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Why You Should Fall In Love With The Deadbeat Haters

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The world is a better place thanks to haters. I freaking love them and cherish my every interaction with them. Deadbeat haters make the world go round and success would never exist without them. Go outside right now and hug a deadbeat hater. That’s right; give them a big kiss on the lips too.

They’re the flawed human beings that are your biggest tribe builders. Haters cause people to fall in love with you, and what you stand for, by drawing attention to you with their nonsense, insults and rants that make no sense.

What is a hater?

I define a hater as someone who makes a comment online about you that purposely is intended to insult you, spread lies about you or is just plain negative. Usually, their comments are uncalled for and what they have to say is not constructive.

The hater often doesn’t know why they spend their days trolling the internet for things they can spread their negative virus too. If they were to understand why they hate, they would be probably cured of the wretched hater virus, never to hate on anyone again.

Haters are going to hate because that’s what they do so learn to fall in love with them like I have.

Here are five ways to fall in love with the deadbeat heaters:

 

1. Haters supercharge your number of followers

Every time a hater makes a comment about something you have posted online, at the same time, they increase the number of followers you have.

The best example I can give is when someone wrote a few negative comments about the way I looked in an Addicted2Success article photo. Shortly after their post, our community flocked to Facebook to defend me without me even saying a word.

This little stunt that the hater created attracted lots of new followers to my different pages and allowed people to give me a chance, and find out more about me.

 

2. Haters spread your message like you never could

You will know when the message you are trying to deliver online is successful when you reach the tipping point of having a group of haters. Until you have haters, you are still in the junior league of the online world – which is fine – but once the haters come, it means you are starting to have some success.

For a long time I didn’t have a single hater and so I think it made my message feel fake or not authentic. When someone or something is too good to be true, people online usually don’t trust it. Haters allow your message to be transparent and heard.

A magnificent, deadbeat hater will go that extra step and share your message on their social media for the purpose of hating on you. This is another positive step and will allow you to gain access to the haters followers whom some of which will start listening to your message in a positive way.

Anyone who has any kind of influence, or has created any sort of global movement, has both supporters and haters. When you only have one side of the equation – the supporters – it generally means your message is not bold enough, different enough, powerful enough or important enough.

That’s okay, though, it just means you have more work to do and are still very early on in perfecting and communicating your message.

 

3. Haters make you stand out

The key to building an online presence is to be different rather than trying to be better than your competitors. The reason is simple: it’s much easier to be different than it is to be better than your competitors who have more resources, more followers and more time in the game than you do.

The reason you should love haters is because they make you different by allowing you to stand out. Haters force eyeballs to your online profiles and show you in a different light.

Even though their perspective is probably wrong, they open the door for other people to make that decision for themselves, thus allowing you to stand out from other people in your niche who may have either none or very few haters.

 

4. Haters are actually telling you why they love you

The deadbeat haters that hate on you are doing so because they actually love you. You might be thinking I am totally nuts but hear me out. When a hater hates on you, what they are really telling the world is that they are; scared of life, living in fear, wish they could attempt what you’re doing, and wish they could achieve more.

The very things they hate about you are the things that they love about you at the same time and wish they could have in some small way. Every time a hater hates on you, they are projecting their own inadequacies very loudly.

Them hating on you has nothing to do with you and has everything to do with them. Learn to love these suckers and what they tell you about yourself – that’s how I see them now anyway.

 

5. Haters highlight that you are not living on the sidelines

Deadbeat haters that hate on you are something you should love because they are telling you that you are taking action and that you are doing so without being afraid to be criticised. See, many people never take action because they worry that they may attract haters or get negative feedback.

These people who are afraid of the haters never start anything and end up living a life of regret because they sit on the sidelines, and watch everyone else be successful. In the meantime, they watch their own life pass them by.

These same people that sit on the sidelines and never do anything can also become haters. They have the free time to troll the internet and spread their negative thoughts because they’re too afraid to do anything themselves. They’re too frightened to take a risk and do something they’re passionate about.

