Life
6 Ways to Figure Out What You Want to Be When You Grow Up

So you don’t know what you want to be when you grow up, huh? Join the club. Most people I know just ‘fell into’ their current role. They followed their nose until they got to where they are. They’re not overly happy in their job, but it doesn’t suck.
And that’s a big part of the problem. They’re busy and they’re comfortable so they don’t make a move. Their job is not causing enough pain to motivate them to change. On top of that, they don’t know what they really want. Sound familiar?
If you’ve always wondered what you want to be when you grow up, here are 6 strategies to help you work it out:
1. Confront yourself
Ask yourself, “What am I willing to sell my soul for?” because we do it every day, in so many ways. We sell our soul when we settle for a comfortable job that sucks the life out of us, little by little.
We sell our soul when we follow the career path that friends and family expect us to follow. We sell our soul when we go for the promotion that will mean long hours and a corner office.
Start making conscious decisions about what you’re willing to live with, and what you won’t compromise on.
2. Learn what you love
Have you ever said, “Wow! I’d love to do that!” when someone tells you what they do for a living? Maybe they’ve said they’re an entrepreneur, or a photographer or scientist. It doesn’t matter what they’ve said, the point is that you’ve heard it and been amazed.
You’ve also been a little in awe. It’s like they’ve reached for the moon and grabbed hold of it. This is a really strong clue that you shouldn’t ignore. It’s an indication of the sort of role you’d love.
“If you do what you love, you’ll never work a day in your life.” – Marc Anthony
3. Ignore your relations
Don’t make the mistake of asking your friends and family what you should do. Why? Because they love you and want the best for you. So they give you advice that will protect you and keep you safe.
Truth be told, they probably haven’t figured out their own dream career so they’re not equipped to give advice. Besides, do you really want to do what you’re told?
4. Get a guide
Independent advice, from someone who has no preconceived idea about what you ‘should’ do, can be invaluable. Try finding a good career coach.
A career coach should both support and challenge you. They should also help you acquire skills and strategies that you can use for the rest of your life – any time you change jobs. Even if they don’t help you discover your dream role, they should be a worthwhile investment.
5. Find your superpowers
Everyone has superpowers, although they don’t always realise it. Your superpowers are the things you do better than anyone else. If you’re not sure of your strengths, try taking a reliable quiz. This gives you an idea where your superpowers lie.
Princeton Review has a free career quiz that assesses your personal Interests and usual style. This sort of tool can help you to discover yourself. It may not be conclusive but it can give a strong indication of what’s likely to bring you satisfaction and happiness.
“Success is achieved by developing our strengths, not by eliminating our weaknesses.” – Marilyn vos Savant
6. Scare yourself
The biggest hurdle to your career change is fear. Deep down, you’re scared. It’s ok. We all are. We’re all afraid of change and afraid of the unknown – at least a little bit. The trick is not to let it stop you.
The only difference between you and people who achieve their dreams is your ability to overcome your fear. As Seth Godin said, “If it scares you, it might be a good thing to try.” So embrace your anxiety. Get familiar with a little unease and apprehension.
Challenge yourself. Who knows? You might just find there’s a braver, bolder version of yourself inside. And that they’re desperate to help you live your dreams.
What has helped you figure out what you wanted to do with your life? Leave your thoughts below!
Life
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Failure is an integral part of life as life is incomplete without failures.

People often consider failure a stigma. Society often doesn’t respect the people who failed and avoids and criticizes their actions. Failure is an integral part of life as life is incomplete without failures. Not to have endeavored is worse than failing in life as at some stage of your life you regret not having tried in your life. (more…)
Life
5 Indicators of Unresolved Attachment Trauma

Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.
Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.
Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.
Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.
However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.
Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:
1. Unconscious Sabotage
Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.
This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.
Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.
This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.
3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma
4. A strong need for control
5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained
What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?
There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:
- Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
- Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
- Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
- Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
- Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.
It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.
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we cultivate meaning in our lives when we pursue our calling

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Grit: The Key to Your Ultimate Greatness
Grit is an overlooked aspect of success, but it plays a critical role.

A grit mindset is an essential key to your greatness. It’s what separates those who achieve their goals from those who give up and never reach their potential. It’s also the difference between success and failure, happiness and misery. If you want to be great and achieve your dreams, then you need grit. Luckily, it’s something that can be learned. Please keep reading to learn more about grit and discover four ways to develop it. (more…)
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