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Follow These 5 Steps to Radically Transform Your Life

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I sat there on a frigid New Year’s Eve night and lost it. With tears streaming down my face, I realized it was time. Everything had to change, and I was living someone else’s life. That night, I made a promise to myself and detailed the vision deep within me —except there was one problem.

I had no idea “how” I was going to bring it to life. It didn’t make any sense, and yet the words flowed out of me with clarity and conviction. I didn’t know it at the time, but I was taking the leap of my life.

In working with others to make bold leaps into the unknown and listening to what they knew they had to do —I’ve found 5 crucial steps to help ensure your success. Because too often, we’ve let fear slowly take over. Until one day, we wake up and wonder where the time went and what could have been.

Check out the 5 steps below to help you take the leap of your life:

1. Radical Honesty

The first crucial step in taking your bold leap is radical honesty. Although it sounds simple, this is often forgotten in the personal development world. Why? Because radical honesty doesn’t always feel great —and involves facing the truth. But without this crucial step, there’s no chance our transformation will come to life.

On that New Year’s Eve night, I was able to get radically honest: I felt alone, disconnected, and as if I was on someone else’s path. I knew if I stayed in the same place, I’d wake up one day drenched in regret. Without this level of honesty, change would be impossible.

Ask yourself 2 questions: How do you really feel about where you are in life today? What do you really want and why? Once you’re clear on these two —it’s time to step into a powerful declaration and commitment.

2. Commit to Vision

The reason why so many visions fade and never come to life is a lack of commitment. It’s easy to be excited and inspired at the dance party seminar when you set the vision but what about when nothing is working and you want to quit?

This is what separates the committed from the dabblers, the purpose driven from the half hearted. Once you’ve gotten radically honest, you must now commit to your vision. Make no mistake, this won’t always be fun, and you’re going to want to quit over and over. But when you’re committed to your vision, you see adversity as a test to see how bad you really want it.

This is when you create and declare the vision you’ve created with vivid detail, leaving nothing out. If it doesn’t get you emotional, keep going until it does and tap into a deeper purpose inside of you.

“Your CONVICTION and your CONVENIENCE don’t live on the same block.” – Lisa Nichols

3. Faith, Trust & Resilience

You’ve gotten radically honest and declared a bold vision. Now it’s all fun and games, right? Wrong. Here’s why: the universe has a funny way of testing us after we’ve declared our commitments.

It knows so many people make big declarations and never follow through. It knows 92% of people who set New Year’s Resolutions never do anything with them. Anyone can dream big, but few are willing to act big.

This is when you must harness faith, trust and resilience in your vision. You’ll be tempted to pursue other opportunities. Fear will try and slow you down, telling you it’s not the right time. In order to succeed at this step, you must stay committed on your path before the results come to life.

For me, I’d declared my vision of moving to a brand new city and starting a new business. But I also had 11 employees and had signed a 5 year lease on a building. It was easy for me to see this as an impossible task but faith, trust and resilience kept me going.

4. Daily Action

As you continue to move forward on your bold leap, you must take one daily action designed to bring it to life. Don’t get overwhelmed. Simplicity is key here, and designed to do one thing: Strengthen your belief that it’s not only possible, but coming to life faster than you’d ever imagined.

Too often, I talk to people who declare a bold decision and leap and wake up the next day and do nothing. Time passes, and their mind finds all the reasons why it won’t happen. This is when you flip the script and take one step every single day towards your mountain.

Early on, it’ll feel like you’re not doing much of anything —and that’s okay. Celebrate your small wins and remember these will add up and create the most powerful force in the world: momentum.

With momentum, bringing your leap to life becomes easier and every day becomes another chance to take your belief to the next level.

“You don’t have to be great to start, but you have to start to be great.” – Zig Ziglar

5. Surrender

Armed with the first 4 steps, you’re on the path of taking the leap of your life. You’re part of the 5% that doesn’t only dream big, but brings these dreams to life every single day. The last step may seem confusing, but it’s time to surrender. Remember, surrender does not mean giving up, it means cultivating a deeper level of trust in how your leap is going to come to life.

The key here is to surrender to the way it’s going to be delivered to you —and ensure you don’t miss opportunities along the way. Because if you’re too focused on how you want it, you may not see a door open to get you there faster.

If you do this right, you’ll notice people, places and opportunities come into your life to support your leap. You’ll be amazed and wonder how they came to you at the right place and at the right time. This is the magic of surrender in action and the power of embracing the unknown.

What Is Your Leap?

I’m constantly having conversations with people who know there’s something much bolder out there for them but they’re stuck. In this post, we detailed exactly how to identify your leap and bring it to life through a series of steps.

Your leap may be starting the side hustle you’ve always wanted, quitting the job that’s been eating away at you, asking him or her out, or taking the adventure of a lifetime. What matters is how it feels to you, and that you honor the feeling by bringing it to life.

Because the alternative is to put it off for another month, quarter or year —and wake up a decade from now wondering where it all went. That’s not what you’re here for. Instead, take the leap of your life and never look back!

Is there an area in your life, such as a relationship, work, or with family where you’re not taking a leap of faith? If so, hopefully these five steps will help you take the necessary leap to a greater life!

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Hey, I’m Tommy. I don’t have anything figured out, but I love the process. If any part of this story resonated with you, I’d deeply appreciate a recommend and a share. For more insights, lessons and action steps to create the life you’ve been dreaming of, listen to the Resist Average Academy podcast on iTunes, Stitcher or Web.