I recently started posting a few videos on the Addicted2Success Youtube channel knowing full well that I have a long way to go before I nail the whole video thing. The reason why I began is I thought to myself “I will never get started if I don’t just have a crack.”

Think about all the Hollywood movie stars, almost all of them were horrible in their very first movie. It’s the same with my videos; you have got to start somewhere and you will improve the more you do it.

Sure my video’s have the odd phrase that doesn’t make sense, some awkward cuts, some minor audio issues or lighting problems, but it’s only once I started that I became aware of these opportunities. By never starting, you will always just hang around the sidelines and procrastinate.

“Be proud when you get haters – they’re an inevitable part of success. Attracting haters means you are playing all out and having a crack at life”

What have I learnt from my haters?

You would think that having a goal to inspire the world through personal development and entrepreneurship would be a pretty hard thing to hate on – turns out it’s not.

The haters I have attracted tend only to go for the easy things like what I’m wearing, or even crazier, the fact that I didn’t blink in a video I posted. I have learnt to be careful whom I take feedback from because the haters usually have had zero success and so they are not qualified to criticise.

Feedback is valuable but hater’s feedback – usually in the form of insults – doesn’t offer a lot of value to you.

What I have found fascinating is when I click the social media profile of a hater. Often I will find they have no content of their own, almost no friends / followers / or connections, and spend most of their days leaving negative comments on people’s pages.

This exercise is quite powerful in showing you who you’re haters are in real life.

 

How do you deal with haters?

I find the best way to deal with the haters is not to delete their comments or block them. This only fires them up and doesn’t serve any positive purpose. Let your friends and followers do the talking for you and sit back and watch the magic.

When I see a hater on one of my pages, I am reminded of Tai Lopez. Tai has become very wealthy and has a Ferrari and Lamborghini that he has earned, partly because of the stacks of haters helping people find his message – what a gift the haters have given him.

Geez now that I think about it, I really do love the deadbeat haters so much for what they do. Their unique individuals that have a god given talent that I don’t think I will ever have.

What’s your experience with haters? How do you deal with them? Let me know in the comments section below or on my website timdenning.net and my Facebook. Haters are welcome too!

Tim is best known as a long-time contributor on Addicted2Success. Tim's content has been shared millions of times and he has written multiple viral posts all around personal development and entrepreneurship.You can connect with Tim through his website www.timdenning.net

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  1. Monica B

    Oct 29, 2017 at 5:47 am

    This is exactly what I needed to hear!! Having haters means I’m doing something right, really well, and when it’s on social media it boosts my algorithm. Not all engagement is butterflies, but I’m always open to having an educational conversation. I took one for the team tonight, didn’t love it, but reading this is a reminder that I did the right thing. It’s only a lonely road if I let it be. The life of an entrepreneur is where it is at!! Thanks for posting this!

  2. Rayon Whittaker

    May 4, 2016 at 2:47 pm

    “Until you have haters, you are still in the junior league of the online world – which is fine – but once the haters come, it means you are starting to have some success.”

    Man oh man, I had to share this post on multiple social media platforms. I believe that others out there who are aspiring to do something great and be awesome with their lives need to read this. Awesome article Tim, well put together. I really appreciate your content man.

    As like you, I’m here in the early stages of video creation and providing content for others, so this article couldn’t have reached me at a more appropriate time. Though I haven’t been plagued with many haters yet, this post provides most of the preparation I need as I dive deeper, it’s like a guide you can return to every now and again when the hate begins.

    I look at it from a whole new perspective now and what it does is allow more fear to be shed and a whole lot of courage and confidence to kick in.

    Thanks and do continue inspiring others.

    • Tim Denning

      May 5, 2016 at 1:24 am

      Rayon thanks for your very kind comment. As you have more success with you content I promise you that the haters will come out. Just know, that they are the best thing that can happen to your video’s / article.

