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Your Overwhelming Positivity May Be Stopping You From Succeeding



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Remember how our elders used to tell us that too much of anything can be bad? Well, they were right. Most of us believe that positive thinking is the key to success, and based on that belief, we tend to teach ourselves to radiate positivity under all circumstances. But what if one day you discover that your overly optimistic approach towards everything is the real reason why you haven’t achieved anything concrete in life?

The fact can be hard to digest, but a number of studies have supported it. Over the years, people have achieved great feats with a positive attitude and the right amount of optimism, but nobody has ever said how much positive thinking is ideal for success.

Here are 4 reasons why your positivity may be stopping you from success:

1. Ignoring the existence of negative emotions

Life is all about maintaining a balance. You learn the value of “good” because of the existence of “evil.” People value life because death is undeniable. Similarly, in order to succeed in life, you need to keep a balance between your positive and negative emotions. There’s no way you can feel complete if you start ignoring all your negative feelings.

If you stay positive all the time and never experience the emotional pain, you may never find the reason to change yourself for the better. Negative emotions like anger or rage teach people how to grow in life amidst all the challenges.

There was a study done when researchers asked a group of students with low self-esteem to repeat the statement “I’m a lovable person”, the students ended up feeling more insecure than ever. If they were asked to face their insecurities, it might have worked better.

2. Creating your own version of reality

People may have told you to nurture optimism to have a prosperous life, but the practice often distracts you from acknowledging the real issue.  Too much optimism can undoubtedly cloud your mind and influence your decision making abilities. As a result, we often fail to measure the risks.

Furthermore, being overly optimistic often makes us feel invincible. It tricks us into believing that nothing bad can happen to us. Every day, we make unhealthy lifestyle choices, like smoking and drinking (alcoholism), thinking it won’t affect us too much. But in reality, these are the leading causes of deadly diseases like cancer and cirrhosis.

Optimism is not a bad thing. It encourages us to take the leap of faith when everything else slips out of our hands, but when you start ignoring the real situation or begin to believe that magic is going to happen – that’s where you make a mistake.

“A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.” Winston Churchill

3. Imagining you control everything

Have you ever heard of the term “illusion of control?” Psychologists describe it as a tendency in people to overestimate their ability to control every outcome. If you are overly optimistic about everything, the chances are that you may also develop an illusion of control.

Let’s make the point even simpler for you with an example. You may have noticed how people still invest in lotteries, despite knowing the fact that their odds are as low as one in a million. It’s funny how people think they have a better chance at winning if they get to pick the numbers for themselves in a lottery.

The ideal way to deal with a challenging situation is to assess all the crucial factors and keep yourself from getting carried away by enthusiasm and extreme optimism. If we wear the glasses of positive thoughts all the time, it may prevent us from looking at the situation with a realistic approach. Eventually, it may lead us to failure.

4. Finding solace in utopian thoughts

Success comes to those who dare to defy the odds, not to those who only think of succeeding. It has been observed that when people are told to imagine the best possible way of accomplishing a particular task, their productivity is negatively impacted. On the other hand, when people are told to think about the adverse or realistic outcomes, their performances actually improved.

It is true that we often lose motivation when we know how we can simply overcome the challenges. Once our mind goes through the experience of achieving success, it becomes harder to convince the mind to accomplish the task in reality.

In a recent study, it was revealed that people who display an incredibly optimistic approach, were less likely to clear their dues (outstanding credit card balances, bank loans etc.) and save a lesser amount of money than an average person. It is because they believe that they can tackle all these challenges quite easily. What they don’t understand is that they are actually dragging themselves into a bigger problem.

“When something is important enough, you do it even if the odds are not in your favor.” – Elon Musk


No matter how many self help books you read or how many motivational speeches you listen to, nothing can lead you to success unless you figure out your own way to deal with your emotions.

Optimism can be helpful if it’s put in the right place. In fact, it can improve your chances of achieving success to a great extent, but you should not get carried away with all the positive thoughts and utopian beliefs. Perhaps, the ideal way to achieve success is to maintain a right balance between your realistic approach and optimism.

How do you make sure to maintain a balance between optimism and realism? Let us know your thoughts in the comments below.

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How to Break the Cycles of Mediocrity and Manifest Your Greatness

There is no greatness without becoming and there is no becoming with authenticity



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In just a few weeks, we will be wrapping up 2023. Can you believe it? This year has been absolutely incredible for me.

