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10 Ways To Flip Your Current Reality Upside Down Just Like I Did

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If your current reality is not something that excites you, then it is completely possible to flip it upside down and turn it into the most positive reality you could possibly imagine.

It’s easy to think that changing your reality is difficult, but I have learned that it really just takes one small change. One small thing could be the trigger point for your current reality to be flipped upside down assuming that you are receptive to such small triggers.

Why settle for a reality that doesn’t align with your vision or dream? You don’t have to. Never allow yourself to be disappointed with where you’re heading and don’t settle for less than you can be. Decide that you are going to be passionate about what you do and do something life-changing.

As you’ve heard me say many times before, you only get one crack at life, and you shouldn’t waste a single minute not being happy with your reality. It’s time to rise up!

Below are ten ways you can flip your current reality.

 

1. Decide to make a change

The first step is to do some self-reflection and ultimately decide that change is a must for you and your current reality will no longer suffice. Making a change is simple, deciding that change is a must and committing to it is the hard part.

To gain leverage on yourself and be able to come to the decision that you will no longer settle for your current reality takes guts. All of you have it in you, but only some of you have the willpower to crush your fears right now and battle your reality head on.

It’s okay if you’re not ready, but just don’t wait forever to decide that change is a must. Deciding to make the change is a matter of writing down the reasons why you have to change right now. It’s also about writing down why not making the changes is painful to you.

Pain will drive you more than anything so use it to your advantage, commit to change, accept there will be failure, stand up straight, and tackle your current reality head on! You can do it, and it’s what you have waited your entire life to do.

The time is now, and this article is going to be the seed of your new reality.

 

2. Change one belief

Don’t let yourself fall into the illusion of thinking that you need to change all of your beliefs overnight in order to flip your reality. Changing your reality requires small changes that are implemented over time.

For me, I only had to change one small belief to start with, which then led me to change my entire reality. So you’re probably asking yourself, “Tim what was that one belief you changed?” Simple, I created a new belief that says, “anything is possible!”

To this day, this belief still drives everything I do, and I go into every situation with a sense of certainty that anything is possible. A sense that one small thing like writing this article could lead to the most amazing event of my life that I could never have dreamed of.

I go into every situation believing that no matter how hard the task is, I can achieve greatness and overcome adversity. If you change one belief to start with, and it’s a big one like mine, you may find that you don’t even need to change any other beliefs for quite some time.

I would recommend, though, eventually doing away with your disempowering beliefs. They won’t serve you and they become a barrier to the current reality you are creating.

 

3. Become Aware

Humans have a habit of just walking around completely oblivious to the current moment and not aware what’s going on. When you begin to become aware of what you are doing each day and analyse your actions with a degree of non-judgement, you start to see your reality in a whole new way.

The best way to become aware is to either meditate or my favourite, start blogging / journaling. Through writing down your thoughts every day, you start to see with clarity what you repeatedly do. After a while, it’s then possible to make some decisions about how you want to change things.

To supercharge the writing down of your thoughts, the next best thing you can do is to share it through a talk or speech. When you begin telling others your thoughts, you get the chance to seek feedback and confirm that what you are thinking is what needs to change.

 

4. Understand your connection to the universe

Recently I have been watching lots of documentaries that prove without a shadow of a doubt that everything in our universe is connected. Just like the internet, our need for connection is engrained deep inside of us. It’s this need that is deep within our DNA and causes us to use social media.

Without going all hippy, the basic concept is quite simple; what you put out into the world comes straight back at you. If you want to change your reality, then you need to start putting things out into the universe that are positive.

You have the ability to attract negative and positive things into your life through the energy you create. So how I use this practically in my life is that when I am in the zone to do something that will have a negative effect, I stop for a minute, think, and have the default response of not going through with it.

In practice, a simple example would be the decision to yell at a fellow motorist if they cut me off. Rather than reaching for the horn like I used to, my default response is to do nothing and believe that the other person must have cut me off by mistake, or maybe to believe that they had a very good reason that I was not aware of.

Over time, I have expanded this scenario out to loads more real life examples such as; losing something, bad customer service, loud noises from other people, negative feedback about me, etc. If you want to turn your reality around then, it’s time to understand your connection with the universe and change your default answer of negative events to a non-reactive state.

 

5. Start with one kind act per day

To flip your current reality around you need to continuously do the same for other people through kind acts. The reason for this is that what you do for others is what will show up in your own life. Like all of the above examples, start small and then add a new kind act every few days.

I started this practice a few weeks ago with one simple act, which was opening doors for other people. I then added letting people in front of me while ordering food. Followed by this Saturday where I asked one homeless person if he was cold and offered to buy him a hot cup of tea or coffee.

I noticed after each kind act that another kind act would come back to me, or I would learn, or feel something new each time. As I did each act, I thought to myself, what if everyone just went and brought one other person a drink or piece of food each day?

What would that one kind act do? I think it’s pretty obvious: it would eliminate most of the issues we have in our society today. The reason for this is that it would change the way we treat each other. It would make us rethink about violence and point us in the direction of kindness.

One kind act of kindness can completely change your reality if you make it a must to do one each day.

 

6. Become a connector

The behaviour that will transform your reality the quickest is to become a connector. By connector, I simply mean the art of connecting people with other people. Every self-development test I have ever done has told me that my number one trait is connecting people.

As I began to use this trait more and more, I found my current reality change significantly. All I did was attempt to connect like-minded people as much as possible. This doesn’t mean you connect everyone to anyone; it just means that you become a matchmaker.

It’s not hard to do and involves looking for common themes amongst people. Connect writers with each other, connect people that share the same hobby, connect a sick person to a great medical person. This one act has seen loads of nice things come back my way.

The key is that when loads of nice things come back your way because of the connecting you are doing, give at least 50% of those nice things back out to your network. This will compound your results further and really transform your reality.