      Congrats on all that you do and for having the guts to shed more of your fear. Much respect – Tim

  3. Toño

    May 4, 2016 at 8:40 am

    Ohh man, those haters! What a topic you choosed. I’ve read your article yesterday, at my work, and was smiling all the way. ‘Your biggest tribe builders’ is an amazing description, you just nailed it, haha. I have read lots of Carlos Castaneda’s books and there was that concept, in one of the books, when one of the main characters, Don Juan, explained to Carlos about it. People, I don’t remember how you call them (also my books weren’t English), and it’s not so important, those who push you to your limits, make your life hard, annoys you, are actually your greatest teachers and you may consider yourself lucky you have a chance to improve under their ‘mentoring’.

    Just recently I have seen video where person has thanked all his haters and aske them never leave. They helped him got to the level he is now and were his best supporters. They pushed him through struggles and hard times and only because of them he became the better version of himself. It was fascinating! Thing is, whether people loves oyu or hates you, there is one simple thing in common – they care. And they will spend much of their energy just to get attention to you. I agree with you as well when you said haters just express their love, because basically they desire to be where are you right at the moment, they wish the same success, they wish to have something you already achieved, in their own, ‘unique’ way! And if you can recognise that behaviour and change the perspective you can love your haters too.

    I printed your article as well, will re-read it today just to have reminder and train my mind to switch the perspective. Yesterday I was in some jealousy mood but shortly after I realized I should be happy for colleague and accept their success. Otherwise I cannot enjoy mine. Eeveryday is a lesson, my friend 🙂

    Thank you for your time and passion, and an accurate timing, you somehow quite often deliver the exact message I need for what I am very grateful. Speak soon, have a wonderful day, Tim.

    • Tim Denning

      May 5, 2016 at 6:11 am

      Toño thanks for your comments. I’m glad you are able to see, like me, how good the haters can be. I used to experience jealousy moods as well with work colleagues but since I shifted my thinking, I find that the more I help my colleagues and celebrate their success, the more success I have. I never ever think twice about sharing my contacts or what I know. Thanks for reading Toño.

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19 Success Mantras From Zig Ziglar to Help You Unleash Your True Potential

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There’s a good reason why Zig Ziglar is considered by many as the Godfather of motivation. Ziglar did not beat around the bush; he had a clear set of ideas, with easy to implement strategies coupled with powerful tonality and delivery that made him one of the best in the business.

The following is a collection of 19 success mantras from Ziglar that will inspire and motivate you to take the right action and unleash your greatest potential.

1. Create a very specific and detailed goal

“You need a plan to build a house. To build a life, it is even more important to have a plan or goal.” – Zig Ziglar

The first success mantra from Ziglar is to set specific goals, because goals help you focus.

Ziglar wants you to set following types of goals:

  • Big goals: Big goals are the type of goals that cause excitement and motivate you. If setbacks happen, focusing on these big goals will help push you forward.
  • Long range goals: These can include monthly and yearly goals.
  • Daily goals: Daily goals help you work consistently toward your long range goals.

Once your goals are in place, you can develop a plan on how to achieve them. Find out what obstacles you face, the skills you need to learn, and the people you need to meet in order to achieve your goals.

You don’t need to have everything figured out in the beginning. You can alter your goals and plans as you progress and as things become clear.

2. Visualize reaching your goals

If you want to reach your goal, you must see it, be able to smell, touch and taste it, know how it looks and what it feels like in your own mind.” – Zig Ziglar

Imagination (or seeing things using your mind’s eye) is the most powerful tool at your disposal. You can achieve miracles if you use this tool properly.

So take a few moments daily to relax, clear your mind and actually visualize yourself living the type of life you intend to live. See yourself with the nice things you want in your life such as owning a house or taking a vacation. While you are doing this, bring some emotion into your body to mimic the emotions you would feel when you actually achieve your dreams.

Visualizing this way helps change your attitude, removes limiting beliefs and reprograms your subconscious mind with positive, empowering beliefs, so you can move toward your goals faster.

