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Why Travelling Can Wake You The Hell Up From Your Reality

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Spending some time traveling the world can change your current perspective on life. It’s easy to get stuck in a rut and then not be able to see a clear way out. The way out can often be blinded by your own thinking.

Travel is something that can wake you the help up from the day-to-day grind and help you to realise an abundance of things that you either didn’t know or have forgotten about. We live our lives so numb to what else exists or what could be happening on the other side of the world right now.

Hong Kong View From Sky100There are certain triggers that we all need to bring us back to the present and realise what is important to us individually. There are few things that have the immense power required to catapult you out of your current reality, but traveling is definitely one of them.

What I have just described to you is exactly what happened to me on two recent trips to China and Hong Kong. To be honest, I haven’t had the pleasure of doing a lot of travel in my life and made the mistake of thinking that seeing the world isn’t as important as the daily entrepreneur grind.

We’re taught by social media that we should never sleep, never take a break, and work on our passion 24/7. This is a recipe for disaster, and it’s a reality I have unfortunately lived many times over.

Thanks to my China trips, I would like to share with you the seven ways traveling can wake you the hell up:

 

1. Remind you of the world’s problems

The catch phrase “first world problems” is something that many millennials use to describe their problems. The phrase is considered by many to be a joke towards just how little our problems are compared to developing countries, but I feel that many young people don’t quite understand the problems that exist.

The benefit of travel is that it allows all of us to wake up and see what other countries are like. No matter Tim Denning Wondering Chengdou Chinahow bad you think you have it, there is always somewhere else in the world that has it worse. Travelling shows us that we need to put our problems into perspective and not think that everything in our life is so bad after all.

The more that you travel, the more you will see that other countries problems are very similar to your own and that on the surface they may appear different, when in reality they’re the same.

As I visited parts of China, I saw people that were immensely happy, yet they had hardly anything. I found that the more I trekked into country villages, the happier the people seemed to be. There was a place in Shanghai that I went to called “The Bund” which is where a lot of the wealthy business people of China work.

The place was filled with the successful business type, and the shops were flooded with luxury brands like Hugo Boss, yet the people didn’t come across as happy. Many worked twelve hour days hustling for the dollar and were never given the time to travel out of fear that they might lose their illustrious position at the top of the corporate ladder.

Travelling makes you see that the corporate ladder can be an illusion of happiness in some ways and that the so-called “first world problems,” are often the problem in itself because these challenges are so minor in the scheme of what’s important in the universe.

 

2. Rediscover the beauty in the world

Tim Denning - Great Wall Of ChinaWhen you transform into a traveler for an escape, you wake up to the fact that there is so much beauty in the world outside of the usual office building. The typical places we all visit in a week are very dull compared to places like The Great Wall Of China.

“By not traveling, you get stuck in a slumber of nothingness and your goals get left behind in the world’s rear vision mirror” – Tim Denning

Beauty can often be hard to see when you haven’t witnessed enough of it. Coming back from traveling the globe can often help you to see the beauty in the small things. In your day-to-day life, you walk past amazing flowers and trees all the time, yet you probably don’t notice them.

How is it, though, that when you’re traveling, even something as bland as a rubbish bin can seem so spectacular? It’s because traveling helps us to become present again and assist us in waking the hell up!

 

3. Remember how short your time is

It’s a fact that our time is short on planet Earth, but it’s so easy to forget this simple truth. Traveling around the world helps to wake you up and make you realise that time is short. You start to think to yourself, why didn’t I visit this country much sooner? What if I never get to see all the beautiful places in the world?

These questions are a normal response for any traveller returning from their latest adventure.

“The key is to use your travelling experience to come back to your daily life with a sense of inspiration and urgency about your mission or purpose” – Tim Denning

Don’t have regrets about your lack of travel, just get up off the couch, book some flights, and go out into the world and explore!

 

4. Make you realise if you miss work

It’s easy to get stuck in a career and never live your dream of being an entrepreneur. Travelling can help wake you up by giving you some time away from work. When you spend time away from work and travel the world, the new places can give you some thinking time.

As you return from travelling, you will notice whether you missed the excitement of work or not. If you find that you didn’t miss work, and you’re even dreading your return, then you are most likely in the wrong line of work. That’s okay because travel has done you a favour and given you a moment of decision.

This moment of decision is a chance for you to go on a new path and find success in another direction. Sometimes knowing what you don’t like doing is the best gift you can get in life!

Tim Denning In The Muslim City Of China
 

5. Show you what entrepreneurship can do

It’s no secret that one of the benefits of being an entrepreneur is that you are not chained to one particular location. You can typically travel and work at the same time. Don’t make the mistake of thinking that this means entrepreneurship is for everyone because it’s still bloody hard work.

What travel does though is show you what it can be like to be in a different location constantly. If your field of work is flexible, try and work from another country with your laptop and see how it goes. It may be the best thing you ever experiment with, and it could become a new standard for your life.

 

6. Remind You Of Freedom

I’m sure if I asked the average person whether they thought they had loads of freedom they would say no. As you travel the world, you realise that you have more freedom than you think you have. There are people that are much worse off from you who are enslaved each day just so they can buy very basic food supplies. Many of these same people live a very hard life.

Travelling showed me that I have plenty of freedom including the very thing that I had forgotten; I had the freedom to get on a plane and travel in the first place. The simple act of travelling is a demonstration of freedom right there in front of our eyes, we are just so blind sometimes and need a good wake up call like travel to remind us.

 

7. Relax your mind

By choosing to travel somewhere in nature, we can escape the daily grind. When we travel, we have an excuse to be uncontactable and escape our mobile phone. We no longer become on call to anyone, and we can just be with our own thoughts.

Leshan Grand Buddha ChinaAs you spend time apart from life’s challenges, travel helps you to see them in a new way. It gives your mind clarity on what the decision is that you might need to make to get back towards success again. Travelling allows us to have an excuse to do some meditation because we should have plenty of time to do so.

Meditating in another country is a whole new experience, and it takes you to an even higher level of calmness. I’m someone who used to find certain parts of travel as stressful, but through meditation, I have been able to enjoy my travels much more.

In China, I visited a mountain that was carved into the shape of a Buddha. Once I climbed to the top of the mountain, I entered a Buddhist temple and was blown away by the sense of calm I felt. There is nothing like this in Australia where I come from, and that’s why you have to wake up from reality and travel sometimes!

What do you find are the best things about travel? What’s the most magnificent place you have been too that I should visit? Let me know in the comments section below or on my website timdenning.net or my Facebook.

Tim is best known as a long-time contributor on Addicted2Success. Tim's content has been shared hundreds of thousands of times and he has written multiple viral posts all around success, personal development, motivation, and entrepreneurship. During the day Tim works with the most iconic tech companies in the world, as an adviser, to assist them in expanding into Australia. By night, Tim coaches his students on the principles of personal development and the fundamentals of entrepreneurship. You can connect with Tim through his website www.timdenning.net or through his Facebook.

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  1. Arlene

    Jun 16, 2016 at 1:31 am

    Great article! I’ve become addicted to travel and try and see a new part of the world any chance I get, I love all the places I have seen but I would recommend going to Colombia in particular Medellin and Cartagena ☺️!

  2. Yasmeen

    May 31, 2016 at 7:20 am

    Thanks for the Article, Tim!!!!. I have a question to ask you. Its been my dream to travel to Tokyo, Japan since I was 19 but unfortunately I could not due to my financial conditions.

