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5 Things Working While Going to School Will Teach You



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As college tuition fees increase, so does the number of working students. Most of us worked our way through college for financial reasons, and a lot of people would agree when I say working while studying entails numerous sacrifices and tons of stress. And when you’re unable to cope, anxiety and depression set in.

However, beyond these sufferings are valuable life lessons for personal growth essential for a better and brighter future. It’s sad that some people miss this aspect that instead of fixing their eyes on the finish line, they keep on staring at their miserable current state.

If you’re a working student, or a parent of one, a high school graduate, or perhaps a proud graduate kissing his working student days goodbye, I hope the following lessons could boost your morale, ignite the flickering flame of enthusiasm and develop admirable qualities that will catapult you to success.

1. It Promotes Maturity

Being employed is not at all doing household chores where you can just slack off when you don’t feel like it. Having someone pay you in exchange for your service urges you to develop a sense of responsibility and initiative.

Getting along with your co-workers is vital for a productive working day. Strife is inevitable in any workplace, so dealing with it in a civil manner is key to maintain harmony. Exposing yourself to various workplace environments and people gives you more opportunities for emotional and psychological growth. When you start establishing your career, you’ll be better at handling and dealing with people in any setting.

2. It Urges Professionalism

It’s an unwritten rule that once you’re employed, you already have a sense of professionalism. Punctuality is imperative – a matter of self-discipline that should be firmly embedded in your system.  Burn outs are to watch out for. With all the subjects to pass, papers to submit and obligations to comply with, it’s not impossible to get one.

However, being professional means sticking to your commitment despite the threats of laziness and extinguished enthusiasm. Eventually, you’ll get the hang of things with proper guidance and sheer will-power.

In addition, working at an early age teaches us to be level-headed when corrected or reprimanded. You won’t always be favored in the workplace, and a few times, you’ll commit grave mistakes. A professional takes such criticism constructively, seeing them as a part of his imperfections that can be worked on.

“Being a professional is doing the things you love to do, on the days you don’t feel like doing them.” – David Halberstam

3. It Aids in Setting Clearer Priorities

Once you get a lot of things on your plate, you have to take them on through wise time management and by setting clear priorities. Budgeting money is just as integral a part of this important aspect because you work for your needs in the first place. You need allowance and you have a costly tuition fee to think about. Once you’ve established clear goals and priorities, it’s easier to keep your focus.

I know it’s never easy as we get distracted and swayed. Again, it takes self-discipline to overcome. Every resource (esp. time, money and energy) is precious, so don’t ever waste them on your whims and vanities. Just hold on to this truth: there’s always time for everything and a season for every activity under the heavens.

4. It Instills A Greater Sense of Self-Love

Working and studying at the same time should force us to maintain the balance between our dreams and our health. Health is indispensable if you want to keep up with your tight daily schedule. Stress drains and urges you to eat unhealthy food.

Experts always say we replenish and get rid of toxins that could possibly make us sick or acquire serious health conditions. A strong immune system is our only armor. We can only function with functional bodies. What’s the use of sweet success when your body is crippled with health problems?

“I believe that the greatest gift you can give your family and the world is a healthy you.” – Joyce Meyer

5. It Endows A Greater Sense of Fulfillment

My college graduation day was the sweetest day of my life. I savored every moment. I treasured and cherished everything about it: my diploma, my regalia, the pictures, etc. Recalling my tumultuous journey only empowered me as a woman and as a person, ready to face whatever challenges that await me.

The fruits of my labor made all the hardships worth it. I’ve never felt more fulfilled in my entire life. The moment we were declared graduates of our respective courses, I could feel massive waves of renewed passion to chase my dreams.

While it is true that working while studying is a growing trend, it’s not something every college student should dread. Just think about it as on the job training, but you’re just hitting two birds with one stone. Think of the gains you’ll make with the experience and of course, the cash. Let it mold you into the great person you ought to become.

Did you work while going to school? How did it help you succeed? Leave your thoughts below!

Abigail A. Sabijon is a full-time blogger and editor or She's a Bachelor of Arts and Literature graduate and has taught at a prestigious local university. She also enjoys healthy discussions and the company of her beloved cat and husband. Connect with her on Facebook.



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5 Indicators of Unresolved Attachment Trauma



Emotional Attachment Trauma

Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.

Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.

Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.

Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.

However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.


Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:


1.  Unconscious Sabotage

Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.

This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.

Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.

This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.


2. Persistent Pain

Chronic pain is a common symptom that can stem from early trauma. Studies have shown a connection between physical conditions such as fibromyalgia, headaches, gastrointestinal issues, insomnia, muscle aches, back pain, chest pain, and chronic fatigue with the aftermath of chronic developmental trauma, particularly physical abuse.
Research has found that individuals with insecure attachment styles, such as anxious, avoidant, or disorganized, have a higher incidence of somatic symptoms and a history of physical and emotional abuse in childhood compared to those with a secure attachment style.

3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma

Trauma blocking practises are used to avoid the pain and memories connected with traumatic events.
Emotional numbing, avoidance, and escape via briefly pleasurable activities that distract from terrible memories or suffering are common examples. Unfortunately, this escape habit stops people from successfully processing and recovering from their trauma.
Furthermore, when the pain resurfaces, more and more diversions are necessary to continue ignoring it. This can be seen in compulsive behaviours such as drug or alcohol addiction, emotional eating, numbing oneself through relationships, workaholism, excessive or dangerous exercise routines, compulsive internet or technology use, or any other compulsive behaviour used to distract yoursef from intrusive thoughts and emotions.
These actions have the potential to prolong a cycle of avoidance and repression, preventing persons from healing and progressing.

4. A strong need for control

It’s understandable that some people may struggle with control issues in their adult lives, especially if they felt helpless or vulnerable during their childhood.
This can happen if someone had an overbearing caregiver who didn’t let them make their own choices, expected too much from them, or didn’t take care of them properly. As adults, they might try to control everything in their life to feel more in control and less anxious or scared. This might be because they didn’t feel like they had control over their life when they were a child.
It’s important to remember that everyone’s experiences are different and it’s okay to seek help if you’re struggling with control issues.

5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained

Individuals with a history of developmental trauma may experience a range of psychological symptoms, including obsessive-compulsive behavior, intense mood swings, irritability, anger, depression, emotional numbing, or severe anxiety.
These symptoms can vary in intensity and may occur intermittently throughout the day. People with this type of trauma may attempt to “distract” themselves from these symptoms by denying or rationalizing them, or may resort to substance abuse or behavioral addictions as coping mechanisms. This can be a maladaptive way of trying to numb their symptoms.

What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?

Everyone’s experience of healing from trauma is unique. It’s important to be aware of whether you have experienced childhood developmental trauma and how it may be affecting your relationships as an adult. Sometimes, the effects of trauma can be overwhelming and we may try to push them away or avoid them.
If you notice that you’re engaging in these behaviors, it’s important to seek help from a trauma therapist who can support you on your healing journey. Remember, you’re not alone and it’s never too late to start healing.

There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:

  1. Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
  2. Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
  3. Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
  4. Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
  5. Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.

It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.

If you desire to work with me on healing your wounds and unlocking the aspects of you that were never realized so you can achieve more success in your life then head over to and join my weekly LIVE online mentorship calls.
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