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If your current reality is not something that excites you, then it is completely possible to flip it upside down and turn it into the most positive reality you could possibly imagine.

It’s easy to think that changing your reality is difficult, but I have learned that it really just takes one small change. One small thing could be the trigger point for your current reality to be flipped upside down assuming that you are receptive to such small triggers.

Why settle for a reality that doesn’t align with your vision or dream? You don’t have to. Never allow yourself to be disappointed with where you’re heading and don’t settle for less than you can be. Decide that you are going to be passionate about what you do and do something life-changing.

As you’ve heard me say many times before, you only get one crack at life, and you shouldn’t waste a single minute not being happy with your reality. It’s time to rise up!

Below are ten ways you can flip your current reality.

 

1. Decide to make a change

The first step is to do some self-reflection and ultimately decide that change is a must for you and your current reality will no longer suffice. Making a change is simple, deciding that change is a must and committing to it is the hard part.

To gain leverage on yourself and be able to come to the decision that you will no longer settle for your current reality takes guts. All of you have it in you, but only some of you have the willpower to crush your fears right now and battle your reality head on.

It’s okay if you’re not ready, but just don’t wait forever to decide that change is a must. Deciding to make the change is a matter of writing down the reasons why you have to change right now. It’s also about writing down why not making the changes is painful to you.

Pain will drive you more than anything so use it to your advantage, commit to change, accept there will be failure, stand up straight, and tackle your current reality head on! You can do it, and it’s what you have waited your entire life to do.

The time is now, and this article is going to be the seed of your new reality.

 

2. Change one belief

Don’t let yourself fall into the illusion of thinking that you need to change all of your beliefs overnight in order to flip your reality. Changing your reality requires small changes that are implemented over time.

For me, I only had to change one small belief to start with, which then led me to change my entire reality. So you’re probably asking yourself, “Tim what was that one belief you changed?” Simple, I created a new belief that says, “anything is possible!”

To this day, this belief still drives everything I do, and I go into every situation with a sense of certainty that anything is possible. A sense that one small thing like writing this article could lead to the most amazing event of my life that I could never have dreamed of.

I go into every situation believing that no matter how hard the task is, I can achieve greatness and overcome adversity. If you change one belief to start with, and it’s a big one like mine, you may find that you don’t even need to change any other beliefs for quite some time.

I would recommend, though, eventually doing away with your disempowering beliefs. They won’t serve you and they become a barrier to the current reality you are creating.

 

3. Become Aware

Humans have a habit of just walking around completely oblivious to the current moment and not aware what’s going on. When you begin to become aware of what you are doing each day and analyse your actions with a degree of non-judgement, you start to see your reality in a whole new way.

The best way to become aware is to either meditate or my favourite, start blogging / journaling. Through writing down your thoughts every day, you start to see with clarity what you repeatedly do. After a while, it’s then possible to make some decisions about how you want to change things.

To supercharge the writing down of your thoughts, the next best thing you can do is to share it through a talk or speech. When you begin telling others your thoughts, you get the chance to seek feedback and confirm that what you are thinking is what needs to change.

 

4. Understand your connection to the universe

Recently I have been watching lots of documentaries that prove without a shadow of a doubt that everything in our universe is connected. Just like the internet, our need for connection is engrained deep inside of us. It’s this need that is deep within our DNA and causes us to use social media.

Without going all hippy, the basic concept is quite simple; what you put out into the world comes straight back at you. If you want to change your reality, then you need to start putting things out into the universe that are positive.

You have the ability to attract negative and positive things into your life through the energy you create. So how I use this practically in my life is that when I am in the zone to do something that will have a negative effect, I stop for a minute, think, and have the default response of not going through with it.

In practice, a simple example would be the decision to yell at a fellow motorist if they cut me off. Rather than reaching for the horn like I used to, my default response is to do nothing and believe that the other person must have cut me off by mistake, or maybe to believe that they had a very good reason that I was not aware of.

Over time, I have expanded this scenario out to loads more real life examples such as; losing something, bad customer service, loud noises from other people, negative feedback about me, etc. If you want to turn your reality around then, it’s time to understand your connection with the universe and change your default answer of negative events to a non-reactive state.

 

5. Start with one kind act per day

To flip your current reality around you need to continuously do the same for other people through kind acts. The reason for this is that what you do for others is what will show up in your own life. Like all of the above examples, start small and then add a new kind act every few days.

I started this practice a few weeks ago with one simple act, which was opening doors for other people. I then added letting people in front of me while ordering food. Followed by this Saturday where I asked one homeless person if he was cold and offered to buy him a hot cup of tea or coffee.

I noticed after each kind act that another kind act would come back to me, or I would learn, or feel something new each time. As I did each act, I thought to myself, what if everyone just went and brought one other person a drink or piece of food each day?

What would that one kind act do? I think it’s pretty obvious: it would eliminate most of the issues we have in our society today. The reason for this is that it would change the way we treat each other. It would make us rethink about violence and point us in the direction of kindness.

One kind act of kindness can completely change your reality if you make it a must to do one each day.

 

6. Become a connector

The behaviour that will transform your reality the quickest is to become a connector. By connector, I simply mean the art of connecting people with other people. Every self-development test I have ever done has told me that my number one trait is connecting people.

As I began to use this trait more and more, I found my current reality change significantly. All I did was attempt to connect like-minded people as much as possible. This doesn’t mean you connect everyone to anyone; it just means that you become a matchmaker.

It’s not hard to do and involves looking for common themes amongst people. Connect writers with each other, connect people that share the same hobby, connect a sick person to a great medical person. This one act has seen loads of nice things come back my way.

The key is that when loads of nice things come back your way because of the connecting you are doing, give at least 50% of those nice things back out to your network. This will compound your results further and really transform your reality.

