Connect with us

Life

5 Action Steps To Unlock Your Positive Thinking

Published

on

5 Action Steps To Unlock Your Positive Thinking

When you read the term “self-motivation”, do you visualize a person who is self-disciplined and doesn’t need external motivation to accomplish great things? If so, you are on the right track. Self-motivated people are able to find internal motivations that give them the strength to function and accomplish positive things. Self-discipline is a part of self-motivation, but it isn’t the only factor.

If you struggle with motivation, you may apply negative labels to yourself. You may refer to yourself as lazy, sluggish, or even a failure. Stop that! Lack of self-motivation and laziness are not synonymous. Negative experiences, discouraging words from others, trauma, and stress are all things that chip away at your self-motivation. Stop adding to that negativity with the way that you talk to yourself. Remember that just wanting to increase your self-motivation takes a lot of courage.

“Beliefs have the power to create and the power to destroy. Human beings have the awesome ability to take any experience of their lives and create a meaning that disempowers them or one that can literally save their lives.” – Anthony Robbins

Positivity is what allows you to feel satisfied when you have accomplished something, and what encourages you to keep working when things are difficult. Self-motivated people are able to get things done and achieve happiness regardless of whether or not other people are there to help or encourage them. Fortunately, no matter where you are now, you can develop and improve your self-motivation.

Take these 5 action steps to unlock your positive thinking:

 

1. Meditate daily

Focus on two things. First, focus on forgiving yourself for failures and shortcomings. Then, visualize yourself full of energy, happy, active, and accomplishing things that are necessary and that are pleasurable to you. You can also use meditation for sleep. Just visualize the stressful and chaotic thoughts that cause sleeplessness flowing out of your mind. Then, visualize them being replaced with soothing white light.

“The greatest discovery of all time is that a person can change his future by merely changing his attitude.” – Oprah Winfrey

2. Get organized

This is one of the more difficult steps to take when you are struggling with self-motivation. The act of going through your belongings, sorting, organizing, and throwing things away is physically and emotionally taxing. Unfortunately, it is a necessary part of this process. Clutter is exhausting, and living and working in an environment that is not harmonious will continuously sap your energy and motivation.

 

3. Workout regularly or participate in a sport that you love

You may question how you will possibly do this when doing so requires motivation – the thing that you are lacking. Yes, it is true that it takes motivation to start down the path of physical activity. However, once you get going, the physical and emotional rewards will contribute more to your self-motivation than they ever take away. If you choose to participate in a team sport, a recreational league may be a great place to also find encouragement from others who love something that you do.

 

4. Give yoga a chance

There are two different ways in which yoga can help you improve your self-motivation. If you practice yoga on a regular basis, you improve flexibility, strengthen and tone your muscles. You will find that with this improvement in overall physical health, doing the things that you need or want to do is much less physically taxing. Your self-motivation will increase in spades if you know that you won’t be physically exhausted. Lack of self-motivation may as well come from an imbalance in one or more of your chakras. There are a variety of yoga poses that can help with that. In addition to this, yoga can be used as a way to push negative energy out of the body and encourage the flow of positive energy into the body.

 

5. Consume food and beverages that benefit your body and mind

Purge your cupboards of processed foods, fatty meats, excess dairy products, and other junk. Drink lots of water and green tea. Focus on developing a plant-centered diet where you take in at least 80 percent of your calories via plant based sources. If you do indulge, then choose food and beverages that are true indulgences. Enjoy a wonderful glass of wine, a wonderful meal at a great restaurant, or an expensive piece of dark chocolate. Don’t waste your indulgences on things that are not worthwhile.

 

Focus on daily positive thinking

Even the smallest negative thoughts can chip away at your self-motivation. Remember that self-improvement and motivation depend on you having a positive outlook about the big and small things in life. When you think a negative thought, force yourself to stop and rephrase that thought into something that is positive and affirming. Eventually, you will find that negative thoughts enter your mind less and less frequently.

When you learn how to think positively and motivate yourself every day, your life will improve immensely. You will regain the self-esteem that you lost during your struggles. You will find happiness is easier to come by. First, because it is easier to do the things you need in order to attain that happiness, but also because you will see yourself as somebody who deserves the happiness that was once elusive for you.

This deep inner happiness will allow you to feel love and joy in ways that you never did before. All of this combines to make you a more successful person on many levels. Your new self-motivation will lead you to success on the job, success in relationships, and most importantly success in loving and accepting yourself no matter where you are.

“Welcome every morning with a smile. Look on the new day as another special gift from your Creator, another golden opportunity to complete what you were unable to finish yesterday. Be a self-starter. Let your first hour set the theme of success and positive action that is certain to echo through your entire day. Today will never happen again. Don’t waste it with a false start or no start at all. You were not born to fail.” – Og Mandino

You deserve every single one of the positive benefits that come with self-motivation. Surely you can give yourself the gift of a few minutes of meditation, or one day of making food choices that truly nourish your body. Don’t you deserve the tired yet pleasurable feeling that comes after completing a work-out or a yoga session? You don’t need to do everything at once.

