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5 Ways To Take Control Of Your Life

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Ever feel like you’re stuck in a rut? Maybe it feels like you don’t belong where you are, but you can’t find a way out. You’ve tried everything, but you just can’t see the light.

Countless self-help articles urge you to go all out in pursuit of your dreams, but this only leaves you feeling further from a life of fulfillment.

Your dreams might still be under construction, but you don’t have to feel pushed down by life any longer. You were not meant to just get by in life. You were meant for more. Life is full of ups and downs, but this does not mean that you should only aim to survive.

Remember those dreams you used to have? The ones that used to light your soul on fire? Don’t let yourself bury them any longer. Now is the time to finally start living, no matter what your circumstances may be on the outside.

Imagine looking back a year from now smiling at the fruits of your labor instead of wondering why you’re in the same exact place.

Below are 5 ways to finally start living out your truth not tomorrow, not the next day, but right this very second:

1. Listen to what your emotions are telling you

Stop stuffing down your emotions, telling yourself that everything is going to be alright and to just get through it. Please, just stop. Your emotions are meant to be a guide; a guide that can help you chart out your life in accordance to what truly matters to you.

We were not meant to be set on autopilot. We were meant to struggle and rejoice and paint the sky green. We were meant to feel alive. Whatever your emotions may be telling you, use them as clues in unlocking your truth.

“The artist is a receptacle for emotions that come from all over the place: from the sky, from the earth, from a scrap of paper, from a passing shape, from a spider’s web.” – Pablo Picasso

2. Stop thinking you need something else to be happy

Just decide that you are going to be happy with what you’ve got right now, today. While it is important to listen to your emotions, you must make peace with the things that you cannot change.

This does not mean that you are settling into your current lifestyle. This means that you are not going to make your life a living hell in pursuit of your goals. It’s important to have goals and dreams high enough that it takes some muscle, but it is also essential to realize that all we have is this moment.

Don’t look back on your life regretting that you constantly beat yourself up in search of some pot of gold. The gold is today, in this very moment. The gold is in how you treat others, in how much your roll up your sleeves when the going gets tough and in everything that cannot be seen.

 

3. Be so confident, no one can stop you

Confidence is one of the most powerful tools you could ever have and yet so few people actually have it. So, doesn’t it seem that if you could obtain your own self-confidence, you would go much further?

Once you decide to cut out the negative self-talk and commit yourself to becoming as confident as you can be, your whole life will change. With confidence, it is so much easier to get through obstacles in life.

Even more, confidence attracts the right people to you. It draws people in and makes them want to be around you. Make self-confidence a huge priority in your life and you will blaze a trail, instead of making every obstacle bigger than it is.

 

4Demand respect

You may not be able to immediately change where you are in life and who you interact with on a daily basis, but you can absolutely demand respect from those around you. Without respect, you will not go very far. You will only dig yourself deeper in a hole that is not very easy to get out of.

Even when your voice shakes, make it a point to stand up for yourself. As a basic human right, we all deserve respect. Don’t be a slave to others who are not treating you right. Make the decision to love yourself first.

“When you are content to be simply yourself and don’t compare or compete, everybody will respect you.” – Lao Tzu

5. Build your bubble

Those who create their own destiny do not allow the negativity of others to creep into their lives. They draw lines where needed. Whether it be saying no to too many commitments or being firm against those who want you to join their pity party, you must immediately cleanse your life of the BS.

To live life on your own terms, build a bubble of what matters to you and what you will allow. While a great deal of life is out of our control, we must recognize what is in our power. We call the shots on what we are willing to put up with.

Stop making excuses and decide to take control of what you can. Start playing offense, instead of defense. This is your life. Once you believe you have the power to change it, a new world opens up.

How are you going to take control of your life? Please leave your thoughts in the comment section below!

 

Jessica Brewer founded Think Train to help entrepreneurs execute an online presence through digital marketing. Her passion lies in helping companies & individuals pinpoint their purpose & further this message via online mediums. Follow her on instagram @jess_l_brewer or check out her website at www.thinktrain.io to learn more.

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How Your Friends Determine Whether You Succeed or Not

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Can anyone do without having friends? We all have our friends, we share ideas with them, talk together, have fun, and fight. Yes, that’s the baseline of friendship. But, do you know that aside from you, your friends can determine whether you achieve success or not?

There are two things in friendship which are the ability to ”love” and the ability to “influence”. This means you are loved and you are influenced. How do your friends affect your success in life? How are they one of the biggest deciding factors of your success? Let’s find out.

What type of friends do you keep? 

First, what type of friends do you keep? Who do you call your best friend? There are two different kinds of friends, good friends, and bad ones. A lot of people have lost their pathway to success and some have also found their road to success all because of the friends they keep, the people they mingle with. 

Who is your best friend? Answer carefully. Having a best friend means you find each other compatible and understanding. Analyze who your best friend is. If your best friend has not motivated you to do something positive, if who you call your bestie has never given you positive advice, lastly if your best friend has never informed and advised you on your shortcomings, then you don’t have a best friend.