3. Plan your day first thing in the morning

Every morning, run through your mind the things you are going to be doing. As you plan the day, as you think of all the things you have got to be excited about, it really does renew your energy.” – Zig Ziglar

A powerful tactic to ensure that you achieve your daily goals is to plan your day first thing in the morning. You can sit in silence and simply visualize all the things you are going to do today and how you are going to do it. As you visualize your day this way, you are filled with positive energy that will motivate you to utilize your time perfectly and take the right action.

4. Develop habits for success

Motivation gets you going and habit gets you there.” – Zig Ziglar

Ziglar is right in pointing out that, motivation doesn’t last forever, but habits once formed, last forever. As human beings, we are creatures of habit. Habit forming is difficult in the beginning, but it’s formed, you start doing it effortlessly.

In order to reach success, you need to substitute your bad habits with good ones. For instance, a good habit would be getting up early in the morning, planning your day, and working for 1 to 2 hours without giving into distractions. Remember that habits are formed once you repeatedly do something for 21 consecutive days.

5. Believe that you can

Before you can reach that goals, it is true that whether you think you can, or think you can’t, you are generally right.” – Zig Ziglar

If deep inside, you do not believe that you have what it takes to reach your goals, then you will never reach them. Therefore, it is crucial that you believe in your abilities and back yourself up to reach your goals. Whenever thoughts of self doubt arise, do not pay them any heed and instead shift your focus to empowering and uplifting thoughts of self belief.

6. Optimize your mind

Remember, you are what you are and where you are because of what’s going on in your mind. And you can change what you are and where you are by changing what goes into your mind.” – Zig Ziglar

As we grow up, we unconsciously imbibe a lot of negative and limiting beliefs from our surroundings. These beliefs unless discarded will hamper your growth, so become conscious of your limiting thoughts. Study these thoughts and figure out from where they arise.

In other words, what beliefs in your subconscious are responsible for them. Once you are aware of these beliefs, stop giving them power by consciously shifting your attention from the negative thoughts to positive and empowering thoughts. Using affirmations and positive self talk is also a great way to reprogram your subconscious mind.

7. Develop a positive self image

If you don’t see yourself as a winner, then you cannot perform as a winner.” – Zig Ziglar

How you perceive yourself in your mind’s eye is one of the most important factors that determines whether or not you will succeed.

If you think of yourself as someone who has what it takes to achieve success, you will achieve success, but if you think you are not good enough, you will see your reality reflecting that thought back to you. In-fact, your currently reality is reflective of the self image that you hold within.

Therefore, become conscious of the type of image you hold of yourself in your mind. Ask yourself these questions: How do I view myself? Do I think I am capable of reaching success? Do I believe that I deserve success? Do I see myself as a winner that everyone looks up to?

Simply becoming conscious of your self image can help you alter it from negative to positive.

8. Don’t worry about what others think of you

“Don’t be distracted by criticism. Remember ~ the only taste of success some people have is when they take a bite out of you.” – Zig Ziglar

People will always have something to say and you cannot please everyone. Don’t waste your time and energy worrying about other people’s actions and opinions. Keep your attention focused on your priorities because that’s what matters.

9. Learn from your mistakes

If you learn from defeat, you haven’t really lost.” – Zig Ziglar

It’s only human to make mistakes. The important thing therefore is to not dwell over your mistakes and instead, ask yourself, what your mistakes are trying to teach you. In doing so, learn from your mistakes, because they are the greatest factors for your personal growth.

10. Always be open to learning

Life is a classroom – only those who are willing to be lifelong learners will move to the head of the class.” – Zig Ziglar

The moment you think you know everything is the moment you stop growing. In order to succeed, you need to keep growing. Always keep an open mind, and always be open to learning. Do not become a slave to your beliefs, doctrines, and ideologies.

11. Practice delayed gratification

The chief cause of failure and unhappiness is trading what you want most for what you want right now.” –  Zig Ziglar

Studies prove that delayed gratification is a key factor toward achieving success. Make it a habit to not let distractions or short term pleasures take your focus away from achieving your long term pleasures and future rewards. The more you practice doing this, the stronger your self control becomes helping you achieve your long term goals faster.