Just remember that your action plan is meaningless unless you actually take the steps to do so! What action are you taking today?

Putting all of her talents and skills to work, Leona is involved in a number of freelance endeavors - website and graphic design, communication design, interior design, fashion and styling, kids’ fashion, contributor at smartpaperhelp, and much more. She has a special passion for blogging on all topics related to her educational and career backgrounds. "What I have really gained through these years,” she states, “is a wonderful sense of independence and self-confidence.” Follow her on Twitter and Facebook.

Advertisement
5 Comments

5 Comments

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

Life

The Imbalanced Problem with Work/Life Balance

Balancing is for your checkbook, gymnastics, and nutrition; not for your people’s work/life ratio.

Published

on

Image Credit: Canva

Balance…it requires an equal distribution of value between two or more subjects to maintain steady composure and equitable proportionality. (more…)

Continue Reading

Life

How to Find the Courage to Start New

Change is scary, but it’s a normal part of life.

Published

on

Image Credit: Unsplash

It’s 2023, a new year, new you, right? But how do we start over? How do we make the changes in our lives that we crave so much to see?  (more…)

Continue Reading

Life

Failing is More Important Than Succeeding

Failure is an integral part of life as life is incomplete without failures.

Published

on

Image Credit: Unsplash

People often consider failure a stigma.  Society often doesn’t respect the people who failed and avoids and criticizes their actions. Failure is an integral part of life as life is incomplete without failures. Not to have endeavored is worse than failing in life as at some stage of your life you regret not having tried in your life.  (more…)

Continue Reading

Life

5 Indicators of Unresolved Attachment Trauma

Published

on

Emotional Attachment Trauma

Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.

Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.

Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.

Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.

However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.

 

Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:

 

1.  Unconscious Sabotage

Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.

This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.

Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.

This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.

 

2. Persistent Pain

 
Chronic pain is a common symptom that can stem from early trauma. Studies have shown a connection between physical conditions such as fibromyalgia, headaches, gastrointestinal issues, insomnia, muscle aches, back pain, chest pain, and chronic fatigue with the aftermath of chronic developmental trauma, particularly physical abuse.
 
Research has found that individuals with insecure attachment styles, such as anxious, avoidant, or disorganized, have a higher incidence of somatic symptoms and a history of physical and emotional abuse in childhood compared to those with a secure attachment style.
 
 

3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma

 
Trauma blocking practises are used to avoid the pain and memories connected with traumatic events.
 
Emotional numbing, avoidance, and escape via briefly pleasurable activities that distract from terrible memories or suffering are common examples. Unfortunately, this escape habit stops people from successfully processing and recovering from their trauma.
 
Furthermore, when the pain resurfaces, more and more diversions are necessary to continue ignoring it. This can be seen in compulsive behaviours such as drug or alcohol addiction, emotional eating, numbing oneself through relationships, workaholism, excessive or dangerous exercise routines, compulsive internet or technology use, or any other compulsive behaviour used to distract yoursef from intrusive thoughts and emotions.
 
These actions have the potential to prolong a cycle of avoidance and repression, preventing persons from healing and progressing.
 

4. A strong need for control

 
It’s understandable that some people may struggle with control issues in their adult lives, especially if they felt helpless or vulnerable during their childhood.
 
This can happen if someone had an overbearing caregiver who didn’t let them make their own choices, expected too much from them, or didn’t take care of them properly. As adults, they might try to control everything in their life to feel more in control and less anxious or scared. This might be because they didn’t feel like they had control over their life when they were a child.
 
It’s important to remember that everyone’s experiences are different and it’s okay to seek help if you’re struggling with control issues.
 
 

5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained

 
Individuals with a history of developmental trauma may experience a range of psychological symptoms, including obsessive-compulsive behavior, intense mood swings, irritability, anger, depression, emotional numbing, or severe anxiety.
 
These symptoms can vary in intensity and may occur intermittently throughout the day. People with this type of trauma may attempt to “distract” themselves from these symptoms by denying or rationalizing them, or may resort to substance abuse or behavioral addictions as coping mechanisms. This can be a maladaptive way of trying to numb their symptoms.
 
 

What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?

 
Everyone’s experience of healing from trauma is unique. It’s important to be aware of whether you have experienced childhood developmental trauma and how it may be affecting your relationships as an adult. Sometimes, the effects of trauma can be overwhelming and we may try to push them away or avoid them.
 
If you notice that you’re engaging in these behaviors, it’s important to seek help from a trauma therapist who can support you on your healing journey. Remember, you’re not alone and it’s never too late to start healing.
 

There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:

  1. Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
  2. Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
  3. Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
  4. Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
  5. Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.

It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.

 
 
If you desire to work with me on healing your wounds and unlocking the aspects of you that were never realized so you can achieve more success in your life then head over to awebliss.com and join my weekly LIVE online mentorship calls.
 
 
Continue Reading

Trending