    So, Tim I want you to give my an advice on how can I improve my financial condition in order to accomplish my dream.

    Appreciate your time, Tim!!!!

    • Tim Denning

      Jun 4, 2016 at 11:06 pm

      Yasmeen thanks so much for reading. Like anything, there is no easy fix. I would suggest that you ensure you are saving at least 30% of what you earn. This means every week when you get paid you automatically transfer money into your savings account. You have to make saving a habit. I would also look at what passive income you can create through either an online business or maybe even dabbling with network marketing.

      Rich Dad, Poor Dad is also an excellent book that will give you more detailed info towards how to manage finances. It’s a timeless classic for a reason. Hope this info helps you and all the best with your travelling dream!

  3. Toño

    May 31, 2016 at 4:27 am

    As you already know, travelling the world is one of my biggest dreams and diving deep into your article I can feel the itching to just let it all go, book a ticket and never come back 🙂 You nailed it, Tim, by saying that social media taught us ‘we should never sleep, never take a break, and work on our passion 24/7’. I can see those messages everywhere, including Foundr Instagram as well. I kind of agree with, and kind of don’t. While there is nothing wrong to work on your passion and grind to success, it, on the other side, may very much feels like pressure, tension and routine. You can just burn yourself out and never desire to work again. Recently I have been reading and studying more about about spirit and soul, and meditate more so I can feel deeper connection to the source. I feel that need to be more in nature and live in balance and that appears to me more important than any material goodies and success. Well, you may think IT IS the success, to be comfortable and be in nature, right?

    Your very first point is right about it. Travelling can show you different perspectives and you may want to review your ‘problems’. Usually I use movies to recharge my brain that way where I can see and appreciate my life more. Of course, travelling will give you much more that few hour film, providing rich experience and raw emotions.

    This is well connected to your next point, where we can rediscover the beautie of the world or discover it for the first time. Fresh new places will help to be more concious about things you observe and funny you mentioned the rubbish bin, as I have few photos from my last year vacation to the ocean where there’s a trash bin in the middle of it anf it is indeed look so spectacular haha!

    You know, I foten think about what for do we work and actualy live? We always fear to lose something, lik eour home, job or whatever it may be, never really realizing that life may be very short and to be stuck in one place for eternity never a good idea. And that way you may understand that your daily job, your environment, your ‘friends’ and your life is not what you actually enjoy and it will hugely benefits you in the long term.

    Oh, and relaxation! It’s huge thing I strive for every day and when I have the ability to just relax after some productive activity I simply feel amazing. You spoke about that Buddhist temple (which is awesome by the way!) and how you felt calm and I can relate to this as when I was visiting Paris I entered the Notre Dame Cathedral and had the similar feelings. I remember was sitting there for a good amount of time and felt so calm and relaxed. We stayed in Paris for a week while travelling to Spain and I’ve visited Notre Dame few more times as it was very peaceful and inspirational experience for me.

    All what you said here, Tim, is so right and I am very happy you experienced this for yourself. China seems like an amazing place and I love these photos, you looks very happy on ’em 🙂 Thank you so much bringing this topic and diving so deep into it, my friend, it means alot to me! Would love to read/hear more from you on such matter in the future.

    Much love and appreciation, stay well and helathy!

    • Tim Denning

      May 31, 2016 at 9:04 am

      Toño you should scratch that travel itch and go and do a trip asap….don’t wait. Movies are okay to recharge with but travel is much more long-lasting. Being in nature and doing what you want everyday because you love it and not because you have to do it is the ultimate success in my mind. Paying bills and doing stuff you hate is failure.

      Always happy to share my experiences Toño and glad it sparked something within you. Speak soon mate.

  4. Vikash Sharma

    May 30, 2016 at 2:52 pm

    Hi Tim,
    An Awesome Article!
    I completely agree with you. Travel really wakes you up. It’s not only a good way to relax but also gives you energy to do better, It gives you new thoughts, It improves your confidence. I have personally experienced it.
    I have stuck several times in life, and the best thing I do to get out of it is travel. I get Solution while travelling.
    Overall a Nice Article! Thank you for sharing it with us.

    • Tim Denning

      May 30, 2016 at 6:44 pm

      Vikesh thank you so much! Travel is a great way to solve your problems and allow you to reflect on them. When you’re too close to the problem you often can’t see the solution. Travel helps to break that vicious cycle. Thanks again for reading.

  5. Angelo Drake

    May 26, 2016 at 4:29 pm

    Nice article Tim.

    As a traveller I would say that the greatest thing about travelling is that it can allow you the time to figure out what you really want in life. You have the space to look at what really drives you, what really makes you happy.

    In a world in which we are constantly beeping, buzzing and zooming, travelling to distant, remote places, offers the opportunity to decompress from the hustle and let life present it’s wonders to you. When you see this magic, it might just make you realize that you weren’t supposed to be an accountant, you were supposed to be a magician.

    • Tim Denning

      May 26, 2016 at 8:38 pm

      Thanks for your perspective Angelo. The buzzing and the beeping can really exhaust you after a while. I think we all need to just decompress sometime and realise what’s important.

  6. Ryan Lotze

    May 26, 2016 at 7:48 am

    I was literally just in Mexico yesterday for the whole day. I got to see a new area of the world I had never been to before. The past few years I have been so dedicated to delaying the gratification of traveling later. But that mini-vacation opened my mind and eyes up to the reality, that even though I am working on my own business from the comfort of my laptop, that I can take a spur in the moment or even planned trip to experience other parts of the world.

    Wow, this was definitely an eye opener for me! Thank you Tim! Great post!

    • Tim Denning

      May 26, 2016 at 8:40 pm

      Ryan that’s awesome! I have always wanted to go to Mexico so I must make it happen. Best of luck with your future travels and don’t delay them any longer. Thanks for reading.

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3 Things to Pay Attention to When Building Your Own Personal Brand

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Who are you? Not your name or your business or even what your ethics are, but who are you in the sense of what people see when they look at you? Does your name and your business bring happiness to the minds of people who hear it? Does it bring anger? Does it bring peace and joy? Does it bring sadness?

How people feel when they think of you is your personal brand. We all know who Gary Vaynerchuk, Tony Robbins, and Robert Kiyosaki are. These people have built huge reputations for themselves. We also know who Vladimir Putin, Kim Jong-un, and Adolf Hitler are. These people have also build reputations for themselves; very different reputations than the first names I listed.

When you read these names, a different feeling comes to mind, so below are 3 ways on how to evoke positive emotions when people hear your name:

1. Envoke the senses

First lets understand what a brand is. A brand is a product or service that invokes a feeling or emotion. Building a brand is all about invoking the senses of your Customers, you don’t want people to think of your brand and only think of the logo. We want people to have a scent that reminds them of you, a sight like a logo, and a feel that reminds them of not only your brand, but of you as well.

When people think of your company, what do you want them to think of? What emotion do you want to inspire in your customer base, and what can help you inspire that emotion? When creating your personal brand, you want to invoke all five senses of your target audience. If you own a coffee shop, when people walk in you want them to smell coffee, their mouth to water when they think of fresh pastries, their ears to perk up when they hear the beans being ground up.

“I force people to have coffee with me, just because I don’t trust that a friendship can be maintained without any other senses besides a computer or cellphone screen.” – John Cusack

To create your brand you can’t only think about what you want associated with your business, but also what you don’t want associated with it. Think back to the coffee instead of smelling coffee and pastries, how would you feel about walking in and smelling bleach? Would you rather go to the first coffee shop or the second one?

