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Why You Have To Find Your Purpose Now



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Your purpose. It’s time to detach from the idea that it’s too much of a floaty concept and that it will magically show up, because, every moment waited is a moment wasted, and each wasted moment degrades your clarity of purpose. It is why you must find your purpose in life. Not in a few weeks, months or even years. Start this process now. 

The worst thing that can happen here is that you will learn, so – if I were you – I wouldn’t be too worried about it. In fact, don’t worry at all.

When you look at people who have lived significant lives, who created their success, they never waited. They didn’t wait for money, not for ease, not in their relationship, not for security. What these people have in common is that they feel what they want to give most as a gift to the world and what they can do to do it today. 

As the world will always present you with (unforeseen) challenges, you can either live fully, giving the gift right in the midst of those challenges, or you can wait for an imaginary future, which will never come if you don’t make a core shift in your awareness and devotion.

The experience we call life is a mission to your truest, most authentic self for then to give the gifts to the world around you. Finding your life purpose is the first step to live your most conscious and rich life. Your mission should be your priority and until you don’t discover this deep purpose and live it fully, you will feel as if there is something missing, a gap that cannot be filled, because there is no utmost satisfaction and groundedness with that you seek to fulfill. 

As Seneca would say: “When a man does not know what harbor he is making for, no wind is the right wind.”

When you open yourself up to living at your edge, that is a place outside the comfort zone, your deepest purpose will slowly come forward, because it’s where creative thinking, true genesis, comes in. Transformation from the core happens with prior discomfort and with uncovering your truest and deepest purpose, you must step out of the illusion of a safe zone. But you must remember that it is not only courage and effort that will challenge you enough to get out of that comfort zone. You do this with a purposeful and direction focused mindset.

Each layer around the deepest core being pulled back is being closer to the fullness of your deepest desire and purpose. Moreover, by analyzing your purpose and realigning your direction, you are then able to solve many of your emotional and relational problems.

What you do is this. You fully lean into it, you give it your all, without holding anything back, lifting up the veils. 

“Knowing your life purpose is the first step toward living a truly conscious life. A life purpose provides us with a clear goal, a set finish line that you truly want to reach.” – Simon Foster

Then, you will find your focus comes along with it. It will be easier to focus on what matters to pursue your purpose and everything else you may encounter. You will understand it’s the intrinsic devotion to revert around waves as you – the sailor – put the purposeful effort into everything you think, do and simply are. Commitment flows to you and you’re right at the edge of your chair, passionate about creating the fulfillment of your purpose. Your integrity and authenticity grows and you’re allowing yourself to live a high value-based life. Each layer that you are uncovering, is in alignment with your actions and thoughts to do so. 

As a result, your environment admires your commitment and what you can offer in your service to others; you’re doing what you really want to do and you deliver your contribution to the world. You have fallen in love with what you do and learn and you keep on generating that meaningful love in those you encounter. With everything you are doing on a day to day basis, learning about, giving to people, offering in situations, events and circumstances, it’s been dipped in the sacred chalice that is your purpose. This is what gives you the sense of fulfillment; you get to live a purposeful, whole life.

And then, the next cycle of uncovering the layers starts.

Let’s not forget we’re human beings. In life, we experience all human emotions, disappointment, anger, judgment, frustration, disconnection, dealignment, and you would be of torture to yourself if you were to let yourself think these emotions are never in your benefit. Instead, try to think of it this way, because there is a reason for them. If you complete a lesser purpose (one of your layers) with 100% success along the way, it won’t feel as fulfilling as you think it is going to be. 

Adversity in your emotions – that is the full spectrum – is the preparation for advancing toward a greater embodiment of your deeper purpose. Therefore, keep yourself disciplined as you stay on track of your purpose. Each purpose and each mission you have found in life, are meant to be fully lived. As you reach the end of a layer, you will experience emptiness, boredom and it doesn’t feel like you should continue with it. This is the sign you’ve fully uncovered that layer and it’s then time to let go of it, for you to start uncovering the next. 

Don’t mistake this for a sign of failure or that you’ve chosen the ‘wrong’ direction. This is growth. You take lessons from emotions that put you off-guard, you discover these deeper layers about yourself and you will understand that adversity ultimately pays off.

Find and connect to the intention of finding your truest desire. It’s what unfolds your deepest purpose, it’s your conscious way of living to fulfill that purpose that prevents you from getting lost and off-track. Become aware of the fact that everything in your life, from diet to a professional career, must be aligned with that deeper purpose, the core meaning as to why you do or learn something, and then for you to make it known in the world and be of guidance to those you encounter.

To Wrap It Up.

The importance of starting now and to then never stop, is what makes you so powerful in creating success and to continue in the face of adversity, because then, you are well capable of knowing what to do with your life and entering the unknowingness, waiting for a vision or a new form of purpose to emerge. It’s when you come to understand what makes you come alive, what it is that you want to breathe life into. 

