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5 Reasons Why Success Is Always About Personal Responsibility




The deceptively simple and yet obvious thing about success is that it starts and ends with you.  You know this, but sometimes it can be so very difficult to actually live as if you know it.  Living as if you know it means understanding and accepting this bottom line truth: Success is always about personal responsibility.

No one should be more passionate about your success than you.  If they are, you’re on the wrong path.  You need others to help and support you on your journey, and they can certainly help open doors for you, but you must walk through those doors.  You must always take the first step.

In order to truly succeed, you must be willing to take 100% responsibility for getting yourself to your goal and know that this will mean making some really hard choices.

These five steps can inspire you to start living from a place of more responsibility today:

1. Make the decision

Before you can do anything, you must make a decision.  And making the decision to be fully responsible for your life and your success can feel daunting. It requires a giant shift in what you’re willing to tell yourself about who you are and what you can accomplish.  It also requires you to look in the mirror and decide that you are done making excuses and done blaming others for your circumstances.  

What is your vision of success?  Why did you create that specific vision? How can you start moving toward that vision even if means taking a small step that terrifies you?  When you make the decision to personally own your success, you change your thoughts and your energy which in turn changes what you do from today forward.

“It is in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped.” – Tony Robbins 

2. Set boundaries

If you’re going to go all in with success, you must learn to set healthy boundaries first and foremost with yourself.  Think about your vision of success, figure out where you’re getting distracted or frustrated, and start cutting out some of those distractions.  Once you’re done with your own boundaries, think about where you may need to set kind but firm boundaries with others.  

Being successful means learning to manage your time and energy in ways that allow you to move toward your goals and also stay healthy.  It also means knowing your limit when it comes to interruptions and activities that drain you.  Don’t worry about setting the perfect boundaries, just start somewhere and adjust as you go.

3. Shift from passive to active

If you tend to get caught up in a giant brain chew over what you should be doing to be successful, chances are that’s where you’ll end up, stuck in the brain chew. This is because while thinking and talking about successes are great, action always leads to results.

One of the best ways to break out of this thinking and talking cycle is write down your thoughts and talking points as action items. Even if some of them seem far-fetched, take time to turn them into something that directly relates to your success vision. Then take the leap.

Get out of your comfort zone and do something, then reflect on what happened. To be a successful person, you need to fully own and accept that no one else can shift you from passive to active, only you can do it. So take one of your think or talk items and get going on it within the next day or two.

4. Embrace the fact that your direction may change

Being personally responsible means understanding that your direction may change, but the feelings you get from being successful won’t. This is why it’s so important to really get in touch with why you’re doing something; success is about how you feel, it’s not measured in social media numbers, dollars earned, or material things.  

Watch out for thoughts such as “I should do…” and focus instead on “What I must do is…”  What you must do is your passion, what you should do is what everyone else tells you to do.  Catch yourself when you start to compare yourself to others and remember that their vision of success is just as unique as yours. Focus your time and energy on your own vision and let others pursue their dreams.

“It is not the strongest or the most intelligent who will survive but those who can best manage change.” – Charles Darwin

5. Live with integrity

The ultimate way of showing, not just saying, you’re stepping up and taking personal responsibility for your success is by living with integrity. Integrity is the foundation of trust, and without trust you can pretty much kiss meaningful personal and professional relationships goodbye. What are you promising yourself and others? Are you following through on those promises or making excuses when those promises are broken?

When the words and the deeds match, you have integrity. Talk is cheap and people are more likely to believe you, trust you, and ultimately like you and work with you if you show them that you continually make good on your word. This isn’t always easy but it is one of the best and fastest ways to keep yourself accountable. Integrity is one of the cornerstones of success so be sure you keep it top of mind in everything you do.

Taking full responsibility for your own success makes you powerful. By ditching excuses and dropping the blame game, you get to choose how to use your power to grow yourself both personally and professionally.  

This will mean making tough decisions by getting in touch with what you really want and what you’re willing to do to feel truly successful.  Best of all, it allows you to share your gifts with the world and inspire others to do the same.  

How can you start taking responsibility for your success today? Leave your thoughts below!

Brooke Davis is a Certified Wellness Inventory coach and writer. She is the founder of Roots of Abundance, an online personal development company, where she helps mid-career women manage chronic stress, overwhelm, and burnout. Learn more about Brooke at or on Instagram at @rootsofabundanceco.

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20 Ways You Can Become a Powerful Communicator



Emile Steenveld Speaker and Coach

Some people seem to naturally know how to effectively communicate in a group setting. They can express themselves clearly and listen attentively without dominating the conversation.

Being a powerful communicator is important for several reasons, including building and maintaining relationships, achieving goals, resolving conflicts, improving productivity, leading and influencing others, advancing in your career, expressing yourself more confidently and authentically, and improving your mental and emotional well-being. Effective communication is an essential life skill that can benefit you in all aspects of your life.

But, don’t worry if you don’t naturally possess this skill, as effective communication is something that can be developed with practice, planning and preparation.

1.  Listen actively: Practice active listening by giving your full attention to the speaker and responding to what they are saying.


2. Use “I” statements: Speak from your own perspective and avoid placing blame or making accusations.


3. Avoid assumptions: Don’t make assumptions about what the other person is thinking or feeling.


4. Be clear: Express your thoughts and feelings clearly and concisely by getting to the point and avoid using jargon or overly complex language.


5. Show empathy: Show that you understand and care about the other person’s feelings.


6. Offer valuable insights: When speaking in a group, provide a valuable takeaway or actionable item that people can walk away with.


7. Be an active listener: Listen attentively and respond accordingly, incorporating your points into the conversation.


8. Choose the right time: Pick the most opportune time to speak to ensure that you have the group’s attention and can deliver your message without interruption.


9. Be the unifying voice: Step in and unify the group’s thoughts to calm down the discussion and insert your point effectively.


10. Keep responses concise: Keep responses short and to the point to show respect for others’ time.


11. Avoid unnecessary comments: Avoid commenting on everything and only speak when you have something important to say.


12. Cut the fluff: Avoid being long-winded and get straight to the point.


13. Prepare ahead of time: Sort out your points and practice them before speaking in a group.


14. Smile and be positive: Smile and nod along as others speak, to build a positive relationship and be respected when it’s your turn to speak.


15. Take responsibility: Take responsibility for your own actions and feelings.


16. Ask questions: Ask questions to clarify any confusion or misunderstandings.


17. Avoid interrupting: Allow the other person to finish speaking without interruption.


18. Practice active listening: Repeat what the other person said to ensure you have understood correctly.


19. Use your body language too: Use nonverbal cues such as eye contact, facial expressions, and body language to convey your message and build rapport.


20. Be aware of the tone of your voice: it should be calm and assertive, not aggressive or passive.


By keeping these tips in mind, you can improve your communication skills and become a more powerful communicator, which can help you build better relationships, achieve your goals, and lead a more fulfilling life.

I you want to learn how to become more confident in life then you can join my weekly mentorship calls and 40+ online workshops at so you can master your life with more success.

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