Think of ways to create a positive experience when a customer walks in by bringing a scent to people, or an interesting sight as they walk through the door. These things will all eventually become part of your brand in the sense that when people think of them, they will think of you.

2. Attractive marketing

Marketing is an amazing way to help boost your company’s sales. But marketing can also hurt your business if it isn’t done correctly. Have you ever given someone your email or phone number and had him or her relentlessly spam you trying to get your business? When someone does that, do you want to use their service, or do you want to throw your phone at the wall every time they message you? When building a brand you also want to think of ways to make your business, and marketing plans more attractive.  

This goes back to what you want people to think of when they think of your brand. Small things can go a long way in creating an attractive image for you and your company. Attractive marketing doesn’t stop at just ads, and endorsement. Thinking of ways to portray yourself in a positive light will help as well. It’s natural to think a person would be doing business with a company, but each customer is doing business with you directly. Now think back to a time you were in a store and had terrible customer service. How likely are you to go back to that store?

Even if that company employs thousands of people, the one bad experience you had with one employee could actually prevent you from going back. People are more likely to go somewhere they think of in a positive light, some place that reminds them of a good experience. A personal brand is not only a brand for your company or product, but it is also a way of branding yourself. The goal of marketing and creating a personal brand should be, to get your customer base to feel like they know you personally.

3. Build with social media

Social media is a great way to get your clients to feel like they know you personally. When a client feels like they know you, like you, and can trust you, they are more likely to buy whatever you are selling. People buy based off of person, product and price. So having that personal relationship with a client can go a long way, especially if they don’t know a lot about the product or price. There are tons of social media platforms to reach your customer base, but what platform gives the most personal, and honest form of your business?

One of the most surprising ways to build fans of your brand is podcasts. A podcast lets your audience hear your voice and speaking your opinions exactly how you meant them to be said. The more a person feels like they know you, the more likely they are to feel like they can trust you, your recommendations on products, and investments.

“Social media is not just an activity; it is an investment of valuable time and resources. Surround yourself with people who not just support you and stay with you, but inform your thinking about ways to WOW your online presence” – Sean Gardner

Unlike most social media platforms, podcasts don’t require someone to scroll through an endless feed, or pay attention to their phone or computer. For a podcast all you have to do is throw on a playlist and listen away while you are driving, cleaning, or just doing day-to-day tasks. The main goal is once you have a playlist of podcasts, someone only needs to hear one, let the playlist go, and suddenly be hooked on your opinions and advice.

You have the power to evoke emotions and feelings from people. In every moment of your life you are building your personal brand. Every time you interact with people and every thing you say makes up how people think and feel about both you and your products/services. When it comes to building your brand, the opportunities are endless but what I stated above is the perfect place to begin that journey. Always remember to create a brand to help your company speak for itself.

How do you make sure people understand who you are and follow you? Let us know by commenting below!
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15 Ways to Avoid Regret at the End of Your Life

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Most people live their lives in regret. If you have ever had the misfortune of experiencing regret, it is not a nice thing to experience. You must do the things you need to do to avoid regrets in your life.

At the point when individuals think back on their lives, what are the most widely recognized regrets they have? That is a significant inquiry we have to stop and ask all the more regularly. A few people think back and say the greatest regret they had was to not have kids. Others think back and say their greatest regret was in regards to lost time.

Whatever the case, it’s critical to take a look at how you are carrying on with your life and consider how you can avoid regrets.

Here are 15 ways to avoid regrets later on in your life:

1. Don’t follow someone else’s dreams

So many of us are living other people’s dreams such as our parents, guardians and other authoritative figures in our lives. We all have dreams and should endeavor to follow those dreams to the latter irrespective of what others may think. You can’t please everyone and should look to only please yourself and do what is right for you.

2. Stop taking your loved ones for granted

Your children won’t be children forever and will grow up to become adults and not have time for you as much. They may never even call and your parents will not be parents forever, they will leave you someday. So make sure you endeavor to spend every waking moment with them and appreciate them while you still have the opportunity to do so.

3. Stop pretending to be someone else

Imitation is suicide. When we pretend to be someone we are not, we are spending so much time not being who we are and in that situation, we are spending a whole lot of time not living. You are the person you know very well and if you spend your time living someone else’s life you will only end up being a copycat instead of being the very best you could be as well as being number one at it.

The most inspiring people in the world are true to themselves and when you are true to yourself, you will be at ease. This tends to attract like-minded people into your life which help you live a more fulfilling life.

4. Don’t burn all your bridges

Life is a journey of ups and downs, and you will have to be kind to people on your way up because you will meet them on your way down. Don’t burn the bridges of your past as you may need them later in life.

5. Always tell the truth

Lies destroy families and relationships. When you tell a lie you will have to back that lie with another and another until you have a whole tangled web of lies that cannot be remedied even if you want to. True relationships have their foundation in the truth and lasts forever. Always endeavour to tell the truth in every situation as telling a lie can lead to future regrets.

6. Live in the moment

Have you ever noticed that when you were a kid time seemed to be really slow and now that you are an adult, time moves really fast? That is because as kids, we always lived in the moment and as adults, we are always thinking of our next scheme, idea or business that time just seems to fly past us. Take your time to experience the now as you may regret it later in the future when you look into the mirror and ask where all the time went.

“All I have is all I need and all I need is all I have in this moment.” – Byron Katie

7. Don’t give up on true love

This is one of the biggest areas of regret for most people as they reject love because of fear, work or other excuses they give themselves. When you happen to find true and real love, cherish and nurture it well so that you don’t end up regretting it in the future.

8. Make others happy

The mark of a true existence is in the ability to make other people’s lives better and easier. Strive to make people happy and you will be happy yourself. A mid-life crisis is mainly made up of regrets and one way to alleviate this regret is to find a way to make people’s lives better. Do something good for someone such as engaging in volunteer work. In the end, it is not about your possessions but how many lives you touched.

9. Stand up for yourself

Many adults have always regretted not standing up for themselves when they had the opportunity to do so. Do not let people take you or any other person for that matter for granted. When I resumed secondary school there was this kid who tried to bully me. I warned him on many occasions to leave me alone and when he refused I had to punch him in the face.

He punched me back but never disturbed me again. Not that I am advocating violence but when someone tries to take advantage of you, fight back. Then they will know that you cannot be toiled with.

10. Take care of your health

It cannot be emphasized enough that health is wealth. You can have all the money in the world but without your health, it is nothing. Make sure you have a regular check-up and exercise and eat right.

11. Experience more

This is one of the greatest regrets of the dying because they wished they had experienced more out of life. Travel, go out with friends, see places and experience life because that’s what we are supposed to do while being alive, live.

12. Listen more

Surely, we all have lots to say but it is better when we listen. Listen to your spouse, listen to your kids and listen to your friends instead of talking all the time. Listen to the advice of your doctors and parents, family members and well wishers.

13. Don’t fear failure

Dare. Don’t be afraid to fail and take risks. On their death beds, most people always regret not taking chances on life and doing what they wanted to do and follow their dreams.

Don’t fear failure. Not failure, but low aim, is the crime. In great attempts it is glorious even to fail.” Bruce Lee

14. Don’t wait

There is no time again, if you have a dream, chase it. If there’s someone you like, let them know because you will always come second to someone who has taken the initiative to do something with their lives.