I have seen amazing doors opened, new relationships formed and I am seeing dreams realized in my life. While this seems like the hallmarks of a great year, this has also been the most challenging year of my life. With all of the change happening in my life, I have been forced out of my comfort zone and challenged to grow in every area of my life.

I can truly say that I have made the most of my moments this year and I have used everything as a catalyst for maximizing my greatest potential.

As a revolutionary leader, I have the pleasure of consulting and advising leaders around the world to fulfill purpose, realize their greatest potential and make an impact.

I want to share some insights with you that will help you to break cycles of mediocrity and manifest your greatness

Everything legal must come through the matrix

I am sure that some of you are wondering why I am using the term matrix. However, what you have to understand is that I am trying to make a highly complex spiritual principle practical to understand.

Regardless of your spiritual beliefs, every life has an origin and I believe that origin is divine and begins with eternity. You are birthed from eternity and into time to fulfill a unique purpose and assignment in your lifetime and generation.

The matrix is simply the portal or vehicle that brings something out of the invisible realm and into tangible form. The problem with much of the teaching today is that it excludes the matrix. We are told to believe that success is instantaneous and overnight.

Nobody talks about how a dream progresses through stages beginning with visualization and ultimately culminating in manifestation. Without a matrix or portal then everything that you attempt to birth and build will be illegal.

The matrix not only makes you legal but it gives you the authority and power to function as the greatest expression of who you were created to be. 

Every matrix has an incubation process

While many people admire and respect me today, I remember a time when nobody knew who I was or the significance of my message. How did I get to where I am today? I got here through an incubation process.

In other words, everything that has been destined for your life is incubating and awaiting a set time of manifestation. The problem is that most people live their entire lives idle and never initiate the incubation process.

What do I meany by that? Most people are living reckless and very few people are living intentionally. I am amazed at the number of people I have conversations with that have no vision, goals or strategies for their lives. They show great promise and they have undeniable potential.

However, without development they will die with their dreams still in them.

Everything that has been destined for your life must be incubated and converted to become realities born to time. 

“Visualize this thing that you want, see it, feel it, believe in it. Make your mental blueprint and begin to build.” – Robert Collier

You must give expression to that which is not yet born to time

When you think about a matrix or a prophetic incubation process, you have to understand that potential is often unrealized and untapped. In other words, your potential is in raw form and your potential cannot serve you as long as it is untapped.

The thing that makes me valuable is that I have the ability to convert potential into power. I have done it in my own life and I have empowered leaders around the world to do the same. How do you convert potential into power?

First, it is important to note that you have to perceive potential. If you cannot perceive your potential then you can never cultivate your potential. In addition, you must take the time to cultivate your potential. We often get excited about our capabilities; however, we never expand our capacity in order to realize our greatest potential.

In other words, the strength of your potential is only discovered through your willingness to stretch. The more we are challenged the more we are empowered to expand our capacity for greatness. Most of all, you must begin to express your potential. The expression of potential is different for every person.

For example, the expression of my potential is best demonstrated through the thoughts, ideas, products, services, books, etc.

For another person the expression of potential may look like a screenplay, artwork, sports, scientific discoveries, medical breakthroughs, etc.

Regardless of the form of expression, I know that you will live empty and unfulfilled until you make the decision to express your potential. The expression of your potential gives voice to your dreams, life to your vision, significance to your moments and activates your true power.

You must manifest your greatness

As a revolutionary thinker and leader, my work has impacted people around the world. I am grateful that my life is a source of empowerment to so many people. However, before anyone could ever benefit from my life, I had to make a non-negotiable decision to become who I was born to be.

I wish I could tell you that this journey is easy and that you will get there overnight. However, in a world that celebrates us for doing we are often criticized for being. As a result, I wasted a lot of time trying to be who other people wanted me to be instead of being who I was born to be.

There is no greatness without becoming and there is no becoming with authenticity. It is through our bravery to be vulnerable that we ultimately manifest our greatness. We do not bless the world by being a duplicate. We bless the world when we honor our difference. When you honor your difference you honor your potential.

Ultimately, your difference is how you manifest your greatness.

When you present anything but your authentic self to the world, you are playing small and you are robbing the world of your significance. Manifesting your greatness requires you to master your gifts.

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