A practical example might be that you connect two people together and as thanks, you get given tickets to an event. Instead of going to that event yourself, consider who would enjoy that event even more than you. Imagine you got tickets to the football, think about who in your network is a crazy football fan and give it to them instead.

Again, connecting will change your reality three hundred and sixty degrees just the way it did for me.

 

7. Clear your head

Our head can be a real place of noise, but it’s also where we create our reality. Flipping your reality requires you to clear your head first, and there are a few ways to do this. For me, I find that a holiday to somewhere that has a beautiful natural environment is the best way.

Leave your phone and computer behind and just enjoy some fresh air and scenery for a few days. If you are looking for an easier way to clear your head without having to venture too far away then a hard workout at the gym or watching a really emotive movie like the Pursuit Of Happyness is a great way to clear your head.

When your mind is clear from all the noise of your job or business, it’s much easier to work towards changing your reality. Any change requires you to have some level of deep thought and for many of us, this is just not possible a lot of the time.

It’s good to work out a time when your mind is most clear. The weekend, for me, seems to be the best time to engage in a deeper level of thought. Changing my reality involved me trying very hard to understand what makes me happy.

Once I was clear about my happiness triggers, I then worked towards creating my new reality and documenting it on my laptop. Even if you are not 100% clear yet about what your new reality should be just write something down. Perfection is not the answer; the answer is action.

 

8. Absorb some new information

References help shape your reality in a big way. To be able to get yourself to believe that a new reality is possible and to dream one up, you need to absorb some new information. The best kind of new information I’ve consumed is documentaries or movies based around people who achieved factual, incredible and difficult tasks against all odds.

It’s also good to absorb new information by meeting some new people. When you meet someone new, and they start to fill you with positive information about things they have done in their life, you can begin to pull different aspects into your own life.

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9. Adopt one new idea

Ideas these days are a dime a dozen. Everyone has one, and they are taken for granted. As silly as it sounds, one new idea can completely change your reality. The idea that flipped my current reality was the idea that giving back through blogging could open up opportunities.

It’s easy to believe that when you blog your articles are not meaningful or have no effect. And for me, that might be true, but what the blogging has done to change my reality is that it has created a perception of me to others which directly aligns with my dream reality.

Blogging has forced me to live by what I write each day and hold myself accountable to greatness. It motivates me to get up each day and to create some sort of legacy in the limited time that all of us humans have.

The articles I’ve written have formed a basis for how I want to shape my reality going forward. It has given me a platform to have a voice and achieve my ultimate purpose of inspiring the world. When the idea of blogging was presented to me, it would have been easy to ignore it and think that it was a waste of time.

Instead, I committed to trying it and finding a way to use it no matter what. When a new idea is presented to you, it can only flip your reality if you are able to dream big enough that the idea you have been given can be something so much more.

This idea can only be an instigator of your success if you commit to it 100% and spend every day working on it. Over time, the idea might completely change, but the original idea will be the trigger point for the eventual outcome.

“Your reality is shaped by the ideas you experiment with and commit to today”

 

10. Create one new habit

The final empowering tool you need in your toolbox is the seed of just one new habit. As with the idea concept mentioned previously, a new habit will give you something to work on each day that is directly aligned with your future reality.

The habit I decided to practice when I flipped my own reality was to have more energy. While this might seem like a pretty random habit that is very broad, it eventually led into multiple other habits that form the basis of my current daily routine.

When you change just one habit, your mind commits to shaping your reality just a little bit differently to the previous day. Don’t make the mistake of trying to change lots of habits all at once otherwise, you will overwhelm yourself entirely.

Flipping your reality is all about the small steps you take every day to improve your situation. If we diagnose what small steps are, they are really two things; the daily action we take and the habits that we have. Change just one habit and you will definitely flip your reality upside down.

How have you flipped your own reality? Let me know in the comments section below or on my Facebook or Twitter pages.

Tim is best known as a long-time contributor on Addicted2Success. Tim's content has been shared hundreds of thousands of times and he has written multiple viral posts all around success, personal development, motivation, and entrepreneurship. During the day Tim works with the most iconic tech companies in the world, as an adviser, to assist them in expanding into Australia. By night, Tim coaches his students on the principles of personal development and the fundamentals of entrepreneurship. You can connect with Tim through his website www.timdenning.net

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  1. Toño

    Mar 12, 2016 at 4:42 am

    This is the highest compliment I’ve ever received, Tim, I appreciate it very much. Your support and connection means a lot, I feel how I started to believe in myself more, even though still so much work and things to learn to actually master my mind and improve my life.

    Happy Saturday for you and everyone around (it may be already evening for, but still), thank you so much for inspiring the world and following your calling. If I somehow can give something back to you or help with anything, please let me know.

    • Tim Denning

      Mar 12, 2016 at 8:18 am

      Thanks Toño. Connect with me on Twitter or Facebook so I can stay in touch.

  2. Toño

    Mar 10, 2016 at 6:46 pm

    It was a slow day at work that turned into non-pleasant event. I reacted exactly the same, feeling how negativity got deep down as it was a poison.. For about 5 minutes I kept thinking about it, focusing on what happened, ready to judge and become frustrated. Then I just told myself to stop and reached out to my computer where already was an open tab with addcited2success. I printed a fresh copy of your latest article and dived deep into it. Reading calmed down my wandering mind and I’ve found advice I was so grateful to get, right on time when I was asking for it.

    Understand your connection to the Universe. Change your response from negative into default one. Just do the switch. I was so obsessed with that event that turned myself into negative state of mind. What I put out into the world get straight back at me. For the whole day I was thinking that negative way and got exactly what I was ‘asking’ for..