A practical example might be that you connect two people together and as thanks, you get given tickets to an event. Instead of going to that event yourself, consider who would enjoy that event even more than you. Imagine you got tickets to the football, think about who in your network is a crazy football fan and give it to them instead.

Again, connecting will change your reality three hundred and sixty degrees just the way it did for me.

 

7. Clear your head

Our head can be a real place of noise, but it’s also where we create our reality. Flipping your reality requires you to clear your head first, and there are a few ways to do this. For me, I find that a holiday to somewhere that has a beautiful natural environment is the best way.

Leave your phone and computer behind and just enjoy some fresh air and scenery for a few days. If you are looking for an easier way to clear your head without having to venture too far away then a hard workout at the gym or watching a really emotive movie like the Pursuit Of Happyness is a great way to clear your head.

When your mind is clear from all the noise of your job or business, it’s much easier to work towards changing your reality. Any change requires you to have some level of deep thought and for many of us, this is just not possible a lot of the time.

It’s good to work out a time when your mind is most clear. The weekend, for me, seems to be the best time to engage in a deeper level of thought. Changing my reality involved me trying very hard to understand what makes me happy.

Once I was clear about my happiness triggers, I then worked towards creating my new reality and documenting it on my laptop. Even if you are not 100% clear yet about what your new reality should be just write something down. Perfection is not the answer; the answer is action.

 

8. Absorb some new information

References help shape your reality in a big way. To be able to get yourself to believe that a new reality is possible and to dream one up, you need to absorb some new information. The best kind of new information I’ve consumed is documentaries or movies based around people who achieved factual, incredible and difficult tasks against all odds.

It’s also good to absorb new information by meeting some new people. When you meet someone new, and they start to fill you with positive information about things they have done in their life, you can begin to pull different aspects into your own life.

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9. Adopt one new idea

Ideas these days are a dime a dozen. Everyone has one, and they are taken for granted. As silly as it sounds, one new idea can completely change your reality. The idea that flipped my current reality was the idea that giving back through blogging could open up opportunities.

It’s easy to believe that when you blog your articles are not meaningful or have no effect. And for me, that might be true, but what the blogging has done to change my reality is that it has created a perception of me to others which directly aligns with my dream reality.

Blogging has forced me to live by what I write each day and hold myself accountable to greatness. It motivates me to get up each day and to create some sort of legacy in the limited time that all of us humans have.

The articles I’ve written have formed a basis for how I want to shape my reality going forward. It has given me a platform to have a voice and achieve my ultimate purpose of inspiring the world. When the idea of blogging was presented to me, it would have been easy to ignore it and think that it was a waste of time.

Instead, I committed to trying it and finding a way to use it no matter what. When a new idea is presented to you, it can only flip your reality if you are able to dream big enough that the idea you have been given can be something so much more.

This idea can only be an instigator of your success if you commit to it 100% and spend every day working on it. Over time, the idea might completely change, but the original idea will be the trigger point for the eventual outcome.

“Your reality is shaped by the ideas you experiment with and commit to today”

 

10. Create one new habit

The final empowering tool you need in your toolbox is the seed of just one new habit. As with the idea concept mentioned previously, a new habit will give you something to work on each day that is directly aligned with your future reality.

The habit I decided to practice when I flipped my own reality was to have more energy. While this might seem like a pretty random habit that is very broad, it eventually led into multiple other habits that form the basis of my current daily routine.

When you change just one habit, your mind commits to shaping your reality just a little bit differently to the previous day. Don’t make the mistake of trying to change lots of habits all at once otherwise, you will overwhelm yourself entirely.

Flipping your reality is all about the small steps you take every day to improve your situation. If we diagnose what small steps are, they are really two things; the daily action we take and the habits that we have. Change just one habit and you will definitely flip your reality upside down.

How have you flipped your own reality? Let me know in the comments section below or on my Facebook or Twitter pages.

Tim is best known as a long-time contributor on Addicted2Success. Tim's content has been shared millions of times and he has written multiple viral posts all around personal development and entrepreneurship. You can connect with Tim through his website www.timdenning.net

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  1. Toño

    Mar 12, 2016 at 4:42 am

    This is the highest compliment I’ve ever received, Tim, I appreciate it very much. Your support and connection means a lot, I feel how I started to believe in myself more, even though still so much work and things to learn to actually master my mind and improve my life.

    Happy Saturday for you and everyone around (it may be already evening for, but still), thank you so much for inspiring the world and following your calling. If I somehow can give something back to you or help with anything, please let me know.

    • Tim Denning

      Mar 12, 2016 at 8:18 am

      Thanks Toño. Connect with me on Twitter or Facebook so I can stay in touch.

  2. Toño

    Mar 10, 2016 at 6:46 pm

    It was a slow day at work that turned into non-pleasant event. I reacted exactly the same, feeling how negativity got deep down as it was a poison.. For about 5 minutes I kept thinking about it, focusing on what happened, ready to judge and become frustrated. Then I just told myself to stop and reached out to my computer where already was an open tab with addcited2success. I printed a fresh copy of your latest article and dived deep into it. Reading calmed down my wandering mind and I’ve found advice I was so grateful to get, right on time when I was asking for it.

    Understand your connection to the Universe. Change your response from negative into default one. Just do the switch. I was so obsessed with that event that turned myself into negative state of mind. What I put out into the world get straight back at me. For the whole day I was thinking that negative way and got exactly what I was ‘asking’ for..

    I have changed my thoughts immediately and after just few minutes started feel better. Amzaing! Simple thing I actually quite aware of, but still, for some reason, leave behind so often. You basically saved my evening, Tim, as I’ve spent the rest of my work hours in a good mood and got home in a chilled state of mind. How grateful I am for everything you’ve done, and you still full of surprises, fresh ideas and never-ending energy! Keep on going, my friend and thank you so very much 🙂

    The whole article is powerful, I already read it twice and left a copy on my desk for my co-workers.

