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6 Attributes of Highly Conscious People Who Are Faced With Obstacles or Challenges



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Highly conscious individuals don’t give up when faced with a challenge, they often won’t even veer from their path for long when facing what others might regard as enormous difficulties. They have learned that contained within every experience (desired or not) is an opportunity for exploration, awareness and expansion.

They also have the skills, tools and resources to dig deep and do what’s required to hang in there, even when it’s tough, painful and seems unrelentingly difficult. These people tend to live accelerated lives and know that by facing what feels insurmountable, they become wiser, more adept at handling anything in life and business and will ultimately discover more of themselves in the process.

Here are six attributes, I’ve discovered that these courageous role models have in common:

1. They don’t give up or give in

An example from my own life is having had CFS (Chronic Fatigue Syndrome) for 20 years. By this reality’s standards, I didn’t know if I could ever ‘get better’ or shift my experience, but somewhere inside lay an unshakable belief that wellness existed for me, which propelled me through the tough times, as if the solution lay just around the corner.

That didn’t mean I didn’t endure frustration, disappointment, loss, self-doubt, feelings of being a victim or hating on my body. On the road to unraveling these conditioned emotions with courage and growing self-awareness, I began to glimpse a sense of empowerment and profound truth that would ultimately re-direct my entire future, unlocking my health and well-being in the process.  

Because of my unwavering determination to uncover what I knew deep down, my health is completely different today than it was five or even several years ago. I have a thriving mentoring and healing practice and I write for you about my experiences.

TIP: Where do you habitually give up on what is true for you when things seem difficult? Where could you commit more to creating the future you’ve always dreamed of?  

2. Use their own lack of beliefs as an opportunity to learn about themselves

Immediately beneath every negative emotion (and negative reaction to an undesirable outcome) lurks a lack belief waiting to be discovered and cleared. When we are fearless enough, trust in our own process and are totally committed to expansion, we will examine uncomfortable thoughts, feelings and emotions and look for what lies below.

Therein is a valuable gold mine about what we believe that no longer serves us. Conscious legends comprehend that if they can find that belief, they can clear it and be free, going forward with greater confidence, momentum and ease.

TIP: Negative emotions are like road signs that direct us to hidden, unhelpful beliefs that when cleared, will allow us to expand towards what we desire most.

“There is only one you for all time. Fearlessly be yourself.” – Anthony Rapp

3. Determine their responses based on what they want to create next, not what has happened

Conscious geniuses know that what is manifesting right now is a match for their past vibrational state (determined by old patterns of thoughts, feelings and emotions and choices). They know that by reacting to what is, with similar emotions, more of that will ensue.

By contrast, they also comprehend the quickest way to unravel present outcomes and materialize a brighter future is to raise their vibration now, so that what can show up in the future is different.  

It is a paradigm shift acknowledging this and trusting it to be true and there is much to learn about the art of manifesting done effectively. If we are willing to learn, the benefits are exemplary.

TIP: Where are you locked into a cycle of negative manifesting-reaction-negative manifestation? Click here  if you would like some help from me to change this.  

4. Think independently and ignore their conditioning

We are very entrained to resist and react to unwanted outcomes, judge experiences as right or wrong and imagine ourselves as victims of the things we don’t want; dis-empowering ourselves in the process.

Conscious heroes know that they have a choice what they tell themselves about all events. Processing challenging happenings in a way that by-passes ego and a trauma/drama response, takes courage and self-awareness and sets them apart from others.

Once we acknowledge the degree to which we are entrained in our responses, it becomes easier to choose authentically and powerfully for ourselves instead.

TIP: If you hadn’t received all the conditioning you’ve had, how would you respond differently to any challenges you’re now facing? What would you tell yourself instead that allows you to move one step forward with ease?

5. Flow with life instead of trying to control outcomes

Often the biggest gifts show up in ways we aren’t anticipating. If they came delivered exactly how we expected, we wouldn’t explore or learn from things and we don’t always have the insight at any given time to know what is for our highest good either. When we are willing to have that amount of allowance for life showing up in a myriad of ways, anything is possible.

TIP: You are a powerful being that can handle anything. The more we try to control outcomes, the more we block ourselves and can’t receive what is being abundantly given.

