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5 Ways to Change Your Perspective and Achieve the Impossible



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“If your dreams don’t scare you, they are not big enough.” This quote by Ellen Johnson Sirleaf says it all. She just nailed the whole idea about dreaming big, don’t you agree? I do! Those dreams should be outrageous, wild, and supernatural. So that everybody around you would try to persuade you that they are unrealistic to achieve, that your efforts will fall flat and you’re going to fail tremendously. This is a sure sign you’re on the right path.

So what is your biggest dream? What is the one goal that you think is impossible to achieve? Why do you think it’s impossible? Because it’s what others told you? Or because it’s you who does not believe you can do that? Or maybe all the above mentioned?

Achieving impossible goals starts with dreaming big. Too often, we sell ourselves short and aim for easily achievable goals rather than striving for something greater. When we shoot for the stars and dream big, anything is possible. 

It is also a matter of perspective. Think about this: everything that we have accomplished in life started off as an impossible dream. Once we only dreamed of going to the moon, and now we’ve sent people there. We dreamed of putting a man on Mars, and now we’re planning to do just that. 

Making a Choice

You know the saying, “life is what you make it”? Well, that’s true. But it’s not just because you choose your own path in life. It’s also because of the choices you make along the way. How come some people seem to be luckier than others? Because it’s not chance that determines our destiny, but rather the choices we make. Whether big or small, every decision can change our lives for better or worse.

Some people might argue that fate is predetermined, and we can’t change our destiny no matter what we do. But I think our lives are determined by the decisions we make, and each choice takes us one step closer to our eventual goal or fate.

So don’t be discouraged if things don’t go your way at first. Remember, it is never too late for a change and for choosing a different path. Clear-cut choice and determination is the key to realizing your big dream. 

So how do you dream big and reach goals that seem impossible?

Here are five ways to change your perspective and achieve the impossible!

1. Shun negativity

This is one of the primary things you need to do when dreaming big. You can’t let other people’s lack of faith in your dreams and in their own bring you down. Instead, you need to focus on your goals and make them happen. When negative thoughts creep into your head, push them out by a memory of a happy day or a good friend, thus replacing them with positive ones.

2. Do what makes you happy

To always stay positive, you should do what makes you happy. Flooding yourself in positivity, you will naturally start to dream big. This is because a constant positive state makes a happy person, and a happy person can work miracles. 

3. See the invisible

Have you heard about Eric Edmeades’ notion of the invisible? Do you know what impossible phenomena there are on this planet, which should not be there since they are impossible? Of course, you don’t. Since you haven’t seen them and not heard of them. But this doesn’t mean they don’t exist; we just don’t know they do. Right when we learn about those extraordinary things, we consider them impossible for us to do. And only afterward, step by step, and with relevant persistence in place, we can make them actual. 

4. Have faith

If only you could realize what tremendous power you have within! If only you could imagine how miraculous it is. If only you could remove that self-doubt eating you from within, bring that power out from its hiding place, and let it work for you! If only you could have faith. All the doors, impossible and even those invisible, will open if you believe in yourself! And, please, do not confuse faith with hope; hope leads to nowhere; it is vain. Faith, on the other hand, is the strongest feeling leading to success. It’s the key precondition to dream big. The butterfly doesn’t see its beautiful wings; it doesn’t know the beauty it contains. In the same way, we often don’t see our own greatness, our omnipotent power. 

5. Take action

Last but not least, take action! As simple as it sounds, this is precisely what it takes for a dream to come true: take action. That’s it! You will never ever achieve your big dreams if you just sit on your hands. So flip your fear and go ahead! Tune out all the negative feedback about your dream. Instead, talk to people who have already achieved their goals. Inquire them about the details, their feelings on the way, and the ups and downs. Other dreamers and their success stories will inspire you, give you wings so that you can go on to dream big. 

