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9 Lies We Tell Ourselves That Kill Our Chances of Success

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9 lies stopping you from achieving success

You know something? We’re lying to ourselves. We’re joking all the time. We don’t dare to face the truth.

Why? For a variety of reasons. Some of us are always making up excuses. Some of us are not disciplined enough to take on the hard work. The rest of us are afraid of success.

You may be thinking, “Hey! I’m no liar!” but the thing is, the lies are subtle.

Most, if not all of us are guilty of lying to ourselves from time to time.

Here are some of the things we say to ourselves, check it out.

 

1. “I don’t know what to do.”

Do you really?

Look, there’s honestly no excuse here. The answer to almost anything can be found with Google today.

Sure, maybe you don’t know the exact, technical answer you think you need for something, but the bigger question is whether you started to TRY your hand at the first solution you found.

The answers need not be perfect. Just give it a whirl. You will know what to do eventually.

 

2. “I’m too busy.”

To do what you know you have to do, which is to put in the work.

Straight up, busy is bullshit. Everybody is busy today!

If you really want something, you will make time for it no matter what.

So unless you know deep down you’ve really tried to fit the work in your schedule, you’re only lying to yourself.

 

3. “I’ve done all I could.”

If you know there’s another one or two possibilities to what you know you can do to give you better results, then do it.

Don’t say you’ve done it all just because you finished the main tasks. It’s the other tiny things that actually makes the difference in the results.

 

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4. “I’m too tired.”

Or, are you just lazy?

Unless you’re a hundred years old or suffering from energy-sapping sickness, this is no excuse.

There’s no harm in losing a couple of hours of sleep or staying up late a little bit more to work. This is what separates the truly successful and the rest of the world.

If anything, do yourself a favour and adjust your lifestyle so that you can get ample rest to maximize your productivity.

 

5. “I can’t do it alone. I require guidance. I need a mentor!”

Come on man.

For whatever great feat there has been done out there, somebody did it on their own first! It also takes a single person with a single idea within to invent or create something!

Getting help and being mentored is great for reducing the learning curve, but how would you know how capable you really are if you don’t give yourself a chance to fail?

Run into the dark. You’ll be surprised with what you’re capable of.

 

6. “I’m broke.”

This lie comes in two forms.

The first is that we think we need to spend on the latest equipment, course or whatever before we start on our venture.

No, you don’t. Just because something is new and expensive doesn’t mean you will get a lot out of it. You can easily try your hand at starting now with free tools online or simply borrowing from others.

The second is that we think we lack money when we really don’t.

I’m broke” is what the guy who drinks, smokes and parties all the time said. That’s a true story I see in some of my friends.

Unless your bank account reads zero and you’re homeless, you’re not broke. You just need to stop spending on crap and start investing in yourself properly.

And quite frankly, you’ve only yourself to blame if you don’t want to get a job when you know you can.

 

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7. “I’m not as good as others.”

This is pure self-sabotage. It is a lie that only reflects your lack of confidence and sadly, it becomes true for you when it paralyzes you into inaction.

See now, it’s not about being as good as others. It’s about always doing your best and learning to be an effective communicator to your prospects with your art, craft and passion. How good or bad others are really don’t matter at all.

Don’t put others on a pedestal. Work on creating your own pedestal and lift yourself up.

Besides, even if others are more talented than you, it’s useless if they don’t have the right attitude and that’s what matters most.

 

8. “I don’t know where to start.”

You don’t know? Or you just don’t dare to?

It’s too easy to start today, so there’s really no excuses.

Learn by using Google.

Try your hand at it and carry out the first step.

Get feedback by sharing it with your friends on social media.

How can you not know where to start?

 

9. “I’m not good enough.”

The worst lie of all. When you say this, you’re telling yourself something that doesn’t exist at all.

Again, it’s not about trying to be good. It’s about trying and giving it your best shot.

And you do that over and over again until you become the best version of yourself.

Please don’t ever lie to yourself like that. It’s unhealthy and doesn’t make sense at all.

You can’t ever know for certain until you try, start and give yourself a chance. Nobody starts something being the best anyway.

 

What are some of the lies you to yourself sometimes? Please share them in the comments below so we can learn from one another.

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12 Comments

12 Comments

  1. Sarah

    Mar 12, 2015 at 8:40 am

    I am a creative person and keep telling myself I suck at business, in fact I’m going quite well, I need to stop lying to myself! Thanks.

  2. nana kwame

    Feb 12, 2015 at 8:41 am

    i believe am @ the place i need 2 be, am very glade 2 ve found yr site be bless.

  3. C.M.Nivadha Rajan

    Feb 3, 2015 at 12:07 pm

    The lie i said often to myself is ”i’m going good and hardworking”but that hard work is not enough to reach my goal.

  4. C.M.Nivadha Rajan

    Feb 3, 2015 at 12:04 pm

    The lie i tells often 2 myself is i’m going good and hardworking but honestly that hardwork is not enough to achieve my aim

  5. Maria C

    Jan 28, 2015 at 6:04 pm

    Great article.

    I think the lie I often tell myself is that I am too busy. Yes I do have 2 careers, a fiance, and children. On the other end of that, I enjoy working out…it really makes me happy. I have already figured out the problem which is I need to work out in the morning however when that alarm buzzes @ 6 a.m. I go back to sleep and say “I’ll try again tomorrow.” When my job tells me I have to be up at 5…I seem to accomplish it every time. I need and WANT to stop fooling myself that there is not enough time to get my body in the shape that I want.

  6. Masibulele

    Jan 28, 2015 at 7:31 am

    Thank you Joel God bless you man am so encouraged, I m about to start a church ministry now and I have been thinking about a mentor!!!

    • Joel Brown

      Joel Brown

      Jan 28, 2015 at 2:04 pm

      Great to hear Masibulele 🙂 Much success to you and your ministry 🙂

  7. bernadine sheehama

    Jan 27, 2015 at 2:01 pm

    Greatful!! I really ejoy ,e my life have start change by reading and following this!!! Thanks so much , keep it up!be blessed

  8. Robert Bright Salijeni

    Jan 26, 2015 at 5:37 am

    One of my lies is I am busy but have been challenged to find time for what I truly want to achieve. Hence, I am doing all I can now to work towards my dream and I shall achieve it no matter what.

  9. Marisa Gumercinda Stephens

    Jan 25, 2015 at 4:49 pm

    i find myself saying,that’s impossible-only to remind myself to stop assuming for it’s making an ASS out of U and ME giggles and that I’M POSSIBLE-thanks for this reminder again-much needed- Namaste

  10. Chaitanya

    Jan 25, 2015 at 4:14 pm

    I think I should make market reserch, know more about financial planning, discovering that profit making formula before approaching investors. I am not taking action since one year due to this.

  11. Ashvin Pudaruth

    Jan 25, 2015 at 2:24 am

    Well written article.
    I sometimes tell myself, “I cant do it” But i counter this by saying, “Ashvin you can achieve anything you want to achieve”

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