“This is how memories are made… by going with the flow.” – Amanda Bynes

6. Trust and interpret positively what they don’t yet understand

We often don’t get the awareness from something challenging until much later on. When we miss out on something we thought we wanted, very often life has another opportunity just around the corner that is even greater. We live in such an abundant Universe that life is always gifting to us.

TIP:  Where are you giving enormous significance to a recent loss or missed opportunity? What else is possible that you hadn’t imagined, how are you wiser now?

Challenges may not always bring us what we thought we wanted, but the flip side of what presents as a difficulty if well handled, can also deliver us gifts of insight, growth and strength beyond what we thought we possessed.

When we flow with what is happening, look a little deeper and allow what is without making it a wrongness, the rewards contained therein will often surpass what we were originally looking for.

Do this over and over and suddenly our muscle for processing the unexpected is highly developed and we start to anticipate and almost enjoy these opportunities to embrace all of life with greater ease and even wisdom and joy.

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Rose Aitken is a Global Empowerment Coach and Facilitator of Change living in Nelson, New Zealand. Rose loves working in that zone where psychology, science and spirituality intersect to create rapid and profound breakthroughs for her clients. You can apply to work with Rose here or download her free e-book here. When not at work Rose is travelling and attending personal development classes, hiking in the hills or hanging out with friends.

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5 Indicators of Unresolved Attachment Trauma



Emotional Attachment Trauma

Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.

Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.

Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.

Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.

However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.


Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:


1.  Unconscious Sabotage

Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.

This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.

Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.

This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.


2. Persistent Pain

Chronic pain is a common symptom that can stem from early trauma. Studies have shown a connection between physical conditions such as fibromyalgia, headaches, gastrointestinal issues, insomnia, muscle aches, back pain, chest pain, and chronic fatigue with the aftermath of chronic developmental trauma, particularly physical abuse.
Research has found that individuals with insecure attachment styles, such as anxious, avoidant, or disorganized, have a higher incidence of somatic symptoms and a history of physical and emotional abuse in childhood compared to those with a secure attachment style.

3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma

Trauma blocking practises are used to avoid the pain and memories connected with traumatic events.
Emotional numbing, avoidance, and escape via briefly pleasurable activities that distract from terrible memories or suffering are common examples. Unfortunately, this escape habit stops people from successfully processing and recovering from their trauma.
Furthermore, when the pain resurfaces, more and more diversions are necessary to continue ignoring it. This can be seen in compulsive behaviours such as drug or alcohol addiction, emotional eating, numbing oneself through relationships, workaholism, excessive or dangerous exercise routines, compulsive internet or technology use, or any other compulsive behaviour used to distract yoursef from intrusive thoughts and emotions.
These actions have the potential to prolong a cycle of avoidance and repression, preventing persons from healing and progressing.

4. A strong need for control

It’s understandable that some people may struggle with control issues in their adult lives, especially if they felt helpless or vulnerable during their childhood.
This can happen if someone had an overbearing caregiver who didn’t let them make their own choices, expected too much from them, or didn’t take care of them properly. As adults, they might try to control everything in their life to feel more in control and less anxious or scared. This might be because they didn’t feel like they had control over their life when they were a child.
It’s important to remember that everyone’s experiences are different and it’s okay to seek help if you’re struggling with control issues.

5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained

Individuals with a history of developmental trauma may experience a range of psychological symptoms, including obsessive-compulsive behavior, intense mood swings, irritability, anger, depression, emotional numbing, or severe anxiety.
These symptoms can vary in intensity and may occur intermittently throughout the day. People with this type of trauma may attempt to “distract” themselves from these symptoms by denying or rationalizing them, or may resort to substance abuse or behavioral addictions as coping mechanisms. This can be a maladaptive way of trying to numb their symptoms.

What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?

Everyone’s experience of healing from trauma is unique. It’s important to be aware of whether you have experienced childhood developmental trauma and how it may be affecting your relationships as an adult. Sometimes, the effects of trauma can be overwhelming and we may try to push them away or avoid them.
If you notice that you’re engaging in these behaviors, it’s important to seek help from a trauma therapist who can support you on your healing journey. Remember, you’re not alone and it’s never too late to start healing.

There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:

  1. Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
  2. Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
  3. Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
  4. Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
  5. Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.

It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.

If you desire to work with me on healing your wounds and unlocking the aspects of you that were never realized so you can achieve more success in your life then head over to and join my weekly LIVE online mentorship calls.
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