Connect with us


5 Action Packed Ways to Build Audacious Self Confidence



self confidence

Confess it, you are as shy as the moon. Whether it’s an office presentation or a wedding toast, you jitter, sweat, and blush as you grapple with the overwhelming  fear of acting foolish.

You try to fix the problem, you bury your head in the sand, and wish your lack of confidence away but no luck. You even create silly little excuses; ‘Introverts are not confident’ and use them to justify avoiding the spotlight by any means.

But sooner than later, you realize that on your road to achieving any worthwhile success, you are bound to be in that spotlight a lot. You are forced to wonder; ‘How can I beat shyness and be extremely confident?’

Here are 5 steps that will light up your path:

1. Avoid the common mistake

Most people make the common mistake of believing the myth that confidence is a luxurious character trait only a few lucky people are blessed with. That is far from the truth. In reality, confidence is only a state of the mind.

Sounds liberating? If not it will in a minute and here is why: the state of being confident is only a state of the mind or what you would call – a feeling. Like joy or sadness any person with a sane mind can experience feeling confident.

The task is to programme your mind to be confident. To do that, you have to first change your attitude. You have to reject that self inflicted curse that you cannot be confident. Make the commitment now to change your attitude. Start with the affirmation ‘Confidence is only a state of being and I can be the most confident person in the world if i want to.

“The most beautiful thing you can wear is confidence.” – Blake Lively

2. Bury those bodies and be free

Can you recall 3 events from your childhood where somebody that wasn’t you was utterly humiliated? Pretty difficult right? It’s not that no such events happened but life has moved on. Now, can you recall 5 events where it was you who was embarrassed? I bet devastating memories of humiliation are gushing through your mind.

It is natural for people to bear the excruciating weight of negative past experiences and re live them in their minds but doing this significantly crushes self confidence. Your job is to bury those heavy bodies of negative memories. They make your confidence stink.

Approach each incident of your past like a caring mother would approach her child. Treat yourself with compassion. Make peace with the event by realizing how much stronger it has made you and how much you have grown.

3. Access your hidden power

There is a hidden power that guarantees results and maximizes your chances of becoming more confident. Before we unveil it, let us first take a little trip. Take a trip of the mind to an imagined reality where you meet your most confident self. Describe this marvel of nature. How do you conduct yourself? How do you talk? How do you smile?

Note down any little detail you observe and make the commitment to transport that distant self into this current reality by acting as if you are him/her. Do so, and you will tap into the hidden power that guarantees success.

You will begin to embrace the true power of visualization. This in turn, will have monumental effects in conjuring up your infectious confidence. Go ahead, imagine yourself in your awesome state, take notes and act as if it your imagination is real. As long as you persist, it will become real sooner than you expect.

4. Be the ray of sunshine for someone else

How many times do your desires, goals, fears or frustrations drift your mind into trains of thought in a day? Once? Twice? Can’t Count?

People are naturally self centered. We constantly worry of, plan for, dread and desire things for ourselves on a daily basis. Most times, dying for a distraction from the monotonous and sinister cycle (that is why TVs sell).

Become the break that we are all dying for. Treat every single person you meet with care and concern. Genuinely ask about their day. Listen to their worries and reason with them. Perform little random acts of kindness, provide comfort through conversations, ease life with your bright smile and many will genuinely appreciate you.

Very soon, people will automatically smile from the sight of your face or the sound of your name. Imagine the impact of that on your self esteem.

“The most beautiful thing you can wear is confidence.” – Terry Mark

5. Clean up the clutter

Just as you wouldn’t leave weeds growing out in the garden, you must not let negative self talk foster in your mind. Clean up the piled up clutter of I can’t and replace them with empowering positive self talk.

Serve your body so that it can serve you. Cleanse it up by leaving the junk to the garbage, it only slows you down. Infuse a healthy dose of greens and oranges into your diet and snack with nuts. Replace coffee with tea and sugar with honey and drink loads of water. Take long brisk walks and very soon you will be glowing with energy and confidence.

The role of the most confident person ever is always open and the perfect candidate is you. Although it does require some patience, practice and persistence, once you consistently apply yourself, the staggering benefits of glory, accomplishment, self-mastery and ultimate success will be yours to enjoy for a lifetime.

How do you build your self confidence? Please share your thoughts below!

Mohammed Bello is a professional copywriter that creates engaging content to drive massive amounts of customers to small and medium businesses. Go to his website at or follow him on Twitter.