    • Tim Denning

      Mar 11, 2016 at 11:59 pm

      Toño you are starting to master your mind better than anyone I know. I have shared your thank you note with my Facebook friends. All of us have these days, but it’s how you come back from the low’s that counts.

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5 Simple Mental Tricks to Help Leaders Deal With a Heavy Workload

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Entrepreneurs and other business owners put in a lot of work. In fact, many entrepreneurs report spending over 60 hours a week (or more than 12 hours each day) working on their business. These hours are busy — no extended breaks for browsing Facebook or watching funny YouTube videos. Becoming a successful entrepreneur requires a lot of work, and a lot of learning. Of course, having such a heavy workload and so many responsibilities can quickly become overwhelming.

So how do successful business owners manage? A lot of it comes down to the right mental practices. By working smarter, not harder, leaders can effectively manage even the most seemingly insurmountable workloads and achieve their company goals.

Here’s a closer look at the mental practices you can apply to better manage your responsibilities:

1. Stop Multitasking

When you have a lot of work on your plate, it can be tempting to switch back and forth between projects so you can make progress on each one. But this is actually one of the worst things you can do for your productivity. Research has consistently found that multitasking actually slows down your work, rather than speeding it up.

According to the American Psychological Association, “Although switch costs may be relatively small, sometimes just a few tenths of a second per switch, they can add up to large amounts when people switch repeatedly back and forth between tasks. Thus, multitasking may seem efficient on the surface but may actually take more time in the end and involve more error … even brief mental blocks created by shifting between tasks can cost as much as 40 percent of someone’s productive time.”

“The key is not to prioritise what’s on your schedule, but to schedule your priorities.” – Stephen Covey

2. Start Your Day With the Hardest Tasks

Each task and responsibility you’re faced with will have varying degrees of difficulty and time commitment. It’s all too easy to save the hardest tasks for last, but if you wish to maximize your productivity and get through your workload, you should actually start with the tougher challenges.

Many of the most successful entrepreneurs take care of their toughest tasks first thing in the morning. For one thing, most of us have more energy when we first start the workday. The later in the day it gets, the harder it becomes to maintain that same drive and focus, making it all too easy to procrastinate. Knocking out a hard assignment early in the day also brings a sense of accomplishment, which can provide additional energy for powering through future tasks.

3. Know Your Limits

While hard work is essential for entrepreneurial success, you don’t want to run the risk of burnout. Continually pushing yourself beyond your boundaries can cause chronic exhaustion, anxiety, relationship problems and even heart disease.

“Everyone has different limits,” notes Jason Bliss, co-founder of Healthy Living Network. “As a serial entrepreneur myself, I’ve seen far too many people overwork themselves to the point of exhaustion, thinking it will help them succeed. In reality, overwork usually makes their results worse, not better. Learning the warning signs of burnout has helped me know when to step back — even for a short break — so I can come back later when I’m feeling refreshed.”

4. Plan Out Your Day

Knowing which task you want to start your day with isn’t enough — you also need to plan out the rest of the day. Catherine Adenle recommends “breaking your day into sessions, of maybe two or three hours. Take regular walk breaks after each session. First thing in the morning, when you get to the office, begin your day with a plan and assign tasks to each session.”

By dividing your day into more manageable chunks and planning corresponding activities, your workload won’t feel as overwhelming. You’ll be more likely to stay on track with everything that needs to get done. For best results, organize tasks based on urgency, deadline and the time they’ll take to complete.

“Plan your work for today and every day, then work your plan.” – Margaret Thatcher

5. Understand Proper Delegation

As a business leader, you have a significant resource that few others enjoy: a support staff that can assist you with your responsibilities. Asking for help or delegating tasks can help you maintain focus on the activities that matter most for your business. Though you should be mindful of your employees’ pre-existing workloads and clearly communicate project expectations, delegation can significantly improve company productivity.

The problem, however, is that many leaders are reluctant to delegate. They worry about employees’ abilities to complete a task, or feel they could handle the work quicker and more effectively on their own. It is essential that you develop the humility needed to delegate to your staff.

Research from Gallup has found that employers who delegate, effectively experience significantly higher growth than their competition. By leveraging employee strengths to lessen your load, you can enjoy major improvements to your bottom line.

Adapting the way you approach your workload will require a fair amount of effort. There may even be some failures and setbacks as you change how you manage your work. But if you wish to obtain lasting success, few things will be more important than improving your mental approach. By implementing these tactics, you’ll be able to work more effectively and achieve higher-quality outcomes.

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Positivity & Self-Ownership: Your #1 Factor for Success

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Leaving a reliable 9-5 job and risking a steady, biweekly paycheck to live out a dream and pursue a totally different lifestyle can be terrifying. However, there is no reason to fear, aspiring entrepreneur!

All successful entrepreneurs understand a few simple principles that enable them to achieve their goals, including how positivity along with taking ownership and accountability for your attitude, actions, and outcomes play a major role in your success.

The Power of Positivity

Never underestimate the power of positivity. Thinking positive thoughts, embodying a positive and healthy lifestyle, and reciting positive affirmations everyday enable you to tap into a higher level of your subconscious.

This is in line with the law of attraction, which says we attract into our lives what we manifest and put our energy into. You attract the energy that you put out into the universe, so the more positivity you put out, the more positivity comes back.

Here are some examples of positive affirmations that are meant to promote success:

  • I have the power to create change.
  • I refuse to give up because I will succeed.
  • I deserve the best and I accept everything that has happened up until now.
  • I am unstoppable and I will achieve all of my goals.

Replace your “I can’t”s with “I can.” Replace your “I won’t”s with “I will.” Speak positive things into existence, and watch your life turn around and have those positive thoughts come about. When you make the effort to make a positive change, the universe will conspire to help you succeed.