    I have changed my thoughts immediately and after just few minutes started feel better. Amzaing! Simple thing I actually quite aware of, but still, for some reason, leave behind so often. You basically saved my evening, Tim, as I’ve spent the rest of my work hours in a good mood and got home in a chilled state of mind. How grateful I am for everything you’ve done, and you still full of surprises, fresh ideas and never-ending energy! Keep on going, my friend and thank you so very much 🙂

    The whole article is powerful, I already read it twice and left a copy on my desk for my co-workers.

    • Tim Denning

      Mar 11, 2016 at 11:59 pm

      Toño you are starting to master your mind better than anyone I know. I have shared your thank you note with my Facebook friends. All of us have these days, but it’s how you come back from the low’s that counts.

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How to Use the “Small Victories” Method to Avoid Burning Out

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Have you had a goal you begin to work toward only to run out of steam? Do you know what you need to do to get to where you want to be, but the necessary work feels overwhelming? “Small Victories” is the method to eliminate procrastination, dramatically increase productivity, and to make every part of the process not just bearable, but fun.

The journey from novice to rockstar is filled with a thousand small victories. Each victory increases your skill, your confidence, your positive expectation, and is ultimately the only way to really do something truly great.

Imagine you have a band in which everything was fun- fun to practice, fun to get together and create. The first victory was writing your first song. Afterwards, some friends come to watch you practice, and they cheer you on giving you another boost. Then you play your first show, do your first band photoshoot, and create a band website. After all this hard work, you record your first song as a band, have your first major show, your first tour, and develop the best thing so far which are your first true fans.

Each victory gives you the energy to get to the next victory

If you told the kid, it was going to take ten years of work to get to the end goal, without celebrating the small important victories in between, it would be illogical for any human to hunker down and work 10 years to get there. So how is this relevant? When starting a business or following your dream, incentivizing yourself with small victories will make you far more likely to make you continue on to your end goal. Without it, your willpower only lasts so long.

The small victories are the positive fuel to make it to the next milestone. You create small victories by finding a way to interact with people as a way to have an impact even if it’s small. For example, when people try to start businesses, often they try to get everything together before selling their first product. It could be months or years of work before they are at the level of their competition.

I am a series of small victories and large defeats and I am as amazed as any other that I have gotten from there to here. Charles Bukowski

Say you’re creating a bakery, it could be a year before anyone tried your first baked good if you go the traditional brick and mortar route without any small victories. This comes with great financial cost and energy. You also lose out on the opportunity to improve your craft, your products, your image and your connections with others who can take your business to greater heights.

However, if you go with the method of small victories instead, you would start by creating a cult following amongst friends and family with your decadent treats. Next, you would bake them at home and sell them at local events, farmers markets, and maybe even at local businesses. This can give you the opportunity to create a strong local and social media following well before the opening of your first actual store.

Work and effort without small victories lead to burnout

We need to build rewards along the way into our endeavors, because this provides encouragement to keep going. Each moment is a separate gift, an experience where something was fulfilled, where something was accomplished, no matter how small, and being a recluse until the grand unveiling will have so many missed opportunities along the way.

Small victories are also an opportunity to develop your skills, get feedback – positive or constructive – and considerably increase opportunities. Small victories increase your credibility by showing a track record and the trajectory you’re on by increasing your ability to attract investors and partners.

“Success is rarely the result of one swell swoop, but more often the culmination of many, many small victories.” – Joseph M. Marshall III

The idea of celebrating small victories can be applied to any subject. In weight loss, for instance, seeing pounds melt away will give you the positive mindset to continue and even improve the choices you make to enhance your physique. Sharing your success with others will bring in the element of positive encouragement. It can also motivate others to come with you on the journey. Your small victories can inspire others to start their own journey.

What small victory did you achieve today which will bring you a step closer to your goals? Let us know below!

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Setting Up Your Mindset to Win: How to Achieve Success in Your Life and Career

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How did Usain Bolt become so successful? He seems superhuman, doesn’t he? Richard Branson, Steve Jobs, Paul Bocuse… all these people have something special in them. They became the stars in their niche. Have you ever wondered why? No, they do not have any superhuman capacity. They are simple people, just like you and I. They, too, had flaws. Their mindset, however, is what set them apart. If you want to win in your career and in life, generally, you need the mindset of a winner. You have to think like a true champion, so you’ll overcome your flaws and emphasize your strengths.

So how do you set the mindset to win? Here are 5 suggestions to get you started:

1. When You Can’t Achieve a Goal, Get Help

Have you heard of Paul Bocuse? He was one of the most famous chefs of his time, and he was named as the chef of the century. This is a good example of the point we’re about to make. Even the best are not almighty, they have to learn from someone. Paul Bocuse learned from another famous chef. He constantly worked to improve his skills and he learned along the way.

The lesson is: you cannot do everything on your own. This is the first thing you have to do: learn and find the right person to learn from. Are there any books by the champions of your chosen niche? Get them and read them. Can you get a mentor? Of course, you can! Start connecting with people on LinkedIn. Your alumni network is a great source of mentorship opportunities, too. Don’t be afraid to reach out and say that you want to learn from someone.   

“Don’t let the fear of losing be greater than the excitement of winning.” – Robert Kiyosaki

2. Work on Your Resilience

Here’s the most important life lesson you’ll ever learn: things don’t always go as expected. When you strive towards a particular goal, the chances of failure are real. When Usain Bolt started training, he wasn’t the fastest man on Earth. He worked towards that goal and he was resilient enough to go through all the obstacles he faced. We couldn’t possibly assume that such success came easily for him.

The journey towards a successful life is not a straight line, it’s a bumpy road full of difficulties and setbacks. The average person would give up along the way, but a champion would stay resilient. It’s the mindset that makes a true difference. The good news is that the more obstacles you overcome, the more resilient you become.