When you are pursuing your minor purposes and deepest purpose, you are in your element. It is when talent and skill meet passion, substance and meaning. Consequently, it adds more value and you create joy towards your personal and professional fulfillment.

Keep yourself disciplined and on the track of purpose with every task you do, but don’t forget the grand and deepest purpose while you pursue the smaller tasks of your daily life, as you will reduce yourself to a machine of little significance.

You are worth so much more than that. In fact, you’re limitless.

Unhook that potential by starting today.

Anne Diederiks is an almost graduating student in the field of speech-language therapy and she is also qualified as a personal counselor for 4 years. She is on a constant path of exploring the experience of life, learning about human behavior and what makes humans tick, discovering the deeper layers of the universe and how she can play her part in contributing to her environment. Anne Diederiks has entered entrepreneurship to start building a life that fulfills her purposes and desires, for herself and those she is reaching out to.

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Failing is More Important Than Succeeding

Failure is an integral part of life as life is incomplete without failures.



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People often consider failure a stigma.  Society often doesn’t respect the people who failed and avoids and criticizes their actions. Failure is an integral part of life as life is incomplete without failures. Not to have endeavored is worse than failing in life as at some stage of your life you regret not having tried in your life.  (more…)

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5 Indicators of Unresolved Attachment Trauma



Emotional Attachment Trauma

Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.

Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.

Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.

Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.

However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.


Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:


1.  Unconscious Sabotage

Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.

This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.

Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.

This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.


2. Persistent Pain

Chronic pain is a common symptom that can stem from early trauma. Studies have shown a connection between physical conditions such as fibromyalgia, headaches, gastrointestinal issues, insomnia, muscle aches, back pain, chest pain, and chronic fatigue with the aftermath of chronic developmental trauma, particularly physical abuse.
Research has found that individuals with insecure attachment styles, such as anxious, avoidant, or disorganized, have a higher incidence of somatic symptoms and a history of physical and emotional abuse in childhood compared to those with a secure attachment style.

3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma

Trauma blocking practises are used to avoid the pain and memories connected with traumatic events.
Emotional numbing, avoidance, and escape via briefly pleasurable activities that distract from terrible memories or suffering are common examples. Unfortunately, this escape habit stops people from successfully processing and recovering from their trauma.
Furthermore, when the pain resurfaces, more and more diversions are necessary to continue ignoring it. This can be seen in compulsive behaviours such as drug or alcohol addiction, emotional eating, numbing oneself through relationships, workaholism, excessive or dangerous exercise routines, compulsive internet or technology use, or any other compulsive behaviour used to distract yoursef from intrusive thoughts and emotions.
These actions have the potential to prolong a cycle of avoidance and repression, preventing persons from healing and progressing.

4. A strong need for control

It’s understandable that some people may struggle with control issues in their adult lives, especially if they felt helpless or vulnerable during their childhood.
This can happen if someone had an overbearing caregiver who didn’t let them make their own choices, expected too much from them, or didn’t take care of them properly. As adults, they might try to control everything in their life to feel more in control and less anxious or scared. This might be because they didn’t feel like they had control over their life when they were a child.
It’s important to remember that everyone’s experiences are different and it’s okay to seek help if you’re struggling with control issues.

5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained

Individuals with a history of developmental trauma may experience a range of psychological symptoms, including obsessive-compulsive behavior, intense mood swings, irritability, anger, depression, emotional numbing, or severe anxiety.
These symptoms can vary in intensity and may occur intermittently throughout the day. People with this type of trauma may attempt to “distract” themselves from these symptoms by denying or rationalizing them, or may resort to substance abuse or behavioral addictions as coping mechanisms. This can be a maladaptive way of trying to numb their symptoms.

What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?

Everyone’s experience of healing from trauma is unique. It’s important to be aware of whether you have experienced childhood developmental trauma and how it may be affecting your relationships as an adult. Sometimes, the effects of trauma can be overwhelming and we may try to push them away or avoid them.
If you notice that you’re engaging in these behaviors, it’s important to seek help from a trauma therapist who can support you on your healing journey. Remember, you’re not alone and it’s never too late to start healing.

There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:

  1. Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
  2. Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
  3. Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
  4. Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
  5. Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.

It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.

If you desire to work with me on healing your wounds and unlocking the aspects of you that were never realized so you can achieve more success in your life then head over to and join my weekly LIVE online mentorship calls.
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3 Simple Steps to Cultivate Courage and Create a Life of Meaning

we cultivate meaning in our lives when we pursue our calling



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Our deepest human desire is to cultivate meaning in our lives. Our deepest human need is to survive. (more…)

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Grit: The Key to Your Ultimate Greatness

Grit is an overlooked aspect of success, but it plays a critical role.



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A grit mindset is an essential key to your greatness. It’s what separates those who achieve their goals from those who give up and never reach their potential. It’s also the difference between success and failure, happiness and misery. If you want to be great and achieve your dreams, then you need grit. Luckily, it’s something that can be learned. Please keep reading to learn more about grit and discover four ways to develop it. (more…)

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