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3 Ways to Finally Motivate Yourself to Do Boring (But Important) Tasks



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Emails are piling up, you’re behind on your bookkeeping, and your messy desk isn’t going to clean itself. You keep telling yourself that you’ll handle these mind-numbingly boring—yet important—tasks… some day.

As you wait for motivation to strike, the boring tasks just keep accumulating. You’re overwhelmed. You need help. You’re thinking about just throwing out your to-do list, and dealing with the consequences later. Or maybe you’ll hire a personal assistant that you can’t quite afford.

Don’t despair, you can motivate yourself to finally get these boring tasks out of the way. Then, you’ll be able to focus on the more interesting parts of running your business.

Here are 3 ways you can motivate yourself to get those boring tasks done:

1. Dedicate a Day to Your Boring Tasks

Some people recommend doing boring work first thing every morning and then rewarding yourself with more interesting work later in the day. The problem with this idea, aside from making mornings even more terrible, is that it’s inefficient.

Your brain groups tasks based on things like your expectations and your beliefs: boring work is in one category and fun work is in another. When you switch from boring work to fun work, your brain needs to switch gears, and this slows you down. Extending your workdays is no way to motivate yourself to finally clean your desk!

For maximum efficiency, pack all your boring work into one day a week (or month). Your brain won’t need to switch between tasks, which means you’ll be done faster. Plus, with the boring work out of the way, you can enjoy your more interesting work without any guilt.

“Every block of stone has a statue inside it and it is the task of the sculptor to discover it.” – Michelangelo

2. Turn Your Boring Tasks into a Game

These days, it seems like every aspect of life can be turned into a game through an app, from money management to fitness to language learning. Surprisingly, apps can even let you turn cleaning out your desk into a game!

Gamification works because receiving small digital rewards for completing an unpleasant task gives you the extra push you need to finally check those items off your to-do list. Gamification is thought to work best for small, short-term goals, so it’s ideal for motivating yourself to do things like declutter your desk.

The most well-known app for turning your to-do list into a game is Habitica. In this role-playing game, your character gets gold and experience points when you complete a task. This is a great example of turning your boring tasks into a game.

3. Enlist the Help of a Buddy

If you’re having trouble finding motivation on your own, find an accountability buddy to keep you on track. An accountability buddy is another entrepreneur, not necessarily in the same industry, who also needs some help motivating themselves. Social media is an easy way to find a buddy, if you don’t already have someone in mind.

Each week, let each other know what you need to check off your to-do lists. At the end of the week, check-in to discuss what you accomplished and what you didn’t. Checking in with your buddy serves as motivation to get your tasks done. After all, you don’t want to explain to your buddy why you procrastinated a to-do list item yet again!

Some buddies will even set up disciplinary actions when they don’t meet deadlines. For example, if you don’t finish your tasks, you may need to buy your buddy a coffee (or vice versa).

Imagine looking at your to-do list and seeing that everything you’ve been procrastinating is finally crossed out. After an incredibly productive day, your desk is clean, your paperwork is in order and you no longer have 10,000 unread emails in your inbox. That can be you, with the help of one or more of these tips. Now, you know what do to: get to work!

“I just think we need more accountability and more transparency.” – John Thune

How do you motivate yourself to get those boring tasks completed? Please leave your thoughts below!
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Emotional Attachment Trauma

Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.

Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.

Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.

Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.

However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.


Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:


1.  Unconscious Sabotage

Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.

This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.

Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.

This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.


2. Persistent Pain

Chronic pain is a common symptom that can stem from early trauma. Studies have shown a connection between physical conditions such as fibromyalgia, headaches, gastrointestinal issues, insomnia, muscle aches, back pain, chest pain, and chronic fatigue with the aftermath of chronic developmental trauma, particularly physical abuse.
Research has found that individuals with insecure attachment styles, such as anxious, avoidant, or disorganized, have a higher incidence of somatic symptoms and a history of physical and emotional abuse in childhood compared to those with a secure attachment style.

3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma

Trauma blocking practises are used to avoid the pain and memories connected with traumatic events.
Emotional numbing, avoidance, and escape via briefly pleasurable activities that distract from terrible memories or suffering are common examples. Unfortunately, this escape habit stops people from successfully processing and recovering from their trauma.
Furthermore, when the pain resurfaces, more and more diversions are necessary to continue ignoring it. This can be seen in compulsive behaviours such as drug or alcohol addiction, emotional eating, numbing oneself through relationships, workaholism, excessive or dangerous exercise routines, compulsive internet or technology use, or any other compulsive behaviour used to distract yoursef from intrusive thoughts and emotions.
These actions have the potential to prolong a cycle of avoidance and repression, preventing persons from healing and progressing.

4. A strong need for control

It’s understandable that some people may struggle with control issues in their adult lives, especially if they felt helpless or vulnerable during their childhood.
This can happen if someone had an overbearing caregiver who didn’t let them make their own choices, expected too much from them, or didn’t take care of them properly. As adults, they might try to control everything in their life to feel more in control and less anxious or scared. This might be because they didn’t feel like they had control over their life when they were a child.
It’s important to remember that everyone’s experiences are different and it’s okay to seek help if you’re struggling with control issues.

5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained

Individuals with a history of developmental trauma may experience a range of psychological symptoms, including obsessive-compulsive behavior, intense mood swings, irritability, anger, depression, emotional numbing, or severe anxiety.
These symptoms can vary in intensity and may occur intermittently throughout the day. People with this type of trauma may attempt to “distract” themselves from these symptoms by denying or rationalizing them, or may resort to substance abuse or behavioral addictions as coping mechanisms. This can be a maladaptive way of trying to numb their symptoms.

What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?

Everyone’s experience of healing from trauma is unique. It’s important to be aware of whether you have experienced childhood developmental trauma and how it may be affecting your relationships as an adult. Sometimes, the effects of trauma can be overwhelming and we may try to push them away or avoid them.
If you notice that you’re engaging in these behaviors, it’s important to seek help from a trauma therapist who can support you on your healing journey. Remember, you’re not alone and it’s never too late to start healing.

There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:

  1. Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
  2. Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
  3. Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
  4. Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
  5. Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.

It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.

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