3. Focus

What do you want in your career and in your life? This is not something that can go with the flow. You cannot simply live your life one random day after another and expect great things to come your way. You have to focus on particular goals and work your way up there.

Ken Chenault, CEO of American Express, has a nice tip for everyone who wants to become successful: “Dedicate yourself to a core set of values. Without them, you will never be able to find personal fulfillment, and you will never be able to lead effectively.”

Simple and straight to the point, right? So set your goals! Find that major goal you want to achieve and break it up into smaller achievements. Then, start accomplishing things on a daily basis. You need to devote your life to achieving that goal.

4. Be Bold

Steve Jobs wasn’t focused on getting an average job, achieving average results and living an average life. He had big dreams and bold goals. All successful people have something in common at the starting point, a bold dream. Being afraid to dream big is a huge mistake. Set your imagination free! What’s the biggest thing you’d like to achieve? If you believe in yourself and you start working towards that goal one day after another, you’ll unlock your true potential. You’ll realize that not many things are impossible. You can achieve much more than you believe you’re capable of.

“If you really look closely, most overnight successes took a long time.” – Steve Jobs

5. If You Fall, Get Back Up

Have you ever wondered why Richard Branson became so successful? The answer is simple: never gave up, no matter what hardships he faced. His first company didn’t make money. The test flight of Virgin Atlantic Airlines almost crashed because of a flock of birds. Virgin Cola, his soda company, failed miserably. He almost got himself killed during his trip around the world. Richard Branson has done many things, but do you know what he never did? Give up. No matter how serious the failure was, he always found the strength to get back up on his feet and carry on with life. That’s the mindset of a champion!

Never allow yourself to get disappointed from failure. Do not fall back into average just because your big dream doesn’t seem to be working. Failure is not a big deal. It’s just part of the journey, and everyone has to face it. If you carry on, you’ll find success along the way.

So you want to be a champion? You better start working towards that goal without wasting any time. The first step is changing your mindset. Hopefully, the tips above inspired you to do that.

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3 Important Principles You Need to Know That All Billionaires Have in Common

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I’ve always been highly interested in the similarities amongst the world’s wealthiest. Their habits, successes, mindset, and failures have fascinated me. The journey to great prosperity can seem overwhelming, but if you apply success principles to any endeavor you can quickly and efficiently overcome challenges and expand.

Michael J. Gabrielli, founder of WeRunAds, has spent hundreds of hours and tens of thousands of dollars studying billionaires and their habits. Michael has also studied over 2000 different billionaires and from this experience he’s found three principles they all had in common.

Here are the 3 principles the billionaires all had in common:

1. Be in a rapid growth industry at the right time

Timing is so important. Billionaires know when the time is right to enter a market. Most billionaires do not enter first or second into a market because of the inherent risks involved. Many billionaires let the pioneers pave the way and then leverage the knowledge gained to innovate and optimize in order to create something that works.

The key is to find an industry that is soon to take off. Stepping in at the right time is important. Let’s take a real life example that is known all too well– the founder and CEO of Facebook, Mark Zuckerberg. When he entered the scene, the idea of a social network was moderately known, but it was still not quite predicted to be the monster it is today.

Others like Friendster, Myspace, etc. had made some headway into this fledgeling industry and then Facebook entered leveraging the knowledge and expertise gained from the early pioneers. Zuckerberg saw the huge potential of social networking, took what was done previously and made it better.

He is presently worth over $66 Billion and the company has surpassed the 2 billion users mark with 1.4 billion using the platform daily. Not surprisingly, many billionaires were not the first to pioneer the industry they would later find success in. They came in at the right moment, learned from the mistakes and triumphs of their predecessors, and made a lasting final product.

Here’s a practical 3 question exercise you can do to judge if you have the right timing with your current venture:

  1. Look at your industry and say—is this brand new?
  2. Am I trying to invent something that doesn’t exist?
  3. Am I too late to the party?

2. Position yourself better

In addition to finding the right industry and getting in at the right time, billionaires position themselves in the best way. They provide the solution to the need and they think outside the box to do it. Optimal positioning is a commonality amongst billionaires. For example, during the California Gold Rush, people rushed to mine for the gold itself blinded by the promise of large profits.

However, it turned out that Sam Brannan had the better idea for how to position himself for success. He knew the chances of finding gold were risky, so instead he committed to a sure thing. He manufactured the tools that were needed by all the miners to mine gold. As each new miner migrated West, they were happily met by Brannan and his company who were ready and waiting to sell these new hopefuls the shovels and tools they’d need to strike it rich.

Digging for gold seemed to be the most profitable route, however, greater returns were yielded in the supplying of materials required to mine for gold! A good company that also illustrates this concept is Microsoft. They did not seek to create their own computer, but the software that computers would run on. Most people mistakenly think they have to “go for the gold” to attain wealth, but it’s evident in history that selling the necessary tools to the gold miners can be far more profitable.

The two questions you need to ask yourself to see how you could position yourself correctly are, “What industries will need the supplies that I could provide? And, “Am I following the trend instead of innovating?

“Big shots are only little shots that keep shooting. I can see your sun rise out of obscurity. Keep shooting” – Ikechukwu Joseph

3. Take calculated risks

Most people choose the safe bet that is secure, however, this is not common among billionaires. Billionaires take big calculated risks in order to propel themselves to higher levels of influence and success. The most important thing to note here is that while to others the risks seem big—to billionaires, they are calculated.Risk and Calculated Risk are not the same. Calculated risk is measured and well-thought-out. Risk is impulsive and immeasurable. Understanding the difference between the two is a commonality among billionaires. The world’s most prominent figures have at some point in their lives disagreed with the ordinary and took a shot at the unknown. Proper calculation and clever thinking certainly accompanied the bold moves they made in their careers.

