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Why Travelling Can Wake You The Hell Up From Your Reality

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Spending some time traveling the world can change your current perspective on life. It’s easy to get stuck in a rut and then not be able to see a clear way out. The way out can often be blinded by your own thinking.

Travel is something that can wake you the help up from the day-to-day grind and help you to realise an abundance of things that you either didn’t know or have forgotten about. We live our lives so numb to what else exists or what could be happening on the other side of the world right now.

There are certain triggers that we all need to bring us back to the present and realise what is important to us individually. There are few things that have the immense power required to catapult you out of your current reality, but traveling is definitely one of them.

What I have just described to you is exactly what happened to me on two recent trips to China and Hong Kong. To be honest, I haven’t had the pleasure of doing a lot of travel in my life and made the mistake of thinking that seeing the world isn’t as important as the daily entrepreneur grind.

We’re taught by social media that we should never sleep, never take a break, and work on our passion 24/7. This is a recipe for disaster, and it’s a reality I have unfortunately lived many times over.

Thanks to my China trips, I would like to share with you the seven ways traveling can wake you the hell up:

1. Remind you of the world’s problems

The catch phrase “first world problems” is something that many millennials use to describe their problems. The phrase is considered by many to be a joke towards just how little our problems are compared to developing countries, but I feel that many young people don’t quite understand the problems that exist.

The benefit of travel is that it allows all of us to wake up and see what other countries are like. No matter how bad you think you have it, there is always somewhere else in the world that has it worse. Travelling shows us that we need to put our problems into perspective and not think that everything in our life is so bad after all.

The more that you travel, the more you will see that other countries problems are very similar to your own and that on the surface they may appear different, when in reality they’re the same.

As I visited parts of China, I saw people that were immensely happy, yet they had hardly anything. I found that the more I trekked into country villages, the happier the people seemed to be. There was a place in Shanghai that I went to called “The Bund” which is where a lot of the wealthy business people of China work.

The place was filled with the successful business type, and the shops were flooded with luxury brands like Hugo Boss, yet the people didn’t come across as happy. Many worked twelve hour days hustling for the dollar and were never given the time to travel out of fear that they might lose their illustrious position at the top of the corporate ladder.

Travelling makes you see that the corporate ladder can be an illusion of happiness in some ways and that the so-called “first world problems,” are often the problem in itself because these challenges are so minor in the scheme of what’s important in the universe.

2. Rediscover the beauty in the world

When you transform into a traveler for an escape, you wake up to the fact that there is so much beauty in the world outside of the usual office building. The typical places we all visit in a week are very dull compared to places like The Great Wall Of China.

“By not traveling, you get stuck in a slumber of nothingness and your goals get left behind in the world’s rear vision mirror” – Tim Denning

Beauty can often be hard to see when you haven’t witnessed enough of it. Coming back from traveling the globe can often help you to see the beauty in the small things. In your day-to-day life, you walk past amazing flowers and trees all the time, yet you probably don’t notice them.

How is it, though, that when you’re traveling, even something as bland as a rubbish bin can seem so spectacular? It’s because traveling helps us to become present again and assist us in waking the hell up!

3. Remember how short your time is

It’s a fact that our time is short on planet Earth, but it’s so easy to forget this simple truth. Traveling around the world helps to wake you up and make you realise that time is short. You start to think to yourself, why didn’t I visit this country much sooner? What if I never get to see all the beautiful places in the world?

These questions are a normal response for any traveller returning from their latest adventure.

“The key is to use your travelling experience to come back to your daily life with a sense of inspiration and urgency about your mission or purpose” – Tim Denning

Don’t have regrets about your lack of travel, just get up off the couch, book some flights, and go out into the world and explore!

4. Make you realise if you miss work

It’s easy to get stuck in a career and never live your dream of being an entrepreneur. Travelling can help wake you up by giving you some time away from work. When you spend time away from work and travel the world, the new places can give you some thinking time.

As you return from travelling, you will notice whether you missed the excitement of work or not. If you find that you didn’t miss work, and you’re even dreading your return, then you are most likely in the wrong line of work. That’s okay because travel has done you a favour and given you a moment of decision.

This moment of decision is a chance for you to go on a new path and find success in another direction. Sometimes knowing what you don’t like doing is the best gift you can get in life!

5. Show you what entrepreneurship can do

It’s no secret that one of the benefits of being an entrepreneur is that you are not chained to one particular location. You can typically travel and work at the same time. Don’t make the mistake of thinking that this means entrepreneurship is for everyone because it’s still bloody hard work.

