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3 Secrets to Creating Confidence And Momentum Fast

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3 years ago

Sep 11, 2020

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Waiting until you’re ready—it’s one of the most dangerous games you can play when it comes to getting what you want out of your life and business. What most people mean when they say, “I’m not ready,” is “I want to be confident in my ability to have a successful experience.”

The problem with that idea is that confidence is not the catalyst point of success. Confidence is the byproduct of taking action on the journey to success. Luckily, you don’t have to wait until you reach your goals to build momentum and feel confident in what you’re doing.

Here are three ways to build your confidence quickly so you can reach your goals faster. The best part? These work even if you’ve been spinning your wheels for a while. If you’re ready to take action on these three simple steps, you can find yourself creating powerful momentum in the direction of your desires.

1. Build on Certainty

You’re likely to find yourself in at least one of these two places on your business growth journey: facing a new goal or getting stuck while trying to achieve one that you’ve been working on. One of the reasons your confidence can falter in these situations is because there’s an uncertainty that comes from doing something new, as well as a confusion that happens when old methods expire that used to work, leaving you unsure about what to do next. Whenever you don’t know what to do, you can get caught in decision paralysis.

Here’s how to resolve that: Focus on the things you’re good at and that you’re certain about. This should be something you love or that you’re good at. This will create the right momentum because you don’t have to fight an internal battle of “but I’m not good at that” to get things to move. If you’re not sure what those actions could be, try this:

Take out a piece of paper and fold it in half long ways to create two columns. In column one, list out all of the things that you’re good at, whether or not they have anything to do with your business.

For example, maybe you’re really good at talking on the phone or you’re the person everyone comes to when they need some guidance. Maybe you’re really good at brainstorming solutions or creating epic IG graphics. No matter what it is, if you’re good at it or doing it brings you joy, write it down.

In column two, list out your goals (bonus points if you break them down into smaller goal chunks). For example, if you had the goal of losing 20 pounds over the next six months, you might break that down by creating the goal of working out four days a week for the first two months and then working out five days a week after that. Looking at columns one and two together, which things in column one can help you achieve the goals you listed in column two?

For example, if you wanted to increase your income and one of your subgoals was to have 10 additional sales conversations every month, then your skill of being the person people want to open up to and get advice from would be helpful in accomplishing that goal. It gives you a clear place to start. Use your communication and relationship building skills to book and nail those sales conversations.

“A dream becomes a goal when action is taken toward its achievement.” – Bo Bennett

2. Take Action

It’s easy to get lost in your head. When that happens, you can tense up and feel stuck. This is when you need to remember that motion creates emotion. The more you move in the direction of your goals, the faster you’ll find confidence within and build momentum.

It’s okay if the action you’re taking isn’t even remotely on the same planet as perfect. Perfection is simply a waste of time that will keep you trailing behind the rest of the leaders in your industry.

“Fortune favors the bold” is a powerful Latin proverb and endures for a reason. The idea isn’t to get it right and achieve all of your goals right this second by taking action. The whole point is simply to move. Here’s why.

When you move, you receive data from your environment on what’s actually working or not working. If the action you take moves you further away from your goal, you’re likely to learn quickly and adjust. The information you receive on what not to do is just as important (if not more so) than the information you receive from what’s going well.

Albert Einstein said, “Failure is success in progress.” You don’t learn boundaries, adaptability, and new level mastery from constant wins. Growth comes from course correcting mistakes, not avoiding them.

It doesn’t matter how insignificant you feel the action you want to take is—just move. The faster you take one action, the faster you’ll build momentum and find yourself gaining wins (even if there are a few oopses along the way).

3. Build Rejection Tolerance

Rejection isn’t easy for anyone. When you work for something and you believe in it, it’s hard to imagine anyone else not seeing your grand vision or wanting to be a part of it. However, no one is immune from the sting of being rejected. That being said, you can build up a powerful tolerance to it that will make you more nimble, adaptable, and knowledgeable.

Rejection is one of the ways you can grow. If you don’t figure out what you’re bad at, you won’t find what you’re good at. And if you don’t find your areas of opportunity for growth, then you’ll be stuck at the same level, unsure of why you can’t move forward. There are lessons in loss if you’re willing to see them and learn from them.

You see, there’s a false idea that wins will make you confident. Not true. Wins can give you a momentary glimpse of how confidence feels. But true confidence comes from your belief and trust in yourself to get back up after something has knocked you down with the full understanding that you will still reach your goals. The belief that you will find a way forward, even if you don’t know how in this moment. Because no matter what, the one thing that is always true is that your failures are simply the crucible to greater victories.

