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Awakening to Significance: The Reward of Living a Meaningful Life



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At the time this article is coming out, I am currently navigating what has been a very tumultuous year for me. This has been a year of great transition and transformation in my life. While I have experienced incredible breakthroughs, this has also been a year where I have had to fight many battles. This has truly been one of the greatest seasons of my life because it has produced growth, development, and maturity.

This season of my life has taught me that I am much stronger, wiser, and more powerful than I thought I could be. As someone that has empowered people around the world to fulfill purpose and maximize their greatest potential, I know what it takes to achieve your vision and manifest your greatest life.

Here are a few insights about manifesting your greatness and living a meaningful life:

1. One of the most miserable feelings in the world is living your life in neutral

While we all have goals and dreams, very few people have the drive to see their dreams become a reality. The world is filled with people that have settled for mediocrity and a second-class life.

Most people want to experience change, but they do not want to be challenged. The majority of the people you meet will be content with living life in neutral.

Neutrality is choosing to live a life of cycles, patterns, and safety. You were not created to live life in neutral. Greatness is when you shift out of neutral and into overdrive. Neutrality offers you the comfort of safety at the cost of significance. 

Living your life in neutral is living with the gnawing feeling that you were made for more but choosing to fit into the mole. Neutrality does not rock the boat or challenge the status quo and it will never produce a memorable life. Living in neutral only produces a miserable life.

“Remember your dreams and fight for them. You must know what you want from life. There is just one thing that makes your dream become impossible: the fear of failure.” – Paulo Coelho

2. You must cultivate the seed of greatness within you

Every human being on this planet contains a seed of greatness. No person just steps into greatness, since we all contain the seed of potential. However, what I have learned over the years is that the seed of potential has to be cultivated. Potential that is never cultivated can never be converted into power. The cultivation of your potential requires development, and development is the one thing that most people avoid.

We do not like development because it challenges our standards and stretches us. If you are not being stretched, then you are not really growing. Without growth, you are barred from the realm of greatness. In other words, there is a seed of potential in you that must be cultivated to embrace the possibilities of your life. Cultivation of the seed of greatness will shatter every ceiling that stands between you and the next dimension in your life. Development is always the doorway into the next dimension.

3. You shift your life by honoring the moments of your life

Within the last nine months, I have experienced incredible success in my life and business such as the death of my grandfather, the transition of my career, and the expansion of my purpose and platform. I have been fortunate to create work that has resonated with people all around the world and earned me respect as a thought leader.

While I am grateful for my journey and everything that has contributed to my success, I know that I have mastered discerning the power of moments. My ability to identify, discern and seize moments of opportunity have positioned me for victory on so many occasions. Furthermore, my ability to discern moments has opened doors for me, connected me with destiny relationships and aligned me with my prophetic destiny. So many people are looking for opportunities in the wrong places.

We waste too much time pursuing interests and plans that are not in alignment with our true assignment and purpose. We do not honor moments because we are often unaware of the significance of the moments in our lives. 

Greatness is the ability to perceive, posture and partner with moments in your life. When you truly honor moments in your life, you will realize that every moment is precious and connecting the pieces of your prophetic puzzle.

“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.” – Theodore Roosevelt

4. You were made to live a meaningful life

My life looks totally different this year than it did last year. Because it’s much freer, fuller, and fulfilled. I realize that we do not enrich our lives by filling our lives with activities. We enrich our lives when we choose to focus on our assignments. I have yet to meet a human being that does not want more. In fact, you were made for more.

The problem is that we are always looking outside of ourselves for more instead of looking within. If you will dare to look within, you will discover the wisdom and answers you need to manifest the life that you were made for. We only get one time to do this thing called life. You owe it to yourself to defy the odds, define your moments and dare to set the world on fire.

Stop shrinking back, playing small and lowering your standards. Challenge your excuses, choose excellence and create something extraordinary. Your moments shift when you awaken to your significance and dare to live an uncommon life. The world is not suffering from an absence of prosperity, the world is suffering from a lack of purpose. Without purpose, our lives have no pulse.