What travel does though is show you what it can be like to be in a different location constantly. If your field of work is flexible, try and work from another country with your laptop and see how it goes. It may be the best thing you ever experiment with, and it could become a new standard for your life.

6. Remind You Of Freedom

I’m sure if I asked the average person whether they thought they had loads of freedom they would say no. As you travel the world, you realise that you have more freedom than you think you have. There are people that are much worse off from you who are enslaved each day just so they can buy very basic food supplies. Many of these same people live a very hard life.

Travelling showed me that I have plenty of freedom including the very thing that I had forgotten; I had the freedom to get on a plane and travel in the first place. The simple act of travelling is a demonstration of freedom right there in front of our eyes, we are just so blind sometimes and need a good wake up call like travel to remind us.

7. Relax your mind

By choosing to travel somewhere in nature, we can escape the daily grind. When we travel, we have an excuse to be uncontactable and escape our mobile phone. We no longer become on call to anyone, and we can just be with our own thoughts.

As you spend time apart from life’s challenges, travel helps you to see them in a new way. It gives your mind clarity on what the decision is that you might need to make to get back towards success again. Travelling allows us to have an excuse to do some meditation because we should have plenty of time to do so.

Meditating in another country is a whole new experience, and it takes you to an even higher level of calmness. I’m someone who used to find certain parts of travel as stressful, but through meditation, I have been able to enjoy my travels much more.

In China, I visited a mountain that was carved into the shape of a Buddha. Once I climbed to the top of the mountain, I entered a Buddhist temple and was blown away by the sense of calm I felt. There is nothing like this in Australia where I come from, and that’s why you have to wake up from reality and travel sometimes!

What do you find are the best things about travel? What’s the most magnificent place you have been too that I should visit? Let me know in the comments section below or on my website timdenning.net or my Facebook.

Tim is best known as a long-time contributor on Addicted2Success. Tim's content has been shared millions of times and he has written multiple viral posts all around personal development and entrepreneurship.You can connect with Tim through his website www.timdenning.net

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  1. Arlene

    Jun 16, 2016 at 1:31 am

    Great article! I’ve become addicted to travel and try and see a new part of the world any chance I get, I love all the places I have seen but I would recommend going to Colombia in particular Medellin and Cartagena ☺️!

  2. Yasmeen

    May 31, 2016 at 7:20 am

    Thanks for the Article, Tim!!!!. I have a question to ask you. Its been my dream to travel to Tokyo, Japan since I was 19 but unfortunately I could not due to my financial conditions.

    So, Tim I want you to give my an advice on how can I improve my financial condition in order to accomplish my dream.

    Appreciate your time, Tim!!!!

    • Tim Denning

      Jun 4, 2016 at 11:06 pm

      Yasmeen thanks so much for reading. Like anything, there is no easy fix. I would suggest that you ensure you are saving at least 30% of what you earn. This means every week when you get paid you automatically transfer money into your savings account. You have to make saving a habit. I would also look at what passive income you can create through either an online business or maybe even dabbling with network marketing.

      Rich Dad, Poor Dad is also an excellent book that will give you more detailed info towards how to manage finances. It’s a timeless classic for a reason. Hope this info helps you and all the best with your travelling dream!

  3. Toño

    May 31, 2016 at 4:27 am

    As you already know, travelling the world is one of my biggest dreams and diving deep into your article I can feel the itching to just let it all go, book a ticket and never come back 🙂 You nailed it, Tim, by saying that social media taught us ‘we should never sleep, never take a break, and work on our passion 24/7’. I can see those messages everywhere, including Foundr Instagram as well. I kind of agree with, and kind of don’t. While there is nothing wrong to work on your passion and grind to success, it, on the other side, may very much feels like pressure, tension and routine. You can just burn yourself out and never desire to work again. Recently I have been reading and studying more about about spirit and soul, and meditate more so I can feel deeper connection to the source. I feel that need to be more in nature and live in balance and that appears to me more important than any material goodies and success. Well, you may think IT IS the success, to be comfortable and be in nature, right?

    Your very first point is right about it. Travelling can show you different perspectives and you may want to review your ‘problems’. Usually I use movies to recharge my brain that way where I can see and appreciate my life more. Of course, travelling will give you much more that few hour film, providing rich experience and raw emotions.