3 Simple Tips to Strengthen Your Emotional Intelligence for Better Relationships



how to build better relationships
Image Credit: Unsplash

Relationships are challenging. They make you examine yourself from all angles, and that can be triggering. For example, have you ever had a friend or significant other say something that sparked an argument instantly—only to find out you misheard what they said in the first place? (more…)

Continue Reading


If You Want to Avoid Failure Once and for All, Ask Yourself These 4 Questions



how to avoid failure
Image Credit: Pixabay

You just invested in yourself and in your business. You are taking massive action but the results are just not clicking yet. While everyone is making 10X, 20X, and even 100X ROI on their initial investment, you have made $0 return. Failure is starting to overcast your bright shining positive attitude and you are feeling the pain and shame of it. (more…)

Continue Reading


3 Simple Hacks That Can Recharge Your Willpower and Help You Perform Better at Work



Image Credit: Pixabay

How many times did you wake up feeling like you could conquer the world? You set ambitious goals for the day, you put on your best attire and walked out the door with a big smile on your face but eventually, life took over. Traffic, emails, work, family, and everything else you have around slowly but steadily started to drain your energy and made you feel exhausted.

You run out of battery, and the only solution that seemed viable was to rely on more caffeine. When that stopped working, all the temptations around you started to look much more appealing, and that sense of drive and commitment you had before slowly faded away. This is you running out of willpower.

Willpower: what is it? Why is it limited?

The American Psychology Association describes willpower as “the ability to resist short-term temptations in order to meet long-term goals.” In the book “The Willpower Instinct”, Dr. Kelly McGonigal, explains how every person’s willpower is limited, and slowly depletes throughout the day. The more “willpower challenges” you face, the quicker your reserve drains. Dr. McGonigal divided the different types of willpower challenges you might encounter in three categories:

  • I will: We face this type of challenge whenever we should do something, but we simply don’t feel like getting it done right now.
  • I won’t: We face this challenge when we try to resist temptation, or we try to keep cool in stressful situations.
  • I want: This is a particular type of challenge where we keep track of our long term goals, dreams, and desires. In this instance, we feel like we should take action right now to come one step closer to the goal. 

It’s easy to recognize it when you face a willpower challenge because you literally “feel it in your body.” Imagine being really hungry and walking in front of a bakery. The sight and the smell of pastries quickly triggers an “I won’t” type of challenge, and it takes a severe amount of effort and energy to walk away.

Every time you manage to win one of those challenges, a little bit of your willpower reserve gets used. The more challenges you face daily, the harder it will be to stay true to your goals.

Can you train or recharge your willpower?

A growing body of research suggests that willpower should be considered a muscle. To strengthen it, you should exercise it regularly, but you should not overwork it. Therefore, we shouldn’t try to “be good” at all times. Instead, we should learn how to relax and recharge our willpower.

The general advice on how to improve willpower involves sleep, proper nutrition, and regular exercise. This broad and general recommendation is often not downright applicable by most, because it consists of changing various daily habits. Luckily, three very effective hacks have been discovered, that have an immediate effect on our willpower and take just a few minutes to apply.

Here are the 3 ways to refill your willpower reserves:

1. Focused breathing

Breathing, when done correctly, can stimulate the release of calming hormones while reducing the release of stress hormones like cortisol and catecholamines. To make this effective, you should deeply and slowly inhale through the nose for at least five seconds. Fill your belly with air first, then your chest, and when there’s no more space for air, still try to do tiny inhalations through the nose.

You should feel a pulling sensation around your neck and trapezius muscles. Once your lungs are full, try to hold the breath for five seconds, then slowly exhale through the mouth for at least five seconds. If you repeat this process ten to twenty times, you should feel dramatically more relaxed. Use this method several times a day, especially when you’re experiencing high levels of stress or anxiety.

2. Reward yourself when you accomplish a micro goal

According to a recent study, frequent instant rewards can boost motivation, and therefore, willpower. Creating your own reward system can help you to accomplish your to-do list, and also resist temptations. Since every individual has different tastes, you should come up with creative ideas about the small and frequent rewards you will give yourself upon winning any willpower challenge.

You can see this hack in practice in Apps like the popular Duolinguo, where after completing each lesson you get presented with a chance to open a treasure chest. This rewarding system seems to keep the users much more likely to keep learning new lessons.