12. Connect with yourself

Outside of your relationship with God, the most important relationship you can have is with yourself. We must be healthy internally, emotionally and spiritually – in order to create healthy relationships with others.” – Zig Ziglar

Spend time with yourself. Get to know and understand yourself by practicing self reflection. The more you know yourself, the more you get in touch with your true nature, desires, and goals. Similarly, only by knowing yourself can you begin to know others. Only by loving yourself can you start attracting the right people into your life. All of these characteristics are crucial for success.

13. Spend time in solitude

If you want to build a winning attitude, you need to take time to be quiet. And you need to do it at-least three to four times a week.” – Zig Ziglar

Ziglar is a major advocate of spending time in solitude. Spending time in solitude helps you reconnect with yourself. It also helps you clear your mind and attract life changing ideas. So make it a habit to spend time alone doing nothing. Spending even a few minutes with your own reflective thoughts can make a huge difference.

14. Surround yourself with uplifting people

Surround yourself with people who want the best for you and the people you love!” – Zig Ziglar

For the most part, people can be divided into two categories – the lilies and the leeches. The lilies are those who uplift you and leeches are those who drain you.

If you are surrounded by leeches all day long, they will suck your energy dry and you will find yourself feeling a lot less motivated and productive. Instead, when you surround yourself with good people, you will find yourself full of positive energy to take action.

So make a conscious effort to cut out toxic people from your life and surround yourself with people who inspire you to be yourself and who accept you for who you are.

15. Express gratitude

Of all the “attitudes” we can acquire, surely the attitude of gratitude is the most important and by far the most life changing.” – Zig Ziglar

Expressing gratitude changes your mindset from one of lack to one of abundance. When you feel abundance, you attract abundance into your life. Therefore, every day make it a point to feel gratitude for everything that you have in your life.

16. Value your time and use it effectively

If you don’t plan your time, someone else will help you waste it.” – Zig Ziglar

Use time as your most valuable resource. This is where planning your day can help you immensely. When you have a set plan in place, you will automatically learn to say no to things that are not productive.

17. Start slow and develop as you go

Peak performance is dependent on passion, grit, determination, and a willingness to do something poorly until you can do it well.” – Zig Ziglar

You don’t need to have everything figured out from the very beginning. It is also not important that you are an expert in your field of work from the very beginning. You can begin small with whatever you have and develop as you go along. Remember that it is the slow and steady that wins the race.

18. Do not compare yourself to others

Make a careful exploration of who you are and the work you have been given, and then sink yourself into that. Don’t be impressed with yourself. Don’t compare yourself with others.” – Zig Ziglar

In order to reach your goals, it is important that you know your strengths and abilities. Focus on them instead of focusing on your weaknesses. When you compare yourself to others, you automatically start to see things that you lack and lose perspective. Get rid of the habit of comparing yourself to others, and keep your focus on yourself.

19. Be persistent

If you have the character to hang in there when its tough, you will develop or acquire every other characteristic necessary to WIN in the game of life.” – Zig Ziglar

And finally, the most important of all is to be persistent in your efforts even when the going gets tough.

Ziglar’s book, ‘See You At The Top’, was rejected 39 times before it was published in the year 1975. The book is still in print today and is considered an American classic. Goes to show what persistence can help you achieve. It does not matter how slow you are as long as you are persistent.

Which one of Zig Zaglar’s 19 success mantras resonated most with you and why? Share your thoughts below!

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4 Ways You Can Master Magnetic Confidence – Ashley Hann

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What does confidence mean to you? For me, it is a deep, unshakable internal knowing of your value, your worth, what you bring to the world and who you really are. I believe that in order to experience our own greatness, we must first know it exists within ourselves. We must believe it in order to see it.

Once you have arrived at this deep knowing, you will be able to experience and exude your own personal magnetism. I define magnetic confidence as the ability to attract anything and everything that is in alignment with who you are and what you want, and repel everything that isn’t.

You become polarizing.

In this Addicted2Success podcast episode, Joel Brown asked me to break down four ways that you can master your own magnetic confidence so that you can create the results you want and live a life in alignment with who you are.