15. Talk to an elderly person

Old people regret lots of things and talking to them, they will tell you what to do and what not to do. Unfortunately, most of us see our old people as outdated and think that old people have nothing to teach us. If you hope on avoiding regrets in the future, make sure you listen to the advice of those better than you.

What are you doing on a daily basis to make sure you reach the end of your life fulfilled? Let us know by commenting below!
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3 Writing Exercises That Will Boost Your Confidence to New Levels

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The road of personal development will ask you to look at what you really believe about yourself. Life is continually asking us if we believe we are abundant, successful, and valued. Having an awareness of purpose, mission, and a meaningful message are all key. Confidence is the bedrock of growth and success.

Here are my favorite writing exercises that are sure to build your confidence and your belief in yourself:

1. Why I Will Succeed

It’s all too common to spend precious time thinking about what could go wrong or to mentally recite all the reasons why you aren’t qualified enough. This exercise helps focus your thoughts in the right direction.

Get a piece of paper and a pen and write this at the top. Why I Will Succeed As A _____________________.

Take a few deep breathes and bring your whole body into the present moment. Let go of what you desire that is out in the future and focus your attention on the talents, abilities, and experience you have right now.

Write down all the reasons why you will succeed. Read this list out loud, taking a deep breath in between each one and feeling the words in your body. Speak these truths daily until you believe them to the marrow in your bones.

“Every sentence I utter must be understood not as an affirmation, but as a question.” – Niels Bohr

2. Success Affirmations

Stepping into success is about finding a way to soothe our ego into what is beyond our comfort zone. It’s our ego’s job to keep us in more of the same and it values safety above all else.

Purchase a journal and write these powerful affirmations regularly.

  • I am willing to be willing.
  • I am willing to take the next step.
  • I am listening and open to what is mine to do today.
  • It’s safe for me to be seen. It’s safe for me to live wholeheartedly. It’s safe for me to put myself first.
  • It’s safe for me to be as passionate as I really am. It’s safe for me to be vocal and expressive. It’s safe for me to be too much for others.
  • It’s safe for me to show up full strength. It’s safe for me to be smart.
  • It’s safe for me to receive large amounts of money. It’s safe for me to work with clients who light me up. It’s safe for me to say no when I don’t click with someone.
  • It’s safe for me to show others what I want and need. It’s safe for me to be completely myself. It’s safe for me to find a way that works for me.
  • It’s safe for me to play full out.

“Success is a process, a quality of mind and a way of being, an outgoing affirmation of life.” – Alex Noble

3. Capital T’s

A couple years ago I had my handwriting analyzed and what I learned was the one letter that is directly connected to our level of confidence is how you write the lowercase form of the letter “t”. I was instructed to raise the bar on every “t” I wrote in order to raise my confidence level.

As you can imagine, once you are in the habit of writing lower case t’s, it takes practice. Either in the morning right after you wake up or just before you fall asleep, write out 20-60  capital T’s on a piece of paper. It’s pretty amazing to notice how new neural pathways are formed and the affect they have on our lives and interactions with others.

So many think the secret to success in personal development is related to what you know or who you know. However, while these things have some importance, they are worthless if you don’t believe in yourself.

Get notebook and a pen that you love and start practicing these simple writing exercises today. What helps you with your confidence levels?

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6 Reasons Why You Should Never Glorify Failure After You’ve Failed

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Many people are ashamed of failure. If they so much as smell a whiff of failure, they quit instantly because the public notices it quickly. But you shouldn’t be ashamed of failure. A lot of people have failed. I’ve failed over and over again in my career, business, relationships and more. Yet, I keep trying because failure isn’t the final verdict.

On the flip side of the coin, lots of people glorify failure when they fail. When I see this happen, it leaves me with a sense of introspection. I understand that glorifying it makes them feel better. It helps them not feel judged for failing. At the same time, glorifying failure in areas of your life has some severe consequences.

Here are some reasons why I believe failure shouldn’t be glorified:

1. Glorifying failure stops you from learning from your mistakes

The main reason why many people fail is because they make certain mistakes. Assuming they had more information, the mistakes might have been prevented. Supposing they evaluated their options well, failure might not have happened. But none of these things happened. The mistake happened and it is undeniable.

The best way to move forward is to learn from the mistake or mistakes, so that you can prevent them from happening later on in life. Glorifying failure makes you look for justifiable reasons for what happened.

2. Glorifying failure makes you defensive

Human beings hate being criticized. It brings out the worst in us because it makes us feel judged and inadequate. When you glorify failure, it amounts to defending your actions. In your mind, you will give reasons for what happened. For instance, if a relationship doesn’t work out, you’ll probably blame it on the other party. You’ll blame it on their inadequacies.

You’ll probably never blame it on yourself. While each situation is unique and different, you can’t take away the fact that it takes two to tango. You can’t deny that it is the work of two people to make a relationship work. Glorifying failure gives you the backbone to put the blame on someone else while extricating yourself and your actions.

“No one is coming to save you. Your life is 100% your responsibility. Plan accordingly.”

3. Glorifying failure leaves you a mediocre

Nobody wants to live a mediocre life. Or do you? We all dream of greatness. We all dream of being successful. Few people go after their dreams. Others stay in the dream lane because they’re so afraid of failure. Do you know that refusing to try for what you want amounts to failure as well?

Failure does not necessarily happen when you take action in certain things and you watch it fall apart. Failure also happens when you’re passive in going after your dreams. You might not know it but you have failed. Automatically, you have glorified failure and given it strength to rule your life which leaves you in a mediocre state for years to come.

4. Glorifying failure stops you from taking risks

Life is full of risks. As an entrepreneur, I understand this a lot. When I first wanted to start my business, I pitched my ideas to a lot of potential investors. The very first person I pitched to looked at me critically, and said a lot of things that would take up all the space here if I typed it out.

In summary, they told me that my idea wasn’t as good as I thought, and tweaking it a bit would help me sell my pitch better. I instantly felt I had failed because they didn’t buy my idea. But instead of learning from it, I justified their words. I replied that they didn’t know that gold was staring at them. I said that they were too sentimental.

All in all, I justified my failure and I refused to pitch to anybody again for months. My thought process had stopped me from taking risks which I knew would help grow my business. From this single interaction, I learned when you glorify failure, you stop taking risks which can help you grow.

“The biggest risk is not taking any risk… In a world that changing really quickly, the only strategy that is guaranteed to fail is not taking risks.” – Mark Zuckerberg

5. Glorifying failure blinds creativity

If you followed my story above well, then you would see that exalting failure blinds creativity. Because of my actions, I couldn’t critically analyze and evaluate my potential investor’s comment. They were obviously objective enough to see that my ideas were good, but not excellent.

They knew that with just a little creativity, my ideas could be better and worth more than I thought. It took me some time, but I eventually modified my ideas and their predictions were right. If I hadn’t justified their words when they first gave them, I would have learnt and challenged my creative side. But those months when I glorified my failure really blinded my creativity.

6. Glorifying failure teaches laziness

Refusing to glorify failure when I fail is one secret I know has helped me be better in all areas of my life. I know I want to be successful. I know I want to achieve a lot. How can I do that if I rest on my oars and praise failure when it happens?

It doesn’t work that way. Successful people have to be resilient in all they do. It doesn’t matter if there’s discomfort and uncertainty. Those factors are what propel people into greatness. And there’s no better teacher for those excruciating factors than failure. Not just failure but learning from failure when it happens.