Howard Schultz, the CEO of Starbucks, is a great example of this. He had grown up in poverty and made his way out to earn a comfortable wage as an executive at a company that manufactured coffeemakers.

“Risk more than others think safe.” – Howard Schultz

He risked it all when he discovered a small coffee shop named “Starbucks” in Seattle that prompted him to quit his job and step out to create a company that was inspired by the Italian coffee culture and personal relationship people could have with their coffee.

Of the 242 people he spoke to, 217 said no to investing with him. Despite the discouragement, lack of agreement, and investment, Schultz kept pushing on. Fast forward to present time, and Starbucks’ is a massive success. Strong intuition and unshakeable belief is common among high achievers. Many successful billionaires risked their safe jobs, personal assets, and even their reputation to take calculated risks that they knew would pay off huge in the end.

The questions you need to ask yourself now are, “where can I take a calculated risk? Am I holding back when I should be going forward? What tangible steps can I take today to move forward?”

These 3 success principles are staple elements that are common among many billionaires. Now, there are more principles that you must discover and implement in order to become a billionaire. Work diligently and do all that can be done each day. Be inquisitive and study those that you wish to emulate.

Which one of these principles do you need to work on more this year? Let us know in the comments below!

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One Question You Must Answer to Ensure Personal Success

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I don’t believe in quick fixes, in get-rich-quick schemes, or any other system that guarantees instant success with only a modicum of effort. But, I do believe it’s possible to condense great strings of logical thought and intellectual algorithms into basics. I like to keep things simple! Many of my clients love the fact that I don’t overly complete things, and frankly, so do I! I like to ask simple questions whose answers can be had quickly but require some focus in obtaining the outcome.

Here’s the question I always ask: What is standing between your current reality (where you are now) and your ultimate vision (where you want to be)? Are the impediments psychological, physical, emotional or some other reason?

Until you answer what is causing the difference between your AS IS and your SHOULD BE, you will be stuck spinning your wheels in the mud and the muck of the former. This is an important question that requires a level of mental self-examination. And the answer to this question may require a lifetime of introspection. It is an important question to answer because if you know where you want to go that provides direction but examining why you are not there yet can provide momentum. (In other words, by answering the question it may get you there faster!)

“Success is not final; failure is not fatal: It is the courage to continue that counts.” – Winston S. Churchill

It’s just like following a road map. A map is useless unless you know two things, where you are, and where you want to go. What might be stopping you (or at least slowing you down) from the ultimate destination of your passion and life’s fulfilment?

I’ve asked many people about this over the years and have heard these four reasons that keep people from moving forward.

1. Lack of vision

How do you plan to get there, if you don’t know where “there” is? The most difficult undertaking in the world is to sit quietly with a blank sheet of paper and chart out your life. I know, I have many blank sheets of paper to prove it. However, I also found out that it only takes one sheet, with a few well-crafted lines of thought to give you the direction you need. But you need to start!

2. Lack of goals

So, you know where you want to go, you just don’t know how to get there. The second hardest thing in the world is to have a sheet of paper with your ultimate destination on top, and the rest blank as you ask yourself, now what or how do I get to my vision? The process of functional decomposition means breaking down the larger process into steps that are both actionable and motivational. In other words, the steps are small enough to do and you remain motivated because they are so small.

“Successful people do what unsuccessful people are not willing to do. Don’t wish it were easier; wish you were better.” – Jim Rohn

3. You don’t believe you can get there

You want to, but there is a script running through your head telling you to go home, make some chicken soup and don’t leave the house until these foolish notions of greatness are gone. Think about it, your parents never did what you are trying to do, no one in your family has ever done it, you are far too old (or too young) to do that, you don’t have the right education…your rationalizing can go on for a lifetime! Here is my suggestion when it comes to running those self-deprecating scripts: STOP IT!

4. You are lazy

You won’t admit this to yourself, but perhaps you are just plain lazy. I’ve seen it so many times; individuals majoring in minors. Performing high fun, low payoff activities instead of the low fun, high payoff activities. (And, by the way, who ever said that a high payoff activity can’t be fun? There’s that darn script again.) As a species we are inclined to take the path of least resistance, but that path may not lead us to our vision, but you must admit, we are having a great time NOT moving toward our vision! Laziness is not “doing nothing.” It’s doing the wrong thing because that’s what you want to do, and, very often, we know it’s the wrong thing to do!

There you have the four possible things that might be holding you back from the realization of your vision. Are any of them hitting home? Answer this question before you move on:

What is standing between my current reality and my ultimate vision of success?

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How to Use the “Small Victories” Method to Avoid Burning Out

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Have you had a goal you begin to work toward only to run out of steam? Do you know what you need to do to get to where you want to be, but the necessary work feels overwhelming? “Small Victories” is the method to eliminate procrastination, dramatically increase productivity, and to make every part of the process not just bearable, but fun. (more…)

Zachariah Bourne is the Author of the upcoming book "Blissed Out". He’s a writer for Success Magazine and Huff Post and Co-Authors articles with Jacquelyn Denissoff. As a producer, songwriter and artist living in NYC, he uses music as a way to spread the message of positivity to the world. Follow him on Instagram or go check out his YouTube.

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  1. Toño

    Mar 12, 2016 at 4:42 am

    This is the highest compliment I’ve ever received, Tim, I appreciate it very much. Your support and connection means a lot, I feel how I started to believe in myself more, even though still so much work and things to learn to actually master my mind and improve my life.

    Happy Saturday for you and everyone around (it may be already evening for, but still), thank you so much for inspiring the world and following your calling. If I somehow can give something back to you or help with anything, please let me know.