This is a postscript and addition to everything that was discussed in the episode. We hope you enjoy!

1. FACE THE UGLY: Shine Light On The Darkness

Everyone and their mom is talking about positivity and being positive. Now look, I’m all for positivity. I love it. However, what I am seeing is more and more people trying to be positive prematurely. They are painting over their pain with positivity. While this may work in the moment, the underlying issue is not being dealt with so it will keep resurfacing every time it is triggered. What we resist, persists. Plus, when we paint over, repress or sweep things under the rug, we are adding to the darkness within us because secrecy breeds shame.

The only way to overcome our darkness is to shine light on it. Don’t shove it down, hide it, repress it or judge it. See it, accept it and embrace it so that you can move through it.

Look, everyone has a dark side and a light side. This is what makes us human. We must learn to see the beauty in the contrast and channel our dark energy into light. The more we resist this darkness, the more it will build inside of us. We must embrace these parts of us so that we can transform our pain into our power.

2. F*^K WHAT PEOPLE THINK: You Do You, Boo

#FACT: People will judge you.

Ashley Hannawacker in Bali

The quicker you can make peace with the fact that judgement is inevitable, the less it’s going to affect you. The greatest leaders on this planet have judgers, nay-sayers and haters. And guess what? The reason they are great leaders is because they don’t let those judgements or the fear of judgement stop them.

I’m also going to challenge you on something. You ready for this?

It’s not the judgment you’re afraid of. You’re scared of what the judgements might mean about you. You’re making it mean things like “I’m not worthy”, “I’m not good enough”, “I’m not smart enough”, etc. Well, do you want to know the good news? You are in charge of the meaning! So why not make judgement mean something that actually forwards you? For me, I let the number of haters be a gauge of my success and how big of a game I’m playing. The more haters I have, the more I know I’m showing up unapologetically in my power and in my truth. This meaning I’ve created forwards me. What meaning can you create?

If you want to be confident, you must reinterpret and shift your relationship with judgement and haters in a way that empowers you. You must let the rude, mean comments drip off of your back like water. You’ve got to let it all push you forward instead of hold you back. Remember: magnetic confidence will make you polarizing. This means there will be people who don’t agree with you, dislike you, and may even hate you… and that’s more than O.K., that’s GREAT.

3. SHIFT THE STORY: Rewrite Your Stories, Rewire Your Mind

You are the sole, uncontested author of your life. You are not a victim. You haven’t been dealt a crappy deck of cards. You have actually been given a very precious gift called life where you have the ability to write your own story and create your own reality.

We are meaning-making machines. We create meanings and stories for just about everything that occurs in our lives. The question is, are the stories you are telling yourself empowering you or disempowering you?

When I find myself thinking something that’s draining my energy and doesn’t feel good, I’ll ask myself: “Can I 100% know that that’s true?” And if the answer is no, then I choose a different story that is also not 100% true, but that actually makes me feel good.

If you’re going to create a story, you might as well create one that feels good and empowers you!

In the episode, I go into a bit more detail on how to do this. I highly recommend you listen because this is a crucial part of becoming your most magnetically confident self.

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4. WATCH YOUR WORDS: Eliminate These From Your Vocabulary Now

It’s one thing to think something disempowering, it is another to actually say it out loud. When you think a thought out loud, you are giving energy to the thought. We must be deliberate and intentional about what we choose to give energy to. Your words become worlds!

Here are some words to eliminate from your vocabulary immediately:

  • “Can’t”
  • “Have to”
  • “Should”
  • “Hope”
  • “Try”

Listen to the full episode at the top of this article to understand why these words are detrimental to your confidence and success. You’ll also learn what you can replace them with that will actually fuel you and boost your self confidence.

If you enjoyed this episode and blog post or if you have anything to add, please leave a comment below.

RESOURCES:
Ashley Hann’s Website

Connect with me on Instagram @ashley.hann

Here is my YouTube channel if you would like to watch my weekly videos.

