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3 Common Monsters That Are Killing Your Success

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It is highly unlikely that you would ever come across someone who doesn’t want to be successful. If everyone wants to be successful then why is it only few succeed? Success is a constant battle with monsters within. Monsters which do not allow you to achieve what you truly are capable of achieving.

If you do not kill the monster when it is small, the likelihood of these monsters growing bigger than you and become part of you and overpower your success is inevitable.   

So who is killing your success? Below, are 3 of the most common monsters that are killing your success:

Monster 1: Failing the success ECG test

Every time I meet a new client I just perform a quick Success ECG check and 5 minutes into the conversation, I know where they stand and how far they will be willing to go to achieve success in their life. To my surprise 90% of the them fail within 3 minutes.

When I check their ECG I mean, I am counting the number of Excuses one gives, how Comfortable have they become with the current circumstance and how without having a set Goal one is trying to chase the so called mirage of success.

The truth is, if you let excuses become part of your everyday life they kill your excitement and drain your energy to death.  When you become too comfortable you give your power away to all the other things which are not so important and you lose control on your life. In my observation, people who become comfortable are the ones who have become too complacent and  are unwilling to accept any challenge thrown at them.  

An individual without a goal is already on a lost path, traveling on an unknown path with no clue of what the destination is an ultimate path to failure.

Ask yourself this question: Have you allowed this monster to grow inside you? On a scale of 1 to 10 with 10 being highest, how big is this monster and has it killed your success?

“Excuses sound best to the people making them up” – Tyrese Gibson

Monster 2: The need to be accepted

One of the biggest reasons why people do not achieve what they are capable of, is because of their need to be accepted by everyone.  Conforming with society and following the dictated path instead of creating their own path has been the formula for many. To achieve acceptance, many kill their true self and create an identity which is shallow.

This shallow self creates shallow success. Some call it masks and some call it the “social norm” but the truth is the monster of needing to be accepted has killed your true identity and now you only conform with everyone.

As the monster grows bigger than you, you actually find yourself in a space of shallow success. Have you seen celebrities or sports stars who seem to have achieved great success but have actually lost their inner self and often such people end up committing suicide? That’s exactly what the monster of wanting to be accepted can do to you. Your need to impress will only kill your desire to express.

Ask yourself this question: Have you allowed this monster to grow inside you? On a scale of 1 to 10 and 10 being highest, how big is this monster and has it killed your success?

Monster 3: The seduced art of perfection

Perfection is a mysterious world some people choose to live in. Do you get driven by wanting everything to be perfect before you make your next move?  In my coaching sessions, I have seen individuals unwilling to start a business because they want the perfect moment or perfect plan in hand. Many do not want to get into a relationship believing the myth of a “perfect” partner and many more waiting for the right time to initiate something they think they want.

The truth is “perfection” keeps people from accepting the truth, even to themselves.  Most people’s desire to stay where they are instead of where they want to be is often mislead by the seduced art of wanting perfection. Perfection is the biggest monster that kills your progress.  Perfection is the string that pulls you towards mediocrity.

Ask yourself this question: Have you allowed this monster to grow inside you? On a scale of 1 to 10 and 10 being highest, how big is this monster and has it killed your success?

“Perfection is not attainable. But if we chase perfection, we can catch excellence.” – Vince Lombardi

The truth about success is, everyone wants it but not everyone is willing to work for it. Not everyone is willing to fight the monsters within us. As it is said everyone wants to be a diamond, but very few are willing to get cut. Today, you need to kill the monster that is killing your success.

What monsters are stopping you from being successful? Leave your thoughts below!

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Sharat Sharma, is an author of an upcoming book, Entrepreneur, a Speaker and a Performance Coach. He is a student of success and human potential. He loves writing and spreading happiness. Currently Sharat is on a mission to transform lives of a million people around him. He has been trained and mentored by global leaders like Les Brown, T Harv Eker, Blair Singer. You can connect with him on his Facebook and Twitter.

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How Your Friends Determine Whether You Succeed or Not

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Can anyone do without having friends? We all have our friends, we share ideas with them, talk together, have fun, and fight. Yes, that’s the baseline of friendship. But, do you know that aside from you, your friends can determine whether you achieve success or not?

There are two things in friendship which are the ability to ”love” and the ability to “influence”. This means you are loved and you are influenced. How do your friends affect your success in life? How are they one of the biggest deciding factors of your success? Let’s find out.

What type of friends do you keep? 

First, what type of friends do you keep? Who do you call your best friend? There are two different kinds of friends, good friends, and bad ones. A lot of people have lost their pathway to success and some have also found their road to success all because of the friends they keep, the people they mingle with. 

Who is your best friend? Answer carefully. Having a best friend means you find each other compatible and understanding. Analyze who your best friend is. If your best friend has not motivated you to do something positive, if who you call your bestie has never given you positive advice, lastly if your best friend has never informed and advised you on your shortcomings, then you don’t have a best friend.