What Does It Mean to Be Accountable?

Accountability means to take responsibility and accept ownership for your actions and decisions. This means that you are responsible for the fate of your business. Do you feel that things aren’t taking off as quickly as you originally hoped? Work harder. Not selling thousands of products? Sell harder. Don’t have enough clients? Conduct more cold outreach. Keep your word.

Set goals and intentions and follow through with them. Be responsible and hold accountability for your actions. When you accept responsibility for your actions, you’ll feel rewarded when things work out, and you’ll close more deals, sell more products, and your dreams will come true.

“The price of greatness is responsibility.” –  Winston Churchill

What It Means to Take Control of Your Life & Business

In order to take control of your life and the fate of your business, you must understand your purpose in life and be willing to fulfill that purpose. It’s not enough to only desire a certain lifestyle.

You must stay true to what you really want to do in life. This means that you are mentally prepared to take on everything you need to in order to succeed. You follow strict self-set rules and guidelines that will help to keep you on track toward those dreams and goals. You don’t give up.

You keep going when things get tough, and you never see failure as an obstacle. You aren’t discouraged. You accept minor bumps in the road on the way to your destination, because you know you will ultimately reach your goal, and you won’t stop until you get there.

Here are three factors that personally helped me succeed:

1. Becoming more organized

Prior to organizing my tasks and goals, I was just flying by the seat of my pants and wondering why I wasn’t progressing at all. That’s because I didn’t have a set direction.

Becoming more organized helped me to prioritize what needed to get done in order to grow my business to the place where it’s at today.

2. Starting my off my day with positive affirmations

Positive affirmations are more powerful than you may believe. I started each day reading and reciting a quote that was positive and inspiring in nature, which exponentially increased my motivation and mentally prepared me to take on each day.

“Make each day your masterpiece.” – John Wooden

3. I developed long-term goals and stuck to them

Instead of working every day toward the unknown, I decided to set long-term goals. The kicker in helping me stick to these goals was creating smaller milestones that kept me on track and focused which gradually led me up to the ultimate goal.

Although I recognized that the ultimate achievement (of growing my business) was still at hand, my behavior was reinforced by a consistent sense of accomplishment upon completing these smaller goals.

If you are willing to stay focused, motivated, commit the time, effort, and energy toward reaching your goals, and you truly believe that you can and WILL achieve them, then there is nothing that will stop you in your path toward success.

As William Earnest Henley’s famous poem “Invictus” states, “I am the master of my fate, I am the captain of my soul.” You are the master of your fate and the captain of your soul. Once you wholeheartedly believe this, then you will harness your true power, unlock your full potential, and begin to live out your truth and reach the level of success you’ve always dreamed of.

What is success to you? Let us know in the comments below!

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The 3 P’s of Irresistible Leadership: Passion, Persistence, and Panache

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If any of you reading this have ever studied the theoretical underpinnings of leadership, you will have come across several theories such as the great man theory and charismatic leadership theory. Over the decades, leadership has evolved more from an art of telling people what to do to that of subtle influence, suggestion, and rendering by example.

In my new e-book “High-Octane Leadership: Pole Position Performance,” I mentioned that the goal of the manager is to create followers, but the goal of a leader is to create new leaders! This is a relatively new concept in leadership! There are many new and emerging micro theories of leadership that can be expounded upon and useful to individuals looking to assimilate a leadership style.

Here are the 3 P’s of irresistible leadership:

1. Passion

No great achievements, no illustrious undertakings, and no works of genius have ever occurred without the infusion of passion. Passion creates connections where none existed before.

Passion heightens the desire in the individuals who have opted to follow, and it has moved individuals forward toward a common vision. Leaders such as Steve Jobs, have to demonstrate a sense of passion in everything. Although his passion could be somewhat subdued, there is no doubt that when it came to any Apple products, he was the number one salesperson, champion, and evangelist.

“When you’re surrounded by people who share a passionate commitment around a common purpose, anything is possible.” – Howard Schultz

2. Persistence

For years when I was in direct sales, I had an 8.5 x 11 sheet with a cartoon on it hanging over my desk. It was a crane (that’s the bird, not the machine) who had a frog in his rather ample bill. However, the frog’s arms came out of the side of the crane’s mouth and were clutching the crane by the throat so that he (the crane) couldn’t swallow the frog. Underneath this caption where the words, “never, ever give up!

Leaders persist! They understand that there is always a way to solve the problem. Following this understanding, there must be subsequent action that follows, and this can lead to enthusiasm and optimism!

3. Panache

Leaders are self-confident people. They have systematically developed confidence over the years. In situations where they don’t feel confident, they make themselves feel confident. Confidence is learned. It’s a mental model and a cognitive mindset of how we approach problems.

Leaders understand and know that they will solve the problem before them; it’s not a matter of guessing, it’s a matter of knowing.

“Positivity, confidence, and persistence are key in life, so never give up on yourself.” – Khalid

If you buy the notion of passion, persistence, and panache as attributes of irresistible leadership, the question before us now turns on how do we develop those skills?

Here are a few behaviors that leaders use on a consistent basis to develop new skills:

  • Awareness – Great leaders and irresistible leaders always have their antennae up. They are always looking for ways to improve. They understand that self-improvement is a never-ending process to be embraced, even if the execution of the new behavior is difficult!
  • Repetition – Irresistible leaders practice their new skills. They will practice them in front of their subordinates, their family, and in front of themselves while staring at their face in a bathroom mirror! They understand the way to install a new habit of behavior is like with any habit, repeating it over and over again.
  • Feedback – Irresistible leaders are not afraid to ask how they are doing. And, they are not afraid to hear the answer. They understand that the best answer is that they are doing well but the next best answer is that they are not doing well, instead of not being told about their potential flaw. They understand that input in terms of behavioral awareness is one of the singular most important things one can attribute to leadership performance and style.

