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5 Reasons Why Success Is Always About Personal Responsibility




The deceptively simple and yet obvious thing about success is that it starts and ends with you.  You know this, but sometimes it can be so very difficult to actually live as if you know it.  Living as if you know it means understanding and accepting this bottom line truth: Success is always about personal responsibility.

No one should be more passionate about your success than you.  If they are, you’re on the wrong path.  You need others to help and support you on your journey, and they can certainly help open doors for you, but you must walk through those doors.  You must always take the first step.

In order to truly succeed, you must be willing to take 100% responsibility for getting yourself to your goal and know that this will mean making some really hard choices.

These five steps can inspire you to start living from a place of more responsibility today:

1. Make the decision

Before you can do anything, you must make a decision.  And making the decision to be fully responsible for your life and your success can feel daunting. It requires a giant shift in what you’re willing to tell yourself about who you are and what you can accomplish.  It also requires you to look in the mirror and decide that you are done making excuses and done blaming others for your circumstances.  

What is your vision of success?  Why did you create that specific vision? How can you start moving toward that vision even if means taking a small step that terrifies you?  When you make the decision to personally own your success, you change your thoughts and your energy which in turn changes what you do from today forward.

“It is in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped.” – Tony Robbins 

2. Set boundaries

If you’re going to go all in with success, you must learn to set healthy boundaries first and foremost with yourself.  Think about your vision of success, figure out where you’re getting distracted or frustrated, and start cutting out some of those distractions.  Once you’re done with your own boundaries, think about where you may need to set kind but firm boundaries with others.  

Being successful means learning to manage your time and energy in ways that allow you to move toward your goals and also stay healthy.  It also means knowing your limit when it comes to interruptions and activities that drain you.  Don’t worry about setting the perfect boundaries, just start somewhere and adjust as you go.

3. Shift from passive to active

If you tend to get caught up in a giant brain chew over what you should be doing to be successful, chances are that’s where you’ll end up, stuck in the brain chew. This is because while thinking and talking about successes are great, action always leads to results.

One of the best ways to break out of this thinking and talking cycle is write down your thoughts and talking points as action items. Even if some of them seem far-fetched, take time to turn them into something that directly relates to your success vision. Then take the leap.

Get out of your comfort zone and do something, then reflect on what happened. To be a successful person, you need to fully own and accept that no one else can shift you from passive to active, only you can do it. So take one of your think or talk items and get going on it within the next day or two.

4. Embrace the fact that your direction may change

Being personally responsible means understanding that your direction may change, but the feelings you get from being successful won’t. This is why it’s so important to really get in touch with why you’re doing something; success is about how you feel, it’s not measured in social media numbers, dollars earned, or material things.  

Watch out for thoughts such as “I should do…” and focus instead on “What I must do is…”  What you must do is your passion, what you should do is what everyone else tells you to do.  Catch yourself when you start to compare yourself to others and remember that their vision of success is just as unique as yours. Focus your time and energy on your own vision and let others pursue their dreams.

“It is not the strongest or the most intelligent who will survive but those who can best manage change.” – Charles Darwin

5. Live with integrity

The ultimate way of showing, not just saying, you’re stepping up and taking personal responsibility for your success is by living with integrity. Integrity is the foundation of trust, and without trust you can pretty much kiss meaningful personal and professional relationships goodbye. What are you promising yourself and others? Are you following through on those promises or making excuses when those promises are broken?

When the words and the deeds match, you have integrity. Talk is cheap and people are more likely to believe you, trust you, and ultimately like you and work with you if you show them that you continually make good on your word. This isn’t always easy but it is one of the best and fastest ways to keep yourself accountable. Integrity is one of the cornerstones of success so be sure you keep it top of mind in everything you do.

Taking full responsibility for your own success makes you powerful. By ditching excuses and dropping the blame game, you get to choose how to use your power to grow yourself both personally and professionally.  

This will mean making tough decisions by getting in touch with what you really want and what you’re willing to do to feel truly successful.  Best of all, it allows you to share your gifts with the world and inspire others to do the same.  

How can you start taking responsibility for your success today? Leave your thoughts below!

Brooke Davis is a Certified Wellness Inventory coach and writer. She is the founder of Roots of Abundance, an online personal development company, where she helps mid-career women manage chronic stress, overwhelm, and burnout. Learn more about Brooke at or on Instagram at @rootsofabundanceco.