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How to Be a Selfless Leader in Your Business

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Leaders are required to make decisions daily that impact the success of the business and its bottom line. Understanding leadership training key terms can offer insight into core values and principles associated with leading people. Leadership training prepares leaders to recognize a variety of leadership styles prevalent in many organizations, the significance of communication, team building, and establishing a vision.

The following 6 key terms are important to building foundational skills in leadership:

1. Leadership style

Leadership style is the process of exploring the methods leaders use to approach guiding human capital in the workplace or on organized projects. It can encompass persuasive presentation skills that inspires trust, integrity, character, positive role modeling and other behaviors useful when working towards a goal.

2. Vision planning

According to leadership experts, a vision is an idealized picture or snapshot of the future, and vision planning is the ability to communicate core values and articulate a sense of direction by implementing a plan as it pertains to this vision. Organizational vision encompasses a strategic plan that generates motivational impact and leads employees to a specific outcome or shared desired goal.

“A great leader’s courage to fulfill his vision comes from passion, not position.” – John Maxwell

3. Team building

Team building is the method a leader chooses to empower a group of people using motivational strategies and guidance to accomplish a specific task. Effective team building must encompass an understanding of organizational culture and the dynamics of teamwork in order to exceed shared goals and objectives.

4. Communication

Communication is the ability to impart and exchange information through the process of listening, writing and speaking. Successful leaders understand that enhancing communication skills not only makes them more effective as leaders, but boosts the company’s success as well.

5. Performance evaluation

An important aspect of leadership training is determining whether the steps taken towards a goal are working. One of the many roles of a successful leader is to appraise or assess the effectiveness of both individual and collective workplace skills and strategies to achieve stated goals.

“A good objective of leadership is to help those who are doing poorly to do well and to help those who are doing well to do even better.” – Jim Rohn

6. Decision making

The term decision making is the process of choosing from several ideas or choices. It’s the practice of targeted determinations that can offer creative problem solving solutions. This is a vital skill in developing potential leaders because it strengthens the use of critical thinking and resourcefulness to make choices on behalf of the company.

How to be a selfless leader in your business organization

Many leaders try to play it safe when leading their business. In other words, they don’t really lead. They are afraid of taking risks and possibly making some people unhappy. It’s important to note that when you own a business, you may make decisions that won’t make everyone happy. Ideally, your culture will be set up so that what you do is transparent and enables people to speak up and share their concerns.

At the same time, people in an organization want their leaders to lead and part of that involves the leader making a passionate commitment to the direction the business needs to go in. When there isn’t clear leadership in a business, then the business is like a ship that is moving in a circle. It’s going nowhere.

A leader must always make it clear that what they are doing is actually serving the best interests of the business as opposed to their own best interests. If people in the organization think that a leader is abusing their position, it can create a toxic situation in the business bringing it down as people leave or sabotage the business.

A leader must be selfless, focused on what will truly benefit the business and the people in it. They must be willing to share the spotlight, instead of taking all the credit and must recognize the value of trusting the talents of the people they work with.

Recently, I was talking with a client of mine. He was having some personnel issues, and I suggested he carefully evaluate the talents of each person involved. After doing that, he made some changes in roles, and the people involved were much happier because they were doing the work that capitalized on their talents.

Throughout this process he was transparent and he made it clear that the changes he was making were for the benefit of the company. Each person involved saw that because the leader was honest and focused on the success of the business. He wasn’t making changes to make it easier for him, but rather making changes that would really help the business succeed. That’s the kind of leadership that is needed when a business undergoes changes or needs to focus on a specific direction.

What does being a selfless leader mean to you? How do you focus on the welfare of your business and show that to the people involved in the business? Share with us below!

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Things You Need to Know to Succeed as a Life Coach

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Becoming a life coach is one of the biggest choices you will ever make. Your choice in this field will change how you treat your spouse, how you empathize with others, and how you manage your business.

When I decided to make life coaching my goal, I had many steps to take before I reached the finish line and I wasn’t quite sure how to motivate myself to get there. I know that I am not the only one who struggles with staying motivated. That’s why I’m sharing with you the secrets that helped me make my dreams a reality.