Failure is something we’re all afraid of. Yes, even I am afraid of failure sometimes. But in the end, all I think about is that I have nothing to lose. When I feel discouraged, I simply remember Lance Armstrong’s words: “Pain is temporary. Quitting lasts forever”.

How do you handle failure? Let us know by commenting below!

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The Lie That Is My Overnight Success

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I started writing unprofessionally three years ago. Some would say my whole career is unprofessional and I’d agree. Imperfection is damn sexy though.

I began writing only because my mentor Joel Brown said I should and I stupidly said yes without knowing why. Now, of course, I’m crystal clear about why I write: it’s to inspire. I remember uploading articles to Addicted2Success.com and seeing no one like them. I remember thinking I was a failure.

In the early days, I was writing articles about entrepreneurs I had interviewed and I wasn’t that passionate about it. Every article felt like really hard work and it required an incredible amount of willpower. Everyone at the time was doing entrepreneur interviews and there was nothing special.

Then one day, I wrote an article for the fun of it that had nothing to do with anything. It was essentially a brain fart that I concocted after dinner, late one night. It took less than one hour to write and it was written with passion. The words came out of me without even trying.

Since that day, the words have continued to pour out of me in the same way. I get into a state of flow and then it happens. Words appear, people get inspired and we all have one big party that has been named “life.” From the day I wrote that article, thousands of people shared it and they still do today.

 

I didn’t stop

After my big moment on the internet going viral, everything stopped. The tumbleweed that drifted through the desert with an eerie silence continued. Everything calmed down and people stopped caring again.

I didn’t stop though because I found my writing therapeutical.

“My blog posts became like my own personal journey and it was a way for me to escape from the Alcatraz that was my head. This prison that lived inside my head kept telling me that no one cared and I’d never be successful.”

I decided to keep finding ways to break out of Alcatraz and check in to the Ritz Hotel that was me becoming a conscious, passionate, crazy online leader.

 

I stopped giving a damn

Over the next eighteen months, I kept writing every moment I got. No one paid attention but I did. I started paying attention to the shift that was happening inside of me. The leader that had always been stuck inside of me started to unleash.

The things that used to hold me back disappeared. I didn’t give two hoots about what anyone thought and I only cared about inspiring those who wanted to be inspired. I worked my butt off and started waking up at 4 am to post new blog articles. People couldn’t understand how I had the time to write working a full-time job.

The part they didn’t get was that because the words flowed out of me so easily, it didn’t take that long at all to write something of value. People watched me posting articles and thought I was crazy. They thought what I was doing was career suicide in the big bad world of corporate politics.

I never liked politics anyway, so I stuck my middle finger up at the way things were traditionally done. I decided to be a rebel writer and live my dream. I continued to make no money and people kept on questioning what I was doing.

 

I believed

A few people believed, but most didn’t. What stuck out like tomato sauce on a freshly dry cleaned white shirt was that I believed and that’s all that mattered. I saw something that no one else could see: my real potential versus my current success.

I had the motivation to continue on when no one cared because I believed I could change the world. I saw myself as someone who had the potential to serve millions of people online. I kept telling myself never to give up and I also spread the same message throughout everything I wrote.

“I thought my writing was going to save everybody else, but what it really did is save myself”

My writing saved me from living a life without meaning and it helped me discover who I really was. I saw the pattern between every goal I’d ever had: to inspire and evoke emotion from strangers.

This clarity fuelled me and I became relentless. I reached out to every blogger, leader and person that had done cool stuff that inspired me. Originally I thought they’d all ignore me: none of them did. See when you have energy and passion oozing out of you, people can’t say no. An unwavering belief in what you’re doing is all that matters.

 

The tipping point happened

I began to see a change when each day I started to get a message from a reader/fan. It started as one message per day, then two, then three. Now I get more messages of support every day than I have time to read. Success often doesn’t become a reality in a single moment.

Success is something that is hard to measure in the early days until one giant moment happens that everyone sees. The part no one sees is the many smaller moments that happened beforehand. The small successes that may not have looked like a textbook example of “success.”

 

That big day finally came

So the big day happened when an article I wrote went viral. This was the third time it had happened, although this time the success became permanent. All those years, when I thought no one was reading, people were. What had occurred was that they were too scared to show they were reading because my success was still largely unproven.

It was only after the big success moment that people felt it was okay to come out of the metaphorical closet and say they were inspired by what I was doing. All those nights spent locked away in my office being anti-social was worth it. All those cups of green tea, takeaway meals, indoor plants, and weird emails to myself with possible headlines for articles had meant something.

More publications reached out to me and pretty soon I wasn’t just writing for Addicted2Success; I was writing for the biggest sites on the entire internet. The ones where the editors get pitched one hundred times a day by people who want to do nothing more than self-promote and build a BS “personal brand.”

Before I knew it, I was getting offered book deals, business opportunities, podcast interviews and public speaking gigs. I took some but ignored most. I remembered what was important and the fact that unwavering focus had got me to where I was.

I knew I was ready for some opportunities and not for others like public speaking. The journey had begun, but I was far from the summit of the mountain of my dreams.

 

Nothing changed

Strangely, though, it was all one ginormous anti-climax moment. Nothing had changed. Even today nothing has changed. I still want to inspire people and I still like sharing stories. I still want to live with passion and I still want to create a meaning for my life that outlives me.

What has changed is that people have seen my success as something that’s happened recently – what total BS that is. It’s taken my entire existence to discover the meaning of my life, find a medium to share it on and go after it with relentless optimism.

 

What you didn’t see with my success

You didn’t see the person that existed before all of this. You didn’t see the selfish, rude, arrogant, brat who lived for material possessions and felt like he was entitled to success because he grew up in Australia, the land of the free. I can say those horrible things because I’m talking about myself. Thankfully that’s the opposite of who I am now.

You didn’t see the transformation that occurred after that one big rock bottom moment. When everything made no sense and I had to look inside of myself to crawl out of that black hole that had become my existence. You didn’t see me step out of the darkness and into the light.

All you saw was me in the light and assumed I had always been there shining away brightly, and living the good life that is passion and purpose. How wrong that lie is. How wrong the whole concept of overnight success is.

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Tim is best known as a long-time contributor on Addicted2Success. Tim's content has been shared hundreds of thousands of times and he has written multiple viral posts all around success, personal development, motivation, and entrepreneurship. During the day Tim works with the most iconic tech companies in the world, as an adviser, to assist them in expanding into Australia. By night, Tim coaches his students on the principles of personal development and the fundamentals of entrepreneurship. You can connect with Tim through his website www.timdenning.net or through his Facebook.

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  1. Arlene

    Jun 16, 2016 at 1:31 am

    Great article! I’ve become addicted to travel and try and see a new part of the world any chance I get, I love all the places I have seen but I would recommend going to Colombia in particular Medellin and Cartagena ☺️!

  2. Yasmeen

    May 31, 2016 at 7:20 am

    Thanks for the Article, Tim!!!!. I have a question to ask you. Its been my dream to travel to Tokyo, Japan since I was 19 but unfortunately I could not due to my financial conditions.

    So, Tim I want you to give my an advice on how can I improve my financial condition in order to accomplish my dream.

    Appreciate your time, Tim!!!!