Try this: take an 8.5 x 11 sheet of paper and draw three columns. Atop each column write passion, persistence, and panache. On the left-hand side in the margin of the page, write awareness and 1/3 of the page down, write repetition, and then at the bottom one third the word feedback.

Writing solidifies thought, and it is that solid thought that motivates us into action. You will find yourself becoming more aware of opportunities to develop in each of the 3 P’s of irresistible leadership. Document them! Then jot down ideas down about how you can repeat those new behaviors. Finally solicit feedback and document what you’ve heard.

In the span of several weeks you will have developed new and exciting leadership attributes. Continue this new and exciting habit for other leadership development opportunities.

Which one of the 3 P’s do you need to work on most and why? Let us know in the comments below!

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It’s The 50 Things You Do Beforehand That Lead To Your Ultimate Success.

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Oh great, another tricky, dicky headline from that knob jock blogger Tim.”

That’s what you’re thinking, I know.

Well, I love sharing the truth and a lot of the time it doesn’t look pretty. There’s a vision we all have to do something incredible even if we don’t admit that publicly. Incredible, by the way, could just mean raising a family of beautiful children.

The thing is that not having the answers to what that end goal looks like is the best part. Let me explain.

Right now what you see is my blogging career. Before today there were 50 other things that look totally unrelated on the surface.

Here’s how I got to now:

  • Started out swimming as a child then quit
  • Played the flute and then quit
  • Joined a choir, then my voice broke, then I quit
  • Began playing drums then quit
  • Became a DJ then quit
  • Started producing other peoples music then quit
  • Became a successful entrepreneur then quit
  • Trained to be a fitness freak and then quit
  • Became a finance professional then quit
  • Mastered the world of tech and then partially quit
  • Wrote 400+ articles for a blog called Addicted2Success and didn’t quit
  • Published more than 500+ articles on Medium and didn’t quit
  • Published content on LinkedIn every day for a year and didn’t quit

Here’s my point: those last three dot points are what you see now but what you can’t see is everything that came before I started blogging.


Everything you do plays a part in the end result.

While singing in a choir might seem totally unrelated to blogging it’s not. Just like djing and swimming are not unrelated either.

Swimming taught me to overcome my fear of deep water.

Being in a choir taught me what it was like to be on stage in front of people.

Djing taught me artistry and creativity.

The 50 things I did prior that you didn’t see allowed me to do what you see me doing now in the form of blogging.

No matter what you start and stop in life, it will play a part in the 1–2 things that you end up being successful at and hopefully become known for.

Don’t discredit anything that transpires in your life. Every day is contributing something valuable to your future success even if it doesn’t look like it”


Not having the answers is what makes it fun.

If I could tell you right now how you’d get to your ultimate success, it would take away all the fun.

Never in a million years did I expect to become a blogger but here we are.

Getting here has been a load of fun and I still have no idea where this will all lead. Maybe, like Tim Ferriss, blogging could lead me to podcasting. I’ll never know if blogging is my ultimate version of success and that’s the best part.

All of us (including me) are just taking steps forward and learning as we go.

Quit trying to have all the answers because it’s not going to make any difference in the long run.

You can’t predict success all you can do is work your way towards it and earn it for yourself.


Don’t underestimate the ‘art of doing’

I’m obsessed with the doing because it’s the only thing I can control.

I’m reminded daily about the ‘art of doing’ by people who reach out and want to also be known for blogging.

Many of these wannabe bloggers write something but never publish it because it’s not perfect.

Then they finally get the courage to hit publish and the world doesn’t stop and notice their Harry Potter, chart-topping piece of writing. It’s an anti-climax for them which makes them spiral further down the black hole of disappointment.

What these wannabe bloggers underestimate (without sounding too cocky) is that if they repeated the habit of publishing something every day for a year that’d be able to see where blogging could lead.

Hitting publish once is not enough and the first time you do it, it will probably suck.

The only trick for the record that I’ve ever used to accelerate my success in blogging is hitting publish as often as I can and being disconnected from the result. JonWestenberg taught me this.

Even if you fail at something like blogging it will lead you to the next thing and the next thing and so on. Eventually, you’ll find what it is that lights you up and helps you to achieve your own version of success.

Nobody (including me) can predict what that one thing will be. My advice is the opposite of many people out there. Change around your hobbies/passions as much as you like.

Learn something from one field and then move on. While you experiment and switch paths, you’ll eventually find what you’re looking for. I hope you can see that to be true through the story I’ve just shared.

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5 Simple Mental Tricks to Help Leaders Deal With a Heavy Workload

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Entrepreneurs and other business owners put in a lot of work. In fact, many entrepreneurs report spending over 60 hours a week (or more than 12 hours each day) working on their business. These hours are busy — no extended breaks for browsing Facebook or watching funny YouTube videos. Becoming a successful entrepreneur requires a lot of work, and a lot of learning. Of course, having such a heavy workload and so many responsibilities can quickly become overwhelming. (more…)

Aimee Tariq currently lives in Florida with her Husband & 3 cats. At the age of 23 she became a #1 Best Selling Author For Health Optimization. She has been interviewed in many publications such as USA Today, Huffington Post, Forbes, INC etc.

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  1. Toño

    Mar 12, 2016 at 4:42 am

    This is the highest compliment I’ve ever received, Tim, I appreciate it very much. Your support and connection means a lot, I feel how I started to believe in myself more, even though still so much work and things to learn to actually master my mind and improve my life.

    Happy Saturday for you and everyone around (it may be already evening for, but still), thank you so much for inspiring the world and following your calling. If I somehow can give something back to you or help with anything, please let me know.

    • Tim Denning

      Mar 12, 2016 at 8:18 am

      Thanks Toño. Connect with me on Twitter or Facebook so I can stay in touch.

