it really made me appreciate the fact that there are always different ways of perceiving our lives. For example, if someone wants to become rich and famous one day – their mind might simply overshadow any other possibility in their head because they feel like this is what they NEED to do right now.

However, this isn’t always true within our own lives because we think about things too literally instead of having an open mind. If you want to achieve success in any kind of business or social setting (dating) then you should be willing to try out different things instead of staying in your comfort zone. If you want something, then it’s up to YOU to actually go after it – nobody else is going to give it to you!

The three lessons above are some of the main things I want to pass on to everyone because they’ve come at an important time in my life where I need to start thinking about others instead of only myself. It’s great if we can learn to love ourselves first before anything else, but that doesn’t mean you should neglect everyone around you even though they might be your friends and family members!

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