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There is no greatness without becoming and there is no becoming with authenticity



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In just a few weeks, we will be wrapping up 2023. Can you believe it? This year has been absolutely incredible for me.

I have seen amazing doors opened, new relationships formed and I am seeing dreams realized in my life. While this seems like the hallmarks of a great year, this has also been the most challenging year of my life. With all of the change happening in my life, I have been forced out of my comfort zone and challenged to grow in every area of my life.

I can truly say that I have made the most of my moments this year and I have used everything as a catalyst for maximizing my greatest potential.

As a revolutionary leader, I have the pleasure of consulting and advising leaders around the world to fulfill purpose, realize their greatest potential and make an impact.

I want to share some insights with you that will help you to break cycles of mediocrity and manifest your greatness

Everything legal must come through the matrix

I am sure that some of you are wondering why I am using the term matrix. However, what you have to understand is that I am trying to make a highly complex spiritual principle practical to understand.

Regardless of your spiritual beliefs, every life has an origin and I believe that origin is divine and begins with eternity. You are birthed from eternity and into time to fulfill a unique purpose and assignment in your lifetime and generation.

The matrix is simply the portal or vehicle that brings something out of the invisible realm and into tangible form. The problem with much of the teaching today is that it excludes the matrix. We are told to believe that success is instantaneous and overnight.

Nobody talks about how a dream progresses through stages beginning with visualization and ultimately culminating in manifestation. Without a matrix or portal then everything that you attempt to birth and build will be illegal.

The matrix not only makes you legal but it gives you the authority and power to function as the greatest expression of who you were created to be. 

Every matrix has an incubation process

While many people admire and respect me today, I remember a time when nobody knew who I was or the significance of my message. How did I get to where I am today? I got here through an incubation process.

In other words, everything that has been destined for your life is incubating and awaiting a set time of manifestation. The problem is that most people live their entire lives idle and never initiate the incubation process.

What do I meany by that? Most people are living reckless and very few people are living intentionally. I am amazed at the number of people I have conversations with that have no vision, goals or strategies for their lives. They show great promise and they have undeniable potential.

However, without development they will die with their dreams still in them.

Everything that has been destined for your life must be incubated and converted to become realities born to time. 

“Visualize this thing that you want, see it, feel it, believe in it. Make your mental blueprint and begin to build.” – Robert Collier

You must give expression to that which is not yet born to time

When you think about a matrix or a prophetic incubation process, you have to understand that potential is often unrealized and untapped. In other words, your potential is in raw form and your potential cannot serve you as long as it is untapped.

The thing that makes me valuable is that I have the ability to convert potential into power. I have done it in my own life and I have empowered leaders around the world to do the same. How do you convert potential into power?

First, it is important to note that you have to perceive potential. If you cannot perceive your potential then you can never cultivate your potential. In addition, you must take the time to cultivate your potential. We often get excited about our capabilities; however, we never expand our capacity in order to realize our greatest potential.

In other words, the strength of your potential is only discovered through your willingness to stretch. The more we are challenged the more we are empowered to expand our capacity for greatness. Most of all, you must begin to express your potential. The expression of potential is different for every person.

For example, the expression of my potential is best demonstrated through the thoughts, ideas, products, services, books, etc.

For another person the expression of potential may look like a screenplay, artwork, sports, scientific discoveries, medical breakthroughs, etc.

Regardless of the form of expression, I know that you will live empty and unfulfilled until you make the decision to express your potential. The expression of your potential gives voice to your dreams, life to your vision, significance to your moments and activates your true power.

You must manifest your greatness

As a revolutionary thinker and leader, my work has impacted people around the world. I am grateful that my life is a source of empowerment to so many people. However, before anyone could ever benefit from my life, I had to make a non-negotiable decision to become who I was born to be.

I wish I could tell you that this journey is easy and that you will get there overnight. However, in a world that celebrates us for doing we are often criticized for being. As a result, I wasted a lot of time trying to be who other people wanted me to be instead of being who I was born to be.

There is no greatness without becoming and there is no becoming with authenticity. It is through our bravery to be vulnerable that we ultimately manifest our greatness. We do not bless the world by being a duplicate. We bless the world when we honor our difference. When you honor your difference you honor your potential.

Ultimately, your difference is how you manifest your greatness.

When you present anything but your authentic self to the world, you are playing small and you are robbing the world of your significance. Manifesting your greatness requires you to master your gifts.

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