  2. Toño

    Mar 10, 2016 at 6:46 pm

    It was a slow day at work that turned into non-pleasant event. I reacted exactly the same, feeling how negativity got deep down as it was a poison.. For about 5 minutes I kept thinking about it, focusing on what happened, ready to judge and become frustrated. Then I just told myself to stop and reached out to my computer where already was an open tab with addcited2success. I printed a fresh copy of your latest article and dived deep into it. Reading calmed down my wandering mind and I’ve found advice I was so grateful to get, right on time when I was asking for it.

    Understand your connection to the Universe. Change your response from negative into default one. Just do the switch. I was so obsessed with that event that turned myself into negative state of mind. What I put out into the world get straight back at me. For the whole day I was thinking that negative way and got exactly what I was ‘asking’ for..

    I have changed my thoughts immediately and after just few minutes started feel better. Amzaing! Simple thing I actually quite aware of, but still, for some reason, leave behind so often. You basically saved my evening, Tim, as I’ve spent the rest of my work hours in a good mood and got home in a chilled state of mind. How grateful I am for everything you’ve done, and you still full of surprises, fresh ideas and never-ending energy! Keep on going, my friend and thank you so very much 🙂

    The whole article is powerful, I already read it twice and left a copy on my desk for my co-workers.

    • Tim Denning

      Mar 11, 2016 at 11:59 pm

      Toño you are starting to master your mind better than anyone I know. I have shared your thank you note with my Facebook friends. All of us have these days, but it’s how you come back from the low’s that counts.

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5 Simple Mental Tricks to Help Leaders Deal With a Heavy Workload

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Entrepreneurs and other business owners put in a lot of work. In fact, many entrepreneurs report spending over 60 hours a week (or more than 12 hours each day) working on their business. These hours are busy — no extended breaks for browsing Facebook or watching funny YouTube videos. Becoming a successful entrepreneur requires a lot of work, and a lot of learning. Of course, having such a heavy workload and so many responsibilities can quickly become overwhelming.

So how do successful business owners manage? A lot of it comes down to the right mental practices. By working smarter, not harder, leaders can effectively manage even the most seemingly insurmountable workloads and achieve their company goals.

Here’s a closer look at the mental practices you can apply to better manage your responsibilities:

1. Stop Multitasking

When you have a lot of work on your plate, it can be tempting to switch back and forth between projects so you can make progress on each one. But this is actually one of the worst things you can do for your productivity. Research has consistently found that multitasking actually slows down your work, rather than speeding it up.

According to the American Psychological Association, “Although switch costs may be relatively small, sometimes just a few tenths of a second per switch, they can add up to large amounts when people switch repeatedly back and forth between tasks. Thus, multitasking may seem efficient on the surface but may actually take more time in the end and involve more error … even brief mental blocks created by shifting between tasks can cost as much as 40 percent of someone’s productive time.”

“The key is not to prioritise what’s on your schedule, but to schedule your priorities.” – Stephen Covey

2. Start Your Day With the Hardest Tasks

Each task and responsibility you’re faced with will have varying degrees of difficulty and time commitment. It’s all too easy to save the hardest tasks for last, but if you wish to maximize your productivity and get through your workload, you should actually start with the tougher challenges.

Many of the most successful entrepreneurs take care of their toughest tasks first thing in the morning. For one thing, most of us have more energy when we first start the workday. The later in the day it gets, the harder it becomes to maintain that same drive and focus, making it all too easy to procrastinate. Knocking out a hard assignment early in the day also brings a sense of accomplishment, which can provide additional energy for powering through future tasks.

3. Know Your Limits

While hard work is essential for entrepreneurial success, you don’t want to run the risk of burnout. Continually pushing yourself beyond your boundaries can cause chronic exhaustion, anxiety, relationship problems and even heart disease.

“Everyone has different limits,” notes Jason Bliss, co-founder of Healthy Living Network. “As a serial entrepreneur myself, I’ve seen far too many people overwork themselves to the point of exhaustion, thinking it will help them succeed. In reality, overwork usually makes their results worse, not better. Learning the warning signs of burnout has helped me know when to step back — even for a short break — so I can come back later when I’m feeling refreshed.”

4. Plan Out Your Day

Knowing which task you want to start your day with isn’t enough — you also need to plan out the rest of the day. Catherine Adenle recommends “breaking your day into sessions, of maybe two or three hours. Take regular walk breaks after each session. First thing in the morning, when you get to the office, begin your day with a plan and assign tasks to each session.”

By dividing your day into more manageable chunks and planning corresponding activities, your workload won’t feel as overwhelming. You’ll be more likely to stay on track with everything that needs to get done. For best results, organize tasks based on urgency, deadline and the time they’ll take to complete.

“Plan your work for today and every day, then work your plan.” – Margaret Thatcher

5. Understand Proper Delegation

As a business leader, you have a significant resource that few others enjoy: a support staff that can assist you with your responsibilities. Asking for help or delegating tasks can help you maintain focus on the activities that matter most for your business. Though you should be mindful of your employees’ pre-existing workloads and clearly communicate project expectations, delegation can significantly improve company productivity.

The problem, however, is that many leaders are reluctant to delegate. They worry about employees’ abilities to complete a task, or feel they could handle the work quicker and more effectively on their own. It is essential that you develop the humility needed to delegate to your staff.

Research from Gallup has found that employers who delegate, effectively experience significantly higher growth than their competition. By leveraging employee strengths to lessen your load, you can enjoy major improvements to your bottom line.

Adapting the way you approach your workload will require a fair amount of effort. There may even be some failures and setbacks as you change how you manage your work. But if you wish to obtain lasting success, few things will be more important than improving your mental approach. By implementing these tactics, you’ll be able to work more effectively and achieve higher-quality outcomes.

