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6 Ways To Start Chasing Your Dreams

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6 Ways To Chase Your Dreams

On my own path of greatness one particular quote that always gave me motivation was this: “Every morning you have two choices; continue to sleep with your dreams or wake up and chase them.”

Seeing so many successful athletes, businessmen, celebrities, politicians and motivational speakers; motivated me to chase my dreams.  I have come to realise that your dreams must be authentic to you and you only. We were born to make sense of our own journey not others. I developed a notion that they were special, great people who worked hard to achieve their dreams.

One of the textbook definitions of a dream is the “infatuation or indulging in fantasies about something greatly desired.” Whether it is a beautiful house, a degree, a job, a car, holiday; you have to become obsessed with that dream.

A particular trait of a dream is that they can be unclear and sometimes you wake up in the middle of the night in a state of confusion. Likewise trying to make your goals and dreams possible may start off as a shaky road so it’s important to visualize the end goal.

“Greatness is not this elusive, esoteric, godlike feature that only the special among us will ever taste. It is something that truly exists in all of us.” – Will Smith

Many people give up on their dreams simply because they are afraid to fail. This is a reflection of not having the correct tools, motivation, guidance and support. People stop chasing their dreams because in my opinion it is a psychological factor.

This is based on the association of the mind with the word DREAM; As soon as we say DREAM we sit back; relax and disconnect ourselves and immediately think about this huge unattainable fantasy and say to ourselves “I will never achieve that” , “it will take forever” “I will wait for the perfect time”. So it is time to make your dreams a reality so chase your dreams because for now at least you can muster some courage.

Below I have listed 6 ways to start chasing your dreams.

 

1. Explore

Don’t be afraid to ask. You are going to get further by exploring your dream if you ask questions. Ask experts within your chosen field. Don’t feel embarrassed if you have less knowledge and power than they do. Perhaps you will even find a bonus; a lucky shot at a big project; you just never know what you will bump into.

Asking the right questions can perhaps be the most pivotal guide for your journey. You must unleash the doubts in your mind. So take the weight off your shoulders by asking the right people.

 

2. Be courageous

Failure is the result of the lack of will and commitment to perform an action. The less input you put in there will be no rewards or products at the end. Take baby steps towards your goal every chance you get. Those steps will eventually become strides and eventually you will be running towards your goal.

Furthermore, taking risks will become a habit, which isn’t a bad thing. Learning to take risks will give you more courage to tackle greater obstacles that lay in the path of your dream. Therefore you won’t fear failure; failure will only then become a learning experience for you. Courage is that voice at the end of the day that says keep trying so fall in love with the process and embrace the challenges of your dream.

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3. Build a foundation

In Christopher Nolan movie INCEPTION “Ariadne is an Architect who designs the mazes that the dreams will use as their foundation, taking the opportunity offered by Cobb to create and build places that cannot exist in reality.” Likewise build your dream state in reality. Using certain tools, build your foundation by using all platforms such as social media, Facebook, twitter, Instagram, YouTube, LinkedIn, email, vlogs, YouTube.

Building your foundation will ensure that there is a firm base for your dream. Your dream is protected from doubts that may exist in your mind. The greater amount of resources you set your sights on the likelihood of your dream increases.

 

4. Plan ahead-don’t daydream

Sometimes the willpower diminishes by the numerous times you try to achieve something in life. The best way to get around this is to plan well ahead because planning ahead gives you confidence. This confidence can be used to react to challenges and adversities. Your whole life you have been planning for a particular moment; it can crumble within an instant if you fail to respond or act accordingly.

By planning ahead, you can identify the associated risks, weigh and categorize them, prioritize and create a response plan.  Therefore have a strategy for your dream. Put pen to paper and break it down; hours, days, months, years. Once the plan is ready, execute the plan with no fear of failure and you will see that the end results are rewarding. Planning and executing is a cycle that you have to keep consistent because not only does it affect the outcome but also fuels your enjoyment of the process and joys in life.

 

5. Dream big

Just pause for a second and think….. the accumulative effect of planning, executing, a foundation, the courage for your dream. Put all those together and is it not possible in achieving much more than you expected. Correctly so when you dream big you’ll enter a level of greatness.

Along your dream perhaps you will enter a new avenue and answer your true calling; a talent that you thought you never had. These hidden talents won’t be explored unless you dream big because when you step out of your comfort zone is the moment when you truly get to know yourself.

 “The biggest adventure you can take is to live the life of your dreams.” – Oprah Winfrey

6. Believe your dreams will come true

The final piece for chasing your dream is the stern belief in yourself that you can achieve it. Don’t settle on smaller things; cultivate the energy on a daily basis to really go after what you want in life because your dreams do not need to remain dreams forever. The combination of a plan, its execution and inner belief are perhaps the spark in making your dream come alive.

                                              

When Awake, Ask Yourself “Am I Dreaming?”

Besides working in the field of science; helping patients through genetic testing, my purpose is to empower and inspire people in life with motivational videos, messages, articles and stories from around the world. I love to engage creative and ambitious minds on my Facebook page www.facebook.com/motivationwithusman.

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However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.

 

Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:

 

1.  Unconscious Sabotage

Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.

This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.

Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.

This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.

 

2. Persistent Pain

 
Chronic pain is a common symptom that can stem from early trauma. Studies have shown a connection between physical conditions such as fibromyalgia, headaches, gastrointestinal issues, insomnia, muscle aches, back pain, chest pain, and chronic fatigue with the aftermath of chronic developmental trauma, particularly physical abuse.
 
Research has found that individuals with insecure attachment styles, such as anxious, avoidant, or disorganized, have a higher incidence of somatic symptoms and a history of physical and emotional abuse in childhood compared to those with a secure attachment style.
 
 

3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma

 
Trauma blocking practises are used to avoid the pain and memories connected with traumatic events.
 
Emotional numbing, avoidance, and escape via briefly pleasurable activities that distract from terrible memories or suffering are common examples. Unfortunately, this escape habit stops people from successfully processing and recovering from their trauma.
 
Furthermore, when the pain resurfaces, more and more diversions are necessary to continue ignoring it. This can be seen in compulsive behaviours such as drug or alcohol addiction, emotional eating, numbing oneself through relationships, workaholism, excessive or dangerous exercise routines, compulsive internet or technology use, or any other compulsive behaviour used to distract yoursef from intrusive thoughts and emotions.
 
These actions have the potential to prolong a cycle of avoidance and repression, preventing persons from healing and progressing.
 

4. A strong need for control

 
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This can happen if someone had an overbearing caregiver who didn’t let them make their own choices, expected too much from them, or didn’t take care of them properly. As adults, they might try to control everything in their life to feel more in control and less anxious or scared. This might be because they didn’t feel like they had control over their life when they were a child.
 
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5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained

 
Individuals with a history of developmental trauma may experience a range of psychological symptoms, including obsessive-compulsive behavior, intense mood swings, irritability, anger, depression, emotional numbing, or severe anxiety.
 
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What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?

 
Everyone’s experience of healing from trauma is unique. It’s important to be aware of whether you have experienced childhood developmental trauma and how it may be affecting your relationships as an adult. Sometimes, the effects of trauma can be overwhelming and we may try to push them away or avoid them.
 
If you notice that you’re engaging in these behaviors, it’s important to seek help from a trauma therapist who can support you on your healing journey. Remember, you’re not alone and it’s never too late to start healing.
 

There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:

  1. Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
  2. Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
  3. Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
  4. Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
  5. Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.

It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.

 
 
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