    This is well connected to your next point, where we can rediscover the beautie of the world or discover it for the first time. Fresh new places will help to be more concious about things you observe and funny you mentioned the rubbish bin, as I have few photos from my last year vacation to the ocean where there’s a trash bin in the middle of it anf it is indeed look so spectacular haha!

    You know, I foten think about what for do we work and actualy live? We always fear to lose something, lik eour home, job or whatever it may be, never really realizing that life may be very short and to be stuck in one place for eternity never a good idea. And that way you may understand that your daily job, your environment, your ‘friends’ and your life is not what you actually enjoy and it will hugely benefits you in the long term.

    Oh, and relaxation! It’s huge thing I strive for every day and when I have the ability to just relax after some productive activity I simply feel amazing. You spoke about that Buddhist temple (which is awesome by the way!) and how you felt calm and I can relate to this as when I was visiting Paris I entered the Notre Dame Cathedral and had the similar feelings. I remember was sitting there for a good amount of time and felt so calm and relaxed. We stayed in Paris for a week while travelling to Spain and I’ve visited Notre Dame few more times as it was very peaceful and inspirational experience for me.

    All what you said here, Tim, is so right and I am very happy you experienced this for yourself. China seems like an amazing place and I love these photos, you looks very happy on ’em 🙂 Thank you so much bringing this topic and diving so deep into it, my friend, it means alot to me! Would love to read/hear more from you on such matter in the future.

    Much love and appreciation, stay well and helathy!

    • Tim Denning

      May 31, 2016 at 9:04 am

      Toño you should scratch that travel itch and go and do a trip asap….don’t wait. Movies are okay to recharge with but travel is much more long-lasting. Being in nature and doing what you want everyday because you love it and not because you have to do it is the ultimate success in my mind. Paying bills and doing stuff you hate is failure.

      Always happy to share my experiences Toño and glad it sparked something within you. Speak soon mate.

  4. Vikash Sharma

    May 30, 2016 at 2:52 pm

    Hi Tim,
    An Awesome Article!
    I completely agree with you. Travel really wakes you up. It’s not only a good way to relax but also gives you energy to do better, It gives you new thoughts, It improves your confidence. I have personally experienced it.
    I have stuck several times in life, and the best thing I do to get out of it is travel. I get Solution while travelling.
    Overall a Nice Article! Thank you for sharing it with us.

    • Tim Denning

      May 30, 2016 at 6:44 pm

      Vikesh thank you so much! Travel is a great way to solve your problems and allow you to reflect on them. When you’re too close to the problem you often can’t see the solution. Travel helps to break that vicious cycle. Thanks again for reading.

  5. Angelo Drake

    May 26, 2016 at 4:29 pm

    Nice article Tim.

    As a traveller I would say that the greatest thing about travelling is that it can allow you the time to figure out what you really want in life. You have the space to look at what really drives you, what really makes you happy.

    In a world in which we are constantly beeping, buzzing and zooming, travelling to distant, remote places, offers the opportunity to decompress from the hustle and let life present it’s wonders to you. When you see this magic, it might just make you realize that you weren’t supposed to be an accountant, you were supposed to be a magician.

    • Tim Denning

      May 26, 2016 at 8:38 pm

      Thanks for your perspective Angelo. The buzzing and the beeping can really exhaust you after a while. I think we all need to just decompress sometime and realise what’s important.

  6. Ryan Lotze

    May 26, 2016 at 7:48 am

    I was literally just in Mexico yesterday for the whole day. I got to see a new area of the world I had never been to before. The past few years I have been so dedicated to delaying the gratification of traveling later. But that mini-vacation opened my mind and eyes up to the reality, that even though I am working on my own business from the comfort of my laptop, that I can take a spur in the moment or even planned trip to experience other parts of the world.

    Wow, this was definitely an eye opener for me! Thank you Tim! Great post!

    • Tim Denning

      May 26, 2016 at 8:40 pm

      Ryan that’s awesome! I have always wanted to go to Mexico so I must make it happen. Best of luck with your future travels and don’t delay them any longer. Thanks for reading.

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8 Things You Can Do to Rise Above Failure and Attain Success

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Highly successful people have tasted failure more than success. Whether its Nikola Tesla or Michael Jordan, everyone had his/her fair share of failures before rising to the pinnacle of success. Yet, most people I know are averse to the idea of failure.

When ambition fuels your desires, you become so conscious about avoiding failure that you forget to learn how to cope with it when you actually experience it. So, when you come face-to-face with adversity, it often overwhelms you.