This quote tells us “birds of the same feather flock together”. Countless people have changed from their good nature into a bad one all because of friends. One thing to note is, “negative people move with negative aura”. If your best friend is filled with negativity inside-out then you will surely be affected by his/her negative aura.

They influence your success with positivity or negativity 

The friends you keep can either influence you with positivity or negativity because your friends have the power to change your kind of person completely. 

This is how your friends influence you:

  1. They influence you indirectly with what they do
  2. They influence you directly by teaching and giving you advice 

Yes, that is how they influence you. For instance, you watch a movie and you like the way the actor walks. The question is if you truly like the way the actor walks, won’t you try to imitate the actor? Of course, you will.

Just the way you imitate the actor is the same way your friends can influence you with their character. However, the funny part is, they don’t have to teach you to do things like them. You just find yourself imitating and copying them gradually.

An important question to ask is, are you imitating a good friend or a bad one? If you imitate a good friend then you will be good, but if you imitate a bad person, you will surely become a bad person.

Everyone wants to succeed, a good friend will always teach, enlighten, and motivate you for success. A bad friend will only motivate you to do evil things (smoking, drinking, fight, envy,).

And you should know that things like that are a great enemy of success and even of God. So, if you have these bad elements in your life, how will you achieve success? There is no way!

And also, they can teach and advise you directly. But, what do your friends teach you? When you ask them for advice do they inspire you positively or teach you the bad stuff.? A lot of people have regretted lifelong decisions just by listening to the advice of friends. 

The company you keep has the power to influence and change you. Never forget that a positive influence will teach, motivate, and brush you up for success. While a negative influence will inspire you to become a bad person, change your good nature, and leave you with regrets in the end.

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The 3 Step Process to Building a Profitable Pitch

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As a communication coach, one of the top questions entrepreneurs ask me is how to deliver a winning pitch to potential investors. They want to know if there’s a magic formula to get an investor to say yes and buy into their dream and their business. (more…)

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The 4 Pillars of Wealth and Abundance

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Have you ever wondered what the formula for a wealthy and abundant life is? Many people have. Lots has been written about the subject of wealth creation and living an abundant life. It was a breaking point in my journey and pursuit of success when I found out that there is a clear path to achieve success in life. Thanks to those who have shared their journey, we can clearly see and follow the principles of prosperity. (more…)

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Here Are 4 Reasons Why You Should Have a Podcast, Youtube Channel or Online Show

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Confidence comes from a place of strong understanding of self. After close to three years on radio, I’ve grown from a shy introvert to a shy introvert with an extrovert persona. When the mic is turned on, I can channel a version of myself that some say is attractive, strong, and of course, confident but it wasn’t always this way.

What I want to share with you is what I discovered on this journey into broadcast that you can apply to your life, your ventures, and your personal development. This doesn’t require any fancy gear. It does require a leap of faith on your part because once you go down the road of media; it can change your life.

1. Perceived Expertise

When you go to a doctor, you expect their knowledge will guide them to a solution to your problems. When you have a show, you become your listeners’ doctor. For all the multiple thousands, maybe millions, of YouTube channels, podcasts, and user-created content in the world, each person that gets behind a mic takes a position on their passion, their opinions, and their themes.

They challenge the status quo for the benefit of their listeners in hopes to entertain and educate. With consistency on your side, those fans place you on a platform and give you permission to influence them.

2. Global Acknowledgement

One of the benefits to increasing confidence is when you receive thank you notes from people you may never meet. The feeling of enriching someone’s life from halfway around the globe, provides validation you’re enhancing someone else’s life with your wisdom and your wit.

The very first time I was told I was making a difference in someone’s life in a country other than my own, I felt like I caused massive impact that transcends my circle of influence. When you experience just how much you can cause impact and it comes back to you, it’ll change your worldview.

“Be grateful for what you have and stop complaining – it bores everybody else, does you no good, and doesn’t solve any problems.” – Zig Ziglar

3. Backed By Numbers

One of the most exciting ways to measure success is to quantify your growth. It’s not enough to just broadcast. Having subscribers and downloads helps to know, numerically, how well you’re doing. Word of caution. This can be a way to set yourself up for distress because of number envy but if you understand what the numbers mean; you can control the narrative of the numbers.

The major number that makes most people smile is 10,000. I’d advise it to be 1. Here’s why. As you grow in your industry, so does your reach. If you learned that the one person that subscribed totally changed for the better because of you, wouldn’t that be worth the effort?

4. Effective Communication

While it’s not talked about much, having a show is documentation. You create a dynamic account of your life, your industry, and the pulse on what’s important simply by having a show. When you find a channel to improve your communication skills, you demand attention and people will listen to you. You become more trusted as a leader and people will follow you once they believe you can lead them to their wants and needs.

“To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way we perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others.” – Tony Robbins

These insights have helped many people become leaders and, ultimately, move others to their best selves. It’s worked for me and I hope it works for you. At the end of the day, it’s all about showing up and showing out.

Have you ever thought about having a radio show? If so, what would you talk about? Let us below!

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