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5 Ways to Let Go of the Past for Good

Are you struggling to let go of your past? Without letting go of your previously lived conflicts, struggles, and doubts you are left reliving the past. You must bring clarity into your life to start living presently. The present moment is where the magic happens and if you are stuck in the past, moving forward seems incomprehensible.
Everyone has a story they identify with. It’s the attachment to that story that inhibits you. Facing your soul on a deep, honest level is a tough act to do. But it’s required if you want to see yourself take action in the present, without the burdens of your past constantly over your shoulder.
You are a completely different person from a second ago. The atoms, molecules, and cells that make up your body are in constant motion. Life is in a state of change, with or without you. You are not the same person you were even a second ago, let alone years.
Letting go of your past is how you take a stand in your life. With courage and heart, you are capable of doing the impossible. You can let go of the past, once and for all. Healing your mind heals your present, it’s a requirement if you wish to live a fulfilling life.
Below are the 5 ways to begin letting go of your past, for good:
1. Meditation
At the core of your suffering is attachment. Meditation is vital for understanding that “This Too Shall Pass”. Observing your thoughts and beliefs lets you see them from a different perspective.
You don’t need to become a monk sitting in a cave to benefit from meditation. Even 5-10 minutes a day can drastically improve your life. Meditation empowers you to be present with your past, forcing you to look deep inside the psyche.
Your past will linger in your subconscious if you are unable to let go. Meditation allows your subconscious thoughts to come to the surface, giving you a chance to come to terms with them. By witnessing the present moment through meditation you are automatically letting go of the past.
2. Mindfulness
Mindfulness is not meditation but one cannot exist without the other. Becoming mindful of your thoughts is how you become conscious of the conflicts within the mind. When your mind brings up your past leaving you in a battle, you can utilize mindfulness like so:
Let yourself be with the thought. See how it makes you feel, what emotions it brings up.
Ask yourself if this thought is you, right now, or if it is just a thought that is passing through. Try to be with the emotion as much as you can bear, that’s the key to letting the past go. If you get overwhelmed, feel free to take a break.
Meditation and mindfulness are not overnight solutions. They are incredibly impactful when used in conjunction with one another. Don’t expect to be cured in a day. With constant practice the impact they can have on your mental health is incredible.
3. Forgiveness
Forgive others even when they shouldn’t be forgiven. People we cross paths with can bring immense pain that lasts years. Whether it be friends, family, an ex, forgive them.
You aren’t forgiving them to help them, it’s to help yourself. Bottling up those negative emotions inside you has never been of any help. Letting anger fester is how you let the past control your present.
Forgive yourself as well. You may have made some mistakes, it doesn’t mean you need to live IN your mistakes. Life has changed and so have you, it’s a simple yet powerful way of letting go.
4. Acceptance
Conflict resides within us when we are in disagreement with reality. This disagreement is what latches onto our psyche. Acceptance is a deceptively simple practice that is often overlooked. What would your life look like if you were in acceptance of the present moment?
You wouldn’t have any internal conflicts, struggles, or doubts. There would only be the present moment left, letting you take charge of your life without anything holding you down. Freedom is found by accepting our past, who we are, and moving forward.
“When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be. When I let go of what I have, I receive what I need.” –Lao Tzu
5. Ask for Help
You don’t have to go through life alone. Some of my best releases in life was letting it all out and showing the emotions that were eating me alive. When someone is there to listen, it makes a difference.
If you don’t feel comfortable opening up to your family or friends, look into counseling. The stigma of therapy is long gone. Being able to open up to someone who isn’t involved in your life can be incredibly therapeutic.
It’s your chance to be honest not only with yourself but the person you are talking with. Our family and friends are there to support us just as we support them in times of need. You aren’t a burden even if you think so.
Be open to experiencing the negative emotions that your past brings up. By facing your soul head-on you are letting your emotions run their course. You won’t be haunted forever. You have all the tools needed to let go of your past. Give yourself time, you won’t be cured overnight. With dedication, though, you will find the relief you are looking for.
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5 Indicators of Unresolved Attachment Trauma

Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.
Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.
Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.
Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.
However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.
Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:
1. Unconscious Sabotage
Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.
This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.
Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.
This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.
3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma
4. A strong need for control
5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained
What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?
There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:
- Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
- Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
- Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
- Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
- Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.
It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.
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