On your way to dream big, please, do not forget to dream with passion. Have a burning desire to succeed. Do not be afraid to take small steps. Small but steady. Visualize your dream. Talk about your dream loudly. Make it heard: to the walls, yourself, and the universe. Nurture self-confidence, self-belief, and resilience as you proceed. Persist through failures. They toughen you up and are an intrinsic part of success.

Dare to dream big and go for it! And believe me, one day, you will look back and become so proud of yourself. 

I am wrapping up leaving here for your inspiration a powerful quote by the first Indian-born astronaut Kalpana Chawla: “The path from dreams to success does exist. May you have the vision to find it, the courage to get on to it, and the perseverance to follow it.”

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The Imbalanced Problem with Work/Life Balance

Balancing is for your checkbook, gymnastics, and nutrition; not for your people’s work/life ratio.



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How to Find the Courage to Start New

Change is scary, but it’s a normal part of life.



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Failure is an integral part of life as life is incomplete without failures.



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5 Indicators of Unresolved Attachment Trauma



Emotional Attachment Trauma

Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.

Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.

Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.

Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.

However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.


Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:


1.  Unconscious Sabotage

Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.

This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.

Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.

This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.


2. Persistent Pain

Chronic pain is a common symptom that can stem from early trauma. Studies have shown a connection between physical conditions such as fibromyalgia, headaches, gastrointestinal issues, insomnia, muscle aches, back pain, chest pain, and chronic fatigue with the aftermath of chronic developmental trauma, particularly physical abuse.
Research has found that individuals with insecure attachment styles, such as anxious, avoidant, or disorganized, have a higher incidence of somatic symptoms and a history of physical and emotional abuse in childhood compared to those with a secure attachment style.

3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma

Trauma blocking practises are used to avoid the pain and memories connected with traumatic events.
Emotional numbing, avoidance, and escape via briefly pleasurable activities that distract from terrible memories or suffering are common examples. Unfortunately, this escape habit stops people from successfully processing and recovering from their trauma.
Furthermore, when the pain resurfaces, more and more diversions are necessary to continue ignoring it. This can be seen in compulsive behaviours such as drug or alcohol addiction, emotional eating, numbing oneself through relationships, workaholism, excessive or dangerous exercise routines, compulsive internet or technology use, or any other compulsive behaviour used to distract yoursef from intrusive thoughts and emotions.
These actions have the potential to prolong a cycle of avoidance and repression, preventing persons from healing and progressing.

4. A strong need for control

It’s understandable that some people may struggle with control issues in their adult lives, especially if they felt helpless or vulnerable during their childhood.
This can happen if someone had an overbearing caregiver who didn’t let them make their own choices, expected too much from them, or didn’t take care of them properly. As adults, they might try to control everything in their life to feel more in control and less anxious or scared. This might be because they didn’t feel like they had control over their life when they were a child.
It’s important to remember that everyone’s experiences are different and it’s okay to seek help if you’re struggling with control issues.

5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained

Individuals with a history of developmental trauma may experience a range of psychological symptoms, including obsessive-compulsive behavior, intense mood swings, irritability, anger, depression, emotional numbing, or severe anxiety.
These symptoms can vary in intensity and may occur intermittently throughout the day. People with this type of trauma may attempt to “distract” themselves from these symptoms by denying or rationalizing them, or may resort to substance abuse or behavioral addictions as coping mechanisms. This can be a maladaptive way of trying to numb their symptoms.

What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?

Everyone’s experience of healing from trauma is unique. It’s important to be aware of whether you have experienced childhood developmental trauma and how it may be affecting your relationships as an adult. Sometimes, the effects of trauma can be overwhelming and we may try to push them away or avoid them.
If you notice that you’re engaging in these behaviors, it’s important to seek help from a trauma therapist who can support you on your healing journey. Remember, you’re not alone and it’s never too late to start healing.

There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:

  1. Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
  2. Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
  3. Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
  4. Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
  5. Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.

It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.

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