Dan Sullivan is the founder of The Strategic Coach, a company that helps entrepreneurs grow their businesses. Dan is often considered to be the number one entrepreneurship coach on the planet. If there is anyone who can motivate you to make your dreams a reality and go for gold – it’s him.

Here are the 2 life-changing ideas I learned about becoming a life coach:

1. Keep Selling Yourself

Don’t sell yourself short – but keep selling yourself on your future. Dan Sullivan suggests that the reason why we, as entrepreneurs, can’t focus on achieving our goals is that we haven’t actually sold ourselves on our project or endeavor. I believe this wholeheartedly. We may have listed our pros and cons, we have an ideal outcome, and we may even have a backup plan – but we haven’t truly committed to our goal.

In order to properly take advantage of an opportunity, we must be focused. There is no doubt that we live in a new age of multi-tasking. We watch videos while we respond to e-mails, we’re glued to our phones when we’re out on dates with our spouses – we even have the option to have two multi-tasking windows open on our smart devices so that we can do different things at the same time.

But studies show multitasking accomplishes less in the long-run. Multitasking reduces both our performance and efficiency. Dan suggests instead of trying to do everything at once, sell yourself on three tasks a day. The next day, sell yourself on three more. This will help you to have more focus and drive on what you are doing. You will accomplish more and feel better about fulfilling your goals.

2. The 3 Wins are Everything

Dan suggests that positive focus is everything when it comes to succeeding in business. That’s why he developed “The 3 Wins” mindset. After the day is done and you’re getting ready for bed, focus on three wins you had. By focusing on the three things you did right, you practice gratitude in your personal life. You set goals, reach them, and then celebrate them – no matter how small! This can help you have a more positive mindset going forward.

Dan Sullivan explains, “I would look at tomorrow… and I’d say, ‘Well these are gonna be my three biggest wins for tomorrow’. So, I would go to bed feeling good about the day, excited about the next day, and I would get up the next morning excited. So, then I would go out that day and try to have to three wins, but often times what happened is that I had wins that were bigger than the three I imagined the night before.”

The feeling of accomplishment is addictive. Not only does it feel great to get work done and accomplish our goals, but it encourages us to keep working hard in life. We work hard to grow our business, to maintain a healthy marriage, and to give our clients our best. By focusing on The 3 Wins, we view each day as a new opportunity to stay motivated and achieve something great.

How to Succeed in Becoming a Life Coach

Along with these life-changing ideas, here are some other great tips for anyone who is thinking of becoming a life coach.

1. Rapport is Essential

When you are becoming a life coach, you learn that your ability to have a rapport with your clients is just as important as the chemistry you felt with your spouse when you first started dating. Are you good at striking up a conversation? Do you have a knack for getting people to trust you or open up about their problems? If so, then you will be a natural at building your entrepreneurial business because your ability to connect with your clients is important.

2. Ask the Important Questions

As a life coach, it’s your job to ask the hard questions. This means that you must be intuitive about your client and really get to know and understand their thoughts and intentions. Only then can you help them reach their life goals.

3. Get Comfortable with Silence

Silence between two people can be the most uncomfortable, awkward, cringe-worthy experience, but as a life coach, it’s your job to let it happen anyway. When there is silence, your client will be eager to fill the void, which often leads them to show vulnerability and really work through their issues.

4. Don’t Take Things Personally

Your clients are not always going to gel with you. This may cause them to leave your services. Don’t take it personally. Alternatively, you may have a great rapport with your client, but that doesn’t always mean that they will take your advice. This can be frustrating for you, but don’t let it overwhelm you. Instead, look at it as an opportunity to continue building trust between you and your client.

You can make becoming a life coach a reality. Stay motivated by selling yourself on new ideas and strategies every day. It’s also beneficial to remind yourself of your three wins and always strive to keep growing and getting better. By becoming a life coach, you show people that you care, have an excellent rapport, and aren’t afraid of the hard questions – or the silence!

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