Finally, I want to challenge you to stop living by assumptions and stop living afraid. I want you to dare to dream, love and live without limits. Live on purpose and live every waking moment of your life with passion and intention. 

How do you make sure you’re making the most out of every single day? Share your ideas and thoughts with us below!

Jamelle Sanders is the CEO of Jamelle Sanders International. Jamelle is committed to empowering leaders and entrepreneurs around the world to live up to their true potential and to profit wildly in their businesses. Jamelle is a life coach, business strategist, author, leading empowerment specialist and highly respected thought leader. Jamelle has been featured on CBS, NBC, Huff Post Live and contributed to numerous media outlets such as Thrive, Inspiyr, Young Upstarts, Elite Daily and numerous others.

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5 Indicators of Unresolved Attachment Trauma



Emotional Attachment Trauma

Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.

Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.

Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.

Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.

However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.


Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:


1.  Unconscious Sabotage

Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.

This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.

Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.

This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.


2. Persistent Pain

Chronic pain is a common symptom that can stem from early trauma. Studies have shown a connection between physical conditions such as fibromyalgia, headaches, gastrointestinal issues, insomnia, muscle aches, back pain, chest pain, and chronic fatigue with the aftermath of chronic developmental trauma, particularly physical abuse.
Research has found that individuals with insecure attachment styles, such as anxious, avoidant, or disorganized, have a higher incidence of somatic symptoms and a history of physical and emotional abuse in childhood compared to those with a secure attachment style.

3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma

Trauma blocking practises are used to avoid the pain and memories connected with traumatic events.
Emotional numbing, avoidance, and escape via briefly pleasurable activities that distract from terrible memories or suffering are common examples. Unfortunately, this escape habit stops people from successfully processing and recovering from their trauma.
Furthermore, when the pain resurfaces, more and more diversions are necessary to continue ignoring it. This can be seen in compulsive behaviours such as drug or alcohol addiction, emotional eating, numbing oneself through relationships, workaholism, excessive or dangerous exercise routines, compulsive internet or technology use, or any other compulsive behaviour used to distract yoursef from intrusive thoughts and emotions.
These actions have the potential to prolong a cycle of avoidance and repression, preventing persons from healing and progressing.

4. A strong need for control

It’s understandable that some people may struggle with control issues in their adult lives, especially if they felt helpless or vulnerable during their childhood.
This can happen if someone had an overbearing caregiver who didn’t let them make their own choices, expected too much from them, or didn’t take care of them properly. As adults, they might try to control everything in their life to feel more in control and less anxious or scared. This might be because they didn’t feel like they had control over their life when they were a child.
It’s important to remember that everyone’s experiences are different and it’s okay to seek help if you’re struggling with control issues.

5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained

Individuals with a history of developmental trauma may experience a range of psychological symptoms, including obsessive-compulsive behavior, intense mood swings, irritability, anger, depression, emotional numbing, or severe anxiety.
These symptoms can vary in intensity and may occur intermittently throughout the day. People with this type of trauma may attempt to “distract” themselves from these symptoms by denying or rationalizing them, or may resort to substance abuse or behavioral addictions as coping mechanisms. This can be a maladaptive way of trying to numb their symptoms.

What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?

Everyone’s experience of healing from trauma is unique. It’s important to be aware of whether you have experienced childhood developmental trauma and how it may be affecting your relationships as an adult. Sometimes, the effects of trauma can be overwhelming and we may try to push them away or avoid them.
If you notice that you’re engaging in these behaviors, it’s important to seek help from a trauma therapist who can support you on your healing journey. Remember, you’re not alone and it’s never too late to start healing.

There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:

  1. Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
  2. Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
  3. Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
  4. Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
  5. Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.

It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.

If you desire to work with me on healing your wounds and unlocking the aspects of you that were never realized so you can achieve more success in your life then head over to and join my weekly LIVE online mentorship calls.
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