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Positivity & Self-Ownership: Your #1 Factor for Success

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Leaving a reliable 9-5 job and risking a steady, biweekly paycheck to live out a dream and pursue a totally different lifestyle can be terrifying. However, there is no reason to fear, aspiring entrepreneur!

All successful entrepreneurs understand a few simple principles that enable them to achieve their goals, including how positivity along with taking ownership and accountability for your attitude, actions, and outcomes play a major role in your success.

The Power of Positivity

Never underestimate the power of positivity. Thinking positive thoughts, embodying a positive and healthy lifestyle, and reciting positive affirmations everyday enable you to tap into a higher level of your subconscious.

This is in line with the law of attraction, which says we attract into our lives what we manifest and put our energy into. You attract the energy that you put out into the universe, so the more positivity you put out, the more positivity comes back.

Here are some examples of positive affirmations that are meant to promote success:

  • I have the power to create change.
  • I refuse to give up because I will succeed.
  • I deserve the best and I accept everything that has happened up until now.
  • I am unstoppable and I will achieve all of my goals.

Replace your “I can’t”s with “I can.” Replace your “I won’t”s with “I will.” Speak positive things into existence, and watch your life turn around and have those positive thoughts come about. When you make the effort to make a positive change, the universe will conspire to help you succeed.

What Does It Mean to Be Accountable?

Accountability means to take responsibility and accept ownership for your actions and decisions. This means that you are responsible for the fate of your business. Do you feel that things aren’t taking off as quickly as you originally hoped? Work harder. Not selling thousands of products? Sell harder. Don’t have enough clients? Conduct more cold outreach. Keep your word.

Set goals and intentions and follow through with them. Be responsible and hold accountability for your actions. When you accept responsibility for your actions, you’ll feel rewarded when things work out, and you’ll close more deals, sell more products, and your dreams will come true.

“The price of greatness is responsibility.” –  Winston Churchill

What It Means to Take Control of Your Life & Business

In order to take control of your life and the fate of your business, you must understand your purpose in life and be willing to fulfill that purpose. It’s not enough to only desire a certain lifestyle.

You must stay true to what you really want to do in life. This means that you are mentally prepared to take on everything you need to in order to succeed. You follow strict self-set rules and guidelines that will help to keep you on track toward those dreams and goals. You don’t give up.

You keep going when things get tough, and you never see failure as an obstacle. You aren’t discouraged. You accept minor bumps in the road on the way to your destination, because you know you will ultimately reach your goal, and you won’t stop until you get there.

Here are three factors that personally helped me succeed:

1. Becoming more organized

Prior to organizing my tasks and goals, I was just flying by the seat of my pants and wondering why I wasn’t progressing at all. That’s because I didn’t have a set direction.

Becoming more organized helped me to prioritize what needed to get done in order to grow my business to the place where it’s at today.

2. Starting my off my day with positive affirmations

Positive affirmations are more powerful than you may believe. I started each day reading and reciting a quote that was positive and inspiring in nature, which exponentially increased my motivation and mentally prepared me to take on each day.

“Make each day your masterpiece.” – John Wooden

3. I developed long-term goals and stuck to them

Instead of working every day toward the unknown, I decided to set long-term goals. The kicker in helping me stick to these goals was creating smaller milestones that kept me on track and focused which gradually led me up to the ultimate goal.

Although I recognized that the ultimate achievement (of growing my business) was still at hand, my behavior was reinforced by a consistent sense of accomplishment upon completing these smaller goals.

If you are willing to stay focused, motivated, commit the time, effort, and energy toward reaching your goals, and you truly believe that you can and WILL achieve them, then there is nothing that will stop you in your path toward success.

As William Earnest Henley’s famous poem “Invictus” states, “I am the master of my fate, I am the captain of my soul.” You are the master of your fate and the captain of your soul. Once you wholeheartedly believe this, then you will harness your true power, unlock your full potential, and begin to live out your truth and reach the level of success you’ve always dreamed of.

What is success to you? Let us know in the comments below!

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The 3 P’s of Irresistible Leadership: Passion, Persistence, and Panache

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If any of you reading this have ever studied the theoretical underpinnings of leadership, you will have come across several theories such as the great man theory and charismatic leadership theory. Over the decades, leadership has evolved more from an art of telling people what to do to that of subtle influence, suggestion, and rendering by example.

In my new e-book “High-Octane Leadership: Pole Position Performance,” I mentioned that the goal of the manager is to create followers, but the goal of a leader is to create new leaders! This is a relatively new concept in leadership! There are many new and emerging micro theories of leadership that can be expounded upon and useful to individuals looking to assimilate a leadership style.

Here are the 3 P’s of irresistible leadership:

1. Passion

No great achievements, no illustrious undertakings, and no works of genius have ever occurred without the infusion of passion. Passion creates connections where none existed before.

Passion heightens the desire in the individuals who have opted to follow, and it has moved individuals forward toward a common vision. Leaders such as Steve Jobs, have to demonstrate a sense of passion in everything. Although his passion could be somewhat subdued, there is no doubt that when it came to any Apple products, he was the number one salesperson, champion, and evangelist.

“When you’re surrounded by people who share a passionate commitment around a common purpose, anything is possible.” – Howard Schultz

2. Persistence

For years when I was in direct sales, I had an 8.5 x 11 sheet with a cartoon on it hanging over my desk. It was a crane (that’s the bird, not the machine) who had a frog in his rather ample bill. However, the frog’s arms came out of the side of the crane’s mouth and were clutching the crane by the throat so that he (the crane) couldn’t swallow the frog. Underneath this caption where the words, “never, ever give up!

Leaders persist! They understand that there is always a way to solve the problem. Following this understanding, there must be subsequent action that follows, and this can lead to enthusiasm and optimism!