    • Tim Denning

      Mar 12, 2016 at 8:18 am

      Thanks Toño. Connect with me on Twitter or Facebook so I can stay in touch.

  2. Toño

    Mar 10, 2016 at 6:46 pm

    It was a slow day at work that turned into non-pleasant event. I reacted exactly the same, feeling how negativity got deep down as it was a poison.. For about 5 minutes I kept thinking about it, focusing on what happened, ready to judge and become frustrated. Then I just told myself to stop and reached out to my computer where already was an open tab with addcited2success. I printed a fresh copy of your latest article and dived deep into it. Reading calmed down my wandering mind and I’ve found advice I was so grateful to get, right on time when I was asking for it.

    Understand your connection to the Universe. Change your response from negative into default one. Just do the switch. I was so obsessed with that event that turned myself into negative state of mind. What I put out into the world get straight back at me. For the whole day I was thinking that negative way and got exactly what I was ‘asking’ for..

    I have changed my thoughts immediately and after just few minutes started feel better. Amzaing! Simple thing I actually quite aware of, but still, for some reason, leave behind so often. You basically saved my evening, Tim, as I’ve spent the rest of my work hours in a good mood and got home in a chilled state of mind. How grateful I am for everything you’ve done, and you still full of surprises, fresh ideas and never-ending energy! Keep on going, my friend and thank you so very much 🙂

    The whole article is powerful, I already read it twice and left a copy on my desk for my co-workers.

    • Tim Denning

      Mar 11, 2016 at 11:59 pm

      Toño you are starting to master your mind better than anyone I know. I have shared your thank you note with my Facebook friends. All of us have these days, but it’s how you come back from the low’s that counts.

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How to Use the “Small Victories” Method to Avoid Burning Out

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Have you had a goal you begin to work toward only to run out of steam? Do you know what you need to do to get to where you want to be, but the necessary work feels overwhelming? “Small Victories” is the method to eliminate procrastination, dramatically increase productivity, and to make every part of the process not just bearable, but fun.

The journey from novice to rockstar is filled with a thousand small victories. Each victory increases your skill, your confidence, your positive expectation, and is ultimately the only way to really do something truly great.

Imagine you have a band in which everything was fun- fun to practice, fun to get together and create. The first victory was writing your first song. Afterwards, some friends come to watch you practice, and they cheer you on giving you another boost. Then you play your first show, do your first band photoshoot, and create a band website. After all this hard work, you record your first song as a band, have your first major show, your first tour, and develop the best thing so far which are your first true fans.

Each victory gives you the energy to get to the next victory

If you told the kid, it was going to take ten years of work to get to the end goal, without celebrating the small important victories in between, it would be illogical for any human to hunker down and work 10 years to get there. So how is this relevant? When starting a business or following your dream, incentivizing yourself with small victories will make you far more likely to make you continue on to your end goal. Without it, your willpower only lasts so long.

The small victories are the positive fuel to make it to the next milestone. You create small victories by finding a way to interact with people as a way to have an impact even if it’s small. For example, when people try to start businesses, often they try to get everything together before selling their first product. It could be months or years of work before they are at the level of their competition.

I am a series of small victories and large defeats and I am as amazed as any other that I have gotten from there to here. Charles Bukowski

Say you’re creating a bakery, it could be a year before anyone tried your first baked good if you go the traditional brick and mortar route without any small victories. This comes with great financial cost and energy. You also lose out on the opportunity to improve your craft, your products, your image and your connections with others who can take your business to greater heights.

However, if you go with the method of small victories instead, you would start by creating a cult following amongst friends and family with your decadent treats. Next, you would bake them at home and sell them at local events, farmers markets, and maybe even at local businesses. This can give you the opportunity to create a strong local and social media following well before the opening of your first actual store.

Work and effort without small victories lead to burnout

We need to build rewards along the way into our endeavors, because this provides encouragement to keep going. Each moment is a separate gift, an experience where something was fulfilled, where something was accomplished, no matter how small, and being a recluse until the grand unveiling will have so many missed opportunities along the way.

Small victories are also an opportunity to develop your skills, get feedback – positive or constructive – and considerably increase opportunities. Small victories increase your credibility by showing a track record and the trajectory you’re on by increasing your ability to attract investors and partners.

“Success is rarely the result of one swell swoop, but more often the culmination of many, many small victories.” – Joseph M. Marshall III

The idea of celebrating small victories can be applied to any subject. In weight loss, for instance, seeing pounds melt away will give you the positive mindset to continue and even improve the choices you make to enhance your physique. Sharing your success with others will bring in the element of positive encouragement. It can also motivate others to come with you on the journey. Your small victories can inspire others to start their own journey.

What small victory did you achieve today which will bring you a step closer to your goals? Let us know below!

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Setting Up Your Mindset to Win: How to Achieve Success in Your Life and Career

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How did Usain Bolt become so successful? He seems superhuman, doesn’t he? Richard Branson, Steve Jobs, Paul Bocuse… all these people have something special in them. They became the stars in their niche. Have you ever wondered why? No, they do not have any superhuman capacity. They are simple people, just like you and I. They, too, had flaws. Their mindset, however, is what set them apart. If you want to win in your career and in life, generally, you need the mindset of a winner. You have to think like a true champion, so you’ll overcome your flaws and emphasize your strengths.

So how do you set the mindset to win? Here are 5 suggestions to get you started:

1. When You Can’t Achieve a Goal, Get Help

Have you heard of Paul Bocuse? He was one of the most famous chefs of his time, and he was named as the chef of the century. This is a good example of the point we’re about to make. Even the best are not almighty, they have to learn from someone. Paul Bocuse learned from another famous chef. He constantly worked to improve his skills and he learned along the way.

