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How to Let Go of Perfection in the Age of Technology

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Perfection is something many of us absolutely love. We use different tools to plan, track, and organize our lives – whether it’s a calendar, smartwatch, or mobile app. When overused, despite their benefits, these tools can also drive our quest for perfection to overbearing heights.

Why you should lower your expectations of perfection

However much we think we’re in control, life has a funny way of taking charge on its own accord. When I was too attached to my tools and devices, and something didn’t go to plan, I would experience an unparalleled amount of stress.

This happened when I didn’t fulfil the tiniest of tasks. Whether it was filling out my calendar, charging my Fitbit, or logging my habits at the end of each day.

Why can’t you ever do things right” would be the statement that would replay in my mind, over and over. I’d mentally beat myself up for not being perfect. There was so much desire for order in my life (and not enough freedom), that when things deviated from the way I expected them to, I invariably fell into a hole of disappointment. My desire for perfection was imprisoning me, rather than freeing me.

“Have no fear of perfection – you’ll never reach it.” – Salvador Dali

Life never goes 100% according to plan

With that, I started regularly thinking about how I’m cultivating the sense of freedom in my life; tweaking my philosophy of perfection as I eliminated some of the dead-weight in my life.

After all, if I wasn’t able to accept the little mishaps in life, how would I ever be able to be truly happy, or to be truly strong when I was seriously challenged? I kept reminding myself that life will never turn out exactly the way I want it to. And that my obsessive drive to control every facet of my life was hindering me, rather than helping me flourish. It was disheartening to accept at first, but gradually I made my peace with it.

Reminding myself of that, made me less emotional or irrational when imperfections arose. I started to dance with not having control all the time, choosing instead to co-create with life – as opposed to doing things all on my accord. If a friend cancelled on me last minute, it was okay. If I didn’t remember to update my App today, that was fine too.

I embraced the unexpected news, small failures, and “happy” surprises. I realized that not having things not go to plan all the time, was actually, important for my growth. What happened as a result was a radical simplification of my life.

Apps were deleted. Documents I was held accountable for were made to vanish. I returned my smartwatch. And a list of daily habits that I had become obligated to accomplishing, significantly whittled down in size.

Instilling habits that Let go of our need for perfection

We can put in place principles that help us move away from our Type-A mindset of achievement; of this relentless drive towards order and perfection – which also manifests itself on a macro scale in the world we live in.

We need to learn to balance our ADD compulsiveness, so that we can have more freedom, not just for our benefit – but the benefit of those around us.  

Changing our philosophy towards perfection is the right step in the right direction, as is removing all the apps, tools, nooks and crannies that often just give us the illusion of making us more productive. But, we also benefit from actively participating in engendering play in our lives.

“The essence of being human is that one does not seek perfection.” – George Orwell

Maybe you can do this by not wearing your watch now and then, taking a day off of the computer once per week, or visiting a new town. Or perhaps you can plan a time in the week, where you regularly just draw for the sake of drawing.

When you balance the freedom and perfection in your life, you’ll experience more peace and emotional stability. Paradoxically, you’ll then be in a better position to experience a perfectly, imperfect life.

Do you suffer with the idea of perfectionism? Please leave your thoughts and experiences below!

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3 Ways to Take Better Care of Yourself and Live an Optimized Life

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The secret to happiness lies in the way you live your life. People think of happiness as some destination they’ll reach when they’ve accomplished the hundred things on their life to-do list. Happiness is often associated with money, material possessions, or even great relationships. (more…)

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These 7 Daily Resolutions Can Change Your Life

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We all strive to be better every day. Most of us want a new day to bring something new, and we plan for it as well. Of course, the execution is debatable as procrastination is real and it becomes an overwhelming feeling at times. Also, not to forget the customary practice of making resolutions on new year’s eve!  All of us are fascinated by the thought of preparing long lists of resolves to mark the beginning of a new year. Not sure how many people are able to translate these resolutions into functional realities. (more…)

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4 Reasons Why Content Is Pivotal For Mental Health Healing

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One of the most important things for an entrepreneur’s mental health is expressing their feelings, thoughts, and emotions. This is where content creation and writing becomes pivotal. Whether you read something that resonates with you or you write a compelling blog post, the act of expressing yourself through content can help to put a smile on your face and make you feel better about things.

Most entrepreneurs don’t spend as much time taking care of their mental health as they should. Over the course of your career, you will experience a lot of ups and downs; these emotions have the potential to take a toll on your mind and body if you don’t learn to manage them properly.

Here are four reasons why expression through content is pivotal for healing, slowing yourself down, and giving yourself grace when the going gets tough.

1. Content can be a form of self-expression

When you are an entrepreneur, you frequently face feelings of insecurity, doubt, fear, apathy, and exhaustion, just to name a few. Some days it feels like no one is on your business’s side and everyone else has it all figured out. On those days some of us try to look at our website’s analytics to cheer up. 

But an even more freeing task is creating content. You create content to improve your business and reach more people’s lives. But, there is something special that happens when you write with the intention of expressing your thoughts and feelings — you open a door to yourself. 