3. Panache

Leaders are self-confident people. They have systematically developed confidence over the years. In situations where they don’t feel confident, they make themselves feel confident. Confidence is learned. It’s a mental model and a cognitive mindset of how we approach problems.

Leaders understand and know that they will solve the problem before them; it’s not a matter of guessing, it’s a matter of knowing.

“Positivity, confidence, and persistence are key in life, so never give up on yourself.” – Khalid

If you buy the notion of passion, persistence, and panache as attributes of irresistible leadership, the question before us now turns on how do we develop those skills?

Here are a few behaviors that leaders use on a consistent basis to develop new skills:

  • Awareness – Great leaders and irresistible leaders always have their antennae up. They are always looking for ways to improve. They understand that self-improvement is a never-ending process to be embraced, even if the execution of the new behavior is difficult!
  • Repetition – Irresistible leaders practice their new skills. They will practice them in front of their subordinates, their family, and in front of themselves while staring at their face in a bathroom mirror! They understand the way to install a new habit of behavior is like with any habit, repeating it over and over again.
  • Feedback – Irresistible leaders are not afraid to ask how they are doing. And, they are not afraid to hear the answer. They understand that the best answer is that they are doing well but the next best answer is that they are not doing well, instead of not being told about their potential flaw. They understand that input in terms of behavioral awareness is one of the singular most important things one can attribute to leadership performance and style.

Try this: take an 8.5 x 11 sheet of paper and draw three columns. Atop each column write passion, persistence, and panache. On the left-hand side in the margin of the page, write awareness and 1/3 of the page down, write repetition, and then at the bottom one third the word feedback.

Writing solidifies thought, and it is that solid thought that motivates us into action. You will find yourself becoming more aware of opportunities to develop in each of the 3 P’s of irresistible leadership. Document them! Then jot down ideas down about how you can repeat those new behaviors. Finally solicit feedback and document what you’ve heard.

In the span of several weeks you will have developed new and exciting leadership attributes. Continue this new and exciting habit for other leadership development opportunities.

Which one of the 3 P’s do you need to work on most and why? Let us know in the comments below!

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It’s The 50 Things You Do Beforehand That Lead To Your Ultimate Success.

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Oh great, another tricky, dicky headline from that knob jock blogger Tim.”

That’s what you’re thinking, I know.

Well, I love sharing the truth and a lot of the time it doesn’t look pretty. There’s a vision we all have to do something incredible even if we don’t admit that publicly. Incredible, by the way, could just mean raising a family of beautiful children.

The thing is that not having the answers to what that end goal looks like is the best part. Let me explain.

Right now what you see is my blogging career. Before today there were 50 other things that look totally unrelated on the surface.

Here’s how I got to now:

  • Started out swimming as a child then quit
  • Played the flute and then quit
  • Joined a choir, then my voice broke, then I quit
  • Began playing drums then quit
  • Became a DJ then quit
  • Started producing other peoples music then quit
  • Became a successful entrepreneur then quit
  • Trained to be a fitness freak and then quit
  • Became a finance professional then quit
  • Mastered the world of tech and then partially quit
  • Wrote 400+ articles for a blog called Addicted2Success and didn’t quit
  • Published more than 500+ articles on Medium and didn’t quit
  • Published content on LinkedIn every day for a year and didn’t quit

Here’s my point: those last three dot points are what you see now but what you can’t see is everything that came before I started blogging.


Everything you do plays a part in the end result.

While singing in a choir might seem totally unrelated to blogging it’s not. Just like djing and swimming are not unrelated either.

Swimming taught me to overcome my fear of deep water.

Being in a choir taught me what it was like to be on stage in front of people.

Djing taught me artistry and creativity.

The 50 things I did prior that you didn’t see allowed me to do what you see me doing now in the form of blogging.

No matter what you start and stop in life, it will play a part in the 1–2 things that you end up being successful at and hopefully become known for.

Don’t discredit anything that transpires in your life. Every day is contributing something valuable to your future success even if it doesn’t look like it”


Not having the answers is what makes it fun.

If I could tell you right now how you’d get to your ultimate success, it would take away all the fun.

Never in a million years did I expect to become a blogger but here we are.

Getting here has been a load of fun and I still have no idea where this will all lead. Maybe, like Tim Ferriss, blogging could lead me to podcasting. I’ll never know if blogging is my ultimate version of success and that’s the best part.

All of us (including me) are just taking steps forward and learning as we go.

Quit trying to have all the answers because it’s not going to make any difference in the long run.

You can’t predict success all you can do is work your way towards it and earn it for yourself.


Don’t underestimate the ‘art of doing’

I’m obsessed with the doing because it’s the only thing I can control.

I’m reminded daily about the ‘art of doing’ by people who reach out and want to also be known for blogging.

Many of these wannabe bloggers write something but never publish it because it’s not perfect.

Then they finally get the courage to hit publish and the world doesn’t stop and notice their Harry Potter, chart-topping piece of writing. It’s an anti-climax for them which makes them spiral further down the black hole of disappointment.

What these wannabe bloggers underestimate (without sounding too cocky) is that if they repeated the habit of publishing something every day for a year that’d be able to see where blogging could lead.

Hitting publish once is not enough and the first time you do it, it will probably suck.

The only trick for the record that I’ve ever used to accelerate my success in blogging is hitting publish as often as I can and being disconnected from the result. JonWestenberg taught me this.

Even if you fail at something like blogging it will lead you to the next thing and the next thing and so on. Eventually, you’ll find what it is that lights you up and helps you to achieve your own version of success.

Nobody (including me) can predict what that one thing will be. My advice is the opposite of many people out there. Change around your hobbies/passions as much as you like.

Learn something from one field and then move on. While you experiment and switch paths, you’ll eventually find what you’re looking for. I hope you can see that to be true through the story I’ve just shared.

<<<>>>

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