This brings us to the question, how can you train yourself to overcome these difficulties and use them to your advantage? Here’s how:

1. Acceptance is important to overcome failure

When the going gets tough, one of the most frustrating things you may get to hear is “stay positive.” The idea of positive thinking has been misconstrued, misused, and abused continuously. Contrary to popular belief, positive thinking has nothing to do with smiling and being happy with everything that happens to you all the time. Anyone who preaches that is either lying or crazy.

Use positive thinking to learn, grow, and evolve from the experiences we gather in life. Positive thinking simply means that if you are faced with a setback, you work hard to overcome the challenges. When you experience hardships, it is alright to feel upset and disappointed. Our objective, however, is not to stay down.

2. Be honest with yourself

The most crucial part of dealing with a failure involves pausing for a couple of minutes and pondering over what happened. You need to be completely honest with yourself on why it happened.

It is easy to pull out the Smartphone, turn on the laptop or find other forms of distraction. Most people would do anything to distract themselves and keep their eyes shut to the mistakes they have made.

However, if you don’t confront, you don’t learn. And if you don’t learn, then you are setting yourself up for failure again. Albert Einstein famously stated that it was insane to do the same thing over and over again and expect a different outcome. If you don’t derive a lesson out of mistakes and failures in life, then you are doomed to keep repeating them, whether you realise it or not.

“Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently.” – Henry Ford

3. Don’t beat yourself up over a temporary setback

When you have experienced a setback, many of you may succumb to the feeling that you’ll always keep failing. It is easy to convince yourself that you are indeed a failure. Don’t let such destructive ideas or thoughts creep into your head. Instead, keep reminding yourself that just because you failed today, it doesn’t mean you’d fail the next time as well.

It is also important that you treat your failure as a passing phase. When you keep moving forward, focus on the right things, and keep learning. Perceiving the setback as a temporary phase rather than something permanent is vital to developing an optimistic attitude in life.

4. Focus on nurturing and improving yourself

Failures don’t discriminate, and it comes to everyone at some point. The trick lies in learning to deal with it and what you do about it that makes all the difference. In many cases, failure happens because a person wasn’t prepared, didn’t invest time on planning or was ill-equipped. It can also be because Lady Luck decided not to shower her favours.

Except for the last one, the rest of the issues can be fixed. Prepare a list of all the things that you think resulted in your failure. Start working on them one at a time. Do everything in your capacity to rectify, improve, resolve, and develop.

5. Find inspiration and support in abundance

Interacting with someone close can be more helpful than you think. You can also learn from people who have been through similar situations and have achieved what you hope to. Gain insights on how they managed to sail through the setbacks or low-points before and during the moment of success.

Or you can gain the motivation or enthusiasm by listening to someone else from an audiobook or podcast for maybe 30-60 minutes. It doesn’t have to be focused on your current setbacks.  Change your mood and mindset back towards optimism again.

6. Adopt a constructive approach and learn from the adverse situation

Consider it as valuable feedback and take home something you can implement in the process of overcoming your failure. The following are some of the questions you need to ask yourself:

  • What is the lesson for me?
  • How can I rectify myself to avoid making the same mistake and do better next time?
  • What can I do to enjoy guaranteed success?

You don’t need to rush through the process. Some of the answers may be immediate, while others might take an hour, a day or even a week to pop up. The significant thing is to start thinking about the situation from this perspective. Also, you need to be constructive about things rather than getting stuck with denial, negativity and apathy.

7. Stop mulling over and move on

Processing the situation and accepting it is the ideal way to deal with failures. Any individual who has experienced failures will know that it is quite easy to stay stuck in the loop of similar thoughts. In fact, this may go around and around for weeks or even months.

Now, in order to be free from this trap, the one habit that might help you is the set of questions like the ones shared above. You can also create a rough plan for how you wish to move forward from here. So, take some time to sit down and write them down.

“Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm.” – Winston Churchill

8. Purge out all the negativity

Another impactful way to handle the emotional meltdown and the thoughts that emerge from experiencing failure is to purge out all the negativity. In order to let everything out, you need to confide in someone close to you. There are two ways to go about it: Engaging in a conversation with someone will allow you to see it from a different perspective. The person you talk to can assist you in grounding yourself in reality again and motivate you to look for a way forward.

Or you can simply vent about it while the other person who is listening can sort things out for you. He/she can help you accept what happened and boost your spirit by instilling a sense of hope.