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How Learning the Skill of Hope Can Change Everything

Hope isn’t wishful thinking. It’s a state of being and a skill that has profound evidence of helping people achieve success in life

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Hope isn’t wishful thinking. It’s a state of being and a skill that has profound evidence of helping people achieve success in life.

Wishful thinking, on the other hand, is like having dreams in the sky without a ladder to climb, having a destination without a map, or trying to operate a jet-engine airplane without instructions. It sounds nice but is impossible to realize. You don’t have what you need to make it happen!

What Real Hope Is

Real hope is actionable, practical, and realistic. Better yet, it’s feasible and can be learned.

One popular approach is Hope Theory. This concept is used by colleges to study how hope impacts students’ academic performance. Researchers found that students with high levels of hope achieve better grades and are more likely to graduate compared to those with less hope.

Hope can be broken down into two components:

  1. Pathways – The “how to” of hope. This is where people think of and establish plans for achieving their goals.
  2. Agency – The “I can” of hope. This is the belief that the person can accomplish their goals.

Does Hope Really Work?

According to Webster’s Dictionary, hope as a noun is defined as: “desire accompanied by expectation of or belief in fulfillment.”

As humans, we are wired to crave fulfillment. We have the ability to envision it and, through hope, make it a reality.

My Experience with Hope

For 13 years, I was a hopeless human. During my time working at a luxury hotel as a front desk agent earning $11.42 per hour, I felt the sting of hopelessness the most.

The regret of feeling my time was being stolen from me lingered every time I clocked in. Eventually, I decided to do something about it.

I gave myself permission to hope for something better. I began establishing pathways to success and regained agency by learning from self-help books and seeking mentorship.

Because I took action toward something I desired, I now feel more hope and joy than I ever felt hopelessness. Hope changed me.

Hope Actually Improves Your Life

Wishful thinking doesn’t work, and false hope is equally ineffective. Real hope, however, is directly tied to success in all areas of life.

Studies show that hopeful people tend to:

  • Demonstrate better problem-solving skills
  • Cultivate healthier relationships
  • Maintain stronger motivation to achieve goals
  • Exhibit better work ethic
  • Have a positive outlook on life

These benefits can impact work life, family life, habit-building, mental health, physical health, and spiritual practice. Imagine how much better your life could be by applying real hope to all these areas.

How to Develop the Skill to Hope

As acclaimed French writer Jean Giono wrote in The Man Who Planted Trees:
“There are also times in life when a person has to rush off in pursuit of hopefulness.”

If you are at one of those times, here are ways to develop the skill to hope:

1. Dream Again

To cultivate hope, you need to believe in its possibility. Start by:

  • Reflecting on what you’re passionate about, your values, and what you want to achieve.
  • Writing your dreams down, sharing them with someone encouraging, or saying them out loud.
  • Creating a vision board to make your dreams feel more tangible.

Dreams are the foundation of hope—they give you something meaningful to aspire toward.

2. Create an Environment of Hope

  • Set Goals: Write down your goals and create a plan to achieve them.
  • Visualize Success: Use inspirational quotes, photos, or tools like dumbbells or canvases to remind yourself of your goals.
  • Build a Resource Library: Collect books, eBooks, or audiobooks about hope and success to inspire you.

An environment that fosters hope will keep you motivated, resilient, and focused.

3. Face the Challenges

Don’t avoid challenges—overcoming them builds confidence. Participating in challenging activities, like strategic games, can enhance your problem-solving skills and reinforce hope.

4. Commit to Wisdom

Seek wisdom from those who have achieved what you aspire to. Whether through books, blogs, or social media platforms, learn from their journeys. Wisdom provides the foundation for real, actionable hope.

5. Take Note of Small Wins

Reflecting on past victories can fuel your hope for the future. Ask yourself:

  • What challenges have I already overcome?
  • How did I feel when I succeeded?

By remembering those feelings of happiness, relief, or satisfaction, your brain will naturally adopt a more hopeful mindset.

Conclusion

Hope is more than wishful thinking—it’s a powerful skill that can transform your life. By dreaming again, creating a hopeful environment, facing challenges, seeking wisdom, and celebrating small wins, you can develop the real hope necessary for success in all aspects of life.

Let hope guide you toward a brighter, more fulfilling future.

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The 5 Stages of a Quarter-Life Crisis & What You Can Do

A quarter-life crisis isn’t a sign you’ve lost your way; it’s a sign you’re fighting for a life that’s truly yours.

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The quarter-life crisis is a well-defined set of stages—Trapped, Checking Out, Separation, Exploration, Rebuilding—one goes through in breaking free from feelings of meaninglessness, lack of fulfillment, and misalignment with purpose. I detail the stages and interweave my story below. (more…)

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Here’s The Thing About Learning, Unlearning, and Relearning

Stop hoarding and start sharing your knowledge and wealth for the benefit of humankind

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Few people have the habit of hoarding their wealth without spending.  However, it limits their motivation as they tend to get into their comfort zones.  When people start spending money, then there will be depletion in their coffers. (more…)

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3 Steps That’ll Help You Take Back Control of Your Life Immediately

The key to finding “enough” is recognizing that the root of the problem is a question of self-esteem and deservedness

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