    • Tim Denning

      Jun 4, 2016 at 11:06 pm

      Yasmeen thanks so much for reading. Like anything, there is no easy fix. I would suggest that you ensure you are saving at least 30% of what you earn. This means every week when you get paid you automatically transfer money into your savings account. You have to make saving a habit. I would also look at what passive income you can create through either an online business or maybe even dabbling with network marketing.

      Rich Dad, Poor Dad is also an excellent book that will give you more detailed info towards how to manage finances. It’s a timeless classic for a reason. Hope this info helps you and all the best with your travelling dream!

  3. Toño

    May 31, 2016 at 4:27 am

    As you already know, travelling the world is one of my biggest dreams and diving deep into your article I can feel the itching to just let it all go, book a ticket and never come back 🙂 You nailed it, Tim, by saying that social media taught us ‘we should never sleep, never take a break, and work on our passion 24/7’. I can see those messages everywhere, including Foundr Instagram as well. I kind of agree with, and kind of don’t. While there is nothing wrong to work on your passion and grind to success, it, on the other side, may very much feels like pressure, tension and routine. You can just burn yourself out and never desire to work again. Recently I have been reading and studying more about about spirit and soul, and meditate more so I can feel deeper connection to the source. I feel that need to be more in nature and live in balance and that appears to me more important than any material goodies and success. Well, you may think IT IS the success, to be comfortable and be in nature, right?

    Your very first point is right about it. Travelling can show you different perspectives and you may want to review your ‘problems’. Usually I use movies to recharge my brain that way where I can see and appreciate my life more. Of course, travelling will give you much more that few hour film, providing rich experience and raw emotions.

    This is well connected to your next point, where we can rediscover the beautie of the world or discover it for the first time. Fresh new places will help to be more concious about things you observe and funny you mentioned the rubbish bin, as I have few photos from my last year vacation to the ocean where there’s a trash bin in the middle of it anf it is indeed look so spectacular haha!

    You know, I foten think about what for do we work and actualy live? We always fear to lose something, lik eour home, job or whatever it may be, never really realizing that life may be very short and to be stuck in one place for eternity never a good idea. And that way you may understand that your daily job, your environment, your ‘friends’ and your life is not what you actually enjoy and it will hugely benefits you in the long term.

    Oh, and relaxation! It’s huge thing I strive for every day and when I have the ability to just relax after some productive activity I simply feel amazing. You spoke about that Buddhist temple (which is awesome by the way!) and how you felt calm and I can relate to this as when I was visiting Paris I entered the Notre Dame Cathedral and had the similar feelings. I remember was sitting there for a good amount of time and felt so calm and relaxed. We stayed in Paris for a week while travelling to Spain and I’ve visited Notre Dame few more times as it was very peaceful and inspirational experience for me.

    All what you said here, Tim, is so right and I am very happy you experienced this for yourself. China seems like an amazing place and I love these photos, you looks very happy on ’em 🙂 Thank you so much bringing this topic and diving so deep into it, my friend, it means alot to me! Would love to read/hear more from you on such matter in the future.

    Much love and appreciation, stay well and helathy!

    • Tim Denning

      May 31, 2016 at 9:04 am

      Toño you should scratch that travel itch and go and do a trip asap….don’t wait. Movies are okay to recharge with but travel is much more long-lasting. Being in nature and doing what you want everyday because you love it and not because you have to do it is the ultimate success in my mind. Paying bills and doing stuff you hate is failure.

      Always happy to share my experiences Toño and glad it sparked something within you. Speak soon mate.

  4. Vikash Sharma

    May 30, 2016 at 2:52 pm

    Hi Tim,
    An Awesome Article!
    I completely agree with you. Travel really wakes you up. It’s not only a good way to relax but also gives you energy to do better, It gives you new thoughts, It improves your confidence. I have personally experienced it.
    I have stuck several times in life, and the best thing I do to get out of it is travel. I get Solution while travelling.
    Overall a Nice Article! Thank you for sharing it with us.

    • Tim Denning

      May 30, 2016 at 6:44 pm

      Vikesh thank you so much! Travel is a great way to solve your problems and allow you to reflect on them. When you’re too close to the problem you often can’t see the solution. Travel helps to break that vicious cycle. Thanks again for reading.

  5. Angelo Drake

    May 26, 2016 at 4:29 pm

    Nice article Tim.

    As a traveller I would say that the greatest thing about travelling is that it can allow you the time to figure out what you really want in life. You have the space to look at what really drives you, what really makes you happy.

    In a world in which we are constantly beeping, buzzing and zooming, travelling to distant, remote places, offers the opportunity to decompress from the hustle and let life present it’s wonders to you. When you see this magic, it might just make you realize that you weren’t supposed to be an accountant, you were supposed to be a magician.

    • Tim Denning

      May 26, 2016 at 8:38 pm

      Thanks for your perspective Angelo. The buzzing and the beeping can really exhaust you after a while. I think we all need to just decompress sometime and realise what’s important.

  6. Ryan Lotze

    May 26, 2016 at 7:48 am

    I was literally just in Mexico yesterday for the whole day. I got to see a new area of the world I had never been to before. The past few years I have been so dedicated to delaying the gratification of traveling later. But that mini-vacation opened my mind and eyes up to the reality, that even though I am working on my own business from the comfort of my laptop, that I can take a spur in the moment or even planned trip to experience other parts of the world.

    Wow, this was definitely an eye opener for me! Thank you Tim! Great post!

    • Tim Denning

      May 26, 2016 at 8:40 pm

      Ryan that’s awesome! I have always wanted to go to Mexico so I must make it happen. Best of luck with your future travels and don’t delay them any longer. Thanks for reading.

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3 Things to Pay Attention to When Building Your Own Personal Brand

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Who are you? Not your name or your business or even what your ethics are, but who are you in the sense of what people see when they look at you? Does your name and your business bring happiness to the minds of people who hear it? Does it bring anger? Does it bring peace and joy? Does it bring sadness?

How people feel when they think of you is your personal brand. We all know who Gary Vaynerchuk, Tony Robbins, and Robert Kiyosaki are. These people have built huge reputations for themselves. We also know who Vladimir Putin, Kim Jong-un, and Adolf Hitler are. These people have also build reputations for themselves; very different reputations than the first names I listed.

When you read these names, a different feeling comes to mind, so below are 3 ways on how to evoke positive emotions when people hear your name:

1. Envoke the senses

First lets understand what a brand is. A brand is a product or service that invokes a feeling or emotion. Building a brand is all about invoking the senses of your Customers, you don’t want people to think of your brand and only think of the logo. We want people to have a scent that reminds them of you, a sight like a logo, and a feel that reminds them of not only your brand, but of you as well.

When people think of your company, what do you want them to think of? What emotion do you want to inspire in your customer base, and what can help you inspire that emotion? When creating your personal brand, you want to invoke all five senses of your target audience. If you own a coffee shop, when people walk in you want them to smell coffee, their mouth to water when they think of fresh pastries, their ears to perk up when they hear the beans being ground up.

“I force people to have coffee with me, just because I don’t trust that a friendship can be maintained without any other senses besides a computer or cellphone screen.” – John Cusack

To create your brand you can’t only think about what you want associated with your business, but also what you don’t want associated with it. Think back to the coffee instead of smelling coffee and pastries, how would you feel about walking in and smelling bleach? Would you rather go to the first coffee shop or the second one?

Think of ways to create a positive experience when a customer walks in by bringing a scent to people, or an interesting sight as they walk through the door. These things will all eventually become part of your brand in the sense that when people think of them, they will think of you.