Content is inherently personal, which means content creators open themselves up when they share their thoughts on a platform. Everything from the title of the post, the keywords they choose to include, and even the content itself helps you to understand who the author of that post truly is. And as an entrepreneur, this can be an important experience because it allows others to empathize with you.

2. Self-reflection will lift you up

As you think through what to write about and how to express yourself, the process of self reflection is a valuable step you need to go through. You’re able to reflect on the blessings you have, assess what you learned from the negative experiences, and create a plan on how to maintain the positive experiences you’ve had. 

There are a few ways that self reflection can help you with mental health healing. The act of reflecting on your experiences helps to create clarity in feelings, thoughts and emotions which will eventually lead into acceptance for what has happened or is happening currently without feeling overwhelmed by it all. This process also leads people towards finding new things they enjoy doing. Self reflection is therapeutic and can be implemented anytime you feel the need to overcome overwhelm.

“Writing in a journal each day allows you to direct your focus to what you accomplished, what you’re grateful for and what you’re committed to doing better tomorrow. Thus, you more deeply enjoy your journey each day.” – Hal Elrod

3. A sense of belonging and camaraderie

It is important to have a support network of people who will listen and understand what you are going through. When you post a blog or upload a video on YouTube, there are others who feel the same way and experience a sense of connection with you.

When you put time, attention and thoughtfulness into your writing, it is amazing when someone reads what you’ve written and comments on it thanking you or expressing how they resonate with what you’re going through. It’s hard to put into words how powerful it feels when someone who has gone through the same experience and reads your words then reaches out.  There is power in expression but miracles happen when people bond over a similar experience.

4. Library of content to share with more people

It can be very difficult to know what content to share with people as the symptoms of mental health disorders (anxiety, depression, etc.) vary from person to person. But as you accumulate more and more content, this will increase the number of articles or videos available for readers to choose from depending on their specific purpose. It also builds your personal library of resources you’re able to share to different people you encounter or engage directly with.

As chaotic and distracting social media can be, it can also be a beacon of hope with the right content. Many people share viral posts, or content that interest them. Since your content is valuable and personal, the more you share it, the more likely it is to be shared with the right audience.

You never know who is watching (reading)

Your content is speaking to someone and even though they may not be actively engaged, their experiences with your work are impacting them. Think about the last time you watched TV: did everyone in the room have something entertaining to say? 

You never know who’s watching because there’s always somebody reading your posts or viewing your videos-even if they just skim through it briefly. This is why creating content worth consuming is critical, not only to get you out of your funk, but also to serve your audience.  Be authentic and stay true to yourself; make every post count as an opportunity for connection with your best self and for potential readers to bond with you.

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5 Ways To Invest In Yourself and Change Your Life

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Warren Buffett once said, the best investment you can ever make is in yourself. Time and money spent on bettering yourself are never considered a waste. Whether it’s through learning how to make money online, exploring new ways to increase your financial security, or watching TED talks to expand your knowledge. Do not be stingy when it comes to self-improvement because it will definitely pay off in the end. 

Need some ideas to get started on your journey to becoming a better you? Here are 5 ways to invest in yourself and transform your life. 

1. Change Your Self-Concept

Having a negative self-concept can have a tremendous impact on your life. Limiting beliefs and self-doubt are some of the main reasons why many never achieve or attempt to pursue their dreams. Take a moment and think about all the negative thoughts you have repeated to yourself throughout your life. How have these thoughts impacted the way you live life? From now on, create a new self-image by turning these negative thoughts into positive ones and appreciate your good qualities. 

2. Sign Up For An Online Course

If you’ve been wanting to brush up on your Photoshop skills or learn how to code professionally, this is the perfect time to get started. As long as you have a stable internet connection, you can access an endless amount of valuable information online. For example, sites like Coursera and Youtube are both awesome resources for online learning. With a few search strings and clicks, you can find all the information you need. 

“Investing in yourself is the best investment you can make. It will not only improve your life, it will improve the lives of all those around you.” – Robin Sharma

3. Learn From a Mentor

No matter which stage of your life you are currently in, working with a mentor can help you stay motivated and focused on your goals. Not only can they guide you in the right direction, but also transform your vision, provide you with new insights, and connect you with amazing resources. If you’re feeling unmotivated or unsure about what you want to do in life, consider finding a mentor to help you navigate this process. 

4. Start A Side Hustle

The salary from a 9-5 job would rarely allow you to reach your maximum income potential. Why not achieve financial success while pursuing your passion by starting a side hustle? Whether it’s through starting an ecommerce business, freelance writing on the side, or starting a Youtube channel. There are infinite numbers of ways to make money, and there is bound to be one out there that fits your passion and skills. 

5. Nourish Your Body

As many may say, “health is the new wealth”. Without a healthy and functioning body, living a fulfilling and comfortable life becomes difficult. To take care of your body and prioritize your wellbeing, start with small habits such as eating healthier foods and exercising regularly. Bike or walk to work instead of taking the car, and opt for a healthy protein bowl instead of greasy burgers at Burger King. With time, these small habits can make an incredible difference.

Check out the infographic below, to see more ways you can invest in yourself:

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