The significant thing to remember is that while you can’t stop obstacles from appearing in life, you can devise smart ways to handle them. If you persevere, you can easily discover opportunities that have been waiting for you on the other side. Now, as you become more efficient at dealing with the failures, you will allow yourself to see the positive side in even the toughest of scenarios.

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Naturally, those of us who experience less stress in our lives are more likely to succeed. So, it’s important that you learn how to reduce your daily level of stress, right? Maybe not. Recent research has shown the common wisdom about stress might be dangerously inaccurate. Psychologists tracked the health of 30,000 adults in the United States over an 8-year period. Participants were asked two important questions:

1.    “How much stress have you experienced in the last year?”
2.    “Do you believe stress is harmful to your health?” (more…)

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The Truth About the Law of Attraction

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When we want something, we generally imagine the form it will take when it manifests. If we’re not careful, however, we can find ourselves attached more to the imagined form than the actual desired outcome. This is like placing an online order and expecting it to come in a blue box shipped by UPS. If we then receive a red box delivered by FedEx, we might not realize that it’s what we ordered, and never even open it!

For example, most of us say that we want money, but when money comes in the form of a free coffee or a gift or a discount, we don’t see it for what it is. We overlook it, and maybe we even say “No, thanks” and decline the gift which is, in one way or another, still money. In doing so, we fail to appreciate the value of the discount, the gift, or the freebie. If it isn’t cash being handed to us, we don’t see it as a manifestation of our desire.

The law of attraction is a funny thing.

It is much more complex and much more intricate than what it seems to be and yet, at the same time, it’s so very simple: We always get what we want. We always receive more of the energy at which we vibrate. Always.

However, if we’re acting from the energy of “I don’t deserve it” or “I don’t think I’m worthy,” then whatever it is that we receive will be negated and essentially unseen. On the other hand, if we are open, observant, and maintaining an abundance mindset, we will receive our request on numerous levels and from plentiful sources!

“Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve.” – Napoleon Hill

This is because we “place our order” not only through our words, but through our actions, our beliefs, and our thoughts.

Last month, I was open to receiving a new client. I didn’t know how it would happen, but I’d set my intention: I was going to get a new client. That night, out of nowhere, I got a message from an old student of mine. She was looking to hire me again as her coach for the upcoming college entrance exams in the U.S. But wait! I didn’t want an entrance exam client.

What I actually wanted was to get life and business coaching clients. This student was my “red box from Fed Ex.” I wanted to decline at first, but as I was about to reply, something made me stop. I asked myself, “Why am I rejecting this?”

This student is an amazing client. She pays on time. She’s not needy. She does her part. Best of all? She doesn’t short-change me. So I said yes, because I realized that the Universe was simply responding to the essence of my desire.

You see, my “Big Why” in everything I do has always been to facilitate an accelerated personal and business growth for my clients, and this student fit the bill in every way. She wanted the personal growth, she was ready to go all in and she reached out to me.

It didn’t look like the package I was expecting so I didn’t recognize it at first—and I nearly turned it away—but she was the perfect answer to my request.

Serving people like her has always been a driving force in my life.

The Universe knows that. It also knew that I wanted a client asap so that I could re-invest the money into my business, so it responded in the most ideal way… but in an unexpected form. And I came so close to missing it!

How many times have I missed other opportunities like this? How many times have I dismissed a “red box” because it wasn’t “blue?” I’ll never know. But I do know that, had I not stopped myself from sending a “No, thanks,” I would have felt as though the Universe wasn’t listening.

That’s the thing: the Universe is always listening.

The more open we are in receiving, the more we thrive. The more open our energy is, the greater the possibilities. Don’t just return that red box to the post office and keep waiting on a blue one. Ask yourself, first and foremost, if what you’re receiving at the moment matches up with your underlying desire.

See yourself living in abundance and you will attract it.” – Rhonda Byrne

The key is to be willing to receive anything and everything. How? Keep on reading1

1. Get clear on your “underlying desire.”

Identify exactly what it is that you really want—in my case, it was an ideal client (underlying) as opposed to a coaching client (surface)—and focus on that. Clear out all the mental noise and static that clouds your awareness.

2. Be flexible

Keep your eyes and mind open for anything that fits the description. When you ask for money, recognize that free coffee for what it is: $3 you were going to spend anyway, that can now remain in your pocket. Every penny on the ground, every coupon, it’s all money.

