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What You Must Do To Create A Personal Breakthrough

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If you’re stuck in a rut and your life is not going how you want it too then you need a personal breakthrough. A breakthrough is something that changes the course of your life going forward and ensures that things will never be the same for you again.

Most of what a breakthrough requires is for you to have the courage and the bravery to stops settling for second best. Everything you need in your life already exists. The problem is often that your mind is blocking you from seeing the success tools you need to catapult your life into the right direction.

In 2011 I had one of these personal breakthroughs and since then, I have had a few more. Breakthroughs are what create the combined power to achieve your dreams. When I remember back to my first breakthrough, I realised that it was fear that was holding me back from accepting my current situation.

Before my first breakthrough, I wanted to blame everyone else about why I was failing at life and why I was incredibly unhappy. Taking ownership of your situation is part of being a mature adult, and once you realise that every problem starts with you, you will have the keys to unlock your unlimited potential.

Below are the seven things you must do to create a personal breakthrough:

1. Hit a low point

This may seem counter-intuitive, but the first step is to hit a low point. Without a low point, there is obviously no reason to have a breakthrough. A breakthrough is quite clearly something that stems from a low point.

If you are not going through a low point then you don’t need a breakthrough, you need some personal tweaking. However, if you are not going through a low point, but would like to have more success, then you can convince yourself that you are at a low point.

The mind can be convinced of anything and often you can use this to your advantage. By deciding to have a breakthrough, you unlock the power to make a drastic change. At the end of a breakthrough, the whole point is to go through so much change that you don’t recognise your previous life.

2. Analyse your story so far

Before you can begin the work on your breakthrough, you need to analyse the story you are telling yourself. It’s in these self-told stories that most of your barriers to success are found. The stories we tell ourselves form a process called “autosuggestion” that can be used to guide us, or destroy us.

Upon analysing my own story, I realised that I was telling myself these stories:

– I am not good enough
– I should be making more money
– It’s not my fault I am failing; other people caused these problems, not me
– I don’t have the skills to follow my passion
– One day I will be successful I just need to wait for something to fall on my lap

As you can see, the stories that I was telling myself were quite harmful. My stories typically had the components of no responsibility, reliance on other people, no sense of urgency, and complete lies. No one is going to create your success for you, and you have to start now.

No matter how far away your dream might seem it can only ever come true if you take a small step. The purpose of analysing your story is to become aware of the lies you are telling yourself. Once you know your made up stories, it’s a good idea to compare them with stories from people like Richard Branson, Elon Musk and Bill Gates.

There is no way to have a personal breakthrough unless you decide to form new, empowering stories.

“Your stories are what are stopping you from having a personal breakthrough in the first place”

3. Make a decision

No breakthrough can occur unless you cut off from all other options and decide that you must change your life right now. The moment you make the critical decision is the moment that the rest of your life will change.

Making the decision is the hardest part of any breakthrough. Once you decide and you have the tools, it’s much easier to execute on your new plan for your life.

During my first breakthrough, I found myself in a situation that at the time seemed impossible to get out of. The decision I made was that the past had already occurred, and I had to start again from the bottom.

I made four bold decisions:

– I would no longer stand for negative people
– I would choose a different entrepreneurial path
– I would redefine what success meant to me
– I would never allow money to define me again

Having made these four new decisions I had a new foundation that was achievable to work from. Making the decisions and then executing on them is half of the work.

4. Set a new standard

Once you leave behind all your old stories and make some empowering new decisions, it’s then time to set some new standards. Your standards determine what your minimum requirements are for each area of your life.

In my first breakthrough, I now realise that deciding to start from the bottom allowed me to clear out my previous standards. In doing so, I adopted a new set of standards that were less money focused and more in the direction of my vision for life. I realised that I had to become a new person if I wanted to attract the sorts of things I wanted in my life.

Once you have set your new standards, you then have a list of what you are not going to accept from the external world or the people in your life. Your standards become your must’s, and you should be unwavering in your pursuit of these standards.

5. Design your new life

Part of a successful breakthrough is to know what you would like the future to look like. Do you want to be an entrepreneur? Would you like to travel? Do you want to create a massive change in the world? Do you want to start a not for profit organisation?

The answer to these types of questions will help to uncover the life you want. It’s imperative that you have a vision that you can aim for even if at this early stage you have no idea how to get there. This process should have no boundaries, and anything can be included in this new design for your life.

When I went through this process I had things such as:

– An incredible network of people
– A new group of close friends
– A new woman
– A new career
– A way of changing the world through the Internet

Thankfully, since writing this list down, I have achieved most of these already. This list of wants will give you the leverage you need to follow through on your personal breakthrough.

6. Take up three new positive habits

A personal breakthrough involves lots of new components to your life and as part of the process, you must decide to take up at least three new positive habits. If you decide to have a breakthrough, and then just keep living the same way, then you will not get any results.

Habits are the small acts each day that you repeatedly do that end up having a lot to do with your overall success. During my first personal breakthrough, I took up exercise, reading and blogging as my new daily habits.

These three things have been a large part of where I have got to and are the pillars of my vision of inspiring the world through entrepreneurship and personal development. What three habits are you going to adopt in your own personal breakthrough?

7. Get clear on your why

The final part of your personal breakthrough is to get very clear on your personal why. You need to know why you exist and what your fundamental goal is in life. Typically, you’re why is something that you are highly passionate about and it is most likely related to your hobby.