The lesson is: you cannot do everything on your own. This is the first thing you have to do: learn and find the right person to learn from. Are there any books by the champions of your chosen niche? Get them and read them. Can you get a mentor? Of course, you can! Start connecting with people on LinkedIn. Your alumni network is a great source of mentorship opportunities, too. Don’t be afraid to reach out and say that you want to learn from someone.   

“Don’t let the fear of losing be greater than the excitement of winning.” – Robert Kiyosaki

2. Work on Your Resilience

Here’s the most important life lesson you’ll ever learn: things don’t always go as expected. When you strive towards a particular goal, the chances of failure are real. When Usain Bolt started training, he wasn’t the fastest man on Earth. He worked towards that goal and he was resilient enough to go through all the obstacles he faced. We couldn’t possibly assume that such success came easily for him.

The journey towards a successful life is not a straight line, it’s a bumpy road full of difficulties and setbacks. The average person would give up along the way, but a champion would stay resilient. It’s the mindset that makes a true difference. The good news is that the more obstacles you overcome, the more resilient you become.

3. Focus

What do you want in your career and in your life? This is not something that can go with the flow. You cannot simply live your life one random day after another and expect great things to come your way. You have to focus on particular goals and work your way up there.

Ken Chenault, CEO of American Express, has a nice tip for everyone who wants to become successful: “Dedicate yourself to a core set of values. Without them, you will never be able to find personal fulfillment, and you will never be able to lead effectively.”

Simple and straight to the point, right? So set your goals! Find that major goal you want to achieve and break it up into smaller achievements. Then, start accomplishing things on a daily basis. You need to devote your life to achieving that goal.

4. Be Bold

Steve Jobs wasn’t focused on getting an average job, achieving average results and living an average life. He had big dreams and bold goals. All successful people have something in common at the starting point, a bold dream. Being afraid to dream big is a huge mistake. Set your imagination free! What’s the biggest thing you’d like to achieve? If you believe in yourself and you start working towards that goal one day after another, you’ll unlock your true potential. You’ll realize that not many things are impossible. You can achieve much more than you believe you’re capable of.

“If you really look closely, most overnight successes took a long time.” – Steve Jobs

5. If You Fall, Get Back Up

Have you ever wondered why Richard Branson became so successful? The answer is simple: never gave up, no matter what hardships he faced. His first company didn’t make money. The test flight of Virgin Atlantic Airlines almost crashed because of a flock of birds. Virgin Cola, his soda company, failed miserably. He almost got himself killed during his trip around the world. Richard Branson has done many things, but do you know what he never did? Give up. No matter how serious the failure was, he always found the strength to get back up on his feet and carry on with life. That’s the mindset of a champion!

Never allow yourself to get disappointed from failure. Do not fall back into average just because your big dream doesn’t seem to be working. Failure is not a big deal. It’s just part of the journey, and everyone has to face it. If you carry on, you’ll find success along the way.

So you want to be a champion? You better start working towards that goal without wasting any time. The first step is changing your mindset. Hopefully, the tips above inspired you to do that.

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3 Important Principles You Need to Know That All Billionaires Have in Common

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I’ve always been highly interested in the similarities amongst the world’s wealthiest. Their habits, successes, mindset, and failures have fascinated me. The journey to great prosperity can seem overwhelming, but if you apply success principles to any endeavor you can quickly and efficiently overcome challenges and expand.

Michael J. Gabrielli, founder of WeRunAds, has spent hundreds of hours and tens of thousands of dollars studying billionaires and their habits. Michael has also studied over 2000 different billionaires and from this experience he’s found three principles they all had in common.

Here are the 3 principles the billionaires all had in common:

1. Be in a rapid growth industry at the right time

Timing is so important. Billionaires know when the time is right to enter a market. Most billionaires do not enter first or second into a market because of the inherent risks involved. Many billionaires let the pioneers pave the way and then leverage the knowledge gained to innovate and optimize in order to create something that works.

The key is to find an industry that is soon to take off. Stepping in at the right time is important. Let’s take a real life example that is known all too well– the founder and CEO of Facebook, Mark Zuckerberg. When he entered the scene, the idea of a social network was moderately known, but it was still not quite predicted to be the monster it is today.

Others like Friendster, Myspace, etc. had made some headway into this fledgeling industry and then Facebook entered leveraging the knowledge and expertise gained from the early pioneers. Zuckerberg saw the huge potential of social networking, took what was done previously and made it better.

He is presently worth over $66 Billion and the company has surpassed the 2 billion users mark with 1.4 billion using the platform daily. Not surprisingly, many billionaires were not the first to pioneer the industry they would later find success in. They came in at the right moment, learned from the mistakes and triumphs of their predecessors, and made a lasting final product.

Here’s a practical 3 question exercise you can do to judge if you have the right timing with your current venture:

  1. Look at your industry and say—is this brand new?
  2. Am I trying to invent something that doesn’t exist?
  3. Am I too late to the party?

2. Position yourself better

In addition to finding the right industry and getting in at the right time, billionaires position themselves in the best way. They provide the solution to the need and they think outside the box to do it. Optimal positioning is a commonality amongst billionaires. For example, during the California Gold Rush, people rushed to mine for the gold itself blinded by the promise of large profits.

However, it turned out that Sam Brannan had the better idea for how to position himself for success. He knew the chances of finding gold were risky, so instead he committed to a sure thing. He manufactured the tools that were needed by all the miners to mine gold. As each new miner migrated West, they were happily met by Brannan and his company who were ready and waiting to sell these new hopefuls the shovels and tools they’d need to strike it rich.