“It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all, in which case you have failed by default.” – J. K. Rowling

Give yourself permission to fail so that you can take the action that will get you unstuck and eventually lead you to your success.

How do you maintain your confidence & momentum in the right direction? Share your thoughts with us below!

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In just a few weeks, we will be wrapping up 2023. Can you believe it? This year has been absolutely incredible for me.

I have seen amazing doors opened, new relationships formed and I am seeing dreams realized in my life. While this seems like the hallmarks of a great year, this has also been the most challenging year of my life. With all of the change happening in my life, I have been forced out of my comfort zone and challenged to grow in every area of my life.

I can truly say that I have made the most of my moments this year and I have used everything as a catalyst for maximizing my greatest potential.

As a revolutionary leader, I have the pleasure of consulting and advising leaders around the world to fulfill purpose, realize their greatest potential and make an impact.

I want to share some insights with you that will help you to break cycles of mediocrity and manifest your greatness.

Everything legal must come through the matrix

I am sure that some of you are wondering why I am using the term matrix. However, what you have to understand is that I am trying to make a highly complex spiritual principle practical to understand.

Regardless of your spiritual beliefs, every life has an origin and I believe that origin is divine and begins with eternity. You are birthed from eternity and into time to fulfill a unique purpose and assignment in your lifetime and generation.

The matrix is simply the portal or vehicle that brings something out of the invisible realm and into tangible form. The problem with much of the teaching today is that it excludes the matrix. We are told to believe that success is instantaneous and overnight.

Nobody talks about how a dream progresses through stages beginning with visualization and ultimately culminating in manifestation. Without a matrix or portal then everything that you attempt to birth and build will be illegal.

The matrix not only makes you legal but it gives you the authority and power to function as the greatest expression of who you were created to be.

Every matrix has an incubation process

While many people admire and respect me today, I remember a time when nobody knew who I was or the significance of my message. How did I get to where I am today? I got here through an incubation process.

In other words, everything that has been destined for your life is incubating and awaiting a set time of manifestation. The problem is that most people live their entire lives idle and never initiate the incubation process.

What do I meany by that? Most people are living reckless and very few people are living intentionally. I am amazed at the number of people I have conversations with that have no vision, goals or strategies for their lives. They show great promise and they have undeniable potential.

However, without development they will die with their dreams still in them.

Everything that has been destined for your life must be incubated and converted to become realities born to time.

“Visualize this thing that you want, see it, feel it, believe in it. Make your mental blueprint and begin to build.” – Robert Collier

You must give expression to that which is not yet born to time

When you think about a matrix or a prophetic incubation process, you have to understand that potential is often unrealized and untapped. In other words, your potential is in raw form and your potential cannot serve you as long as it is untapped.

The thing that makes me valuable is that I have the ability to convert potential into power. I have done it in my own life and I have empowered leaders around the world to do the same. How do you convert potential into power?

First, it is important to note that you have to perceive potential. If you cannot perceive your potential then you can never cultivate your potential. In addition, you must take the time to cultivate your potential. We often get excited about our capabilities; however, we never expand our capacity in order to realize our greatest potential.

In other words, the strength of your potential is only discovered through your willingness to stretch. The more we are challenged the more we are empowered to expand our capacity for greatness. Most of all, you must begin to express your potential. The expression of potential is different for every person.

For example, the expression of my potential is best demonstrated through the thoughts, ideas, products, services, books, etc.

For another person the expression of potential may look like a screenplay, artwork, sports, scientific discoveries, medical breakthroughs, etc.

Regardless of the form of expression, I know that you will live empty and unfulfilled until you make the decision to express your potential. The expression of your potential gives voice to your dreams, life to your vision, significance to your moments and activates your true power.

You must manifest your greatness

As a revolutionary thinker and leader, my work has impacted people around the world. I am grateful that my life is a source of empowerment to so many people. However, before anyone could ever benefit from my life, I had to make a non-negotiable decision to become who I was born to be.

I wish I could tell you that this journey is easy and that you will get there overnight. However, in a world that celebrates us for doing we are often criticized for being. As a result, I wasted a lot of time trying to be who other people wanted me to be instead of being who I was born to be.

There is no greatness without becoming and there is no becoming with authenticity. It is through our bravery to be vulnerable that we ultimately manifest our greatness. We do not bless the world by being a duplicate. We bless the world when we honor our difference. When you honor your difference you honor your potential.

Ultimately, your difference is how you manifest your greatness.

When you present anything but your authentic self to the world, you are playing small and you are robbing the world of your significance. Manifesting your greatness requires you to master your gifts.