This quote tells us “birds of the same feather flock together”. Countless people have changed from their good nature into a bad one all because of friends. One thing to note is, “negative people move with negative aura”. If your best friend is filled with negativity inside-out then you will surely be affected by his/her negative aura.

They influence your success with positivity or negativity 

The friends you keep can either influence you with positivity or negativity because your friends have the power to change your kind of person completely. 

This is how your friends influence you:

  1. They influence you indirectly with what they do
  2. They influence you directly by teaching and giving you advice 

Yes, that is how they influence you. For instance, you watch a movie and you like the way the actor walks. The question is if you truly like the way the actor walks, won’t you try to imitate the actor? Of course, you will.

Just the way you imitate the actor is the same way your friends can influence you with their character. However, the funny part is, they don’t have to teach you to do things like them. You just find yourself imitating and copying them gradually.

An important question to ask is, are you imitating a good friend or a bad one? If you imitate a good friend then you will be good, but if you imitate a bad person, you will surely become a bad person.

Everyone wants to succeed, a good friend will always teach, enlighten, and motivate you for success. A bad friend will only motivate you to do evil things (smoking, drinking, fight, envy,).

And you should know that things like that are a great enemy of success and even of God. So, if you have these bad elements in your life, how will you achieve success? There is no way!

And also, they can teach and advise you directly. But, what do your friends teach you? When you ask them for advice do they inspire you positively or teach you the bad stuff.? A lot of people have regretted lifelong decisions just by listening to the advice of friends. 

The company you keep has the power to influence and change you. Never forget that a positive influence will teach, motivate, and brush you up for success. While a negative influence will inspire you to become a bad person, change your good nature, and leave you with regrets in the end.

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The 3 Step Process to Building a Profitable Pitch

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As a communication coach, one of the top questions entrepreneurs ask me is how to deliver a winning pitch to potential investors. They want to know if there’s a magic formula to get an investor to say yes and buy into their dream and their business. (more…)

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The 4 Pillars of Wealth and Abundance

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Have you ever wondered what the formula for a wealthy and abundant life is? Many people have. Lots has been written about the subject of wealth creation and living an abundant life. It was a breaking point in my journey and pursuit of success when I found out that there is a clear path to achieve success in life. Thanks to those who have shared their journey, we can clearly see and follow the principles of prosperity. (more…)

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Here Are 4 Reasons Why You Should Have a Podcast, Youtube Channel or Online Show

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Confidence comes from a place of strong understanding of self. After close to three years on radio, I’ve grown from a shy introvert to a shy introvert with an extrovert persona. When the mic is turned on, I can channel a version of myself that some say is attractive, strong, and of course, confident but it wasn’t always this way.

What I want to share with you is what I discovered on this journey into broadcast that you can apply to your life, your ventures, and your personal development. This doesn’t require any fancy gear. It does require a leap of faith on your part because once you go down the road of media; it can change your life.

1. Perceived Expertise

When you go to a doctor, you expect their knowledge will guide them to a solution to your problems. When you have a show, you become your listeners’ doctor. For all the multiple thousands, maybe millions, of YouTube channels, podcasts, and user-created content in the world, each person that gets behind a mic takes a position on their passion, their opinions, and their themes.

They challenge the status quo for the benefit of their listeners in hopes to entertain and educate. With consistency on your side, those fans place you on a platform and give you permission to influence them.

2. Global Acknowledgement

One of the benefits to increasing confidence is when you receive thank you notes from people you may never meet. The feeling of enriching someone’s life from halfway around the globe, provides validation you’re enhancing someone else’s life with your wisdom and your wit.

The very first time I was told I was making a difference in someone’s life in a country other than my own, I felt like I caused massive impact that transcends my circle of influence. When you experience just how much you can cause impact and it comes back to you, it’ll change your worldview.

“Be grateful for what you have and stop complaining – it bores everybody else, does you no good, and doesn’t solve any problems.” – Zig Ziglar

3. Backed By Numbers

One of the most exciting ways to measure success is to quantify your growth. It’s not enough to just broadcast. Having subscribers and downloads helps to know, numerically, how well you’re doing. Word of caution. This can be a way to set yourself up for distress because of number envy but if you understand what the numbers mean; you can control the narrative of the numbers.

The major number that makes most people smile is 10,000. I’d advise it to be 1. Here’s why. As you grow in your industry, so does your reach. If you learned that the one person that subscribed totally changed for the better because of you, wouldn’t that be worth the effort?

4. Effective Communication

While it’s not talked about much, having a show is documentation. You create a dynamic account of your life, your industry, and the pulse on what’s important simply by having a show. When you find a channel to improve your communication skills, you demand attention and people will listen to you. You become more trusted as a leader and people will follow you once they believe you can lead them to their wants and needs.

“To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way we perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others.” – Tony Robbins

These insights have helped many people become leaders and, ultimately, move others to their best selves. It’s worked for me and I hope it works for you. At the end of the day, it’s all about showing up and showing out.

Have you ever thought about having a radio show? If so, what would you talk about? Let us below!

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