Digging for gold seemed to be the most profitable route, however, greater returns were yielded in the supplying of materials required to mine for gold! A good company that also illustrates this concept is Microsoft. They did not seek to create their own computer, but the software that computers would run on. Most people mistakenly think they have to “go for the gold” to attain wealth, but it’s evident in history that selling the necessary tools to the gold miners can be far more profitable.

The two questions you need to ask yourself to see how you could position yourself correctly are, “What industries will need the supplies that I could provide? And, “Am I following the trend instead of innovating?

“Big shots are only little shots that keep shooting. I can see your sun rise out of obscurity. Keep shooting” – Ikechukwu Joseph

3. Take calculated risks

Most people choose the safe bet that is secure, however, this is not common among billionaires. Billionaires take big calculated risks in order to propel themselves to higher levels of influence and success. The most important thing to note here is that while to others the risks seem big—to billionaires, they are calculated.Risk and Calculated Risk are not the same. Calculated risk is measured and well-thought-out. Risk is impulsive and immeasurable. Understanding the difference between the two is a commonality among billionaires. The world’s most prominent figures have at some point in their lives disagreed with the ordinary and took a shot at the unknown. Proper calculation and clever thinking certainly accompanied the bold moves they made in their careers.

Howard Schultz, the CEO of Starbucks, is a great example of this. He had grown up in poverty and made his way out to earn a comfortable wage as an executive at a company that manufactured coffeemakers.

“Risk more than others think safe.” – Howard Schultz

He risked it all when he discovered a small coffee shop named “Starbucks” in Seattle that prompted him to quit his job and step out to create a company that was inspired by the Italian coffee culture and personal relationship people could have with their coffee.

Of the 242 people he spoke to, 217 said no to investing with him. Despite the discouragement, lack of agreement, and investment, Schultz kept pushing on. Fast forward to present time, and Starbucks’ is a massive success. Strong intuition and unshakeable belief is common among high achievers. Many successful billionaires risked their safe jobs, personal assets, and even their reputation to take calculated risks that they knew would pay off huge in the end.

The questions you need to ask yourself now are, “where can I take a calculated risk? Am I holding back when I should be going forward? What tangible steps can I take today to move forward?”

These 3 success principles are staple elements that are common among many billionaires. Now, there are more principles that you must discover and implement in order to become a billionaire. Work diligently and do all that can be done each day. Be inquisitive and study those that you wish to emulate.

Which one of these principles do you need to work on more this year? Let us know in the comments below!

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One Question You Must Answer to Ensure Personal Success

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I don’t believe in quick fixes, in get-rich-quick schemes, or any other system that guarantees instant success with only a modicum of effort. But, I do believe it’s possible to condense great strings of logical thought and intellectual algorithms into basics. I like to keep things simple! Many of my clients love the fact that I don’t overly complete things, and frankly, so do I! I like to ask simple questions whose answers can be had quickly but require some focus in obtaining the outcome.

Here’s the question I always ask: What is standing between your current reality (where you are now) and your ultimate vision (where you want to be)? Are the impediments psychological, physical, emotional or some other reason?

Until you answer what is causing the difference between your AS IS and your SHOULD BE, you will be stuck spinning your wheels in the mud and the muck of the former. This is an important question that requires a level of mental self-examination. And the answer to this question may require a lifetime of introspection. It is an important question to answer because if you know where you want to go that provides direction but examining why you are not there yet can provide momentum. (In other words, by answering the question it may get you there faster!)

“Success is not final; failure is not fatal: It is the courage to continue that counts.” – Winston S. Churchill

It’s just like following a road map. A map is useless unless you know two things, where you are, and where you want to go. What might be stopping you (or at least slowing you down) from the ultimate destination of your passion and life’s fulfilment?

I’ve asked many people about this over the years and have heard these four reasons that keep people from moving forward.

1. Lack of vision

How do you plan to get there, if you don’t know where “there” is? The most difficult undertaking in the world is to sit quietly with a blank sheet of paper and chart out your life. I know, I have many blank sheets of paper to prove it. However, I also found out that it only takes one sheet, with a few well-crafted lines of thought to give you the direction you need. But you need to start!

2. Lack of goals

So, you know where you want to go, you just don’t know how to get there. The second hardest thing in the world is to have a sheet of paper with your ultimate destination on top, and the rest blank as you ask yourself, now what or how do I get to my vision? The process of functional decomposition means breaking down the larger process into steps that are both actionable and motivational. In other words, the steps are small enough to do and you remain motivated because they are so small.

“Successful people do what unsuccessful people are not willing to do. Don’t wish it were easier; wish you were better.” – Jim Rohn

3. You don’t believe you can get there

You want to, but there is a script running through your head telling you to go home, make some chicken soup and don’t leave the house until these foolish notions of greatness are gone. Think about it, your parents never did what you are trying to do, no one in your family has ever done it, you are far too old (or too young) to do that, you don’t have the right education…your rationalizing can go on for a lifetime! Here is my suggestion when it comes to running those self-deprecating scripts: STOP IT!

4. You are lazy

You won’t admit this to yourself, but perhaps you are just plain lazy. I’ve seen it so many times; individuals majoring in minors. Performing high fun, low payoff activities instead of the low fun, high payoff activities. (And, by the way, who ever said that a high payoff activity can’t be fun? There’s that darn script again.) As a species we are inclined to take the path of least resistance, but that path may not lead us to our vision, but you must admit, we are having a great time NOT moving toward our vision! Laziness is not “doing nothing.” It’s doing the wrong thing because that’s what you want to do, and, very often, we know it’s the wrong thing to do!

There you have the four possible things that might be holding you back from the realization of your vision. Are any of them hitting home? Answer this question before you move on:

What is standing between my current reality and my ultimate vision of success?

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