3. Keep an attitude of gratitude.

The more you appreciate what you have, the more that comes your way. Your grateful mindset opens the energetic door for more to flow your way, because “where attention goes, energy flows.” The more you focus on the things you want, the more you will draw them into your experience.

Remember, that the Universe responds to our requests in whatever way fits best within the big picture.

It’s a picture so big that we couldn’t possibly begin to see how it comes together. Trust it. Know that when you ask, you will receive. It may not come in the form you anticipate, but always in a form that responds to your underlying desire. You just have to be ready to see it.

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7 Simple Ways to Master Your Emotions When Making Decisions

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A lot of people have big regrets when lying on their deathbed. These regrets are often related to bad decisions or decisions not taken. Thus, as it turns out, decision-making is dependent on great self-confidence. A person who has confidence in their decisions has an easier time making them.

Emotions also play a big role in all of this. This is a debate that has confronted two great thinkers. According to Descartes, “decisions are the product of the rational mind.” In other words, decision-making is essentially based on facts and mathematics.

But this thesis was refuted and proven to be wrong by Antonio Damasio in one of his works called “The Error of Descartes”. This was partly based on the story of Elliott, a kid that was very smart, who had above average rational capabilities, but incapable of making a decision, after a surgery to remove a brain tumor on the surface of his frontal lobes. After all his work in that matter, he concludes that a person who is incapable of emotion is incapable of making the most rational decisions.

The management of emotions is therefore completely inherent to good decision making, especially when making the most important decisions. To this end, here are 7 tips to put into practice to really master your emotions thus making the best decisions possible and never regreting them.

1. Take a step back

You must learn to take the time to identify and understand your emotions. Since physical reactions are emotionally related, also take the time to detect the reactions you have to some of your emotions. To be able to take the distance necessary to make decisions, it’s important to refer to your prefrontal cortex. This is the area of ​​the brain responsible for reasoning. To do so you need to put yourself in a stress-free environment for a few minutes.

“Your life changes the moment you make a new, congruent and committed decision.” – Tony Robbins

2. Breathe

The best way to do this is to learn to breathe deeply. This will allow activating your prefrontal cortex again, therefore, to have better control of your emotions so you do not react to them, let alone to the event that causes these emotions. Do this exercise for at least 15 minutes. It’s amazing how you can train yourself never to react, no matter what the situation. Ideally, let at least 24 hours go by before responding to a situation that would normally cause tension.

3. Pay attention

Once you are in the prefrontal cortex, put one hand on your abdomen, at the level of your intestines, and the other hand on your heart, and take the time to listen. These two parts of the body are the two major centers of vibrations and emotions. This is why it’s important to listen and pay attention to them.

The purpose of this exercise is to become aware of your gut and heart. What you need to remember is that the only person you need to trust is yourself. By practicing this exercise, one thing will become very clear: what the emotion you feel seeks to convey to you about the decision you have to make.

Since everything is energy, first make sure that the vibration of the decision you are about to make and that of your heart and gut are in sync. You will then know whether to go ahead with your decision or reject it based on whether you feel serenity or heaviness.

4. Discern untruths

It is important to know whether your nervousness is the result of an untruth you’ve told yourself. These can corrupt the vibrations that should help you make the right decision. You have to throw out all of these untruths and come to the decision-making without any filter. Stop thinking that you’re unlucky, that you’re in a bad situation, that your life is a failure, or that you are a victim.

5. Become aware of your emotions instead of avoiding them

To become aware of your emotions, you must learn to coach yourself. Ask yourself questions: How did you feel the last time you had to ask these types of questions? What did you get in return? Rename what you felt and the result you obtained from what you decided to do. You will thus be much better at assimilating, understanding, and welcoming your emotions.

6. Be as present as possible

There is no point in focusing on the big events surrounding the decision you want to make. Concentrate instead on the present moment, without analyzing the events. Judge based on emotions rather than the event. By being more present, you will be better able to listen to your emotions and feel them.

Life is a matter of choices, and every choice you make makes you.” – John C. Maxwell

7. Make your emotions your allies

Each of your emotions speaks to you through the physical and physiological reactions that they generate in you. Look to the weight of their impact on you as an indicator. Only by listening to them, using them, and managing them can you manage your emotions.

Habit comes with practice. With time, these 7 points will become much more natural and will become automatic. You will make better decisions for yourself.  This is one of the best ways to not end up with one of the big regrets.

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