3. Taking cold showers

Your body has an autonomic response to cold water. Getting into a cold shower is a difficult (but minor) willpower challenge on its own. As I previously mentioned, winning a willpower challenge strengthens your willpower muscle. Having a morning cold shower, on top of having multiple health benefits, will set you up for a positive winning streak of further challenges.

High performance is the sum of many small habits. Successful people don’t have an unlimited reserve of willpower, but they do have a set of daily rituals that made them succeed. These three hacks are some of the most effective techniques to develop willpower, but some of them may not fit every individual. You should try to find the perfect mix of daily practices that best fits your lifestyle and likes, so that you can strengthen your willpower muscle and perform better at work.

Continue Reading


3 Inspiring Lessons We Can Learn From Jim Carrey About the Law of Attraction



jim carrey
Image Credit: Maarten de Boer

You’ve more than likely heard of Jim Carrey before. Over the years, he has starred in many popular films including The Truman Show, The Mask, and Bruce Almighty (just to name a few.)

But his personality goes a lot deeper than just his comedic persona and movie star charisma. In fact, Jim Carrey is probably one of the most philosophical individuals on the planet

Although he isn’t in the spotlight as much anymore, throughout the years, he has credited his success and fortunes by applying the Law of attraction into his life. What’s even more inspiring is that Jim Carrey, like you and I, came from humble beginnings. No silver spoon or easy ticket. In fact, his family was very poor throughout his childhood. So what made him so successful in attracting such an extravagant and self-fulfilling life?

Here are 3 lessons you can learn from Jim Carrey when it comes to manifesting your dreams into a reality:

1. You Have To Take Action

You can’t just visualize then go eat a sandwich”, Jim Carrey says. It goes without saying that the law of attraction does require action. You cannot simply rely on visualizing and expect to see results, especially when it comes to manifesting desires that other people would like to achieve also. E.g. Careers, scholarships, competitions, anything that involves another individual.

Visualization and positive thinking are crucial when it comes to using the law of attraction, but you have to meet the universe halfway with the steps you take as well. We are physical beings that require physical steps to get physical results. The real key is to make daily plans/goals in order to get you closer towards achieving your desires. So after that sandwich, make sure start taking action toward your dreams!

This could be working on your hobbies or passion, applying for that dream job or studying to get better grades. As long as you are moving toward your goals then there’s no reason why it can’t happen. So get out there and kick some butt.

2. Double Down On What You Love

My father could have been a great comedian but he didn’t believe that that was possible for him, and so he made a conservative choice. Instead, he got a safe job as an accountant and when I was 12 years old he was let go from that safe job, and our family had to do whatever we could to survive. I learned many great lessons from my father. Not the least of which was that: You can fail at what you don’t want. So you might as well take a chance on doing what you love.”

If this story of Jim Carrey’s father doesn’t pull on your heartstrings and inspire you at the same time, nothing else will! This is such an undeniable life lesson that everyone needs to learn. A lesson to take risks, push comfort zones and go all-in on what you love doing. So if your dreams, hobbies or goals seem far fetched to the majority, then you are already beating the other 99%.

Be that 1% that’s willing to dream big and rise above the norm. Unfortunately, in today’s society, our ancestral instincts still rule our everyday life. Fear is one of them and controls the majority of our population. It’s scary to push comfort zones and try something new, the thought of failure is often paralyzing to many. But my question to you is, will you look back one day and regret the chances you didn’t take?

3. Keep Your Eye On The Prize

As far as I can tell, it’s just about letting the universe know what you want and working toward it, while letting go of how it comes to pass.” Holding onto every little detail when it comes to manifesting, can conjure up more harm than good. The reason is that the universe will deliver in ways you might not expect.

If you are too busy wondering when your desires will manifest, comparing yourself to others, or ignoring every sign that doesn’t look like your detailed plan you’ve written down, then you may be missing out on opportunities that are right in front of you! Your visualizations don’t have to be perfect, in fact, it’s better to just let go altogether and focus on the result itself rather than dwelling on every little detail. This doesn’t mean to simply forget about what you want but instead having the confidence it will happen in time. 

An example of this is when Jim Carrey wrote himself a check for 30 million dollars. The only detail he knew was that he would earn it through his acting career, and he did indeed achieve this goal! So make sure to tell the universe what you want, but try not to hold onto every little detail!

Jim Carrey is just another person like you and me, with his own personal ups and downs in his road to success. He is someone to look up to when applying the law of attraction in your life too. It doesn’t matter if your goals or desires are different because the core foundation will always stay the same. You can and will do this if you think, feel and act as if it will happen!

Continue Reading