2. Attractive marketing

Marketing is an amazing way to help boost your company’s sales. But marketing can also hurt your business if it isn’t done correctly. Have you ever given someone your email or phone number and had him or her relentlessly spam you trying to get your business? When someone does that, do you want to use their service, or do you want to throw your phone at the wall every time they message you? When building a brand you also want to think of ways to make your business, and marketing plans more attractive.  

This goes back to what you want people to think of when they think of your brand. Small things can go a long way in creating an attractive image for you and your company. Attractive marketing doesn’t stop at just ads, and endorsement. Thinking of ways to portray yourself in a positive light will help as well. It’s natural to think a person would be doing business with a company, but each customer is doing business with you directly. Now think back to a time you were in a store and had terrible customer service. How likely are you to go back to that store?

Even if that company employs thousands of people, the one bad experience you had with one employee could actually prevent you from going back. People are more likely to go somewhere they think of in a positive light, some place that reminds them of a good experience. A personal brand is not only a brand for your company or product, but it is also a way of branding yourself. The goal of marketing and creating a personal brand should be, to get your customer base to feel like they know you personally.

3. Build with social media

Social media is a great way to get your clients to feel like they know you personally. When a client feels like they know you, like you, and can trust you, they are more likely to buy whatever you are selling. People buy based off of person, product and price. So having that personal relationship with a client can go a long way, especially if they don’t know a lot about the product or price. There are tons of social media platforms to reach your customer base, but what platform gives the most personal, and honest form of your business?

One of the most surprising ways to build fans of your brand is podcasts. A podcast lets your audience hear your voice and speaking your opinions exactly how you meant them to be said. The more a person feels like they know you, the more likely they are to feel like they can trust you, your recommendations on products, and investments.

“Social media is not just an activity; it is an investment of valuable time and resources. Surround yourself with people who not just support you and stay with you, but inform your thinking about ways to WOW your online presence” – Sean Gardner

Unlike most social media platforms, podcasts don’t require someone to scroll through an endless feed, or pay attention to their phone or computer. For a podcast all you have to do is throw on a playlist and listen away while you are driving, cleaning, or just doing day-to-day tasks. The main goal is once you have a playlist of podcasts, someone only needs to hear one, let the playlist go, and suddenly be hooked on your opinions and advice.

You have the power to evoke emotions and feelings from people. In every moment of your life you are building your personal brand. Every time you interact with people and every thing you say makes up how people think and feel about both you and your products/services. When it comes to building your brand, the opportunities are endless but what I stated above is the perfect place to begin that journey. Always remember to create a brand to help your company speak for itself.

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15 Ways to Avoid Regret at the End of Your Life

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Most people live their lives in regret. If you have ever had the misfortune of experiencing regret, it is not a nice thing to experience. You must do the things you need to do to avoid regrets in your life.

At the point when individuals think back on their lives, what are the most widely recognized regrets they have? That is a significant inquiry we have to stop and ask all the more regularly. A few people think back and say the greatest regret they had was to not have kids. Others think back and say their greatest regret was in regards to lost time.

Whatever the case, it’s critical to take a look at how you are carrying on with your life and consider how you can avoid regrets.

Here are 15 ways to avoid regrets later on in your life:

1. Don’t follow someone else’s dreams

So many of us are living other people’s dreams such as our parents, guardians and other authoritative figures in our lives. We all have dreams and should endeavor to follow those dreams to the latter irrespective of what others may think. You can’t please everyone and should look to only please yourself and do what is right for you.

2. Stop taking your loved ones for granted

Your children won’t be children forever and will grow up to become adults and not have time for you as much. They may never even call and your parents will not be parents forever, they will leave you someday. So make sure you endeavor to spend every waking moment with them and appreciate them while you still have the opportunity to do so.

3. Stop pretending to be someone else

Imitation is suicide. When we pretend to be someone we are not, we are spending so much time not being who we are and in that situation, we are spending a whole lot of time not living. You are the person you know very well and if you spend your time living someone else’s life you will only end up being a copycat instead of being the very best you could be as well as being number one at it.

The most inspiring people in the world are true to themselves and when you are true to yourself, you will be at ease. This tends to attract like-minded people into your life which help you live a more fulfilling life.

4. Don’t burn all your bridges

Life is a journey of ups and downs, and you will have to be kind to people on your way up because you will meet them on your way down. Don’t burn the bridges of your past as you may need them later in life.

5. Always tell the truth

Lies destroy families and relationships. When you tell a lie you will have to back that lie with another and another until you have a whole tangled web of lies that cannot be remedied even if you want to. True relationships have their foundation in the truth and lasts forever. Always endeavour to tell the truth in every situation as telling a lie can lead to future regrets.

6. Live in the moment

Have you ever noticed that when you were a kid time seemed to be really slow and now that you are an adult, time moves really fast? That is because as kids, we always lived in the moment and as adults, we are always thinking of our next scheme, idea or business that time just seems to fly past us. Take your time to experience the now as you may regret it later in the future when you look into the mirror and ask where all the time went.

“All I have is all I need and all I need is all I have in this moment.” – Byron Katie

7. Don’t give up on true love

This is one of the biggest areas of regret for most people as they reject love because of fear, work or other excuses they give themselves. When you happen to find true and real love, cherish and nurture it well so that you don’t end up regretting it in the future.

8. Make others happy

The mark of a true existence is in the ability to make other people’s lives better and easier. Strive to make people happy and you will be happy yourself. A mid-life crisis is mainly made up of regrets and one way to alleviate this regret is to find a way to make people’s lives better. Do something good for someone such as engaging in volunteer work. In the end, it is not about your possessions but how many lives you touched.

9. Stand up for yourself

Many adults have always regretted not standing up for themselves when they had the opportunity to do so. Do not let people take you or any other person for that matter for granted. When I resumed secondary school there was this kid who tried to bully me. I warned him on many occasions to leave me alone and when he refused I had to punch him in the face.

He punched me back but never disturbed me again. Not that I am advocating violence but when someone tries to take advantage of you, fight back. Then they will know that you cannot be toiled with.

10. Take care of your health

It cannot be emphasized enough that health is wealth. You can have all the money in the world but without your health, it is nothing. Make sure you have a regular check-up and exercise and eat right.

11. Experience more

This is one of the greatest regrets of the dying because they wished they had experienced more out of life. Travel, go out with friends, see places and experience life because that’s what we are supposed to do while being alive, live.

12. Listen more

Surely, we all have lots to say but it is better when we listen. Listen to your spouse, listen to your kids and listen to your friends instead of talking all the time. Listen to the advice of your doctors and parents, family members and well wishers.

13. Don’t fear failure

Dare. Don’t be afraid to fail and take risks. On their death beds, most people always regret not taking chances on life and doing what they wanted to do and follow their dreams.

Don’t fear failure. Not failure, but low aim, is the crime. In great attempts it is glorious even to fail.” Bruce Lee

14. Don’t wait

There is no time again, if you have a dream, chase it. If there’s someone you like, let them know because you will always come second to someone who has taken the initiative to do something with their lives.

15. Talk to an elderly person

Old people regret lots of things and talking to them, they will tell you what to do and what not to do. Unfortunately, most of us see our old people as outdated and think that old people have nothing to teach us. If you hope on avoiding regrets in the future, make sure you listen to the advice of those better than you.