Even if you’re clear on your why you need to rewrite it in a way that makes it full of energy and something that will excite you every day when you look at it. If your why is boring then it’s probably not an accurate representation of what you stand for.

Your why is something that is like the compass of your life. It’s what will be at the centre of your personal breakthrough and give you the drive to pursue a new course.

“A person without a powerful why will slowly die inside and become a predictable, shift-working zombie” – Tim Denning

I don’t want this type of de-motivating life for you, and you and I know you deserve better than that. Stand up, fire up, and spend some time knowing what the heck you are doing on this Earth!

Have you had a personal breakthrough? If not, why haven’t you? Let me know in the comments section below or on my website timdenning.net or my Facebook.

Tim is best known as a long-time contributor on Addicted2Success. Tim's content has been shared millions of times and he has written multiple viral posts all around personal development and entrepreneurship.You can connect with Tim through his website www.timdenning.com

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    Stuart

    Dec 21, 2016 at 2:58 pm

    Great article, as always! These are also in front of me at the right time so thanks. I had my breakthrough 9 Aug 2016. I was at a free life coaching seminar in London and we were asked who would like their future predicted with 95% accuracy? We were then told just to look at the last 5 years of our lives and my blood ran cold. I had gone from a high earning city manager in 2011 that was made redundant, to taking any work I could find took short term contract roles… the fifth role I found myself earning less than half of what I had done previously and working with quite possibly the most negative people I had come across. To numb the pain of going to work in a place that depressed me I started upping my alcohol intake to almost every day. Family had written me off, was already divorced only stable thing in my life was and still is my daughter. After the coaching seminar I walked out of the job have started a life coaching business as I want to share the coaching I have had since 9th August with everyone. I have made more progress in the last 4 months than I had done in the last 4 years!! Feel more alive than I ever have done. My ‘why’ is to help others see this way of living, thinking and being. So many doors are opening for me, life has become amazing again. Currently paying my bills with credit cards but this is only temporary 2017 is shaping up to be the best year of my life!! Thanks for articles and have a great Xmas and NYE. If I was honest I can’t wait for the holidays to be over… they are getting in the way of my plan haha.

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    Brian

    Aug 17, 2016 at 2:30 pm

    Great article! Best one yet! Something about your writing style keeps me reading and reading, even if I am familiar with some of the content. Good work Tim

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    Silvia Turonova

    Jul 16, 2016 at 11:30 pm

    Again, great article Tim. I know exactly what you are talking about because I am going through this “struggle” right now. I am trying to put myself in a state where I feel that enough is ENOUGH! But for some reason, I can’t get there, and it limits my personal resources, and my productivity is not as high as it used to be. Anyway, I will follow steps which you’ve described. I had few of my breakthroughs in life, and I know it must come now if I want to make me the difference and turn things around. Thank you for sharing this. It really helped.

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    Chris Targett

    Jul 9, 2016 at 12:31 pm

    Hey Tim, I’ve read a few of your article’s today, trying to get me back on track after a lack of motivation, have to say this is my favourite one. The pick out quote that resonates with me is:

    “Everything you need in your life already exists”

    We have the tools for us to successful, we just need to put them into practice. I am waiting for something to happen instead of going out there with what I’ve already got and attacking life!

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      Tim Denning

      Jul 9, 2016 at 3:20 pm

      Thanks Chris for raking the time to read through a few of the posts. My advice to you would be to start taking action and forget about waiting for things to happen. Let me know how things progress for you.

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    Toño

    Jul 1, 2016 at 6:05 pm

    Wow, Tim, you’re on fire, my man! Article after article for the full week, that’s a hard mode 🙂 I cannot even catch up with your speed right now, having the toughest week at my job, lots of stress and tiredness. So my apology for the lack of comments.

    I started to read your work and just could not stop. Printed the whole thing, while being at work, and have read it carefully. Feel like I am at my lowest point, hitting the one pretty hard, at least I can tell that about my job. For the whole week I was doing lots of things and no time for proper rest, and all of this, I felt, was for pretty much nothing. Well, it was like this till I read about breaktrhough. It is really strange but I just know I need this huge frustration and stress in my life to get out, to change it and to find my why. I need new standards and I need new habbits. And I extremely need new environment.

    I am close to leave my job, closests than I ever been, but still have to be there at least for a couple of months. I know bad days won’t last forever, as well as those good ones, so I just to keep going. Like James Baraz said: ‘…enjoying the pleasant without holding on when it changes (which it will); being with the unpleasant without fearing it will always be this way (which it won’t)’

    Got it from one of the latest meditation session with calm, I like it and very agree.

    Thank you so much for this inspiration, Tim, and once again sorry for chaotic rambling. Keep on going as well, keep making your dreams come true and helping others! Much love and peace!~

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      Tim Denning

      Jul 2, 2016 at 1:46 am

      Toño sorry to hear that things at your job are not going so well. It’s obvious you will need to find something else. Try and find a career that you love with people who inspire you rather than bring you down. Frustration and stress exist for everyone including me. The more you practice meditation the more your moods will change.

      I have cranked up my meditation to twice a day now and it’s made a big difference. The tougher the times get the more you have to put into each day my friends. Keep your head up, things will get better for you!

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