What are you doing on a daily basis to make sure you reach the end of your life fulfilled? Let us know by commenting below!
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3 Writing Exercises That Will Boost Your Confidence to New Levels

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The road of personal development will ask you to look at what you really believe about yourself. Life is continually asking us if we believe we are abundant, successful, and valued. Having an awareness of purpose, mission, and a meaningful message are all key. Confidence is the bedrock of growth and success.

Here are my favorite writing exercises that are sure to build your confidence and your belief in yourself:

1. Why I Will Succeed

It’s all too common to spend precious time thinking about what could go wrong or to mentally recite all the reasons why you aren’t qualified enough. This exercise helps focus your thoughts in the right direction.

Get a piece of paper and a pen and write this at the top. Why I Will Succeed As A _____________________.

Take a few deep breathes and bring your whole body into the present moment. Let go of what you desire that is out in the future and focus your attention on the talents, abilities, and experience you have right now.

Write down all the reasons why you will succeed. Read this list out loud, taking a deep breath in between each one and feeling the words in your body. Speak these truths daily until you believe them to the marrow in your bones.

“Every sentence I utter must be understood not as an affirmation, but as a question.” – Niels Bohr

2. Success Affirmations

Stepping into success is about finding a way to soothe our ego into what is beyond our comfort zone. It’s our ego’s job to keep us in more of the same and it values safety above all else.

Purchase a journal and write these powerful affirmations regularly.

  • I am willing to be willing.
  • I am willing to take the next step.
  • I am listening and open to what is mine to do today.
  • It’s safe for me to be seen. It’s safe for me to live wholeheartedly. It’s safe for me to put myself first.
  • It’s safe for me to be as passionate as I really am. It’s safe for me to be vocal and expressive. It’s safe for me to be too much for others.
  • It’s safe for me to show up full strength. It’s safe for me to be smart.
  • It’s safe for me to receive large amounts of money. It’s safe for me to work with clients who light me up. It’s safe for me to say no when I don’t click with someone.
  • It’s safe for me to show others what I want and need. It’s safe for me to be completely myself. It’s safe for me to find a way that works for me.
  • It’s safe for me to play full out.

“Success is a process, a quality of mind and a way of being, an outgoing affirmation of life.” – Alex Noble

3. Capital T’s

A couple years ago I had my handwriting analyzed and what I learned was the one letter that is directly connected to our level of confidence is how you write the lowercase form of the letter “t”. I was instructed to raise the bar on every “t” I wrote in order to raise my confidence level.

As you can imagine, once you are in the habit of writing lower case t’s, it takes practice. Either in the morning right after you wake up or just before you fall asleep, write out 20-60  capital T’s on a piece of paper. It’s pretty amazing to notice how new neural pathways are formed and the affect they have on our lives and interactions with others.

So many think the secret to success in personal development is related to what you know or who you know. However, while these things have some importance, they are worthless if you don’t believe in yourself.

Get notebook and a pen that you love and start practicing these simple writing exercises today. What helps you with your confidence levels?

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6 Reasons Why You Should Never Glorify Failure After You’ve Failed

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Many people are ashamed of failure. If they so much as smell a whiff of failure, they quit instantly because the public notices it quickly. But you shouldn’t be ashamed of failure. A lot of people have failed. I’ve failed over and over again in my career, business, relationships and more. Yet, I keep trying because failure isn’t the final verdict.

On the flip side of the coin, lots of people glorify failure when they fail. When I see this happen, it leaves me with a sense of introspection. I understand that glorifying it makes them feel better. It helps them not feel judged for failing. At the same time, glorifying failure in areas of your life has some severe consequences.

Here are some reasons why I believe failure shouldn’t be glorified:

1. Glorifying failure stops you from learning from your mistakes

The main reason why many people fail is because they make certain mistakes. Assuming they had more information, the mistakes might have been prevented. Supposing they evaluated their options well, failure might not have happened. But none of these things happened. The mistake happened and it is undeniable.

The best way to move forward is to learn from the mistake or mistakes, so that you can prevent them from happening later on in life. Glorifying failure makes you look for justifiable reasons for what happened.

2. Glorifying failure makes you defensive

Human beings hate being criticized. It brings out the worst in us because it makes us feel judged and inadequate. When you glorify failure, it amounts to defending your actions. In your mind, you will give reasons for what happened. For instance, if a relationship doesn’t work out, you’ll probably blame it on the other party. You’ll blame it on their inadequacies.

You’ll probably never blame it on yourself. While each situation is unique and different, you can’t take away the fact that it takes two to tango. You can’t deny that it is the work of two people to make a relationship work. Glorifying failure gives you the backbone to put the blame on someone else while extricating yourself and your actions.

“No one is coming to save you. Your life is 100% your responsibility. Plan accordingly.”

3. Glorifying failure leaves you a mediocre

Nobody wants to live a mediocre life. Or do you? We all dream of greatness. We all dream of being successful. Few people go after their dreams. Others stay in the dream lane because they’re so afraid of failure. Do you know that refusing to try for what you want amounts to failure as well?

Failure does not necessarily happen when you take action in certain things and you watch it fall apart. Failure also happens when you’re passive in going after your dreams. You might not know it but you have failed. Automatically, you have glorified failure and given it strength to rule your life which leaves you in a mediocre state for years to come.

4. Glorifying failure stops you from taking risks

Life is full of risks. As an entrepreneur, I understand this a lot. When I first wanted to start my business, I pitched my ideas to a lot of potential investors. The very first person I pitched to looked at me critically, and said a lot of things that would take up all the space here if I typed it out.

In summary, they told me that my idea wasn’t as good as I thought, and tweaking it a bit would help me sell my pitch better. I instantly felt I had failed because they didn’t buy my idea. But instead of learning from it, I justified their words. I replied that they didn’t know that gold was staring at them. I said that they were too sentimental.

All in all, I justified my failure and I refused to pitch to anybody again for months. My thought process had stopped me from taking risks which I knew would help grow my business. From this single interaction, I learned when you glorify failure, you stop taking risks which can help you grow.

“The biggest risk is not taking any risk… In a world that changing really quickly, the only strategy that is guaranteed to fail is not taking risks.” – Mark Zuckerberg

5. Glorifying failure blinds creativity

If you followed my story above well, then you would see that exalting failure blinds creativity. Because of my actions, I couldn’t critically analyze and evaluate my potential investor’s comment. They were obviously objective enough to see that my ideas were good, but not excellent.

They knew that with just a little creativity, my ideas could be better and worth more than I thought. It took me some time, but I eventually modified my ideas and their predictions were right. If I hadn’t justified their words when they first gave them, I would have learnt and challenged my creative side. But those months when I glorified my failure really blinded my creativity.

6. Glorifying failure teaches laziness

Refusing to glorify failure when I fail is one secret I know has helped me be better in all areas of my life. I know I want to be successful. I know I want to achieve a lot. How can I do that if I rest on my oars and praise failure when it happens?

It doesn’t work that way. Successful people have to be resilient in all they do. It doesn’t matter if there’s discomfort and uncertainty. Those factors are what propel people into greatness. And there’s no better teacher for those excruciating factors than failure. Not just failure but learning from failure when it happens.

Failure is something we’re all afraid of. Yes, even I am afraid of failure sometimes. But in the end, all I think about is that I have nothing to lose. When I feel discouraged, I simply remember Lance Armstrong’s words: “Pain is temporary. Quitting lasts forever”.

How do you handle failure? Let us know by commenting below!

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